She says she wants space. How much space is space?
Q. Hi. Could do with some advice. My girlfriend of three years (great relationship etc) recently told me she 'needs space/a break'. Not 'breaking -up', just needs 'space'... Everything was good until she started studies on her university course...
A. 2 March 2008: It is not the end of the world.
When one door close , another will open for you .
You may grief but do not grief too long.
There are many things you can do and experience in life.
It's a new world out there.
... (read in full...)
She says she wants space. How much space is space?
Q. Hi. Could do with some advice. My girlfriend of three years (great relationship etc) recently told me she 'needs space/a break'. Not 'breaking -up', just needs 'space'... Everything was good until she started studies on her university course...
A. 1 March 2008: Some women can be very ambitious and can be very focussed and nothing can distract them.
Take this as a very long sojourn into the black space.
If you are right for each other , your paths will cross again.
Sorry, but don't feel sad, it i... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want to be with my ex. How can I do this without causing damage to my kids?
Q. Here's the situation. I love my ex. I always have and know I always will. Always felt he is the love of my life. We recently acknowledge our true feelings. Problem is I'm married. Miscommunications and a broken heart lead me to my husband to ...
A. 3 February 2008: I am sorry and apologize if I hurt your feelings.I was saying it figuratively about putting him on the pedestal.
To turn on the love , we need to remove all our bias and prejudices and start from a clean new slate. We should not harp anymore ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want to be with my ex. How can I do this without causing damage to my kids?
Q. Here's the situation. I love my ex. I always have and know I always will. Always felt he is the love of my life. We recently acknowledge our true feelings. Problem is I'm married. Miscommunications and a broken heart lead me to my husband to ...
A. 2 February 2008: [Quote]
How do I turn off feelings and turn them on for my husband? How do you turn off your love when it existed before I even met my husband? Is it possible?
[Unquote]
Everything is possible if you put your heart into it. If there is a will ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want to be with my ex. How can I do this without causing damage to my kids?
Q. Here's the situation. I love my ex. I always have and know I always will. Always felt he is the love of my life. We recently acknowledge our true feelings. Problem is I'm married. Miscommunications and a broken heart lead me to my husband to ...
A. 2 February 2008: [Quote]As for saying that they will realise what a sacrifice you made for them if you stay, NO THEY WONT. They will grow up and have thier own lives and you will be left on your own with the husband that you cannot seem to stand.[Unquote]
If th... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want to be with my ex. How can I do this without causing damage to my kids?
Q. Here's the situation. I love my ex. I always have and know I always will. Always felt he is the love of my life. We recently acknowledge our true feelings. Problem is I'm married. Miscommunications and a broken heart lead me to my husband to ...
A. 2 February 2008: Your heart is only that big and you gave it all to your best friend and you expect your feelings to grow for your husband.
Does he has enough space for him to grow in your heart?
Did you really tried your best or just lukewarm? Can you really c... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want to be with my ex. How can I do this without causing damage to my kids?
Q. Here's the situation. I love my ex. I always have and know I always will. Always felt he is the love of my life. We recently acknowledge our true feelings. Problem is I'm married. Miscommunications and a broken heart lead me to my husband to ...
A. 1 February 2008: You can rubbish me all you want , I do not mind but do not rubbish God!.You are committing a blasphemy against God. Watch your words lady. ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want to be with my ex. How can I do this without causing damage to my kids?
Q. Here's the situation. I love my ex. I always have and know I always will. Always felt he is the love of my life. We recently acknowledge our true feelings. Problem is I'm married. Miscommunications and a broken heart lead me to my husband to ...
A. 1 February 2008: You may think the grass is greener on the other side and this is what is clouding your eyes .When you have such a feeling, you will not appreciate what you have at the moment.
You will be uncontented, unfulfilled and unhappy. You think it is a ... (read in full...)
I'll be devastated if I lose her. What can I do?
Q. My wife of 3.5 years has just left after a fight and said she needed some time and space. I have been fighting depression for some few years now and did not know it until last week when I saw a psychiatrist. I have been verbally abusive to her and ...
A. 1 February 2008: Good for you. I think I need to clarify that Knocking on her door, does not mean that you go and harass her. It means that you do not give up hope but you keep your communications with her and not just leave her alone.
She may want space but in h... (read in full...)
How can we get our sparkle back?
Q. I don’t know what to do. Me and my bf (were both 21) have been together for just over a year and we have been arguing for the last few months. Its always about the same thing. I say that he doesn’t show me enough affection and doesn’t kiss me enough ...
A. 31 January 2008: You need to stop arguing. You should accept him as what he is and not try to change him.Change has to come through him and not by force.You change him by your love.
Do things together and find intimate times with him.
Do not expect too high an ... (read in full...)
She wants to start birth control but her mother wont let her
Q. me and my girlfriend have been having sex for 6 months now and recentley she had to go get the morning after pill due to a split in a condom.i now find it hard to trust a condom in case it splits again, i know the chances are very low but i am ...
A. 31 January 2008: If she cannot convince her mom , she could go to the GP and get it herself. The condom split is a rare one. Maybe you need to use a good brand.There are faked and inferior brands in the market.... (read in full...)
We are having problems but I don't want to lose her.
Q. i have been dating my g/f for about 4 years and we were so comfortable with each other that we started picking out children's names and planned on moving in together and establishing our lives together. eventually though, within the past year, i got ...
A. 31 January 2008: You are traveling along the same journey and on the same boat.If your boat develop a leak, patch it.The important thing is that you love each other and help carry each other . Do not worry about the future.
Concentrate on graduating from you... (read in full...)
Is it normal to want sex when he comes near me?
Q. I am 46 and just met this man 64. We gets on well and have been together for 6 months now. We have sex 3 or 4 times a week. I really enjoy it. We dont live together and just see each other 3 times a week. And recently he starts to complain I am ...
A. 31 January 2008: His age maybe a factor and since he cannot keep up with your pace, you should accommodate him .If the horse can only trod, surely you don't expect the horse to gallop .You cannot flog the old horse to gallop, he can only trod. If you feel ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I want to be with my ex. How can I do this without causing damage to my kids?
Q. Here's the situation. I love my ex. I always have and know I always will. Always felt he is the love of my life. We recently acknowledge our true feelings. Problem is I'm married. Miscommunications and a broken heart lead me to my husband to ...
A. 31 January 2008: Your dilemma is do you love your daughter or your ex more? If you love your daughter more, you will have to suppress your urge for your ex. You can still be friends with you ex until your daughter grows up .
That is the sacrifice you will have to ... (read in full...)
Which one of us is being unreasonable - if either?
Q. Since my childhood I've slept with a noisemaker to drown out all the other sounds of the night. I find it soothing and I daresay I'm somewhat dependent upon it for a good night's sleep. My girlfriend of two years absolutely hates the thing. It's ...
A. 31 January 2008: Your sleeping habits are incompatible and both of you are not unreasonable.Sleep is very important to everyone of us.
It looks like you will have to try to sleep without your noise maker or possibly , you get to tone the sound down or she swit... (read in full...)
I'm undecided - should I give in to my brother's urges and have sex with him?
Q. My brother trying to seduce me. He's been trying for a long time, from time to time he was making a move on me, but now I think he's serious. When we were in early teens (13-15) we already had a kind of sexual relationship with him - we've been tou...
A. 31 January 2008: Sex with members of the same family or relatives is called incest and is a taboo in many cultures and religions.
There are reasons why it is a taboo.
If you want to know more about incest and the whys, you can go to this link;-The univer... (read in full...)
Would it ruin our friendship if I told him I was in love with him?
Q. I secretly am in love with my best guy friend.We are both 16 years old.I want to tell him so bad,but we have been friends for over two years now,i am afraid it will ruin our friendship.Im not very good with words.I have no idea,because keeping this ...
A. 31 January 2008: I think after knowing him for two years , you should chance it by telling him your feelings. If he does not feel for you , you can still be friends.... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but I don't want it to end! What should I do?
Q. Hi all! I feel totally down right now. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday over the telephone. It was like this. We had difficult times and were just starting to get to the right track again. Yesterday we talked about our problems and we ...
A. 31 January 2008: Those problems are just temporary only. You need to look further ahead. You can tackle those problems one by one. Some problems need more time. Don't expect quick solutions to her problems. It is like a frog in the well. You need to jump and jump ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I made out with his best friend?
Q. okay me and my boyfriend have not been dating very long..and i now like his best friend..and he likes me and...well...at my boyfriends basketball game i kinda made out with his friend..and i now know that i dont like him and i really really like my ...
A. 31 January 2008: Tell and kiss him goodbye!
Do you know how your b/f will react? If your b/f come and confess that he slept with your best friend. How would you react?
Would you just tell your b/f , I forgive you and then act like nothing happens?
If y... (read in full...)
How do I let my girlfriend know I'm not comfortable with her smoking Marijuana?
Q. Personally I choose not to smoke marijuana, but my girlfriend does it and she knows i wont do it so she does it behind my back. She does it once every couple of weeks, and although most argue there is nothing wrong with the substance itself, i just ...
A. 31 January 2008: You could just tell her in a friendly way why you don't like smoking marijuana and leave it like that. You cannot force the issue. She will have to tackle that issue alone.... (read in full...)
Little things he does seem to annoy me lately. I think this is a probelm with me. Can anyone help me out?
Q. I've been in a relationship for around a year now with a boy I go to school with. We're past the boyfriend/girlfriend stage - I class him as my partner. We've been sleeping together for about seven months, first time for both of us. Lately though, ...
A. 31 January 2008: If you are feeling down , moody or depressed, you need to go to your GP . He can help you
You can read more on this link;-
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/diseases/facts/depression.htm... (read in full...)
Me and my guy are ready for sex. Will it hurt?
Q. Me and my bf have been together a long time, and he and I both feel we are ready to have sex. But.. Im scared it will hurt. I was just wondering.. is the pain realy bad? I have been horse riding for 13 years now and I heard that can break your hym...
A. 31 January 2008: You can ask your b/f to be gentle and tender and that if you find it uncomfortable , he should stop. You need to communicate to him or he would not know. Relax and enjoy.... (read in full...)
What if I forget to take the Pill?
Q. okay stupid question really but i need to know. Okay so if you forget to take the pill for a couple of days, you're not protected for 7 days yeah? soo you're supposed to take a pregnancy test, what 4 days before your period is due? but what...
A. 31 January 2008: If you miss your period by 14 days, you can take the pregnancy test. I do not think that your on the pill will affect the accuracy of the pregnancy test.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for people to go cold towards their partner at times?
Q. I have been going out with this guy for over two months. It has been a wonderful relationship. Started out magically and everything. I see him every day. About two days ago, I noticed he was acting strangely and asked him what happened. He said ...
A. 31 January 2008: That is normal and you said the right things.There are ups and downs in every relationship. Even with your parents or siblings, you do have highs and lows.
There are times when we are happy and times when we feel low or sad. When we are happy, o... (read in full...)
Is talking dirty to my college teacher wrong?, I'm 18 he's 31
Q. I am talking dirty with a teacher and i dont know what i should do? It started last week when i seen him out in a club. We got chatting and then i emailed him via the college and said i was sorry if i said anything i shouldnt because i was so drunk ...
A. 31 January 2008: I do not see anything wrong in your conversations.I don't like to be judgmental or stereotype as he is also a human being and you are old enough to decide.
Whatever you two do is your business .You want to talk dirty or not is your prerogat... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me then jumped into another girls arms, I can't stop peeking at his emails, am I going mad?
Q. If anyone could offer any advice I would really, really appreciate it...I think I am going mad and I don't know what to do. My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me via email 3 months ago...we're both doing gap years and he's decided he wants...
A. 31 January 2008: Sometimes what you see or hear is not what you get. He told you he love that girl just after a short time.
Is it possible to really love another girl in that quick time? It could be just sexual attractions or infatuations only or he is in a con... (read in full...)
On facebook I said another girl is more attractive than my girlfriend, now she's dumped me, how can I get her to forgive me?
Q. Hi, i need a lot of help... About 9 months ago something happened on facebook between me and one of my friends. He told me this one girl was hotter than my girlfriend and i replied yes. It had not occured to me that it would lead me to this ...
A. 31 January 2008: Call her and tell her you want to treat her to a dinner/show .9 months should be time enough to bury the hatchet.... (read in full...)
How will I know that she loves me more than the other guys?
Q. Hi there I m in love with a lady I really loves her a lot, but the problem is she end-up receiving many calls as she has other guys. I reall don't want to lose her how will I know that she loves me the same? is it an easy thing to find out if dated ...
A. 31 January 2008: Date her more. If she wants to spend more time with you than she loves you more. If not , very sorry , you are not the number 1 in her life yet.... (read in full...)
Would you allow your wife to have sex with another man?
Q. If you were unable to satisfy your wife sexually due to health problems, would it be ok to allow her to have sex with a person of your choice?...
A. 31 January 2008: You really don't have a choice. If she wants to sleep with a man , she would do it anyhow whether you allow her or not.
You can either close one eye or divorce her.
If she does not want, there is no issue of forcing her to have sex with another... (read in full...)
Do I chose my family or the love of my life?
Q. i am a hindu girl.i am in love with a christian boy.my family is against this affair.they want me to marry a hindu .but i cant.we love each other so much.he is very sincere and loving.but then i dont want to hurt my parents.what will i do.i want my ...
A. 31 January 2008: Ask your b/f to be a Hindu for your sake. If he loves you , he can become a Hindu and later on can switch back to be a Christian after he is married.
Would you want to be happy and others sad or would you want to be sad and others happy? That is ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend that I made out with his best friend?
Q. okay me and my boyfriend have not been dating very long..and i now like his best friend..and he likes me and...well...at my boyfriends basketball game i kinda made out with his friend..and i now know that i dont like him and i really really like my ...
A. 31 January 2008: I think you should keep this a secret. If you tell your b/f , you could be history.Your b/f would not like you if he knows you have slept with his best friend. His best friend will also be no more. Honesty does not pay in this situation. If you are ... (read in full...)
Why are guys more likely to commit to an average looking girl and just choose to sleep around with the good looking ones?
Q. Can someone please explain the theory that guys are more likely to commit to a proper relationship with a less good-looking girl than a very good looking girl and just sleep with the really good looking ones but never have a proper relationship with ...
A. 31 January 2008: The men feels threatened by sexy and beautiful girls.She will have many admirers and will tend to stray or attract other men. She can also be high maintenance.
These girls are like party girls, fun and sex and not the marriage kind.
The pla... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have a relationship with the same sex?
Q. Is it wrong to have a relationship with the same sex? I have this relationship... I know it's against everybody's eyes but I can't afford to lose her. I really love her.. She also loves me, I guess.. but she is afraid to show-up because many people ...
A. 31 January 2008: There is no right or wrong.The only thing right is to love everyone. Some religions or cultures forbade such practice. It depends on where you are and what religion you practice. Even among the religious , there are those who go against their r... (read in full...)
I do not want my bf to think I am not interested in him just because I am generally not excited about Valentine's Day!
Q. Hello, I'm in a fairly new relationship with this guy and I like him a lot. My sort-of dilemma that's developing is he's clearly into Valentine's Day and is looking forward to doing something special and extravagant, but I'm not a big Valentine'...
A. 31 January 2008: He is playing the main role and you will play the minor role .Just indulge him and have fun.... (read in full...)
My bf said his ex was a very nasty person, then resumes contact with her. What does this tell about him?
Q. When you date a guy for 1 year and 4 months and he said hes totally into you, but when he starts talking to ex which he said "she was bitch and i never ever liked her." and plus adds her on myspace. what does that mean? b/c i dont want to tak...
A. 31 January 2008: A man with two faces or a forked tongue.When he is with you , he says one thing and behind your back , he is another.... (read in full...)
We hooked up again after all these years, both have children , but we are both single, but I think I do all the work, what's the deal with this as I havent dated in ages?
Q. I have known this guy since highschool,28-30 years, we had a few intimate encounters back then, I have recently move back to the town where we went school, He called me a month ago to come over for a drink, and we have hooked up only on an intimate ...
A. 31 January 2008: If you are going to hold back, you may miss the boat.I think you have to stir up things a bit and see how he responds . Whether they are positive and he enjoys them.You got to be the mover.It is easier for you to go to him than for him to come to ... (read in full...)
We broke up, he was abusive, but do you think he has gone back to his ex
Q. I know it doesn't matter now, because i don't want my ex back because he was abusive on so many levels, but is it true that after u break up they will see their previous ex and possibly hook up with them. He broke up with his ex before me to go out ...
A. 31 January 2008: Whatever , he is history to you but out of curiosity, I don't think she will want him back. You have a tinge of regret?... (read in full...)
My mother married at 19, but says I'm too young to move in with my boyfriend, what gives?
Q. My grandma(my mothers mom) was married at 16 and had my mom when she was 17. And they had a great life. My mom never thought her mother was too young. My mother is also always telling me about how she started dating my father when she was 19 and ...
A. 31 January 2008: It was the best decision for her at that time and she has gone through life and thinks you should enjoy more before you get tied down.The decision is yours.
You should enjoy single life till you get tired of it.This is a phase everyone has to g... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't go down on me anymore, any ideas?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months. We're both in our early - mid 20's. When we first started dating for about the first 3 months he would ALWAYS give me oral sex(though not very good) and always talked about how much he liked giving ...
A. 31 January 2008: Maybe , you both should watch some good porn DVD's together, for him to learn those techniques .... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has a high sex drive, its driving me crazy, is there something wrong with her?
Q. this is a question mostly for the ladies- how high is your sex drive? I am asking because I am with a girl who is just about insatiable, we've been going out for three years and she's ALWAYS after sex. All the time! In the beginning we had it two o...
A. 31 January 2008: Her body produces more testosterone than normal and this increases her libido.
Get her some sex toys.
... (read in full...)
He loves me but doesn't trust me! How do I gain his trust?
Q. Im going out with someone and we have recently just told each other that we love each other. The thing is though he cant trust me, how do i gain his trust? ...
A. 31 January 2008: Did he told you directly or is it your perceptions only?
Can you accept a guy who comes and say to you , I love you but I don't trust you ? That is a queer way to express one's love.
Trust can only be gained through time. You will try not to ... (read in full...)
She says she wants space. How much space is space?
Q. Hi. Could do with some advice. My girlfriend of three years (great relationship etc) recently told me she 'needs space/a break'. Not 'breaking -up', just needs 'space'... Everything was good until she started studies on her university course...
A. 31 January 2008: I don't think you should be the first to write to her and tell her the relationship is over. Do not say that when it is you who love her more.Do not ever mention about breaking up.
She asked for space, give her and then wait and see.She may want... (read in full...)
I'm with a new guy but just found out I'm pregnant by my ex, please help me decide what to do!
Q. I am currently seeing a wonderful man who has a son from a previous relationship. I absolutely love his son and can really see this relationship working out. The problem is I recently discovered that I am pregnant with an ex's child. Apparently he ...
A. 31 January 2008: Does your new b/f knows about it or will it be your sole decision to abort or keep it?
Have you consulted your new b/f or feel there is no necessity to involve him?
Since you feel that you are not ready , there is no other choice.
... (read in full...)
I want them both, but am not going to try it.
Q. Ok, well since summer I have realy REALY liked this guy, but I dont realy know him that well I we dont go to the same schools or anything so I just forgot about him. Anyway I got on with my life, and had a lovly boyfriend, we broke up and then ...
A. 31 January 2008: You can be friends with both but only one as your b/f.If you cannot decide yet, just go out with them until you can decide who you want.... (read in full...)
I think I might be worrying too much
Q. I had sex for the first time. Me and my boyfriend used a condom but I am still extremely scared that I could be pregnant. I told my boyfriend, but he just laughed and said I worry too much. He is a very experienced guy, and has had many long term ...
A. 31 January 2008: You got your period after 3 weeks you had sex means you are not pregnant. Everything is OK. No need to worry.... (read in full...)
My best friend has a boyfriend and it's hurting me
Q. My best friend says she loves me and we've been really close for about 2 years. I love her alot, but recently shes been going out with this kid a year younger than us who looks just like me. But the thing is I am really hurt that she doesn't want to ...
A. 31 January 2008: She thinks you are not her class, forget her and move on.Better you go love a stone than her.... (read in full...)
I'll be devastated if I lose her. What can I do?
Q. My wife of 3.5 years has just left after a fight and said she needed some time and space. I have been fighting depression for some few years now and did not know it until last week when I saw a psychiatrist. I have been verbally abusive to her and ...
A. 31 January 2008: You need to knock on her door until she gives in and open the door for you. Don't give up easily .Whatever it takes, you need to prove your love for her.You need to wear her resistance down till she comes home together with you.Be prepared for the ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but I don't want it to end! What should I do?
Q. Hi all! I feel totally down right now. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday over the telephone. It was like this. We had difficult times and were just starting to get to the right track again. Yesterday we talked about our problems and we ...
A. 31 January 2008: Don't give up hope. Sometimes, they just want to punish you but in their heart, they want you to call again.Give her a few days and then call again when they are not so angry.
It is not the end yet. She is just throwing obstacles in your path or ... (read in full...)
What does a boy really want in a girl?
Q. I'm trying to become friends with this really hot guy who I'm head over heels for. But problem is I just can't figure out how to get him really into me, or at least I can't tell. I think he's interested in me but it's really hard because he's really ...
A. 31 January 2008: You need to be physically and mentally attractive to him. Get a new hairstyle,wear beautiful clothes, smile more. Boys are attracted to visuals. ... (read in full...)
I'll be devastated if I lose her. What can I do?
Q. My wife of 3.5 years has just left after a fight and said she needed some time and space. I have been fighting depression for some few years now and did not know it until last week when I saw a psychiatrist. I have been verbally abusive to her and ...
A. 30 January 2008: You need to woo her and romance her again and to promise her that you will try to control yourself and ask her for another chance. Remember to tell her that you love her.She needs a lot of confirmations of your love verbally and in actions. ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but I don't want it to end! What should I do?
Q. Hi all! I feel totally down right now. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday over the telephone. It was like this. We had difficult times and were just starting to get to the right track again. Yesterday we talked about our problems and we ...
A. 30 January 2008: You forgot to say the most important words she wants to hear from you.."I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART!"
Don't forget to say that every time you talk to her.
... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but I don't want it to end! What should I do?
Q. Hi all! I feel totally down right now. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday over the telephone. It was like this. We had difficult times and were just starting to get to the right track again. Yesterday we talked about our problems and we ...
A. 30 January 2008: You should call her as quickly as possible before she changes her mind. She is also troubled and need your confirmations. Don't wait, do it now.
Don't wait for her to call you.You need to let her know that she is your most important person i... (read in full...)
What does a boy really want in a girl?
Q. I'm trying to become friends with this really hot guy who I'm head over heels for. But problem is I just can't figure out how to get him really into me, or at least I can't tell. I think he's interested in me but it's really hard because he's really ...
A. 30 January 2008: Girls are different from boys and it is natures way of sexual attractions. They want a girl to complement him .They want love , tenderness , sex and your affirmations of his maleness
Having a g/f can boast their ego's.
They want your attent... (read in full...)
My best friend has a boyfriend and it's hurting me
Q. My best friend says she loves me and we've been really close for about 2 years. I love her alot, but recently shes been going out with this kid a year younger than us who looks just like me. But the thing is I am really hurt that she doesn't want to ...
A. 14 January 2008: She is two timing you . If she is worthy and you still want her , you will have to better yourself and win over her. Put some ‘zing’ back into your relationship with her.
You could go and date another girl and let her see and feel what is it like ... (read in full...)
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