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writes:How can someone say they love you, and want to spend their life with you, but they are annoyed by almost everything you do?....I don't really think I'm an annoying person in general. I have great friends, and in previous romantic relationships, this was never a problem. But my b/f is always acting like he's annoyed with me. I've tried to avoid doing things that annoy him, but I have to be myself too. We've been together for 3 years and it's always been like this. I just thought after he got to know me, and he fell in love with me, it wouldn't be so much of a problem. What gives????
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reader, rockelle +, writes (16 January 2008):
 I have one question. Has he told you that you are annoying or does he just seems annoyed when you are around? There is a difference he may be annoyed but it may be about something totally unrelated to you and your realtionship. Sometimes people tend to take out there frustrations on the people closest to them. That just happens to be you. I wouldn't go as far as to say you should break up with him or he shouldn't recognize your faults, that is simply not true. Everyone has faults but when you love someone you love them in spite of those silly things that gets on your nerves. Love is not a switch that you can turn on and off, so you may annoy him sometimes and vice versa but as annoying as you can sometimes be that doesn't mean he loves you any less. Now if he is mean to you or rude or tells you that you are annoying and hurts your feelings maybe you should sit down and talk with him about how you feel. Maybe he is dealing with other issues and is just annoyed about life period. The only way you can find out is if you ask. Depending on how he respondds will give you a good indication of what your next move should be. Good Luck.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 your right...you have to be yourself and not comprimise your feelings to please him, your in a relationship and you should never feel like you have to be stepping on egg shells around him. if this was me i would have been out of there 3 years ago, you cant be happy in this and its not good for you. talk to him and let him know wat he's doin to you, if he cant cop on and change, you need to get out before you get badly hurt, i hope this helps hun, you deserve better, email me if you wanna talk xx
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (16 January 2008):
 When there is love , you see no sins or faults in the other person.
When the love flew out the window , you see every faults and it is like they have a microscope all over you and all your faults are magnified.
Familiarity breeds contempt.He has taken you for granted and thinks he can do and say anything and you have to accept it.
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