He just disappeared...am I being played?
Q. The situation is this,the man i've been with for awhile now just disappeared on me. it's been a month since i've seen him and when i called him to see what the problem was why i haven't seen him in awhile all he could say was that he had been ...
A. 18 February 2008: Pick up those left over pieces and rebuild your life again.There is no point loving a dog that bite your hands.
Let him go.He is only using you as a door mat ... (read in full...)
He wants to break-up and for us to experience other people but I have given all my heart to him.
Q. My boyfriend and I met each other about 5 months ago. In the time we have been with each other we have fallen deeply in love and have spent every free moment possible with one another. I truly and honestly believe that he is the one -- I had never ...
A. 27 January 2008: I feel for you and I think you are doing the right thing.Sometimes, letting go is the best options even though it may break our heart. If he is yours, nothing will stop him from becoming yours.
Give him more space and you can be good friends ... (read in full...)
For men: do you think of your partner during masturbation?
Q. For the guys: Do you think of your girlfriend/wives when you masturbate?...
A. 26 January 2008: Most married men do not think of their wives when they masturbate as they are having a sexual relationship with her.They will fantasize about other hot and sexy women.
As to those unmarried, not all will think of their g/f because they do not want... (read in full...)
Do guys compare their girlfriends to the girls in porn?
Q. do guys compare their girlfriends to the girls in porn? I was just wondering because my boyfriend watches porn all the time and lately I have had a hard time in bed because I am worried that I am not attractive enough because he'll be thinking...
A. 26 January 2008: Some men watch porn and can only remember her big boobs or the sex acts only . He probably cannot remember how she looks like after watching.At that instant they may compare those assets with their g/f's but they will soon forget it on the next ... (read in full...)
My Partner has just left me with a newborn baby. How can I get through the grief and raise my two kids successfully?
Q. My Partner has just left me with an 8 week old baby and I'm really struggling to come to terms with this and finding life very difficult at the moment. We had been arguing for some months and had come to a stalemate situation. Several nights a...
A. 26 January 2008: My empathies to you for your predicaments. I think , you could try your local MP for some financial help. He would be able to liaise with the proper authorities or charities to get you some financial help for you.
Do you have any relative... (read in full...)
I have thoughts of her having sex with another man and it gets me depressed ... can we ever have normal sex again?
Q. Hi there aunts! I have a problem. Me and my girlfriend (2 years an a half) had a relationship breakdown quite some time ago. She went to another guy and she told me that she used the moment when she was weak and kissed her. She hinted that they...
A. 26 January 2008: Your cynicism and your imaginations is destroying your sex drive.
If you really love her, you must believe her and have no doubts.
We are all humans and bound to make mistakes.Imagine if the one was you , how would you feel? Nobody is perfec... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to increase my chances of getting pregnant?
Q. me and my boyfriend have been trying for a baby for the last 2 years and i still haven't concived. i came of the pill just over two years ago and although my periods have returned to normal its still difficult to get pregant. i had a misscarrige ...
A. 26 January 2008: You can ask him to get plenty of sleep,exercise and eat the right diets.
You can read my article at this link;-
http://pinksuzie.com/2007/09/16/how-to-improve-your-sex-life/... (read in full...)
Did he cheat on me?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 4mnths, i was a virgin b4 i met him but he's had quite a few partners b4 me. Recently i have found out that ive got chlamydia. He told me b4 we had sex that he was clean, and he got tested for STIs in december b4 i got ...
A. 26 January 2008: He could have got it after the test.That is a probability.
It will depend on whether you still love him or not.
If you don't love him any more, then cut him off.
But if you love him and want him , you will have to forgive him.... (read in full...)
Can I get him back?
Q. i have been in a relationship for 7 months about 5 days ago he finished with me, we had plans to have babies go on holiday an live together. i dont know y he has finished with me i love him so much he means the world 2 me. how do i get him back....
A. 26 January 2008: There must be a reason why he walked out from you. Do you know the reason or reasons?
If you don't know, maybe you can ask him out to talk about it .Don't be accusing or high handed but just be nice and know what is the reason. Maybe , you can ... (read in full...)
I'm disgusted... I found a fake rubber vagina in my bf's closet!
Q. I found a fake rubber sex toy resembling a woman’s vagina in my boyfriend’s closet! I got furious at him and threw it at his face and said “What’s this?” He got angry at me back and said it wasn’t my business, and he had it long before he knew me. ...
A. 26 January 2008: For his own sexual pleasure when he wants a quickie.It is not that he loves you less or that he prefers that plastic.It is just a substitute and nothing more.
What is disgusting to you may not be disgusting to others. We should keep an open min... (read in full...)
Husband has deadly secret! who can I turn to?
Q. my husband is into child porn , he has these storage things not sure what they are called. you can save pictures and videos on them. went through them when he was at work found images and videos of child porn . what should i do i have 5 children...
A. 26 January 2008: "Regardless of if the man is only looking at other peoples children or if in fact he is looking at your children, the fact of the matter is he is looking at child porn! You can not ignore it, you can not act like you did not find it and you ... (read in full...)
I'm so happy with my married guy...but love my bf and am not sure he would leave his wife.
Q. I have been having a casual sex relationship with someone I work with; he is married and I have a bf. He had been cheated on in the past by his wife, and there are still problems. He just isn't happy with her. He and I started messing around o...
A. 26 January 2008: Affairs don't just happens, it is like they are in a whirlpool and they cannot do anything but get caught in the strong forces of emotions and love.
Maybe, you have never been in a whirlpool and you can easily say that. Not everything you see is b... (read in full...)
Is cyber sex cheating??
Q. Is cyber sex cheating? I have a bf but i ended up having cyber sex just once with one of my friends i met online. Should i tell my bf? My bf and i have been together for 2 months now, we havent told eachother we loved eachother, so it hasent g...
A. 26 January 2008: I don't think you should feel bad about it.It is just like a dream or fantasy online. You should be at ease.
It is in the past, you do not have to tell anyone and no one knows you did it.If you have not experience it ,you would not know what cyb... (read in full...)
He wants to break-up and for us to experience other people but I have given all my heart to him.
Q. My boyfriend and I met each other about 5 months ago. In the time we have been with each other we have fallen deeply in love and have spent every free moment possible with one another. I truly and honestly believe that he is the one -- I had never ...
A. 26 January 2008: When a man lose a job, he losses his self esteem and confidence.His world becomes shaky and he realized that he is not the same anymore. A man is imbued with the sense that he needs to be the provider.When he cannot do that , his world crumbles.He ... (read in full...)
How can I win the trust of my parents back and start living the life of a normal teenager??
Q. Hey you guys, im 15 years old and i'm having problems in school especially in math. Well the problem is that my parents dont let me do anything infact they dont trust me...because i never used to listen in the past but now i wanna regain that tru...
A. 26 January 2008: Good for you. Continue to act like an adult and be more matured and understanding. You need to see from your parent's perspective too. Some day you will be a parent and have children then you will understand why your parents act that way.... (read in full...)
He wants to break-up and for us to experience other people but I have given all my heart to him.
Q. My boyfriend and I met each other about 5 months ago. In the time we have been with each other we have fallen deeply in love and have spent every free moment possible with one another. I truly and honestly believe that he is the one -- I had never ...
A. 25 January 2008: It is hard for a man who has lost his bearings.He will need plenty of time to find it again.He feels that it is unfair to keep you by his side and it could be a waste of your youth.It is unfortunate but if you love him, you need to let him go and ... (read in full...)
Did the guy I like have a one night stand or not?
Q. hi. I like my flatmate at uni and recently, through a stupid mistake, he has found out that i like him. So now he nows how i feel. However, since he found out he has not backed off at all...like instead of starting to keep a slight distance, as ...
A. 25 January 2008: If a male and female were to spend a night together, what would you think they will be doing.Just talking or doing what you think they are doing. They could talk outside and if she goes into his room,there would be something more..That is just my ... (read in full...)
I'm so happy with my married guy...but love my bf and am not sure he would leave his wife.
Q. I have been having a casual sex relationship with someone I work with; he is married and I have a bf. He had been cheated on in the past by his wife, and there are still problems. He just isn't happy with her. He and I started messing around o...
A. 25 January 2008: I would agree with male reader, some aunts here are judgmental,stereotype and too holier than thou attitute.They act like they are God and can see the future.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got another girl pregnant. What should we do?
Q. me and my boyfriend dated 3 years ago for a year. we were truley in love. Because of my family not being to fond of him we broke it off and i was depressed for along time. I never really got over him and he never got over me. We met up again and my ...
A. 25 January 2008: If he cares for you ,he should not be in contact with her till the baby is born and confirmed by DNA that it is his. He may have to pay for the baby's expenses or he could be sued for the baby's maintenance.
If you love him, you will have to accep... (read in full...)
Do guys compare their girlfriends to the girls in porn?
Q. do guys compare their girlfriends to the girls in porn? I was just wondering because my boyfriend watches porn all the time and lately I have had a hard time in bed because I am worried that I am not attractive enough because he'll be thinking...
A. 25 January 2008: Those porns are just for virtual stimulations only. But they know the real thing from those celluloids. Those are beautiful to look at but untouchables.Males can compartmentalized their thoughts. It is like a fantasy.
Remember the men have a s... (read in full...)
What are the most valid reasons for divorce?? Or should you never give up??
Q. What are the biggest ,valid reason for divorce? -Living in a miserable marriage -cheating -lying -constant arguing -too absorbed in work -abuse -no fun -not initiating -not very passionate about their kids life -lack of sex -not feel loved So I ...
A. 25 January 2008: Don't get married and be single. Then, there is no one to hurt you.You are free and can do whatever you plese.... (read in full...)
He just disappeared...am I being played?
Q. The situation is this,the man i've been with for awhile now just disappeared on me. it's been a month since i've seen him and when i called him to see what the problem was why i haven't seen him in awhile all he could say was that he had been ...
A. 25 January 2008: You could go up there to check on him or you could just play the waiting game. At this moment , you cannot be certain.... (read in full...)
I'm 9 weeks pregnant..and I'm so happy about it. But I'm booked for an abortion!! ! Help!
Q. i am 9 weeks pregnant and to be honest im really happy about it. unfortunately my boyfriend is not so happy. this isnt because he doesnt want it but the cost of trying to support our baby. we are both in our 20's do not have a stable home to live ...
A. 25 January 2008: I read that there is a govt. scheme for financial help for single and pregnant woman in the UK. You could try it and save your baby. Or arrange with those organizations that handle adoptions in your country.
Or lastly , you could consult your par... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to give up porn...and I would choose her but I refuse to pretend to be something I'm not.
Q. Before anyone chips in and says that I don't understand this from the female perspective, please hear me out - because I have read posts, and heard views from the female side - and believe me they are pretty mixed. My girlfriend and I have been tog...
A. 25 January 2008: Why some men like porn more than women?
The men can turn porn off and on when they like but with women , they have no control.Women are emotional and complicated beings.
Most women make the mistake of thinking the men should think like them.... (read in full...)
Husband has deadly secret! who can I turn to?
Q. my husband is into child porn , he has these storage things not sure what they are called. you can save pictures and videos on them. went through them when he was at work found images and videos of child porn . what should i do i have 5 children...
A. 25 January 2008:
If you are in the UK, will reporting to the police help?
Well! They will take down your report and maybe send someone to interview your husband and that would be the end.
Most probably , your report will just end up in the file cabinet and... (read in full...)
Husband has deadly secret! who can I turn to?
Q. my husband is into child porn , he has these storage things not sure what they are called. you can save pictures and videos on them. went through them when he was at work found images and videos of child porn . what should i do i have 5 children...
A. 25 January 2008: You said your husband is into child porn. What exactly do you mean by that?
Is he involved in the making of child porn .Kidnapping children and forcing them to make sex videos or just saving those pixs and videos?
If it is just saving those vi... (read in full...)
Help me! I've run out of ideas and hope!
Q. it is a long story but ill try to shorten it been with my boyfriend well ex now for 2 years he dumped me in january last year cos of things like mentionin his exs which i changed he got bak with me after 4days. he then dumped me in january t...
A. 25 January 2008: Just be patient. If he does not come back, don't shed any more tears for him for his heart has turned cold. Better to find someone who has a warmth heart for you.... (read in full...)
How can I be strong enough to leave or deal with his having cheated even during my pregnancy?...
Q. My husband was sleeping with this other girl before we were married, he was actually dating her behind my back. He didn't break up with her until after we were married and he kept sleeping with her. We have been married less than 2 years and he ...
A. 24 January 2008: The question here is do you still love him or not? Can you answer that question? If you don't love him , then listen to those who thinks walking way will solve your problems. Talk is cheap.... (read in full...)
The boy my sister likes is catching on to that fact, and now is trying to be physical, and is touching her. Please help!
Q. hey everyone. Well im asking for my sister. She came to me for advice and I don't know what to do. She is 13 and in the 7th grade. She liked some kid in her grade so she started to flirt with him. Well she came home today crying and when I asked her ...
A. 24 January 2008: If you want to handle this problem without any adult help, you could go to that boy and speak to him about this matter.You could tell him that it is serious and may report him to the police. If it can be resolved, good, But if it happens again , ... (read in full...)
How can I stop being more selfish before I lose the man I love??
Q. I really cant understand why my boyfriend puts up with me. I am 20 and we have been together for 4years. Our relationship has always been really good except we split up for 3months 2years ago because he was joining the army, I didnt feel that it ...
A. 24 January 2008: If you don't want to be selfish , do not think of self. Think of others and how you can make them happy . It does not cost you anything. You only need to re orientate your perspective and look at things from a different angle . Just do the opposite ... (read in full...)
Can I ever trust my bf again and forget about my summer romance??
Q. My boyfriend and I broke up in the summer of last year due to a substance abuse problem on his part. While we were apart I started seeing another man only to go back to my boyfriend and try to work things out with him. I'm really skeptica...
A. 24 January 2008: If you want to , you can. You should give another person a second chance. Everyone deserves a second chance. If you are more generous , a third chance and no more. No , you cannot ever forget the other man. It will always be in your memory .You... (read in full...)
This girl can't get over her paranoia and it's starting to feel like she doesn't trust me.
Q. Ive been with my girl for just over 7 months now and i love her to bits, but she always says how she doesn't deserve me, and asks; "There are way better lookin girls than me why have you chosen me, wouldn't u prefer to be with them?" To begin ...
A. 24 January 2008: It is not about trust but she has a low self esteem and need more confirmations. If you love her, you will have to tell her a 1000 times if she mentions that. That is the price of your love for her. It is like she wants to be told , that you love ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to resent the fact that he can afford to go out but not come to see me??
Q. I've been with my partner for about year and a half, we're now living apart in different countries due to my work commitments. The thing is he's just lost his job and has a mortgage and bills to pay. So he can't afford to come and see me as much ...
A. 24 January 2008: He has his own priorities and his own reasons for not taking up your offers. You should let it go.Why not you visit him ?Since you care more about him.... (read in full...)
My teacher tried to kiss me and I walked away....what should I do??
Q. Omg! What do i do?? Im really worried. I really like this teacher at my school and he shouted at me for no reason then told me just to wait behind after the bell, which i did. So i waited and waited around after the bell then he came out and sho...
A. 24 January 2008: You need to speak to another teacher about what is happening to you.They will handle this problem for you . What he is doing is not right and he could be in serious trouble.
He is taking advantage of you. Do not allow him to touch you or abuse yo... (read in full...)
I never stop thinking about my teacher. Any advice?
Q. Hello guys, I really need some help at the moment. I have been feeling very ill for a few months now because I am absolutely obsessed with my female teacher. I am in my final year at school which is so important yet I find it so hard to concentr...
A. 24 January 2008: You have an obsession on your teacher. You need to find something which will take your mind of her.Are you a religious person? If you are, you need to seek God and focus on Him.
If you are not religious ,you need to do something like mixing m... (read in full...)
Our relationship is going downhill and I have always liked his cousin and I know he likes me.
Q. Dear Cupid I have been in my current relationship for 9 years. We have 2 kids together but apart from that the relationship has been going downhill for a long time. The whole time we have been together i have had feelings for his cousin. We both...
A. 24 January 2008: Your b/f would probably have known what is going on between the two of you and he does nothing.If your cousin comes daily to your house, you would suspect something amiss.
You have a few options.
1)Just carry on like nothing happens
2)Shu... (read in full...)
I really like my friend at school even though we have changed classes. Should I make a move?
Q. hey i like this guy since last year, when we were in the same class, as he sat nest to me in class started knowing him, and started liking him..but this year we are in different classes...sometimes he shows intrest in me but then other times he acts ...
A. 24 January 2008: If he is not going to move, you will have to move. Whether that is a hick town or not, there is no harm if you move first. Engaged him in conversations and you can ask questions about his interest ,hobbies or outlooks on may current issues.... (read in full...)
Does he like me? What do you think?
Q. i just want ur opinion on this: to cut a long story short, that day i went out of my way to the administration, his bus arrives later than mine..so anyways as i was leaving he and his friend were coming up, did what everihad to get inhis face to see ...
A. 24 January 2008: Talk and chat up with him and get to know him more. Be friends and discover about each other. Plan your accidental meet up's.... (read in full...)
He called out of the blue. What do you think this means?
Q. so heres the story, the guy i like hangs out with 2 other guys-his bestfriends- who all hang out with other guys at a known place for them...so the day before, my friend/classmate(guy),(who we are not that close anyways) calls me and asks what do we ...
A. 24 January 2008: It could be they were all hanging out there and someone made a challenge to him to call you up or he challenged your crush to call you up but he did not.Some jokes were cracked there and then.He was afraid you may have overheard it on the ... (read in full...)
Concerned my mom is getting married too fast. What do you think?
Q. My mother and I live in different states, about 1000 miles apart. She began dating a new man in early December and told me how great he was and she was very happy. She continually said that they were going to take this slow. She decided to come ...
A. 24 January 2008: I think your mother is more matured than you think and there is nothing the children can do about it except to give your blessings. Any negative connotations would not be welcome as she is in love with the man and will not see from your points.
... (read in full...)
Help me! I've run out of ideas and hope!
Q. it is a long story but ill try to shorten it been with my boyfriend well ex now for 2 years he dumped me in january last year cos of things like mentionin his exs which i changed he got bak with me after 4days. he then dumped me in january t...
A. 24 January 2008: Go find another boy and show him that you beautiful and still wanted. This will make him green with jealousy.
Don't crawl back to him because he will treat you like dirt only. He does not know how to appreciate and love you.... (read in full...)
Confused and wworried after a break up. Please advise.
Q. My boyfriend and i been togehter for about a year and a half and last week on tuesday he broke up with me. While i was at work he packed all his things and left the apartment we were both renting. He called me every night for that week and ...
A. 24 January 2008: You have done all you can unconditionally.You are bending backwards till you are going to break and he still imposed new conditions.
The best thing for you is to walk away from him and make him realized that he is the one that needs you more tha... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a guy friend says "you know that I love you"?
Q. What does it mean when a guy friend says you know that i love you? We have been friends for about 2 yrs now and the whole story is complicated and we have already done the bedroom thing. So that leaves out the whole get in ur pants thing. We don't ...
A. 24 January 2008: Saying I love you without any actions is like faith without works.
A guy would not say 'love' if it is only a friend. The word would be 'like.'
If he says that , he means, he love you more than a friend .But he is unsure if you love him back th... (read in full...)
How can I be strong enough to leave or deal with his having cheated even during my pregnancy?...
Q. My husband was sleeping with this other girl before we were married, he was actually dating her behind my back. He didn't break up with her until after we were married and he kept sleeping with her. We have been married less than 2 years and he ...
A. 24 January 2008: If you love him, you see no evil , hear no evil and speak no evil.
If you don't love him, the door is always open but think carefully before you want to leave.... (read in full...)
Husband has deadly secret! who can I turn to?
Q. my husband is into child porn , he has these storage things not sure what they are called. you can save pictures and videos on them. went through them when he was at work found images and videos of child porn . what should i do i have 5 children...
A. 24 January 2008: Having those pixs and saving them does not make him a criminal or pedophile. You need more proof that he is a confirmed pedophile before you go to the police or you will destroy your own family over this matter. You are the one who will suffer from ... (read in full...)
How can I win the trust of my parents back and start living the life of a normal teenager??
Q. Hey you guys, im 15 years old and i'm having problems in school especially in math. Well the problem is that my parents dont let me do anything infact they dont trust me...because i never used to listen in the past but now i wanna regain that tru...
A. 20 January 2008: You could please your parents by doing everything they asked of you even if you don't like it. When they see that you have changed , they may relax and allow you more freedom.
You need to understand that your parents love you a lot and they don... (read in full...)
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