My best friend has a boyfriend and it's hurting me
Q. My best friend says she loves me and we've been really close for about 2 years. I love her alot, but recently shes been going out with this kid a year younger than us who looks just like me. But the thing is I am really hurt that she doesn't want to ...
A. 31 January 2008: She thinks you are not her class, forget her and move on.Better you go love a stone than her.... (read in full...)
She came to school the other day claiming she has lost her virginity to her friend's uncle and I know it's true as I have seen them together but I don't know what to do about it?
Q. Me and my best friend are 14. Recently she has been having trouble at home and is now living with another friend and her family, including her 40 year old uncle. She came to school the other day claiming she has lost her virginity to her friend's ...
A. 14 January 2008: Ask your friend to leave that house. It is not safe anymore.She could face further abuse from that man.Your friend should go back and patch things up with her family.
I hope your friend is not pregnant or that man will be charged for rape with an ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to put ON weight?
Q. Hello everyone! I would just like to ask what the best way to put on weight is? I'm a little skinny, and 17, and I have this one annoying 'dint' in the middle of my body, where my ribs end which I would like to get rid of. The only thing is......
A. 14 January 2008: The best way is to take up weight lifting and that would increase your food intakes and get a well toned and muscled body. After the weight training, your your body's metabolic rate will increase and so will be your appetite.
The fastest way is t... (read in full...)
What should I do? What is 'true love'? I must know!
Q. Help! I've been seeing a truly fantastic girl now for seven months. But recently, I've been having some vague feelings that things weren't really shaping up the way they are supposed to and decided to come clean and tell her that I just didn't feel ...
A. 14 January 2008: True love is to give without expecting anything in returns.
To die for someone like Jesus died for our sins....
True love is when you are blind and you cannot see her false teeth or white hair or freckled face or one eye missing.
"Lov... (read in full...)
Bitterness and anger is consuming me! Any good advice?
Q. I'm a bitter person, after years of repression and a total loss of self confidence due to mass rejection time and time again, i have become angry and bitter towards the world. Before all of this i had friends and a social life. But one by one they ...
A. 14 January 2008: [Quote]
i am only human and theres only so much a person can take. if you try your hardest and its still not good enough.. what is there to do? [Unquote.]
Some people are more blessed than others. They have everything in the world and we are j... (read in full...)
How do I offer to pay for half of our dinner date?
Q. I've recently started dating this great guy. We went to the movies last week and he paid for that (he bought the tickets beforehand so I didn't really have a say). Now we are meant to be going out to dinner later this week, and I don't want him to ...
A. 14 January 2008: When a man dates you and you offer to pay your half of the bill, it is an affront to the man. The men do not like it. You are indirectly telling the men that he does not earn enough to pay for the dinner with you. If he wants to date you , he will ... (read in full...)
Shall I just wait and see if he gets in touch with me? Do men really need just space to pursue a girl?
Q. At the end of 2006 i met this guy, he got my number off my friend, we started texting and would meet up in the pub then we had sex and i never heard from him again. I'd see him around but we never spoke then like 6 months later i'd get random t...
A. 14 January 2008: He could be facing some work related problems or personal problems or he is sick.
Why not call him up or write to him to inquire his wellbeing. It is not clingy. It is about your concern for him.... (read in full...)
We get on great..and we are good friends. Should I make a move before she moves onto someone else?
Q. Ok so im 17 and i have not had a girlfriend before, i have girls that are friends just not ones i am romantically inclined towards. About 18 months ago i met a girl through doing sport and other things and i just seemed to click with her. We get on ...
A. 14 January 2008: Just enjoy and have fun and don't spoil the beauty of this relationship by being romantic with her. It would alter the situation and you may lose the magic you have now with her.Do not worry if she is somebody's because you cannot stop it.Whatever ... (read in full...)
He's getting married! And I want him-what should I do?
Q. the problem with me is i am 18 yrs old and i am in love with a guy who is 25 we got along really well for 4 months initially but now he is gettin married ao he's avoiding me sayin that you go enjoy your life but i cant stay without him what should i ...
A. 14 January 2008: It is like you go window shopping in those malls and you see a cute doggie and must want to buy and take it home but somebody already bought it.You are disappointed and heart broken. That is life. Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose.... (read in full...)
He cant stay faithfull to anyone! Should I tell his girlfriend?
Q. this boy has been going out with his girlfriend an few months now, and has cheated on her twice with me, and a bit with a couple of others. yes he's a cheat, but she knows about the others and they are happy together. i told my friends about it...
A. 14 January 2008: Even if you tell the truth, will they believe you? They might call you sour grapes. Let his new g/f find out herself.
Since, you don't want them to hate you, just deny everything. You only heard from the grapevine. Allow them to believe whatever... (read in full...)
I just cant say no! How can I learn to stand up for myself?
Q. Hiya. This sounds incrediably stupid but I just cannot say no to anyone, I really need help on how to do this. if someone asks you out, wants to go further than you do, how do I say no? I think Im just worried about being rude and/or hurting t...
A. 14 January 2008: Try practicing how to say no in front of the mirror and see what you look like. Psyche yourself, if you cannot say no, then you will be in a lot of troubles. That would make you want to say a BIG NO!
If they go too far, just pushed them away and... (read in full...)
B/F lives 200 miles away! But the Ex is right here,!what should I do?
Q. I broke up with my BF of 3.5 years about 5 months ago. We had a great connection, great passion, good sense of humor. . . but along the way in our relationship I would catch him in several lies. About drinking, pieces of paper with other girls ...
A. 14 January 2008: Many women want a break up with their men but after sometime and some where down the road , they realized and regretted that they would have been better if they did not breakup. They would like to have their men back and sometimes, those men have ... (read in full...)
Told the "other woman" that I slept with my ex, the man she took from me! Is it a bad thing, that I had told her that?
Q. Hi there everyone. Ive been on here several times. History: My ex cheated on me and when I found out he decided he wanted to be with her. I have left them to get on with their relationship. Lately however, she has been trying to contact me. S...
A. 14 January 2008: She wanted to know and you told her .I don't see why it is bad.Your heart has turned cold for him.He reaped what he sowed. You are just laying the cards on the table for her to see .You have totally loss your feelings for him.Whatever happens is no ... (read in full...)
What can I do to help him get through his divorce?
Q. This year I met a man with whom I have become quite close. We have shared a bed on two occasions but nothing happens; we woke up on Christmas morning together with nowhere to go but he just got up and started washing up! I felt really demoralis...
A. 14 January 2008: Learn to live again and enjoy life.Show him that there is life after a divorce.Don't wallow in self pity. Get him to do those things that he likes.This will bring some life back into him.You need to be strong and lead him out of his dark world.... (read in full...)
Bitterness and anger is consuming me! Any good advice?
Q. I'm a bitter person, after years of repression and a total loss of self confidence due to mass rejection time and time again, i have become angry and bitter towards the world. Before all of this i had friends and a social life. But one by one they ...
A. 14 January 2008: Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host.
But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.
-Maya Angelou-
Whatever is afflicting us , we should not blame everybody or the world. The world does not owe us anything. If you want a better wo... (read in full...)
My best friend has a boyfriend and it's hurting me
Q. My best friend says she loves me and we've been really close for about 2 years. I love her alot, but recently shes been going out with this kid a year younger than us who looks just like me. But the thing is I am really hurt that she doesn't want to ...
A. 14 January 2008: She is two timing you . If she is worthy and you still want her , you will have to better yourself and win over her. Put some ‘zing’ back into your relationship with her.
You could go and date another girl and let her see and feel what is it like ... (read in full...)
I don’t want to loose another person who has come to mean so much to me. What can I do?
Q. Heya, I'm a 16 year old girl who recently lost her brother to meningitis. We were exceptionally close, he was 10years older than me and as both my parents worked 12hours a day he was the one who helped me with homework, cooked dinner and put me to ...
A. 14 January 2008: Your male History teacher is an extension of your brother. You can continue to be a good friend to him .There is no need to say goodbye. In time, as you grow older, your perceptions of him may change. Whether it will or not change, just let the ... (read in full...)
He has all the symptoms of a narcissistic/sociopath! So I need good tips on how to stay clear of this ex bf!
Q. I recently broke off with my ex-boyfriend of 7 years of what I would describe as the relationship from hell, I have recently learned that he has all the symptoms of a narcissistic/sociopath, etc. Any advise to stay clear of him would be greatly ...
A. 14 January 2008: It seems that your question is abit vague. You broke off with your ex and are you still staying with him or you are separated from him? ... (read in full...)
Walking on egg-shells! Surely this is not healthy?
Q. WHY AM I WALKING ON EGG SHELLS?? I am 28 years old, and have been dating a really great guy from the past 11 months. He is SO stressed out with work, that it affects every facet of his life, and our life together. He looses his temper easily, f...
A. 14 January 2008: You should talk to him about your feelings and your priorities. You cannot go on living this kind of life He needs to go for counseling. He needs to be aware that life is not all about career and finance. It is about balance between career and ... (read in full...)
Why cant I orgasm??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a few months now, I am 19, i have had a couple of previous boyfriends and it has been the same with all of them no matter what position etc i am in.. its not lack of trying!!! I was sexually assaulted when i was 14 ...
A. 14 January 2008:
You are not having any orgasm during sex because your b/f does not employ the right techniques to make you orgasms. They need to have more fore plays. They need to stroke and caress your clitoris with their fingers , tongue and their tool.
Not... (read in full...)
We are co-workers--he's married and has a crush on me. Should I avoid him?
Q. Recently my best friend let me know he has a crush on me and cannot stop thinking about me. Problem is, he is married. I am single and I find him atractive, if only he were not married... I let him know I would like to keep being his friend but ...
A. 14 January 2008: The juicy red cherry looks very tempting but it is poisonous. You can have a heart to heart talk to him and be firm about your friendship and nothing more.Ask him to stop and he will get your message.You need to pour cold water on him .... (read in full...)
He cares about me but can't commit to be because we're long distance.
Q. I've been seeing this guy for awhile and we both really care about each other. I want to start a relationship with him but he doesn't want to because we're currently long distance. He said he really cares about me and even refers to me as his ...
A. 14 January 2008: This looks like it is a problem on your side. He told you that he could not accept a long distance relationship with you .He is not ready to have any commitments with anyone. He is in a phase in a man’s life where he wants to see the world and sow ... (read in full...)
I need help badly! He married and has other women. How do I give him up?
Q. I feel in love with a guy who got married the second time and we began to have sex when even he was in his honey moon.we have been having sex for more than two years and I am a married women,too.but I found out that he has another girl friend who I ...
A. 14 January 2008: Go for a holiday if you have the time, to relax your mind.
Get away from that place that will remind you of him. If possible, get another job or get transferred to another location..
Demonise him and you will grow to hate him enough to kill y... (read in full...)
Where does this relationship between us...stand?
Q. Well, let's set this up first, I suppose... I've know this guy in an online game for 2 years now (we're guild mates in Warcraft), and we've just been getting to really know each other recently, and blah, blah, blah, "deep connection", blah, blah, "s...
A. 14 January 2008: Just send him your condolence and sympathy to him.
"I would like to extend my deepest sympathy and condolence to you over the loss of your grandmother. May her soul rest in peace....."... (read in full...)
Is my ex trying to rekindle something and wanting me back slowly? Lonng post but I need advice!! Thanks!
Q. Well I kicked this New Year off with on hell of a bang! I get offered a job I never expected I would ever have and had a great interview! Waiting now till 1-28 to see if I did get it.Double the money and laid back job with me as a front end ...
A. 14 January 2008: It looks that way to me too. He is now knocking on your door. Will you forgive and forget the past and open the door for him?
People can change over time and when we were younger , we could be inexperienced and rash.We made plenty of mistakes... (read in full...)
Want to be friends with her but have trouble even saying hi to her! What can I do?
Q. There is this girl in school i like...sadly she has a boyfriend...i want to be friends with her but i have trouble saying hi to her when i pass by her...she is in a couple of classes with me..i sit next to her...pretty much everyone of the ...
A. 14 January 2008: Just pluck up your courage like a man and say hi and smile to her when you pass each other. You are in the same class,just be friendly with her and get to know her . Talk about the latest news or topics or anything she wants to talk about.... (read in full...)
Pregnant with my ex's baby and my family hate him!
Q. Hi I'm 24 yrs old im a black female I have been in an on and off relationship with an italian guy for 3 yrs now. we just started seeing each other again and also started having sex again. I just found out this morning that I was pregnant. I told him ...
A. 14 January 2008: It is sad when the parents do not agree with the choice of the children's partner.Some of those parents may come around to accept them while some will never in this life.
It is your life and you will have to decide which is more important for you ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and need to know--how do you get rid of stretchmarks?
Q. i am a 15 yrs old girl, and im having problem with stretch mark is anybody can give some advice to how can i get rid of it?.thak you...
A. 14 January 2008: You can go to your local Pharmacy store to get the lotions and creams .
If you want to know more about stretch marks , you can go to this link;-
http://www.medicinenet.com/stretch_marks/article.htm... (read in full...)
Do I continue 'harboring' my friends from police questioning?
Q. I know this is not a Dear Cupid question but the guilt is eating me up. My friend (and her friend) have been living with me for two days now since they are avoiding the police. They have not done anything criminal - they are just being searched f...
A. 14 January 2008: It is better for them to give them self up to the police . You cannot run forever from the law. This thing will hang over them forever .The earlier it is cleared , the better it is for them.
If your conscience is troubling you , you need to tell ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my friend I am serious about her??
Q. Ok so I have this friend who I really like and she knows I like her but when I try to give her hints on how much she doesn't take me serious. She don't think she will be able to find someone that likes her a lot. So my question is how can I tell her ...
A. 14 January 2008: Thats all you need to do to show her that you care. You cannot smother her until she suffocates.Don't come on too strongly.You may cross the red line.... (read in full...)
I'm afraid people will laugh at me if I raise my hand in class.
Q. I'm afraid to raise my hand in class. Because people are going to laugh at me and say things behind my back. What should i do?...
A. 13 January 2008: If you feel strongly about raising your hands in class, then don't do it. You won't be penalize for not raising your hands.If people laugh at you , laugh back at them.They may laugh at you for the first time and they will not laugh again.
We ca... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and he's 20...is this ok??
Q. Hi, Im 15 atm and I met a fantastic guy in the summer. He is 20. We have both had feelings for each other for about 10 months now and he wants us to have a relationship. He is a good person and he wont do anything with me until im 16 in feb 08 but ...
A. 13 January 2008: Practice safe sex and avoid unwanted pregnancies. If you love each other and that you are matured to understand what sex is all about and the responsibilities associated with it,then it is OK. Otherwise ,you will be emotionally and mentally ... (read in full...)
Could my gf get pregant if she used the shower after I masturbated??
Q. Can a woman get pregnant if she walks into the shower after a guy masturbates in it (if both don't shower together and the guy doesn't penetrate the woman)-- say if a she takes a shower anywhere between 5-30 minutes later? I masturbated in the c...
A. 13 January 2008: If the sperm is deposited outside her vagina , there is a remotest chance of her getting pregnant. In your case, the sperm could not find its way to her vagina.There is no chance of her getting pregnant.
Soap will not make any difference, only spe... (read in full...)
I can't stand the fact he had sex with his ex. Any advice??
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and we are very much in love. I have a problem though. I can't help but get disgusted when I think about him having sex in the past with his then girlfriend. I've never met her...It was before w...
A. 13 January 2008: You are having this problem because you have judged your b/f according to your standards and have not forgiven him. You should forgive your b/f for his past deeds. We should not be too judgmental of others.
Whenever you think of that image of... (read in full...)
According to his rules, he's allowed to sleep with other girls, but I cannot sleep with other guys. If I went along with his idea what does this say about me?
Q. My ex and I have been seeing each other for awhile now. I REALLY like him, maybe even love him. He has said that he cares about me a lot, more than any other girl. We're not committed to each other although I do have deep feelings for him and I ...
A. 13 January 2008: He wants to sow his wild oats. Many men do that in your culture. This is not a big issue. Most men lose their virginity before marriage. Even the girls do the same .When you meet a man , you do not know his past. You don't want to hear his past.
... (read in full...)
Why would he keep coming back to me if we weren't meant to be??
Q. I met a man 10 years ago who was already living with his partner. We started chatting for a few months then ended up in bed. His partner found out and then we didn't didn't see each other for a couple of years and then out of the blew in phoned m...
A. 13 January 2008: In his heart, he wants to be with you but he felt that he may not be a good provider and gives you a good life.
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"He did say he has nothing to offer me at the moment, he can't make a commitments etc." Unquote.
If he cannot provide for y... (read in full...)
How can I make things better between me and my crush??
Q. Okay so I am incredibly dumb! I finally started talking to the guy I've been crushing on- you know just small talk. He knew my ex, but I told him we broke up (because we did)and I see him at a bar a couple of weeks later. He started making s...
A. 13 January 2008: You can say hi to him again and smile your sweetest for him. You did not say hi to him and he thought you were angry over something. He will melt again when you smile at him.
Don't worry about that short rebuff, if he likes you he will open up agai... (read in full...)
My younger sister makes me horny, please help.
Q. hi. I am 15 and i get really horny when i am around my younger sister who is 13. I really want to see her naked but never have. What should i do?...
A. 13 January 2008:
You should find some healthy activity which will take your mind of sex. Go for some sports or games or get out of the house more so that you won't get to see your sister and think of her.
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I had sex with my friend and now I feel bad because I wanted him as just a friend.
Q. There's this guy that i have known for 2 years. At first we were good friends. I didn't think nothing else of him.But 2 weeks ago i started liking him allot. I don't know what made me start liking him because i know he is a player. Anyways 2 days...
A. 13 January 2008:
Sometimes, we don't expect it but it just happened and you just accept it as a matter of fact.There is no way back .Don't be too harsh or critical of yourself.You need to forgive your own self. Let it go .It is circumstances which caused you to a... (read in full...)
How do you go from having a great relationship to backing off??
Q. So to make this question short enough that people won't stop reading, I'll start like this. I've met this wonderful girl who I'm falling in love with. We have a great deal in common and find that everyday, we find something new in common. Heck, ou...
A. 13 January 2008: Keep a list of those sensitive issues which she does not like at the moment .You should not press those sensitive buttons or you will make her ballistic.
Don't talk about the future for she is not ready and it can confuse her or bring back tho... (read in full...)
I am falling out of love with my bf and want to break-up but he says if we do he will hurt himself. Please help, I feel trapped.
Q. I'm 14 years old and me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 4 months 2 day. I really do love him but i'm not sure if we should stay together. he's really great but i feel like i'm falling out of love with him. He says he loves me but h...
A. 13 January 2008: He is using threats to stop you from leaving.He is holding you to ransom. Whether they are real or empty threats we do not know.If you think , you must leave, then there is nothing you can do about him. If any untoward incident happens , it is not ... (read in full...)
I'm confused as to when pre-ejaculation occurs as I have heard various things. Any advice??
Q. If my boyfriend and I had sex and he was inside me not even a minute before putting a condom on, is there a chance there was pre-cum? I am confused also as to when pre-ejaculation occurs. I've heard various things. Please help....
A. 13 January 2008: When the man is sexually excited, the pre cum can leak out . It depends on the strength of the excitement. If it is high , then the pre cum will ooze out .There is a minute amount of sperm in the pre cum .It only require one sperm to fertilize the ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my friend I am serious about her??
Q. Ok so I have this friend who I really like and she knows I like her but when I try to give her hints on how much she doesn't take me serious. She don't think she will be able to find someone that likes her a lot. So my question is how can I tell her ...
A. 13 January 2008: Be there for her , attentive to her needs, praise her more . This is better than just saying you like her and have fallen for her.She wants a good friend for now. Don't rush in , take your time.... (read in full...)
According to his rules, he's allowed to sleep with other girls, but I cannot sleep with other guys. If I went along with his idea what does this say about me?
Q. My ex and I have been seeing each other for awhile now. I REALLY like him, maybe even love him. He has said that he cares about me a lot, more than any other girl. We're not committed to each other although I do have deep feelings for him and I ...
A. 12 January 2008: Alot of the men sleep around or visit hookers before they get married. The men are expected to be experience in sex . To them , they need to know more about sex and this is one of the ways to acquire and improve their sexual knowledge and ... (read in full...)
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