Do I have a chance with him? I'm scared of getting hurt
Q. i'm 18 he's 24. we go to college together and ever since i met him this fall i thought there was something about him. a couple weeks before winter break he started doing simple things and being a sweetie like playing with my hair, leaving all our ...
A. 16 February 2008: You may think your friends having sex is great but you do not realize what is going on through their heads. There will be so many gamut of emotions and feelings that suddenly cropped up and they will have to handle all those new stress that they ... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with him? I'm scared of getting hurt
Q. i'm 18 he's 24. we go to college together and ever since i met him this fall i thought there was something about him. a couple weeks before winter break he started doing simple things and being a sweetie like playing with my hair, leaving all our ...
A. 20 January 2008: Yeah! If he fancies you , he would have jumped on your suggestion without hesitations.But this does not mean that you have no chance. It suddenly hit him like a hurricane and he could not respond with the right answer. He needed more time to decide. ... (read in full...)
What gives guys the most pleasure in foreplay?
Q. I'd love to give my boyfriend great foreplay, to get him excited for whats coming next. But I want him to enjoy the foreplay a lot too, and not just the sex. I feel he might only be doing it, with the intentions of getting it over quickly, so we can ...
A. 10 January 2008: You can masturbate him slowly and give him some boobs massages or some great lickings.... (read in full...)
How can I make sure he gets the hint, and me to be less nervous?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend a month now and its getting to the stage where we are starting to gett into sexual stuff. We havent had sex and dont plan to for at least another few months yet. I have had sex before and done everything with my ex. My b...
A. 10 January 2008: Different man have different perceptions. If you get nervous, don't unzip his pants for those pants can come down without your help.
The males don't speak in hints. Tell them directly in plain English what you want. This is the only language... (read in full...)
I love my bf but just cant forget the guy from work.
Q. Hi, I'm 28 and am in a 9 year relationship with the father of my children. We've had our ups and downs throughout the relationship, mostly downs with him not knowing if he wanted to be with me and the kids, and stuff like that. He's left me sever...
A. 10 January 2008: You want a breadwinner b/f and a Casanova .Those two satisfy all your needs.You have security with your b/f and the love and attentions from the Casanova.
You are scared of the unknowns and you prefer the security of your b/f and yet your heart is... (read in full...)
Do you think it's ok for me to let my wife have another guy as her best friend??
Q. I'm 32 and my wife is 28. My wife and a good friend of mine (male friend) are good friends. I think it would be safe to say that they are best friends (which is totally okay by me). My friends say I'm crazy to "be okay" with this. I disagree, ...
A. 10 January 2008: A home cannot have a threesome.You are courting danger in your marriage by allowing a wolves in sheep's clothing into your home.Today he is your friend, tomorrow, he can be a wolves.Love, lust and emotions are strong feelings and can burn out of ... (read in full...)
Why won't he be straight with me?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. During this time, he has left me a total of 3 times, the last time being mere days ago. I'll try to keep this short, but the first time was because of this girl, she spread rumors they'd been ki...
A. 10 January 2008: Thanks for your update.
Glad that you are communicating with each other and being friends again. Forgive and forget. It is just a misunderstandings due to your age and inexperience.
He called you and you missed his call and he had to call his ... (read in full...)
I want to blindfold him and talk dirty. What do I say?
Q. Well the situation is that me and my boyfriend spend time together, but not much time alone together because of school, and work and we don't really have our own place. Well this week well tomorrow we finally have some time to be alone together. So ...
A. 10 January 2008: I think it is inappropriate to mention all those unmentionable s in here. LOL!
You should blindfold him and then tie him to the chair . Have a bottle of red wine on standby.
Are you sure , you only want to talk dirty only?
Use liberally a... (read in full...)
Should I ask this other girl out now that my current relationship is ending??
Q. There is this girl which i like and im pretty sure she likes me as well, but theres a problem with this. I have a girlfriend....sort of. Me and my girlfriend are together right now, its nearing the end, we are talking about where we are going an...
A. 10 January 2008: Tell her that you like to meet her more often and that you enjoy her company.
Your current g/f is history, forget her.... (read in full...)
How can I get her back once shes cleared her head??
Q. My girlfriend of several months has decided to take a break and needs some space. I was a rebound guy and we moved pretty fast, so this makes sense to me. But I am still interested, and wonder what I should do in the intern and how I might get her ...
A. 10 January 2008: Constantly monitor her under your radar for any changes in her lifestyle. Get to talk to her by phone or any means of communications to keep the fire going.... (read in full...)
I want to let her know my feelings - but how?
Q. I wrote here a some months ago asking how I could convince my mother to let me "see" my love again. (needless to say we mainly treated each other as "just friends") The answers I got told me I should try to talk to my mom and tell her that I'm heart ...
A. 10 January 2008: Tell her directly that you would love to spend more time with her.
Make her feel special . Wear your heart on your sleeve.Then she can see what's inside your heart.... (read in full...)
Is a break-up my only option?
Q. Alright so....me and my boyfriend have been dating for just over 6 months. It went great at first, however we broke up about 2 weeks ago and got back together like a week later. Now for some reason....its like hes constantly mad. Hes also very ...
A. 10 January 2008: He was piqued, he expected you to come but he saw your reluctance and he answered in the negative. He sulked the whole day and did not want to talk to you.
When you go to bed, another form of communications take over, the animal kind that does'nt ... (read in full...)
How does a "late bloomer" become emotionally and intimately close with a man? Any tips?
Q. How does a 26 year old female become emotionally close and intimate with a man if have never done that before?Have always been busy with work, school, family, and guess a late bloomer! :)...
A. 10 January 2008: Get to know a man, be a friend to him . Charm him with your beauty and intelligence and everything will fall into place.... (read in full...)
Am I Bi or not?
Q. Ok, I am in my 20's now and I am a single mom. I love being with men (only been with 2 so I am not a hoe) but for a long time i have found myself attracted to women. I love the upper body but as far as the lower part I find it gross even mine. I am ...
A. 10 January 2008: You do have bisexual feelings but you have not acted on them.You have strong inhibitions that is holding you back. ... (read in full...)
My first love left me after 3 yrs, saying she doesn't want lesbian relationships any longer. What can I do?
Q. i was in a lesbian relation-ship for 3yrs , and 3days ago , she told she doesnt want to be with me becuz she say its not right , she doesnt want to be with girls anymore ,she want to live her life the right way , and she said thats nothing i can do ...
A. 10 January 2008: She wants to go straight. You can still be friends but minus the sexual parts. The reality has not sunk into your mind yet.... (read in full...)
She cannot feel pleasure if she gets very lubricated? How to give her an orgasm?
Q. i cant give my girlfriend an orgasm whats going on? During sex my girlfriend gets to wet and shes stop feeling me? help me please...
A. 10 January 2008: You need to tenderly caress and massage her clitoris.You need more foreplay as woman take a longer time to come.Most of her sensual zones are on the outside and not deep inside.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend and we've fooled around, but he's taken
Q. I'm so confused, I completely, utterly and madly love my best friend. I've known him for 8 years but we've only been living in the same town for two months of those 8 years, he has also had girlfriends for that time. We have often been intimate, y...
A. 10 January 2008:
Hi Anonymous,
Thanks for your updates. It is good to hear that you have moved on and has become stronger.
As to your believe that God does not exist,you are entitled to think that way.Someday , somewhere and somehow you will see the truth. ... (read in full...)
Why won't he be straight with me?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years. During this time, he has left me a total of 3 times, the last time being mere days ago. I'll try to keep this short, but the first time was because of this girl, she spread rumors they'd been ki...
A. 10 January 2008: You should not listen to what others said about your b/f unless you see with your own eyes or have concrete proof of his wrong doings. Sometimes , it is just a small matter that has been blown out of proportions.
You need to talk to your b/f firs... (read in full...)
Are we just in simple rut, or is it something deeper than that?
Q. So last weekend my boyfriend (of a year) and I had a talk. His parents are seperating and he was re-evaluating our relationship, saying that he just doesn't want to end up like them. He says he's worried because we dont seem to have as much fun...
A. 10 January 2008: Go for a holiday to recharge your batteries. A holiday will make you feel better and closer. Get out of the house and into some outdoor activities that can 'zing' up your dull life.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriends family are trying to turn him against me!
Q. the man that i have been dating for 3 years allows his son-in-law to control his life. his son-in-law does not like me because i threathen his inhertience from this man. none of his family wants him to date me. they act like i am bad news but i ...
A. 10 January 2008: Your b/f has got no balls!!!.He has allowed his life to be manipulated by his SIL. This is a tragedy. They are scared that you are after his inheritance especially the SIL who would stand to lose if you married into this family.
If you truly lo... (read in full...)
Help me understand her..Does she really like me?
Q. Me and my girlfriend we've been going out for a month now. She broke up with her x-boyfriend a month ago. And soon after the two of us got drunk and ended up in bed together. Nothing happened that night, after I started kissing her, she stopped ...
A. 10 January 2008: If you love her and think she is worthwhile, then you need to have patience with her. You cannot rush things.She need more space. You will have to follow her pace though you may not agree.Love is a sacrifice. Give her a reasonable time frame and if ... (read in full...)
In love with my partner but equivalently attracted by an old friend what do I do now?
Q. i am 16 and im with my first serious bf, and have been for 5 months... i love him and he makes me happy. when we first started dating it was all flames and now its more ashes. Everytime i want to mention this to him i get scared and just keep it to ...
A. 10 January 2008: You can't have the cake and eat it as well. You have to decide who you want. Three is a company and someone will get hurt sooner or later.If you are not going to leave your b/f ,then treat George as a casual friend and no more.
If the fire has... (read in full...)
My husband cheated and we divorced, but we want to try again, should we?
Q. Please help?? I got divorced last year after my husband had an affair, the whole break up was very painful as we had been together since I was 17 I am now 27 and only married for about 8 months. It nearly lead to me taking my own life I had a ...
A. 10 January 2008: If he is genuine and remorseful , then you ought to give him another chance. If you love him , you should forgive him and start a new life again.
We cannot be stereotype and think that he did it once and he cannot be trusted and he will do it ag... (read in full...)
Do I have a chance with him? I'm scared of getting hurt
Q. i'm 18 he's 24. we go to college together and ever since i met him this fall i thought there was something about him. a couple weeks before winter break he started doing simple things and being a sweetie like playing with my hair, leaving all our ...
A. 10 January 2008: Just be a friend and let the current carry you wherever it wants.Enjoy your friendship, live in the present. Be an optimist.
Have you heard of this adage? It is better to love and fail than not to love at all.
... (read in full...)
How do I justify my religion to a non Muslim when I don't believe it?
Q. hi, firstly if you are one of those closed minded people i do not want a reply because i;ve read a few questions regarding similar situations and some answers were down right rude! I'm a 22 year old born into a muslim family girl, born here in the...
A. 10 January 2008: If they like you , they should understand it is your culture and religion. Wearing a headscarf is to denote that you are religious or pious and follow the teachings of your God.It is a sign of submission to your God .
It is just an external... (read in full...)
I always hurt him and lie, but he's still here...I want us to be fixed.
Q. I have been with a wonderful guy for over a year now and have been living with him for about three months now. We have a wonderful realtionship. Well we did. There were a few times I lied to him. We broke up once for a day and then got back ...
A. 10 January 2008: Check your self . If you want to improve your relationship , you need to change first. Be more loving , more understanding , more supportive ,more affectionately and he will respond in kind.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend gets her period and ignores me, why?
Q. i am 14. ive had a gf for 3 months now and shes always been sweet to me. but she had her period yesterday and since then shes just been ignoring me for no reason. and on top of all of that we have our exams next week and her parents hate me so it ...
A. 10 January 2008: There are 4 seasons in a year. You cannot hurry time. There is a time for everything.A time to study , a time to play . Since exam is coming, study hard and put your mind into it.
She is having winter there, wait patiently for summer.When she has ... (read in full...)
I slept with him and now he's avoiding me, what's gone wrong?
Q. hi, i'm a 20 yr old girl and i've recently met this guy who works at my gym. we went on 1 date on boxing day, which was great fun and a couple of days later i met his mum and stayed the night. we talk for hours and had a great time and I ended up ...
A. 10 January 2008: He just wanted friendship and is afraid of commitments.Maybe he felt that you have moved too fast in your relationship and he is calling a time out. Maybe , he felt that you were coming on too strongly and he cannot breathe. He need more space to ... (read in full...)
I slept with him and now he's avoiding me, what's gone wrong?
Q. hi, i'm a 20 yr old girl and i've recently met this guy who works at my gym. we went on 1 date on boxing day, which was great fun and a couple of days later i met his mum and stayed the night. we talk for hours and had a great time and I ended up ...
A. 10 January 2008: He just wanted friendship and is afraid of commitments.Maybe he felt that you have moved too fast in your relationship and he is calling a time out. Maybe , he felt that you were coming on too strongly and he cannot breathe. He need more space to ... (read in full...)
Never had a boyfriend, and unsure if my friend likes me
Q. Ok does one of my mates like me? I've never had a bf before so don't know what the signs are. In one way i think he does and another way i think its just the way he is. Its just i haven't knwon him long and i can't stop thinking about him. He seems ...
A. 10 January 2008: This can be a very long answer but there are a lot of articles about how do you know if a guy likes you online. Just Goggle that phrase and you can read all those signs.
He is interested with you from your descriptions.Just be a friend and then... (read in full...)
This love rat is toying with 2 of my friends, do I tell?
Q. this may be a long one. but to give some history before i ask the question it is a friend issue. my ex best friend went out with this guy and got hurt by him although she did cheat. now this same guy is going out with my current best friend, now the ...
A. 10 January 2008: When your best friend like/love him, any negative thoughts or news about him is unacceptable and unbelievable to her.She will only view you negatively .You can only tell her to be careful of him , thats all.
Even if you showed her the text, sh... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells me other girls were better than me, how do I cope with the criticism?
Q. i am living with my boyfriend and have been for about 6 months. i love him to bits but he keeps on criticising me. he has said that 3 girls he has previously slept with were better than me because they were virgins and that i've had sex with too ...
A. 10 January 2008: He is mentally and emotionally abusing you .Talking to him is useless because he will not listen to you .His ears will automatically shut you out.
You need actions and not words to get across to this guy.Don't serve him or do things for him when... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my best friend and we've fooled around, but he's taken
Q. I'm so confused, I completely, utterly and madly love my best friend. I've known him for 8 years but we've only been living in the same town for two months of those 8 years, he has also had girlfriends for that time. We have often been intimate, y...
A. 10 January 2008: One way is to physically remove yourself from your place and go to another place and start a new life .In time , you will feel distant from him and will move on.
If you stay in the same place, it will constantly remind you of him.
Another way i... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my class tutor
Q. I know there are so many questions about teacher/student relationships on here but i'm kinda stuck at the moment and would really appreciate some advice... I'm obsessed with my class tutor. For the past year or so he has been an incredibly importan...
A. 10 January 2008: Parting is such sweet sorrow. In life we have to move on.Friends come and go. Some leave their foot prints in our heart and others in sand .You could still contact him and talk to him through e-mail or skype.
In the mean time , just enjoy th... (read in full...)
When will I know when it's the right time to attempt a reconciliation?
Q. Hello everyone. Let me begin by saying that I am sixteen years old and in high school. Anyway, it all began at the end of October, 2007. I and a group of friends had been filming a series of Harry Potter-esque spoof videos at a house of a fri...
A. 9 January 2008: Find out where she goes or her daily routine and plan it like you accidentally meet her and just say 'hello'.You need to communicate again with her.
Don't think about romantic adventures or the futures. Just be her friend again.
You should no... (read in full...)
His jealousy is making me feel chained up. What should I do?
Q. Im having problems with my boyfriend that I have been with for 4 years. He has been having a lot of trust issues with me since we live far from each other and we only see each other once a month. Lately, I have been talking with another guy I me...
A. 9 January 2008: Your b/f is insecure about your love and is possessive . It is not easy to break those feelings. You will have to constantly reassure him till he grows out of this feelings.It is a sacrifice on your part if you love him.
You should never mention ... (read in full...)
How can we get over this unlucky moment?
Q. Although i see again the man i used to date last year the relationship between us isn't perfect. Before two months we had a serious disagreement and it was dubious if we'll see each other again. It seems that we have got over this problem but i ...
A. 9 January 2008: There are things that cannot be settled there and then.There are no answers. You should leave those issues by the roadside.In time , it will either be solved or won't be solved even for 100 years. LOL!
A man and a woman is different . They don... (read in full...)
How can I make him orgasm?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have recently started having sex, but how do you know if he orgasms? I know this sounds stupid, but is he orgasming when he comes? I feel like I don't know enough about it, and haven't had enough experience, to give him what he...
A. 9 January 2008: Relax and enjoy, the males seldom have orgasm problems unless they suffer from ED.
If you want to have great sex , make them come 2 or 3 times.Then they will have that out of body experience. LOL!... (read in full...)
Should I stick by my Boyfriend, after his Behaviour.
Q. I was at a party with my boyfriend. He got drunk and then told me to 'shut up' when i was talking to him! I was shocked and horrified. His best friend heard him and told him to apologise to me. I felt really hurt that my boyfriend would do such a ...
A. 9 January 2008: I am sorry you were made to witness his display of callous behaviour and put up with all his affronted monkey acts.I would have walked up to him and splash my drink over his face and walk right out there and then.
He could be angry with you and ... (read in full...)
Is he having a mid life crisis?
Q. About 2 months ago, I found out that my partner of 14 years (who is a Policeman) was receiving and sending flirtatious text messages to a wpc at work. We had a big row and he apologised and said that he had never been out with her and it had all ...
A. 9 January 2008: Anal sex is probably from watching those porns. He could be wanting to try out and get the experience.Most men watch porn but if it is addictive and spend many hours surfing and looking at porn , then he may have a problem.
It could be a phase in... (read in full...)
Should I give my Teenage Romeo a chance?
Q. There's a boy who I sort of like but my family would be against me seeing him. I don't think I'm in love with him but he's in love with me. However he apparently has a girlfriend already and got beaten up for fancying another person's girlfriend. ...
A. 9 January 2008: You cannot stop people from loving you but you can choose who to love back. He has a g/f and and he also has wandering eyes.Do you like to play the tug of love?... (read in full...)
What is going through her mind?
Q. Hie there. recently i broke up with my first true love because of arguements. i have looked at the reasons for the arguements and i dont think they are worth the love we had.now i left her a letter the other day explaining how wrong i was and how ...
A. 9 January 2008: She wants your understanding or validations of her feelings. You should feel the same way as her and that makes it like you are in the same boat together.Having the same feelings or thoughts is what make your bonds stronger.
Try to find more com... (read in full...)
What's caising my boobs to get bigger?
Q. I am currently 20 years old and I have stopped growing a long time ago. That includes my breasts. As of late they have magically started to grow again. I noticed when I was not fitting right into my B cup. I am now a C cup. (although my boy...
A. 9 January 2008: It could be your diet. Certain foods contain hormone-like compounds called phytoestrogens, plant-based foods high in estrogen-like compounds.
You can find what they are by following this link;-
http://ww... (read in full...)
What is going through her mind?
Q. Hie there. recently i broke up with my first true love because of arguements. i have looked at the reasons for the arguements and i dont think they are worth the love we had.now i left her a letter the other day explaining how wrong i was and how ...
A. 8 January 2008: The wall is only temporary and you need to be more loving and tender towards her.Do not argue with her. Just say that you have a different opinion and let it pass.There is no point in arguing.You cannot force another to see your way.
She has been... (read in full...)
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