Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 30 January 2008: How long will you grief? Will you grief till the last day and the last breath of your life? What is the point?
Do you want him to be in penitence though out his life or until your pleasure to decide to give him a final reprieve
? You are not ... (read in full...)
Two girls are after me but I only like one
Q. i'm 11 and their is this girl at school and she's liked me for about 6 months and i've had a few feelings for her but then there's this other girl who likes me and she's after me and now shes going through puberty she told me and she gets really ...
A. 29 January 2008: Let your mum know about this crazy girl .She will handle her.You are doing the right thing by cutting her off.... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 29 January 2008: Life is just simple. In my world, you only need total forgiveness , just as we asked for forgiveness from God for our wrongs.If we do not forgive others, how can God forgive our sins?Do we have no sins?Are you perfect and sinless?
No matter w... (read in full...)
Feels like a fairy tale when we're together.
Q. I was in a relationship of seven years(which was failing)we were stuck in a rut, relationship was in a stand still.I was working and met this man(ten yrs older than myself)I was immediatly drawn to him! well a month later he asked me out for drinks, ...
A. 29 January 2008: His wife does not love him anymore and would be glad to give him away, so she can find somebody better.She is resigned to her fate.... (read in full...)
I'm thinking we're better of friends than lovers
Q. I really need advise. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. He is 26 I am 31. I am very sexual and had great self confidence in bed until now. He always had issue with sex from the begining. Couldn't get it up or keep it up. I don't ...
A. 28 January 2008: I suppose there is nothing more you can do about it. He will have to learn somewhere else and master the techniques. Hope your next one would be much better.... (read in full...)
Any thoughts of his behavior
Q. Hi everyone. I broke up with my boyfriend and at the end of November. He was kind of rude to me at a party I saw him at. I asked him if I had done something to make him mad and he said I had not but he was bummed out about something else. We have ...
A. 28 January 2008: His non reply could mean that it is over and there was no necessity to reply since you are just friends only. Move on. ... (read in full...)
Ask him before it's too late, what's wrong with me?
Q. Recently i have been talking to this new guy i just met recently. he is 2 years older than me and is handsome. so far he has proven to me that he knows how to treat a girl by taking me out to eat 2 times and going to the movies together and treating ...
A. 28 January 2008: It is not late to lay down your cards for him to see. If he still enjoys with you , he would not mind. He will slow down for you .... (read in full...)
I'm thinking we're better of friends than lovers
Q. I really need advise. I have been with my boyfriend for two years. He is 26 I am 31. I am very sexual and had great self confidence in bed until now. He always had issue with sex from the begining. Couldn't get it up or keep it up. I don't ...
A. 28 January 2008: He needs to have more foreplays to make you orgasm. More orals and more caressing .... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I won't pressure her for sex like her ex?
Q. Well theres a girl that i think im starting to fall for. Well she a few weeks ago got out of a relationship because he kept pressuring her to have sex and thats all he talked about all the time. and she has been hitting on me. Asking a lot of ...
A. 28 January 2008: Treat her in a non sexual way and do not tell her about your inexperience or fears. Best to keep those secrets to yourself only.... (read in full...)
Two girls are after me but I only like one
Q. i'm 11 and their is this girl at school and she's liked me for about 6 months and i've had a few feelings for her but then there's this other girl who likes me and she's after me and now shes going through puberty she told me and she gets really ...
A. 28 January 2008: You are Da Man! Tell the other girl to butt out or back off.... (read in full...)
I hate cheating, but why do I do it?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 2 years, WHY when I'm drunk to I exit reality and hook up with someone.. ALWAYS. I know its wrong too... Self control sucks. Like I just lose it, and I'm tired or it. I'm not partying anymore, I love my boyfriend, can ...
A. 28 January 2008: Don't go into the devil's lair or territory ,flee. Keep away from those places and you will not be tempted.... (read in full...)
I can't look at him the same way.
Q. well im fourteen and lost my virginity already iv not had any regrets,but ever since da day it happend i cant look at da boy da same way, and it is not in a good way, i dont like him anymore, i need major help...
A. 28 January 2008: You will get over it. That is life.... (read in full...)
Fallen for my friend and afraid to tell her
Q. Ok, i will try to make this short. I have a friend who i talk to everyday, she shares her feelings with me. She has this big crush on another person and tells me all bout it. How happy she is and stuff like that. The other person is messing with her ...
A. 28 January 2008: It is like looking after a plant. You need to be patient and wait till it will bear fruits.Her attentions is on her crush .She cannot see you for now. You just have to bid your time. ... (read in full...)
Shocked and hurt that he suggested, I clear off my huge debt!
Q. I have been with my partner for a year and just recently we bought a home together. I came to the relationship with £7000 debt on my credit card and he agreed that this should go on our mortgage as the interest rate was cheaper. We were talking abou ...
A. 28 January 2008: In that hypothetical situation, he is not wrong in saying that you need to pay up the 7K when and if you split up. If you don't split and he loves you , he would help you pay for that debt.
When you go separate ways, that is how he sees it. It h... (read in full...)
I stopped chasing him and being nice. Now he's saying that I'm a mean person. What should I do?
Q. hey. basically, i like my flatmate at uni. He knows how i feel through a stupid mistake. however, since we came back after uni, i have kind of changed towards him - i am a lot meaner, don't do things for him anymore and don't chase after him ...
A. 28 January 2008: Give him a reward when he is nice to you . Then you would not be mean to him. LOL!... (read in full...)
I think he is still in love with her.
Q. I have been going out with my bf for about a year now and throughout the relationship he has always had contact with his ex, i know i shouldnt of but i read his emails and found some sexual input from both persons, even worse he got with her a few ...
A. 28 January 2008: You will have to accept him with that baggage. Don't let it stand in your relationship. You have got to learn to trust him otherwise, your inside will be gnawed and twisted.... (read in full...)
I've been seeing one of his mates for 5 months.
Q. I have been with my partner for 5 years and we recently got engaged! But he doesnt know that I have been seeing one of his mates behind his back for about 5 months!I know what I am doing is wrong and we have tried to stop it so many times but we ...
A. 28 January 2008: You will have to ask yourself which guy do you love more?
Who will be able to give you a better life?
If you cannot decide , then you need to toss a coin to decide.
... (read in full...)
This guy dumps me out of the blue and then runs after me to say "hi" Why?
Q. Well it's been a month nearly since me and my bf of 10 months split. I'm 20, he's 22, and his reasons for ending it were contradictory to say the least. He told me his feelings for me hadn't changed but that he wasn't ready for a relationship this ...
A. 28 January 2008: Maybe , he regretted over what he said to you and wanted to be back on your good sides. He is a bit loony.... (read in full...)
I love my married soulmate, but he is married and not to me!
Q. Well....I met my soulmate backin 1994. He was determined to get my attention, and when he did, we were instantly in love. We were both young, I was 17 and he was 19. Of course, at the time, I had no clue he was my soulmate, but did know that I ...
A. 28 January 2008: Stop the train and get off before it reaches the point of no returns.
Accept the inevitable and move on.... (read in full...)
Feels like a fairy tale when we're together.
Q. I was in a relationship of seven years(which was failing)we were stuck in a rut, relationship was in a stand still.I was working and met this man(ten yrs older than myself)I was immediatly drawn to him! well a month later he asked me out for drinks, ...
A. 28 January 2008: I would not place too much hope and trust on a married man.
They will give plenty of excuses...
What you can do is to give yourself a time frame. When it is over and nothing happens, you will have to say goodbye to him.... (read in full...)
What might this boy be thinking?
Q. Hi, just thought i would share this little problem i have. Basically I have known this boy since i was 11, met in secondary school and became really close. People used to say it was obvious we liked each other and we were cute together. we wo...
A. 28 January 2008: He is probing you to find out if you still have the same feelings for him or not.When he found none, he disappeared again.... (read in full...)
How long to get over someone
Q. How long does it take to get over someone? Its been really hard for me to try to forget about this guy...I haven't talked to him since October 14 2007 I know its been a very long time but I can't help it I still think about him every once in a whi...
A. 28 January 2008: You cannot stop those thoughts from entering your mind or cropped up. It is how you deal with them. It is like those pop up adverts on your PC. Just delete them and don't think about them.
In spiritual terms it is the Devil playing with your min... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't contribute much to marriage.
Q. Who's responsible for doing what? I am having a very hard time understanding what is suppose to go on in my marrage. I am married almost four years and I get frustrated because I feel my wife does not contribute enough to this marrage. On the ...
A. 28 January 2008: Sometimes when our partner does not do the work which she is supposed to do we have to pick up the slack.
We do it for her out of love. When you were romancing her, you would love to do everything for her.Remember those love and you will find it ... (read in full...)
I'm confuesed and don't want to make the first move.
Q. i've known this guy for over a year and although he's lived a long way away from me for most of this, we've kept very much in touch as friends and have always had a fairly flirty relationship. now he is living much closer to me and i've gone to stay ...
A. 28 January 2008: He is probably also as confused as you are. Why not you make the first move?... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: [Quote]Her husband should be apologizing and doing all he can to rebuild the trust. He needs to take responsibility, acknowlege it and give her some closure. She is trying hard to understand how her husband could even do such a thing. What has ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: If she cannot accept her husbands infidelity , then it is easy , divorce, there is not much to say anymore.
Why stay in a marriage when you cannot accept him or force yourself to be in what you cannot get from him.
He cannot gives you what y... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: Again, sorry to pick on you Laura, but, you say he is a man, not perfect and not to hold him to my standards. Why not?
First of all, you need to realize that there are vast dissimilarities between a man and a woman . They will not react to the... (read in full...)
I have loved her all my life and now she is unexpectedly gone!
Q. Me n my ex broke up nearly 2 years ago, and i realy have tried to move on but it doesnt matter i cant. She was my 1st and only love, Now it all seems like a dream!!! She was my everything, we were young when we met (14 yrs) and we were together fo...
A. 28 January 2008: You can keep on looking for her and in the meantime , go on living and enjoy your life.... (read in full...)
I want to move abroad with my daughter. Where do I stand legally in regards to her father?
Q. Hi i want to take my daughter to live abroad.Iwas not married to the father however he is on the birth certificate,how do i stand legally?...
A. 28 January 2008: I think the father has no rights over what you do with your daughter.His names in the birth certificate only to denote that he is the biological father and thats all.
In UK, you can sue the father for child maintenance but the father has no r... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: Why shouldn't it be that he needs to meet mine rather than me lowering to his???(Unquote)
In the first place you married him .He comes with a baggage and in marriage , you try to compromise.If you insist that he meets your standard and he cannot o... (read in full...)
Is this just a phase?
Q. Write now I am having a problem with my girlfriend drinking while she is studying abroad in England.I don't understand why she is doing it. She did drink her before when her boyfriend, now ex-boyfriend, pressured her into drinking. She didn't like ...
A. 27 January 2008: Relax and trust her. Quit your worrying. Don't make it an issue or you will strain your relationship.... (read in full...)
How can I believe him when he says I'm beautiful?
Q. My husband gets up really early in the morning for work. This is also when all the porn is on. I understand men wake up excited and need a release. My problem is I feel like I'm being compared later when we have sex or I am naked in front of him. He ...
A. 27 January 2008: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When some one loves you , he thinks you are beautiful even if you don't look like a porn star. You don't have to look like a porn star because those women are only playthings and not wife materials.
There... (read in full...)
My husband has molested our daughter for years. What should I do now?
Q. I would like your opinion on this serious issue. I was in bed with my husband over 20 years ago when my daughter, then aged about 2, climbed into be between us. After some time, I noticed my husband was getting aroused and I thought he was masturba...
A. 27 January 2008: I am glad that you have taken the right course of actions and not listen to those judgmental views. I agree with your assessment of some people here .
For saying this , I will make more enemies here and get more demerit points. LOL!... (read in full...)
We have love but no passion, how can I get my gf to let us have sex??
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for over a year and a half now and we still haven't had sex. We both love each other and we're both virgins. She is quite happy to perform sexual acts on me and she lets me go down on her, but when it comes ...
A. 27 January 2008: Many girls fear getting pregnant or she could have many inhibitions about sex. You need to respect her decisions and not ask her why.She may feel that she is not ready to give all to you or she could have reservations about your love.... (read in full...)
She's a two timing gal
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now, we had a arugement about a month ago and from what i thought we resolved it. Later i found out she was cheating on me with her ex boyfriend, through this whole ordeal i agreed to stay with her ...
A. 27 January 2008: If you want to know whether she loves you or not, is to ask her to decide who she wants. Give her a time frame . You will know who she will choose. If she chooses the other, give her up and move on.... (read in full...)
Never knew there was a problem
Q. Im so Confused! Nearly 2 years ago my ex of 8 years walked out on me and our son of then aged 5 with no warning. (My world just feel apart) We never argued and I thought we was really happy-even trying for our 2nd child. I just dont know what went...
A. 27 January 2008: It is not your fault. Probably he has changed and wanted out and abandoned you.
Just be nice to him when he comes back and he will find that he will miss the familiar home atmosphere and decide to come back to you. ... (read in full...)
Want to give it a shot
Q. Okay, so I've known this guy all my life. Our parents were good friends but then when we started our different schools we never saw each other. Our parents sent each other christmas cards but we never met up as families. We didn't really know each ...
A. 27 January 2008: Follow where the wind blows.Do not worry about what happens in the future. Just enjoy those moments of togetherness and be happy.... (read in full...)
Valentine's gift ideas for a guy
Q. What could I get my male valentine? I don't have a lot of money, but I want to get him something really nice. He likes bears and things (yes, even though he's a guy) but what else is there? I'm not sure what girls get guys for valentines day... ...
A. 27 January 2008: Actually , guys don't expect the girls to give expensive gifts. It is the thought that counts. Give him a lovely home made card or get a card from the store . Give him a mini teddy bear with your lovely card.... (read in full...)
Am I being played?
Q. I've been dating the same guy for almost a year now and slowly over the last 6 months or so i've been discovering many hurtfull signs of him being missleading and even plain out lying to me. Such as having hundreds of pictures of his ex gf and ...
A. 27 January 2008: In love , there should be trust and sincerity. If you find these two qualities missing, the relationship is not worth holding on.
If you think he can change, or you can influence him , you may give him another chance.... (read in full...)
Wondering if I'm fantasizing
Q. My bf and I had been together for about 4 years now. We've known each other for more than that, but only be seriously dating for that time. We've had some really bumps on the road, and I had always been the one trying to salvage our relationship. ...
A. 27 January 2008: You are in love with the feelings of love. This kind of love is beautiful but unrealistic.You fantasize and dream of the kind of love from him but he is only human.
You can Google that question and you can find all the answers you need.
... (read in full...)
Mind games have me nuts
Q. Hello, If you can give me some advice that would be great. Let me briefly summarize my story- it's rather complicated! So to begin with about 2 years ago I started dating/talking to "Bob" although we never labeled it a rel...
A. 27 January 2008: He is just being diplomatic to you about not wanting relationships with anyone. It is just a lie to cover the truth that he is not interested in you.
If you want to forget a person , you need to demonize him . Think of all those bad things h... (read in full...)
Breaking on through to the other side
Q. i feel like i have/going to miss out on so much in life because of my shyness. i find it hard to bring up conversations, and most of the time in social situations i just stand there, not talking. however, when im with my frends, i can be so t...
A. 27 January 2008: You need to let yourself be free. Think of them as close friends even when you just met them. When I meet someone new, I think of them like my close friends. It is just a natural feeling. Be friendly and interested in them. ... (read in full...)
We were going to stay mates after splitting but she doesn't seem interested. Should I let it go?
Q. Dear cupid, To begin with, I had dated this girl during summer and the fallin year. She goes to a different school than me.[private].Well when we broke up, we promise that we contact with one another.But suddenly weeks later, we both didnt call ...
A. 27 January 2008: Give her a break. Time will heal any hurts and she may see you from a different perspective.People change all the time. Maybe you may also change and broaden your outlook.
Right now , there is no point in seeing or talking to her until she feel... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to care about me anymore. What can I do?
Q. Hi I'm 21 with a boyfriend who just doesn't seem to care about me anymore. Of course he says he loves me I do believe he does. However, I am always the one who has to plan to go out for dates. I have a toddler with him and the babysitting ...
A. 27 January 2008: Your b/f is a couch potato?They don't do much helping in the house.He only takes and seldom gives. It is more like you have to mother him and gets nothing in return.
You will have to tell him what you want from him in this relation... (read in full...)
His family are coming betwen us. How can I make this relationship last?
Q. im struggling to keep my relationship with my bf alive due to his family. first of all is he is a long distance bf which i can only see around every 4-7 weeks for maybe 4 days. also we can only speak on the phone 2 hours a day the main problems...
A. 27 January 2008: You should be more understanding of his living conditions and be patient till he is able to move out and be independent.
Just don't expect too high an expectation from him. You and him would feel better that way.... (read in full...)
Is this guy I like just fooling me around?
Q. Help me please I feel REALLY bad.. Right. A person who ive loved for 3 years.. Today when drunk(him not really that much at this time) Ive been speeking 2 him about how I feel and to my friend whos a girl aswell and she was there and stuff when I ...
A. 27 January 2008: It looks like he was just pandering to your whims only.He does not look serious to me.... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 26 January 2008: You are hurt and in pain but you need to get out of your self pity.It will not do you any good to hold on to those grudges.You need to release them for your healings.
You need to forgive him totally and bury the past.Time will heal your pains. Y... (read in full...)
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