Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 30 January 2008: How long will you grief? Will you grief till the last day and the last breath of your life? What is the point?
Do you want him to be in penitence though out his life or until your pleasure to decide to give him a final reprieve
? You are not ... (read in full...)
Confused...I still love her, but I'm not happy and I want to leave.
Q. I'm 24 years old and have been in a relationship for 5 years. We have a one year old daughter together and we have plans to get married. In the beginning it was rocky and I wasnt the best boyfriend. I cheated on her. But now I believe that I have ...
A. 30 January 2008: It is not easy but you need to try harder to please her and love her and give her time to heal those hurts.
No matter how , you got to stick to her and never leave. ... (read in full...)
How can I get sex?
Q. I'm a 15 year old boy who needs sex, and I don't know how to get it. Any Suggestions?...
A. 29 January 2008: If you don't know how to get it , you are probably not ready for it yet.You can Google it and learn more about it online first.You should learn how the birds and the bee's do it.... (read in full...)
Two girls are after me but I only like one
Q. i'm 11 and their is this girl at school and she's liked me for about 6 months and i've had a few feelings for her but then there's this other girl who likes me and she's after me and now shes going through puberty she told me and she gets really ...
A. 29 January 2008: Let your mum know about this crazy girl .She will handle her.You are doing the right thing by cutting her off.... (read in full...)
What should be the right choice to make here?
Q. This is a very awkward situation .I hope I can explain it as close as possible,and someone might be able to relate to this or give an advice. So its a long and troublesome marriage ,was real love i guess, but today, its an other story.. So the pr...
A. 29 January 2008: If you are tired, you can go for a holiday.
If you don't like , you can change things around.
If you cannot change things, then you accept them as they are.
If you want to change but he does not , you can leave and let them run their own l... (read in full...)
I feel uncomfortable when he touches me.
Q. This may sound odd, but I've had an interest in my accounting teacher for awhile now. He has always seemed nice to me, but only recently has it seemed like he's been intereted in me, which worries me. He asks me to stay after school to help correct ...
A. 29 January 2008: Do not walk too near him or if you accidentally touched, just withdraw. He should get your message. If not , tell him you prefer that he keeps his distance while talking to you . Tell him you are not comfortable when he is in close proximity.
... (read in full...)
Techniques to make it last longer.
Q. Me and my boyfriend of almost 5 months have started to have sex. It was his first time when we did it a while ago but my third. We have only had sex three times but every time we did he came pretty fast. like 5 miutes or so. this time it was rele ...
A. 29 January 2008: You can visit this site to read all about it;-
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/prematureejaculation.htm... (read in full...)
Boy in class sexually harassing me.
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl, and i need some advice. This boy in my class has been sexually harrassing me again after he was suspended. he touched my bum. but the thing that scared me was when he zipped down my zipper. what do u think that he was trying ...
A. 29 January 2008: You will have to report him to your teacher or he could go further the next time.... (read in full...)
I bring it up and she argues, Now what?
Q. I've been with my g/f for about 3 years now. Everything was great until about a year ago. Now, unless I initiate the sex there is nothing. But the lack of sex isnt really my issue. Its that she just really shows no kind of interest in me or sex. We ...
A. 29 January 2008: What do you argue about? You should try to please her and agree or verify her feelings. You should think alike and not argue because this can hurt your relationship. This can spread to other areas in your relationship. When she does not like you , ... (read in full...)
I worked hard, she let go and is happy, I'm hurt.
Q. I came out of a relationship just over 4 months ago. I guess my ex just decided she could do better and wanted to enjoy the freedom of being single. Since she split with me it's felt like there's been a dark cloud hanging over me. People have told ...
A. 29 January 2008: Your friends wanted to cheer you up and did not tell you the truth.
Now, you know the truth that you are the more clingy and the loser .
If you still love her, go woo her again and start from scratch.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to remain jobless, but I want to work. How do I get past this?
Q. Hey I was wondering if I could get some help from some people to help me solve my problem. My Boyfriend and I want to get married. We aren't getting married anytime soon and know mostly everything we want. He wants to graduate and be a lawyer....
A. 29 January 2008: It is better to be more independent than to be dependent on him for all your needs . You may spend your own money anyway you like.You do not have to submit to his scrutiny of how you spend his money.
Work is therapeutic and it can bring joy and ... (read in full...)
I cheat on him to get back at him and because I am lonely! Help
Q. God I am so stupid, well I know what everyone is going to think when they see this, "what a whore". Well here it goes... Iv been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and Im only 21. We love eachother and we have had a lot of problems but we have always ...
A. 29 January 2008: Forgive yourself and others and turn over a new leaf. Give your b/f another chance and try your best. In time , all those sad things will fade from your life.... (read in full...)
If a guy asks for a hug does this mean he is interested in me?
Q. There is a man at work (different departments, we don't see each other every day) that I have been friendly with the past few months and I believe there has been a spark going on (for sure it has for me, not completely sure about his side). ...
A. 29 January 2008: He could be flirting with you or just being friendly.Nothing concrete here unless he is game to ask you for a date.... (read in full...)
My older bloke will not meet my parents and I don't know why!
Q. My boyfriend and i have been seeing each other for nearly 10 monthes. He is 10 years older than me im 19 he is 29. The problem is he doesnt want to meet or talk 2 my parents andi was windering why? We are really good together and he looks after me ...
A. 29 January 2008: Those are just his excuses for not wanting to meet your parents. There is no basis for that. Perhaps , he thinks it is not the right time yet to meet your parents. You need to be patient.... (read in full...)
Why would my fiance use viagra?
Q. My fiance is using viagra but we seldom have sex We don't live together and he gets a lot of free time to himself but I can't understand why he uses it Do you think he's cheating on me or do you know why men use this stuff when in a happy, lovi...
A. 29 January 2008: Viagra is used to treat ED and also Pulmonary hypertension
You can obtain more info at this site;-
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pulmonary_hypertension... (read in full...)
My head is telling me it is not working. What should I do?
Q. my boyfriend thinks the relationship is working but i really dont. theres like a voice saying 'its not working!' i need help. what shall i do?...
A. 29 January 2008: You don't have to agree with what your b/f is thinking. You can hold on to your views until you feel it is working. You don't agree thats all, leave it like that.... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, he's a Jehovahs Witness I'm not, will there be any problems?
Q. There is this guy i like at collage, and i have a sneaking suspicion that he likes me too (have been shamelessly flirting with him lol). He is a Johavas Witness and im not. I was wondering about the 'rules' regarding JW's and non JW's dating. As i ...
A. 29 January 2008: You can read more about JW by Googling that word .
There is a news article here , if you are interested.
http://laura1318.wordpress.com/2007/11/05/died-for-her-religious-beliefs/... (read in full...)
I want a baby, but I'm scared of sex, help!
Q. hi everyone, i have a problem.. i really really want and feel ready for a baby, trouble is i wont let myself be close to anyone as i fear sex so much, and as soon as i think things are going to lead that way.. i sort of freeeze! it sounds odd but ...
A. 29 January 2008: Maybe , you can Google 'Fear of sex" and you will find the materials you need.
Or you can try this online site ;-
About Sexual Aversion, Sexual Phobia and Fear of Sex
http://www.sexwithout... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend is married, but his wife doesn't care, he still wants a future together, should I bother?
Q. please help is there anyone out there who has been involved with a married man? I met the most wonderful man almost two years ago. two months after dating him i found out he was married. I was crushed but couldnt drag myself away. His wife knows ...
A. 29 January 2008: Do you want to be a mistress or a lover?
They are different. A mistress is a kept women where he pays for your upkeep while a lover is self supporting and only in it for the illicit sex and love.
He will sit on the fence between his wife... (read in full...)
Can fighting/arguments be good for a relationship?
Q. Hi guys. I just have a general relationships question that I've been pondering for quite some time now and I'd really like some outside oppinions. Okay so, do you guys find that fighting/arguments are helpful or detrimental to a relationship? Is it ...
A. 29 January 2008: If you want a happy and enjoyable relationship , you should avoid and know how to handle contentious issues which has no answers.
Your fights over issues may escalate to personal issues and that can be damaging to your relationship.
What is... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 29 January 2008: Life is just simple. In my world, you only need total forgiveness , just as we asked for forgiveness from God for our wrongs.If we do not forgive others, how can God forgive our sins?Do we have no sins?Are you perfect and sinless?
No matter w... (read in full...)
Feels like a fairy tale when we're together.
Q. I was in a relationship of seven years(which was failing)we were stuck in a rut, relationship was in a stand still.I was working and met this man(ten yrs older than myself)I was immediatly drawn to him! well a month later he asked me out for drinks, ...
A. 29 January 2008: His wife does not love him anymore and would be glad to give him away, so she can find somebody better.She is resigned to her fate.... (read in full...)
I am so confused about my ex...should I pursue him or let him be??
Q. My ex and I recently broke up after dating for only 2 weeks (having been knowing and been attracted to him for a lifetime)..he broke up with me because he said he may still be in love with someone else or whatever, but he also loves me. We (and gir...
A. 28 January 2008: You should not bring up any negative comments. You will make him feel guilty. Try not to say negative things in his presence. Just let it rest.... (read in full...)
I am so confused about my ex...should I pursue him or let him be??
Q. My ex and I recently broke up after dating for only 2 weeks (having been knowing and been attracted to him for a lifetime)..he broke up with me because he said he may still be in love with someone else or whatever, but he also loves me. We (and gir...
A. 28 January 2008: Keep being a friend to him.You won't know what will happen tomorrow. It is like you are planting a seed in his heart and you wait for it to grow. Keep watering and take good care of it .
The love seed may grow anytime. If he does not love you , you ... (read in full...)
Wondering if I'm being unreasonable
Q. My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about three months now. So far we have used only condoms but sometimes we find ourselves starting to have sex without the condom and then putting it on when he's close to coming. Because of this we decided ...
A. 28 January 2008: If he has to take time off work to go with you , I think that is a bit unreasonable.It is only a small matter and not a major issue. You could have handle it yourself. You do not want to show him that you are an incapable person with such a small ... (read in full...)
Top five to ten ways to win an ex back
Q. What are the top 5 or 10 ways to get an ex to want you back? I don't want to play mind games with him, I just want him to realize all that he's missing. I know that sounds totally selfish of me. But I guess I just want to try a few things to get ...
A. 28 January 2008: You can try Google for that answer.
If you want him back, you need to act confident, try not to be needy or clingy.
The best action is no action. Just leave him alone. Going to him now will only devalue your worth. If he does not want you or... (read in full...)
To be or not to be
Q. My ex and I recently broke up after dating for only 2 weeks (having been knowing and been attracted to him for a lifetime)..he broke up with me because he said he may still be in love with someone else or whatever, but he also loves me. I hones...
A. 28 January 2008: Just be friends with him and hope in time , he will fall in love with you again.You will need to be patient. Time can change a person. If you love him , you will walk that extra mile for him.... (read in full...)
Feeling suspicious and insecure
Q. I am in love with my boyfriend, and we tell this to each other regually but he has a reputation of a person who gets wround alot. As i am 2 years younger and he is 15 i wonder if he is thinking about somebody else. He says that i am the only girl ...
A. 28 January 2008: Your worries will not help you . If it will happen , it will happen. You need to have this kind of attitude. You don't know what will happen tomorrow.You cannot control what he thinks. So just enjoy when he is with you and be happy.... (read in full...)
Why can't he talk to his girlfriend?
Q. my bestfriend has just told me that my boyfriend is thinking about moving away. he hasn't said anything to me, he says he can't talk to me. what do i do?...
A. 28 January 2008: He is not sure yet and he is afraid that it may upset you .Just do nothing. It could be just a thought only.... (read in full...)
Is it worth all the fuss
Q. i need some advice. i got with my bf in March 2006. we constantly got into agrguments and i have ended it with him loads of times...it always seemed to be 2 months on 2 months off. Then in June 2007 i we got our act together and we've not split ...
A. 28 January 2008: I think you need to find your own self first and get established .Learn to stand on your own two feet. Be more confident and then come back . You need to venture out from the safety of your cocoon and see the outside world.... (read in full...)
I'm thinking we're better of friends than lovers
Q. I really need advise. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. He is 26 I am 31. I am very sexual and had great self confidence in bed until now. He always had issue with sex from the begining. Couldn't get it up or keep it up. I don't ...
A. 28 January 2008: I suppose there is nothing more you can do about it. He will have to learn somewhere else and master the techniques. Hope your next one would be much better.... (read in full...)
I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 28 January 2008: If you are leaving him , there is no sure guarantee that you will find a man that you like or to have a child by him.
He could be impotent or he does not want children. So where does that leave you?
That is the risk you have to consider.... (read in full...)
My friends fiance keeps coming onto me! How do I deal with this?
Q. i've been friends with my mate for about 3 years now. of all my friends she's the craziest and wildist. then she met a bloke fell in love and after 2 months she got engaged. she then fell pregnant (having both decided they wanted a baby straight ...
A. 28 January 2008: I will agree with Shandygirl. You should just keep those dirty secrets to yourself. Your friend will not see it the way you think it happened. She will believe her man and not you. You may lose your friend instead. She could also accuse you of ... (read in full...)
I fantasize about sex with other girls, whats wrong with me?
Q. I have a boyfriend that I really love, and we have a great relationship together, but I love the thought of a girl licking me out, possibly more than a guy... I'm so worried because the thought seems to turn me on more. It wouldn't feel right if a ...
A. 28 January 2008: Your subconscious mind wants a girl to lick you but you have been brought up with inhibitions about lesbian conducts.
Hence you have those conflicting thoughts going through you brain. There is nothing wrong with you.... (read in full...)
Confused...I still love her, but I'm not happy and I want to leave.
Q. I'm 24 years old and have been in a relationship for 5 years. We have a one year old daughter together and we have plans to get married. In the beginning it was rocky and I wasnt the best boyfriend. I cheated on her. But now I believe that I have ...
A. 28 January 2008: Why are you not happy with her? What are your reasons?
You love her, that is the strongest reason to stay.... (read in full...)
Do I need circumsized?
Q. im 12 turning 13, i could never pull my foreskin back as it hurt to and now i see everyone saying i have to do it while having sex? when i get erected, the skin stays where it is and stretches a little, it doesnt move down at all, please tell me...
A. 28 January 2008: You have a tight foreskin which won't pull back. For health reason , you should have it circumcised. Go and see your GP.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wears skirts, help!
Q. My boyfriend likes to wear skirts in the summer because he finds them more comfortable in the hot weather. I find it unbelievably embarrassing and my friends and family make fun of me about it. I told him I don't like him wearing them and he told me ...
A. 28 January 2008: The Scottish men wear skirts or kilts . If he insisted on wearing one , there is nothing you can do except to leave him or not to go out with him.
You maybe the object of scorn but since he is not shy, why do you do you feel that way? He may have... (read in full...)
The guy I like is into swinger's clubs and porn. I've thrown in the towel with him but how do I deal with my broken heart?
Q. I met some one over 7 years ago. We have had a loving relationship during that time, we live apart. He prefers staying single. I now find that he is going out and is part of a local swingers club with another woman, he is dating other women, and ...
A. 28 January 2008: If you want to accept him , you will have to accept his philandering ways. It is either that or nothing.
If you cannot accept his gallivanting and philandering ways, there is no point in staying in that relationship.
He is just like a king... (read in full...)
I want more from this relationship..should I push for it or leave it, as is?
Q. I've started to see a guy I met about 3 weeks ago, it's still in the casual stages but i'm hoping that it might be more. We have been honest with eachother.. both saying that we are happy to stay single for nowand not push things too far. But i g...
A. 28 January 2008: His talking to the other girls on the phone in front of you shows that he has nothing to hide from you. He is quite honest about it. They are just platonic friends.
I would say that your kind of relationship is no more casual even if you won't ad... (read in full...)
Help me clarify this...Did I break up with him or did he break up with me?
Q. I know it doesn't matter now, but I just want to know if in fact I was the one who broke up with my ex fiance. The day I left his house (broke up with him) I asked him if he could start paying for his own toiletries b/c I couldn't afford paying for ...
A. 28 January 2008: If he wants you back , then you are the one who broke off and moved out.Sometimes , you need to teach them about how to treat you in a better way . This way is the most effective .He has taken you for granted and does not know how to appreciate you ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about her.
Q. hi can anyone help me im sick of feeling alone and depressed most of the time i split up with my gf first week in december after she cheated on me shes had 2 bf since yet why carnt i stop thinking bout her plz help...
A. 28 January 2008: When the door is closed another door will open.Hey! You have seen the old and don't you think you should try something new or something much better. Be an optimist and think positive.
Look at the silver linings in the dark clouds. Focus on the n... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't trust me! help!
Q. in the pass, i have done something unforgiven! i am very regretful of it! i wouldnt let him down again! never! we got back together, we had a baby and got married! he works away, and i rearly go out! occasionally when i do go out, he dont approve ...
A. 28 January 2008: You try not to go out except when he is with you . This would show your love and make him happy.... (read in full...)
Any thoughts of his behavior
Q. Hi everyone. I broke up with my boyfriend and at the end of November. He was kind of rude to me at a party I saw him at. I asked him if I had done something to make him mad and he said I had not but he was bummed out about something else. We have ...
A. 28 January 2008: His non reply could mean that it is over and there was no necessity to reply since you are just friends only. Move on. ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking we're better of friends than lovers
Q. I really need advise. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. He is 26 I am 31. I am very sexual and had great self confidence in bed until now. He always had issue with sex from the begining. Couldn't get it up or keep it up. I don't ...
A. 28 January 2008: He needs to have more foreplays to make you orgasm. More orals and more caressing .... (read in full...)
Two girls are after me but I only like one
Q. i'm 11 and their is this girl at school and she's liked me for about 6 months and i've had a few feelings for her but then there's this other girl who likes me and she's after me and now shes going through puberty she told me and she gets really ...
A. 28 January 2008: You are Da Man! Tell the other girl to butt out or back off.... (read in full...)
Feels like a fairy tale when we're together.
Q. I was in a relationship of seven years(which was failing)we were stuck in a rut, relationship was in a stand still.I was working and met this man(ten yrs older than myself)I was immediatly drawn to him! well a month later he asked me out for drinks, ...
A. 28 January 2008: I would not place too much hope and trust on a married man.
They will give plenty of excuses...
What you can do is to give yourself a time frame. When it is over and nothing happens, you will have to say goodbye to him.... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: [Quote]Her husband should be apologizing and doing all he can to rebuild the trust. He needs to take responsibility, acknowlege it and give her some closure. She is trying hard to understand how her husband could even do such a thing. What has ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: If she cannot accept her husbands infidelity , then it is easy , divorce, there is not much to say anymore.
Why stay in a marriage when you cannot accept him or force yourself to be in what you cannot get from him.
He cannot gives you what y... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: Again, sorry to pick on you Laura, but, you say he is a man, not perfect and not to hold him to my standards. Why not?
First of all, you need to realize that there are vast dissimilarities between a man and a woman . They will not react to the... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: Why shouldn't it be that he needs to meet mine rather than me lowering to his???(Unquote)
In the first place you married him .He comes with a baggage and in marriage , you try to compromise.If you insist that he meets your standard and he cannot o... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 26 January 2008: You are hurt and in pain but you need to get out of your self pity.It will not do you any good to hold on to those grudges.You need to release them for your healings.
You need to forgive him totally and bury the past.Time will heal your pains. Y... (read in full...)
I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 24 January 2008: How do you know she will end up like that? Are you a soothsayer or crystalball reader? Can you see into the future?Are you God?
Hey! Is one kid so tough to bring up? Women of today are working and don't need a man to feed them or house them.... (read in full...)
The guy I like is into swinger's clubs and porn. I've thrown in the towel with him but how do I deal with my broken heart?
Q. I met some one over 7 years ago. We have had a loving relationship during that time, we live apart. He prefers staying single. I now find that he is going out and is part of a local swingers club with another woman, he is dating other women, and ...
A. 23 January 2008: Give your broken heart to God and get a new heart from Him.Think of others first and forget self.Go join those church groups or charity organizations and forget about your own problems. Help others and you will find your inner peace and happiness.... (read in full...)
I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 22 January 2008: If a man wants to divorce, it is not whether you had kids without his consent. It could be many other factors.
Who decides to have kids in the family? The man may have a say but it is the woman who will have the final say. If she wants to have kid... (read in full...)
I want children, but my partner doesn't. He feels he is to old?
Q. Ok, so I been with my boyfriend for about 4 years and we have had are share of problems but we are very deep in love. He is 16 years older than me and he doesnt want anymore kids. He has three kids of his own. I want kids so bad and I wont give that ...
A. 21 January 2008: The only way you want to have your own kids is just to let it happen and hope that he will change his mind when he sees the baby.
Some men will change because they could not see their own selfishness. You could tell him that you will support ... (read in full...)
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