I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 28 January 2008: If you are leaving him , there is no sure guarantee that you will find a man that you like or to have a child by him.
He could be impotent or he does not want children. So where does that leave you?
That is the risk you have to consider.... (read in full...)
The guy I like is into swinger's clubs and porn. I've thrown in the towel with him but how do I deal with my broken heart?
Q. I met some one over 7 years ago. We have had a loving relationship during that time, we live apart. He prefers staying single. I now find that he is going out and is part of a local swingers club with another woman, he is dating other women, and ...
A. 28 January 2008: If you want to accept him , you will have to accept his philandering ways. It is either that or nothing.
If you cannot accept his gallivanting and philandering ways, there is no point in staying in that relationship.
He is just like a king... (read in full...)
I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 24 January 2008: How do you know she will end up like that? Are you a soothsayer or crystalball reader? Can you see into the future?Are you God?
Hey! Is one kid so tough to bring up? Women of today are working and don't need a man to feed them or house them.... (read in full...)
When it comes to love, I feel a bit left out...any advice?
Q. When it comes to love, I feel a bit left out: I'm 28 now and I only discovered girls about 2 years ago, because I wanted to concentrate on my career and education. Why do I feel a bit left out?...
A. 23 January 2008: Thanks for your clarifications.Sorry I read wrongly.Probably most of your mates fell in love when they were 18 . That is why you felt that way. You were a late starter. While others were going through that phase in their life, you were busy with ... (read in full...)
Why do men engage in extramarital affairs? Love? Pure escapade?
Q. Is a man who engages in an extramarital affair usually in "love" with the person with whom he is having the affair, or does he "just want to have an affair", meaning there is no emotions or love at all?...
A. 23 January 2008: One hand clap , can make no sounds. It needs two hands to clap to make a sound.
Give a fish to a cat,will the cat refused it?
Just as a women comes to a man and lay herself down, do you think the man will just walk away?
Man are the pla... (read in full...)
I cant forget my affair, I love her and it Hurts so much! What can I do?
Q. I was involved in an affair that ended after two months. We both knew it was wrong, I was the married one and she wasn't. My marriage has basically been over for the last four+ years and my wife and I have not been intimate in over three years in a...
A. 23 January 2008: If you don't love your wife, why are you not letting her go ?Why should you remain in a marriage that is just only an empty shell?
Let each of you seek your own happiness in life.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been texting his EX. Is this cheating?
Q. Hi everyone. My boyfriend emotionally cheated on me with his ex. I forgave him. I still dont think i know the full story. What i wanna know is does everyone think that i should know the full story b4 i can move on. Im trying to move on but its very ...
A. 23 January 2008: If you have forgiven him ,put the matter to rest and forget it. There is no need to know the details. Live in the present and look to the future.
There are many things which need your attentions and do not waste your limited resources to wonder a... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin? I need advice please.
Q. i decided to have relationships with my boyfriend, when we were about to,i got scare and told him to stop, so he did, but i believed i was still a virgin since i didnt feel nothing go in, but he told me he did feel our parts touch and went in a ...
A. 23 January 2008: You probably are.If you want to be sure , go check with your doc.The hymen can also be torn during vigorous exercise.... (read in full...)
Met him on a BDSM website! should I meet him for a date?
Q. Recently I signed up to a bdsm-based site on a drunken whim with my friends. I didn't really think about it and just deleted any emails from other members I recieved, until the other day when I recieved a message from a guy who seemed to speak my ...
A. 23 January 2008: Arrange to meet him in a public place .Get another friend to accompany you if possible.
Inform a friend or your parents where you are going and who you will meet in case anything happens to you.
If you want to feel safer, call your friend or p... (read in full...)
When it comes to love, I feel a bit left out...any advice?
Q. When it comes to love, I feel a bit left out: I'm 28 now and I only discovered girls about 2 years ago, because I wanted to concentrate on my career and education. Why do I feel a bit left out?...
A. 23 January 2008: All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
If you do not have time for others,others do not have time for you too.... (read in full...)
My friend's bf is all about her one minute and the next, he says nasty things to her!
Q. Hi, I am writing this for a friend. She is going out with this guy for about 9 months now. At the start he was the perfect boyfriend but he seems to have taken a bit of a turn. One minute he is all about her and the next he says nasty things, ig...
A. 23 January 2008: Your friend has no problems with her b/f or is more able to handle him than you. If it was a problem to her , she would have dumped him.Don't under estimate your friends resilience.
... (read in full...)
Can marriage work after an affair?
Q. I am a 49 year old MM and fell for an attractive 47 year old divorcee, after having a bad spell in our long 20 year marriage. We shared an intense relationship for a few months as "soul mates". I called it off when I realised I would not leave my ...
A. 23 January 2008: The lips of another woman is sweet but it's fruit is very bitter.
A man should have given a deeper thought before he goes to kiss another lady.
Your marriage is like a ship that comes through a war zone and it will never be the same again.... (read in full...)
The guy I like is into swinger's clubs and porn. I've thrown in the towel with him but how do I deal with my broken heart?
Q. I met some one over 7 years ago. We have had a loving relationship during that time, we live apart. He prefers staying single. I now find that he is going out and is part of a local swingers club with another woman, he is dating other women, and ...
A. 23 January 2008: Give your broken heart to God and get a new heart from Him.Think of others first and forget self.Go join those church groups or charity organizations and forget about your own problems. Help others and you will find your inner peace and happiness.... (read in full...)
I hate hearing Mum and her new man, have sex. Should I talk to her?
Q. My mum just divorced and found a new man. He often comes to our place and stays late at night. I could hear them making love while I am asleep in my bed room. I really don't like the noise but dont know what to do. Should I talk to my mum? ...
A. 23 January 2008: You could buy a pair of ear plug or shift your bed to the other end of the room further away from that wall.
If it does not work, talk to your mum .... (read in full...)
I'm loney, sad and bitter! How can I find happiness?
Q. Im so god damn stressed and depressed. I feel like my life is a load of crap and it will never get better. At work, i feel like im not good enough for them, im just to common, I girl that likes to have a good time, im not stuck up my own arse! M...
A. 23 January 2008: Few things are needed to satisfy a wise man but nothing satisfies a fool;and this is the reason why so many of mankind
are miserable - Rochefoucould
Happiness comes from being contented with what we have and knowing how to enjoy them.
A s... (read in full...)
My wife's sexual past disgusts me--over 20 guys from the age of 16-18!!
Q. When me and my wife first hooked up, she was 18 and had me thinking she had been with two guys before me. Then the first lie came to light when I had to take a DNA test for our first son, because on a trip back home she had sex with "a friend". So ...
A. 23 January 2008: There are men who love and marry hookers and they don't mind if she slept with hundreds of men. It does not matter. What matters is now , the present.
Why do you judge her now? What is the difference of 2 guys and 20 guys? When you married ... (read in full...)
Why do younger men fall for older women?
Q. Why do younger men fall for older women? This keeps happening to me, and lately a relationship with a man 9 years younger is getting quite serious... I am worried that this is just a passing fancy....
A. 23 January 2008: Basically , it is about money.The older woman would pay for his upkeep. He is like a kept man.
Older women are not too demanding and do not expect much from the man.
In 10 year's time , you will be old while he is still young...... (read in full...)
Completely and utterly fallen for someone that I cannot have, my ex's best friend. How to dismiss these feelings?
Q. I have completely and utterly fallen for someone that I can't have. I know it's stupid. And it's 99.9% definite i can't have him. he's my ex's best friend and he's not looking for a relationship at all. even if he was he wouldn't ever go for me b...
A. 23 January 2008: He is your ex's best friend does not mean that he will see you as your ex. He is a different person and if you don't try , how do you know it is 99.99%?
The males don't think the same as females. If he likes you , there won't be any loyal stuff. H... (read in full...)
How do I transform my love feeling into a friendship, as I do not wish to have an affair?
Q. I have been happily married for 15 years and I felt in love in a colleague in the past few months. Hopefully, he doesn't share my feelings but he enjoyes having lunch with me. How do I transform my love feeling into a friendship. I would like to ...
A. 23 January 2008: Treat him like he is a brother to you.Think of him like your own brother.... (read in full...)
Delayed answers, single sentenced. Anything I can do to raise his interest or should I write this off?
Q. I met a guy through a writing group and I immediately liked him. He was friendly with all the girls in my group, so I found it hard to tell if he would ever consider me as more than a friend. When we first met he would email me nearly constantl...
A. 23 January 2008: It seems that he has no more interest or have cooled.If you are still interested , you will have to try other means of communications.... (read in full...)
Everything was great till she said I lied about my past.
Q. Been in a relationship for 9 months. Everything was great till she said I lied about my past. She is a police officer and I had a case that was going on it finally ended two days before Xmas. With a ruling that we could still see each other. She ...
A. 23 January 2008: She told you she wanted to start all over. Give her some time to clear her thoughts.
You could send her a message that you still love her and will be there for her.If she still loves you , she will contact you.... (read in full...)
Do I give myself time to get over this, or should I end it?
Q. I am 26 and my boyfriend of the past year and a half is 36. We have a really goof relationship. My problem is this, we have a very good friend. He has known her longer than I have. They have had sex in the past. The other evening, after inviting...
A. 23 January 2008: How will you know he will do it again? Are you him?
If you continue to worry if he will do it again, then it is best that you live alone in this world because you will be incapable of any relationship ,for you cannot learn to trust another ... (read in full...)
Is there any hope for us or am I right in thinking that he needs time alone?
Q. Bit of a long tale, but hopefully you guys will be able to help me with this! I have a boyfriend of 2 yrs. At the start of the relationship we were madly in love and it was wonderful. They were the best times of my life. However, we have...
A. 23 January 2008: Call a time out in your relationship. Do not mention about splitting up. Do your own things and give him time to sort out himself.
Time may change his outlook of you . Just bide your time.... (read in full...)
I need to spend family time with my parents! How do I tell them this?
Q. I am a 19 year old girl and I have a problem with my family. I live at home with my parents and younger sister but I don't really get on with them. We all work but when we get home, we don't spend much family time together. It is just like living ...
A. 23 January 2008: Do your school or college have any counselors? Most of them have and they can provide you with the right advice.
Your family may not be able to help you . It is not that they don't want to help you.
Maybe , you could share and give more detail... (read in full...)
I may have an STD and if I do...does this mean my bf may have cheated on me?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 9 months now, we have a great relationship and i love him loads. A couple of weeks ago i started noticing little lumps down below and i think i may have a STD or something (its quite sore and the skins gone b...
A. 23 January 2008: STD is only through sexual contacts with another person. It cannot survive outside the body.You can get it only through sexual intercourse.... (read in full...)
Mom caught me smoking! How can I get her trust again?
Q. hey, well this is a bit long but here goes.. ive got into a bit of trouble with my mum + step dad.. i have a 16 year old bf (to be 17 in march) + im 13 (14 in feb) my parents think hes getting me into smokin, drinkin, drugs + sex but hes not. i ...
A. 23 January 2008: Apologize to your mum and tell her ,you love her and realized your mistake. Promised , you will not do those things again and will listen to her .
She will forgive you and in time , you won't feel it coming in between you too.
... (read in full...)
How is it possible to shut all feelings off almost overnight?
Q. i split up with a girl after 2 years and the day i moved my stuff out a freind from 20 years ago called and we thought it would be fun to hang , well we fell in love, i think, anyway all wa great for 9 or 10 months and then i realized i was not ...
A. 23 January 2008: You cannot have an intense relationship forever. Sooner or later you will get tired of it and it becomes stale. You want fresh and new challenges.That is only human.... (read in full...)
I do love my current boyfriend but when ever I see my ex I want him!
Q. When i first came out i was with this gorgeous guy so gorgeous i did stupid things !! I felt like i was in competition with him all the time ! We were mad about each other from the start but then he started acting all not interested so it...
A. 23 January 2008: You have to choose either one of them if your ex knows about it. Or the three of you can come to an arrangement.
If he does not know , keep it that way. When he knows , then you will have to deal with it. What will your ex think? I don't know how... (read in full...)
I had to let him walk away...but I love him so much and want him back.Help!
Q. My boyfriend and I were together for a year and just split up recently. I am in my late twenties; ten years younger than him. In the beginning, he pursued me strongly. I wanted to start slow. When we were together, we were great and got along ...
A. 23 January 2008: If you love him , let him go.If he comes back , then he is yours . There is nothing you can do except to wait until he knows what he wants .If you go to him , you would be needy and clingy and this would pushed him further away from you.
There... (read in full...)
I can only orgasm on top of him but lately he 's been losing his erection!
Q. I have been married since Sept. 07 and I am 7 months pregant. The only way that I can have an orgasm is if I am on top. We used to mostly have sex that way, he seemed to like it a lot too. But the last few months, when I try getting on top, his ...
A. 23 January 2008: Try sex in the wee early mornings because the man's penis will harden and sometimes they can be hard for a long time as long as 2 hours for some.The men's penis can harden when they are asleep.Most men usually wake up with a hardened and erect ... (read in full...)
Does he really like me? Or should I just move on?
Q. There's this guy who I like in school. I added him in Friendster and eventually started sending messages to him. After a while, I asked for his email. A few months later, I decided to IM him. He said he just 'wanted to message me'. He asked if I had ...
A. 23 January 2008: He still likes his ex over you.You told his best friend that you liked somebody. That will spell the end of this friendship.
It is not easy to convinced him that you like him again.
Better to move on and if he is interested, he would contact yo... (read in full...)
He doesn't like my speaking style and he cuts me off. Why is he so rude to me?
Q. My b/f of 3 yrs.is continually cutting me off in the middle of something I'm saying because he says I "take too many words to tell a story"...he wants simple yes, no, and very few words. The least amount of words possible to say whatever I need to ...
A. 23 January 2008:
If you have talked to him about your sensitivity over his interference of your style,then there is nothing you can do about him , if you want to keep that relationship. If he is just a friend, you would have asked him to bugged off.
He should... (read in full...)
My husband is crossdressing and it makes me SOO uncomfortable Help!!!
Q. Ok this is going to be complicated. My husband of over a year has started to act a little different. At first I found out that he likes backdoor play, and not on me on him! Then a few weeks ago he started wearing my undies, Telling me that ...
A. 23 January 2008: Women's undies are more comfortable . There are men who wear women's undies.
He has a fetish for woman's clothes or he could be a transsexual.A woman in a man's body. He maybe born a man but feels like a woman .He could be slowly finding his own ... (read in full...)
I'm 25 and I have gone completely off sex! What's wrong?
Q. Hi guys, I'm a 25 year old women and for the last 6 months have really gone off sex. I used to be incredibly sexually active and now i am the complete opposite - I don't even have any sexual thoughts anymore. I have been with my partner for 2 1/...
A. 23 January 2008: Something is lacking in your relationship. The most probable reason is the lack of love and romance.You need to fall in love again and have romance in your life.
Another probable reason could be stress or problems from work You could be over wor... (read in full...)
Mom's new husband seems to be pushing us all away from her!
Q. Hi everyone...I am having a problem with my mom's new husband. They first met about 6 months ago on the internet and decided to get married pretty much a month after meeting which was the first thing that bothered me since my mother has already been ...
A. 23 January 2008: The only way he can listen to you is to threatened to withdraw from that lease agreement and leave your mother and him and all your problems behind.This is the last resort if all else fails. Talk is useless because he is an abusive person.
If yo... (read in full...)
I like him a lot! should I come clean?
Q. Okay so here's the thing. I'm 20 and I'm in love with someone who is 26 and lives with someone already. I see him at my workplace so I can't really do anything about being in love with him, because I've never felt this strong attraction towards ...
A. 23 January 2008: Get transferred to another department or another location or find another job .
Find a b/f and he will give you up.... (read in full...)
He swears he loves me. But I can't help but feel he's truly not attracted to me. Advice?
Q. My boyfriend is 27 and I am 36. I want sex about 5 x a week, but he says he just can't do that. I found, however, that he looks at porn about every other day. I could do it more than we do, and he knows how his choice of porn over me makes me ...
A. 23 January 2008: Glad that you are enlightened and gave that relationship another go. Relationship need to work at. You cannot get it on a platter. There is a cost to maintaining any relationship. It calls for sacrifice from both parties. If you are willing to work ... (read in full...)
I like him a lot! should I come clean?
Q. Okay so here's the thing. I'm 20 and I'm in love with someone who is 26 and lives with someone already. I see him at my workplace so I can't really do anything about being in love with him, because I've never felt this strong attraction towards ...
A. 22 January 2008: You can treat him like a brother.That way you will not feel guilty about it.... (read in full...)
Do I give myself time to get over this, or should I end it?
Q. I am 26 and my boyfriend of the past year and a half is 36. We have a really goof relationship. My problem is this, we have a very good friend. He has known her longer than I have. They have had sex in the past. The other evening, after inviting...
A. 22 January 2008: Sometimes problems can look like a big mountain, but when you have solved it , it is only a mole hill.
We should not be too judgmental, for no one is perfect.In every black cloud, there is a silver lining.You will grow stronger after each problem.... (read in full...)
I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 22 January 2008: If a man wants to divorce, it is not whether you had kids without his consent. It could be many other factors.
Who decides to have kids in the family? The man may have a say but it is the woman who will have the final say. If she wants to have kid... (read in full...)
Do I give myself time to get over this, or should I end it?
Q. I am 26 and my boyfriend of the past year and a half is 36. We have a really goof relationship. My problem is this, we have a very good friend. He has known her longer than I have. They have had sex in the past. The other evening, after inviting...
A. 22 January 2008: If you love him much , the more you will have to forgive him.
He was under the influence of alcohol.He made a stupid mistake.
Think carefully before you want to break off because you may regret about it later and want him back. Many women do not... (read in full...)
I feel unloved and unfancied. What can I do to get him to take more interest in me emotionally?
Q. Hi Im 7 months pregnant and obviously a little hormonal occasionally! I have a very emotionally retarded husband anyway but now im pregnant i find it even harder to deal with. He's a very successful, business minded kind of guy so i gue...
A. 22 January 2008: If you want to talk again , one of you will have to come down to Earth . No matter who is right or wrong , one of you should apologize and settle this issue.
If he does not want to apologize, then you will have to do it. If you won't ,then th... (read in full...)
I feel unloved and unfancied. What can I do to get him to take more interest in me emotionally?
Q. Hi Im 7 months pregnant and obviously a little hormonal occasionally! I have a very emotionally retarded husband anyway but now im pregnant i find it even harder to deal with. He's a very successful, business minded kind of guy so i gue...
A. 22 January 2008: If you want to talk again , one of you will have to come down to Earth . No matter who is right or wrong , one of you should apologize and settle this issue.
If he does not want to apologize, then you will have to do it. If you won't ,then th... (read in full...)
How can I give my bf a good orgasm without full-blown sex??
Q. Hey, agony aunts. I really need help. I've been with my boyfriend for a while now, and we've been taking things slow, but we're starting to think about fooling around a bit. Nothing major, we know we're too young to start anything too serious,...
A. 22 January 2008: You can find it online. Google the word 'masturbation.'... (read in full...)
I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 21 January 2008: The only way you want to have your own kids is just to let it happen and hope that he will change his mind when he sees the baby.
Some men will change because they could not see their own selfishness. You could tell him that you will support ... (read in full...)
Why do men engage in extramarital affairs? Love? Pure escapade?
Q. Is a man who engages in an extramarital affair usually in "love" with the person with whom he is having the affair, or does he "just want to have an affair", meaning there is no emotions or love at all?...
A. 21 January 2008: Some fall in love because they cannot get it from their marriage.
Some think they are in love but in actual fact it is their lust.
Some do not have any emotions or love but just opportunistic.
I think those are the three categories of men.... (read in full...)
He swears he loves me. But I can't help but feel he's truly not attracted to me. Advice?
Q. My boyfriend is 27 and I am 36. I want sex about 5 x a week, but he says he just can't do that. I found, however, that he looks at porn about every other day. I could do it more than we do, and he knows how his choice of porn over me makes me ...
A. 15 January 2008: You have a very strong sexual drive and your partner cannot keep up with your punishing pace. Sometimes we need to compromise .Is it because he could not satisfy you fully in bed , you may think you are not attractive enough?
Looking at porn is ... (read in full...)
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