I feel she only needs me as a dad for the kids now, and I'm doubtful of her love. Should I give up so easily?
Q. Hey guys. My problem is I don't think my fiannce loves me anymore, we have been having problems since before christmas and it just seems like we are going round in circles. She used to tell me everthing any problems she had. I love her so much...
A. 8 February 2008: Thanks for your update. You need to communicate and keep the lines open.Sometimes we can misunderstand each other.... (read in full...)
Turned on secretly seeing wife with another man
Q. i saw my wife having sex with another man. they didn't see me and i watched until they finished. i didn't get angry, i got turned on. i want to tell my wife, but will she be disgusted with me? i really wanted to join in when i was watching, ...
A. 30 January 2008: You could have video recorded her sex sessions as proof. It is only your words against hers but you know the truth.
She has no more love and respect for you except for the security you provide.It is up to you to decide if you want a divorce ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 30 January 2008: How long will you grief? Will you grief till the last day and the last breath of your life? What is the point?
Do you want him to be in penitence though out his life or until your pleasure to decide to give him a final reprieve
? You are not ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 29 January 2008: Life is just simple. In my world, you only need total forgiveness , just as we asked for forgiveness from God for our wrongs.If we do not forgive others, how can God forgive our sins?Do we have no sins?Are you perfect and sinless?
No matter w... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: [Quote]Her husband should be apologizing and doing all he can to rebuild the trust. He needs to take responsibility, acknowlege it and give her some closure. She is trying hard to understand how her husband could even do such a thing. What has ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: If she cannot accept her husbands infidelity , then it is easy , divorce, there is not much to say anymore.
Why stay in a marriage when you cannot accept him or force yourself to be in what you cannot get from him.
He cannot gives you what y... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: Again, sorry to pick on you Laura, but, you say he is a man, not perfect and not to hold him to my standards. Why not?
First of all, you need to realize that there are vast dissimilarities between a man and a woman . They will not react to the... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: Why shouldn't it be that he needs to meet mine rather than me lowering to his???(Unquote)
In the first place you married him .He comes with a baggage and in marriage , you try to compromise.If you insist that he meets your standard and he cannot o... (read in full...)
Is this guy I like just fooling me around?
Q. Help me please I feel REALLY bad.. Right. A person who ive loved for 3 years.. Today when drunk(him not really that much at this time) Ive been speeking 2 him about how I feel and to my friend whos a girl aswell and she was there and stuff when I ...
A. 27 January 2008: It looks like he was just pandering to your whims only.He does not look serious to me.... (read in full...)
He wants to break-up and for us to experience other people but I have given all my heart to him.
Q. My boyfriend and I met each other about 5 months ago. In the time we have been with each other we have fallen deeply in love and have spent every free moment possible with one another. I truly and honestly believe that he is the one -- I had never ...
A. 27 January 2008: I feel for you and I think you are doing the right thing.Sometimes, letting go is the best options even though it may break our heart. If he is yours, nothing will stop him from becoming yours.
Give him more space and you can be good friends ... (read in full...)
We started dating and now he is acting weird...what can I do to keep him??
Q. I met this guy in college. One day he asked me for a walk and he showed me around the campus and then we kissed. After that we started dating but he started to act realy weird. He doesn't call me and he doesnt want anyone to know about us and he s...
A. 27 January 2008: I am not going to be judgmental like the others.If you like him , write or email him or call him on the phone .
This way , you can still be in contact with each other but remains invisible to the whole wide world. Your secret romance story , ... (read in full...)
Any time I get a call from a number I don't reccognize, I don't answer. Does this make me paranoid?
Q. Any time anyone calls me, if I don't know the number, I won't answer it, and I feel guilty too as if whoever's calling knows I am unintentionally anwering to avoid them. Is this normal, or am I paranoid? I feel bad a lot, like that everyone hates me ...
A. 27 January 2008: If I get a call for 2 or 3 times with the same number, I will find out who is the caller.It could be friends who have changed their numbers or maybe were using friend's phone to call you. This is better than wondering about the mystery caller for ... (read in full...)
He never came home last night. He cheated before... I'm lost. Can you help?
Q. I don't know what to do i'm with my partner 9 years we have two boys. two years ago when i was pregnant he had two affairs and used stay out all nyt i kicked his ass out when i found out and 6 months later i took him back but i told him never to ...
A. 27 January 2008: Did you have any concrete proof that he was cheating on you? (Like hiring a PI and taking pixs )How did you know he was cheating?( He admitted it?) Did you see with your own eyes ?
You have a communication problems with him. You should go out t... (read in full...)
I have a crush and my brother won't like it.
Q. I'm 14 years old and in 8th grade and have a big problem. My brother who is a freshman in highschool had two of his friends over last night. I really like one of them but I don't know if he likes me back. I'm too shy to ask if he likes me, but the ...
A. 27 January 2008: Your brother may not act the same way because it is his bud and knowing him is different from your last b/f.So get to know your brother's friend first .Worry about that later. He won't treat his friend badly.... (read in full...)
We only ever go out on dates with his friends, the spark has gone! Please help!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months. We were set up by a mutual friend of ours. But since the first 2 dates we now always go out with four of his other friends (2 couples). The only time me and him actually get to have a co...
A. 27 January 2008: He is a friend's friend. He likes to do everything with his friends.When he is alone, he will feel lost and confused. That is why he does not want to date you alone.Friends maybe fun but there are times when you need to be together for each other.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is calling himself "Big Daddy" at work..what would YOU do?
Q. Ladies: I have a quick question for you. If you found some receipts that your boyfriend had signed at work signed "Big Daddy" how would you react? I found a couple of them so far and I'm wondering if I should even say anything about them. Please ...
A. 27 January 2008: When your b/f signs on as 'Big Daddy' he would like you to know that he can solve all your problems like your daddy.It is to boast their ego's. ... (read in full...)
Is he just being nice because he wants sex.
Q. when me and my boyfriend are together we get on so well, we`ve been together for 2 years and have been quiet strong up till now, but lately when we`re not together we`re always arguing by text or e-mail, has he gone off me and just being nice to me ...
A. 27 January 2008: When he wants something from you , he tries to be on his best behavior.When he is away from you , it is his true self.
I guess you have to live with that if you love him. ... (read in full...)
How does one fake being confident, when in reality s/he is shy?
Q. hey im a quite shy person. expecially with new people, i never know what to talk about. people always say fake it till you make it well i dont know how how can i fake being confident/outgoing? xoxo...
A. 27 January 2008: Confidence is knowing who you are and what you are capable of.
Just remain calm and relax even if you don't know because not everyone is a walking encyclopedia.... (read in full...)
Should I divorce to see what happens with my best friend, whom I have always loved? We're both unhappy in our present situations.
Q. I am totally in love with my best friend. We have known each other since we were teenagers. We dated in our teens and were each others first loves. When we broke up, we remained best friends. He moved away in his early 20's and got on with his ...
A. 27 January 2008: Those times when you were young , single and free is over .We may reminisce about those younger days but to think that things have not changed is only deluding ourself.
You are no more young and have so many baggage.Two families will be ruined b... (read in full...)
How do I make a move on the guy I like?
Q. Hello, Im 15 Years Young, And Im Going To A Party This Weekend.. Well At My Friend's House and Her Mom Wont Be Home And My Crush Is Going To Be There With His Friends And I Wanna Dance With Him..But I Dont Know How To Make The First Move...And...
A. 27 January 2008: If you are gonna wait, you can wait till the sun rise and he would not come near you. If you want to move faster, you will have to pucker up your courage and get to him and asked him to dance with you.
You can go to him and talk to him first be... (read in full...)
How can I overcome being hurt by my girlfriend?
Q. I have been in a serious, 4 month long, long distance relationship with a girl across the country. We've never had a fight, and only minor relationship problems, nothing even close to causing an end to our relationship. We have had plans for a while ...
A. 27 January 2008: She is missing out the physical intimacy part where you can spend more time by her side. Try to see her as often as possible.... (read in full...)
I go down on her but she won't repay the favour. Contemplating break up!
Q. im 17 n want my gf to give me head but she won't. How can I persuade her otherwise? I go down on her but she won't repay the offer. and shes done it b4 with her ex and sum random guy when she was drunk and blacked out just that the fact tha...
A. 27 January 2008: If you think that is more important than love or friendship, then there is nothing for you in that relationship.Find another one.... (read in full...)
My best freind is starting to get into drugs, alcohole and sex. How can I help him?
Q. My best freind is starting to get into drugs, alcahole, and sex. I;m verry worried about him. I love him like a brother and he used to be a good kid. I want to interfere but I don't know how to without ruining our freindship. Please someone help ...
A. 27 January 2008: You can advise him and that is all you can do. If he does not listen to you , there is nothing more you can do for him.... (read in full...)
He asks for the girl's number but does not call in the following week. What strategy is this?
Q. if a guy asks u for ur phone number and you give it to him but he doesn't call you in over a week is there something wrong?...
A. 27 January 2008: Nope! There is nothing wrong with him. It means that he is not interested to call you.They just ask your number ,just in case they want to talk to you of if any thing comes up.... (read in full...)
I don't want the abortion...But they're all pressuring me!
Q. I'm 17 and 8-9 weeks pregnant. I have my first midwife appointment on the 25th February. My boyfriend and parents are basically forcing me into an abortion that I don't want because I KNOW that after it I will be a wreck. Sure abortion is for ...
A. 27 January 2008: I am glad for your decision to keep your baby .It will be worth every minute of the child's life. You can catch up on your education later on.
The purpose of life is to live a life that we can enjoy and be proud off. Others may have a degree b... (read in full...)
I've fallen for him all over again.
Q. i liked him for ages. we spent the whole summer together. at the end of summer he asked me to be his girlfriend. i said yes. but he ended it mere days later saying he wanted to make me happy. he didnt speak to me for ages saying i ruined his chances ...
A. 27 January 2008: He is too young and immature to understand what love it.Just treat him like a kid brother or friend and nothing more.... (read in full...)
Drug addicted, tying to have a life and still caring.
Q. I have a very bad situation in my life. More than one drug addict children, but they are adults, but still my kids. Is there anybody who had been there. They might die, its terrible to say that but they were very close many times. Both of them over ...
A. 27 January 2008: My empathies to you for what you are going through at the moment. You have done all within your powers . The least you could do now is to pray for them.The state may send them to those institutions for their treatment.... (read in full...)
I feel like I don't belong.
Q. I wnt to run away im always getting the blame and feel like i dont belong where can i go and who can i talk im only 13 help me x...
A. 27 January 2008: Running away will not solve your problems. It will add more problems and you will put your life at risk. Where are you going to stay ?Where will you find the money to pay for food and necessities?
Even though you think your home is a bad place, t... (read in full...)
Life's Great Mysteries
Q. If we are so Smart and Great why there is Pain Hunger and wars on Earth ?AND WHERE IS THE GREAT LOVE THAT WE ALLWAS TALK ABOUT ?THANK YOU...
A. 27 January 2008: Someone wants to be the smartest and greatest among all and that is why there is all those wars and pain.
Love will only come if we all believe in peace and in God.... (read in full...)
Changes in our Long Distance Relationship
Q. .. Me and my gf from Ghana, West Africa have been in communication with each other for fifteen months now. I tried to go over to Ghana, West Africa in November last year. Anyway, when I got there, the Ghanian Government refused me entry and sent me ...
A. 27 January 2008: There are ups and downs in every relationships. Sometimes , you get to talk everyday and sometimes there are times when you just don't talk to each other.This is normal.
A break would be good for your relationship. It helps you to see things in the ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date around?
Q. .. Im in a long-term friendship/relationship with a girl from West Africa. Is okay to have a couple more female friends from my local area also for adult fun/companionship?...
A. 27 January 2008: There is nothing wrong with that.You need to have friends too.Go ahead and enjoy life.... (read in full...)
Is she causing trouble?
Q. I met a new attractive guy. My one friend who currently has a boyfriend said she was making it her mission to find me a guy. After a night of hanging out with the new cute guy, she asks me if I like him, and if I would ever date him. I tell her ...
A. 27 January 2008: Just ignore her careless talk. It is only her perceptions.She is unavailable and you stand a better chance. Just go ahead and date him and enjoy. Don't let your friend's remarks spoil your day.She wants to make herself feel important.... (read in full...)
Arranged marriage ruining my life
Q. i am very sad crying all the tears in my body, didnt realise i could cry that much.. they just keep flooding my cheeks.. i am in love with my boyfriend, in 6months i am leaving him and going back to my own country to get married, arranged...
A. 27 January 2008: You knew what would happen when you started dating. You could try to talk to your parents in a last ditch efforts. If all else fails, you will have to accept your destiny.Have you met your future husband yet?.He may not be a bad guy.... (read in full...)
Turned on secretly seeing wife with another man
Q. i saw my wife having sex with another man. they didn't see me and i watched until they finished. i didn't get angry, i got turned on. i want to tell my wife, but will she be disgusted with me? i really wanted to join in when i was watching, ...
A. 27 January 2008: If you wife is sleeping with another man , there is something wrong in your marriage.Either she is not getting enough or there is no love in your relationship.
If you say you love her and want her to be happy , you will have to close one eye on h... (read in full...)
Love as a friend?
Q. Who ever sed guys were simple was soooo wrong. On messenger he says he loves me, then after says as a friend. What is up with that??? Are guys just afraid to show their true feelings???...
A. 27 January 2008: He is just a wishy washy type of guy and don't represent all guys .They are not good in those mushy, mushy stuff. LOL!... (read in full...)
He hurt me so badly and he's still being really cruel, what do I do?
Q. My ex and I had been together for three years. We were a perfect fit. For years we were inseperable and I felt like no one in the world understood me like he did. It even went as far as us having our own language. I trusted him, and I have to say I ...
A. 26 January 2008: You need to meet him and have a four eye talk. Find out what is the problem .It is possible that his mind was poisoned by someone .
Anyway , you need to talk to him alone and then decide if the relationship is worth saving or not?
Good Lu... (read in full...)
I feel she only needs me as a dad for the kids now, and I'm doubtful of her love. Should I give up so easily?
Q. Hey guys. My problem is I don't think my fiannce loves me anymore, we have been having problems since before christmas and it just seems like we are going round in circles. She used to tell me everthing any problems she had. I love her so much...
A. 26 January 2008: When anything goes wrong in a marriage, we should not think or blame our partners. The fault lies not in her alone but should be shared. You should analyzed where you did wrong instead of blaming her. Maybe you need to talk and really listen to her ... (read in full...)
I want out of this relationship but I don't know how to break it too her!
Q. Ok, i have posted for help 2 times so far and both i have not added ALL the information, and iwant to be 100% sure about my next moves. AND I AM SORRY THAT THIS MAY BE VERY LONG!, but please read it all and help. ive been with my fiancee for...
A. 26 January 2008: When love died, there is nothing anymore anyone can do about it.If you think you are not compatible, you need to end her agonies.Be like a man and let her go.... (read in full...)
How do I find a boyfriend who is not selfish or sexual??
Q. I really want a boyfriend but most of the boys at school are selfish or sexual. How do i know the difference before it is to late??...
A. 26 January 2008: If you are looking for a b/f from your age group, they are still immature and childish in thoughts .You will need to look for an older boy who understands females better.
Someone who will respect , adore and make you happy.They do not force yo... (read in full...)
Should I tell her I like her or stay silent?
Q. Well, it's such a breathtaking relationship that I can no longer take. It's a somewhat unulitral love. I guess this is the hardest thing I've ever been through. As a matter of fact, Once you live in an isolated island alone, ya only think about a ...
A. 26 January 2008: If you want to know how she feels about you , keep away from her for a week and then after that visit her and see how she reacts.
You will know what she feels inside by the way she greets you or treats you. You can get a good inclinations of her f... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 26 January 2008: You are hurt and in pain but you need to get out of your self pity.It will not do you any good to hold on to those grudges.You need to release them for your healings.
You need to forgive him totally and bury the past.Time will heal your pains. Y... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and a boy in class touched me innapropriately!
Q. I'm only 13 years old and I'm really scared. A boy in my class touched my private:( he just, you know pushed me against my locker and rubbed himself against my body and also touche my private. what do i do? ...
A. 26 January 2008: The next time he does it, gives him a hard slap to his face. That is your immediate defense or knee him in the groins.Then you can report him for molest or attempted rape and he will be in big trouble.... (read in full...)
Does she just want to move in for sex??
Q. I have been having sex with my girl friend for last 3 months. We both love lot of sex and we both get it..but since recently my gf is asking me if she can stay with me living together...but im worried is this just because of sex or does she needs me ...
A. 26 January 2008: Men want sex, women want love.
You got the sex, she wants more than the sex. She wants to have emotional attachments, more of everything of you .
That question , you will have to ask yourself too.Are you in only for the sex or do you truly lov... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to give him oral sex but I don't want to...what should I do??
Q. My boyfriend wants me to preform oral sex but I don't want to. What should I do?...
A. 26 January 2008: You can tell him that your religion forbids it. He will have to respect you.That is if you are not afraid to lose your b/f to some other girls.
... (read in full...)
Why won't my boyfriend treat me like a princess anymore??
Q. My boyfriend and I usually talk in "baby voice" to each other, he talks that way when he is being really sweet and wants to show me affection. I admit I haven't been very nice in the past and when he would act like that I would get mad at him abou...
A. 26 January 2008: Your Prince Charming has grown up and don't you want to grow up into a very beautiful and elegant Princess ?
Maybe, if you give him your magic kiss, he may turned back again into the little Prince when you are around.
You are his Princess and... (read in full...)
I am 19 and surrounded by women I feel I can't communicate with.
Q. I need help, i am a 19 year old guy who has problems approaching women. I am a pretty good looking guy but i just can't build up the nerve to do it. I plan on what i will do then i chicken out. I am in college and surrounded by women that i f...
A. 26 January 2008: The first thing you do to a girl is to look her all over and praise whatever you think is praise able.LOL! It could be her smile, her hair, her dress , shoes or anything.
Flattery will open all the doors. It would set her on the right mood. Tr... (read in full...)
How do I overcome his hypocritical ways of trusting?
Q. My other half is currently in the Army. He's preparing to go to Iraq, he'll be leaving in June 2008 until September 2009. This will be his second time. We've conversated on a few things. One of the topic was my exes. What happened? Why this? W...
A. 26 January 2008: He is scared and insecure and afraid that other men may tricked or conned you of your love.He thinks you are very vulnerable and with him not there to protect you or fend off those parasitic men.
You need to constantly reassure him and show you... (read in full...)
She said she'd be jealous if I found a partner. I am not her type, however. What can I do?
Q. hi. my friend is 55, i'm 42. she lives in glasgow and me in stoke on trent. we met as friends, developed lots of strengths etc.from the first meeting we both didnt fancy each other but got on very well.this was in october 2007. we spoke and both ...
A. 26 January 2008: When you are near her, you are not appreciated . It would be better if you leave her and then she might feel your loss because she took you for granted.
If you want to improve your outlook, get away from her and make her realize what she has been... (read in full...)
For men: do you think of your partner during masturbation?
Q. For the guys: Do you think of your girlfriend/wives when you masturbate?...
A. 26 January 2008: Most married men do not think of their wives when they masturbate as they are having a sexual relationship with her.They will fantasize about other hot and sexy women.
As to those unmarried, not all will think of their g/f because they do not want... (read in full...)
He wants to break-up and for us to experience other people but I have given all my heart to him.
Q. My boyfriend and I met each other about 5 months ago. In the time we have been with each other we have fallen deeply in love and have spent every free moment possible with one another. I truly and honestly believe that he is the one -- I had never ...
A. 26 January 2008: When a man lose a job, he losses his self esteem and confidence.His world becomes shaky and he realized that he is not the same anymore. A man is imbued with the sense that he needs to be the provider.When he cannot do that , his world crumbles.He ... (read in full...)
He wants to break-up and for us to experience other people but I have given all my heart to him.
Q. My boyfriend and I met each other about 5 months ago. In the time we have been with each other we have fallen deeply in love and have spent every free moment possible with one another. I truly and honestly believe that he is the one -- I had never ...
A. 25 January 2008: It is hard for a man who has lost his bearings.He will need plenty of time to find it again.He feels that it is unfair to keep you by his side and it could be a waste of your youth.It is unfortunate but if you love him, you need to let him go and ... (read in full...)
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