I need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship...
Q. Need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship with a man I still love. I'm 43 He's 46.. Talked of marriage in the past, lived with him for 3 years out of the 6 years. Living by myself now. My kids are grown, raised them by myself. ...
A. 21 February 2008: Stop thinking of him and talking of him and you will forget him faster.
Refocus your mind on things you would like to do.Go out and mix with your friends and enjoy .
You need to feel what happiness is . Get control over your own life. You do... (read in full...)
I need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship...
Q. Need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship with a man I still love. I'm 43 He's 46.. Talked of marriage in the past, lived with him for 3 years out of the 6 years. Living by myself now. My kids are grown, raised them by myself. ...
A. 8 February 2008: You took the separation very well but he took it very badly. He is hurt and that is why he behaved that way. Just leave that incident behind. There is no need to dwell on it anymore. He is not sporting and a sore loser.He will regret those actions ... (read in full...)
I'll be devastated if I lose her. What can I do?
Q. My wife of 3.5 years has just left after a fight and said she needed some time and space. I have been fighting depression for some few years now and did not know it until last week when I saw a psychiatrist. I have been verbally abusive to her and ...
A. 1 February 2008: Good for you. I think I need to clarify that Knocking on her door, does not mean that you go and harass her. It means that you do not give up hope but you keep your communications with her and not just leave her alone.
She may want space but in h... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but I don't want it to end! What should I do?
Q. Hi all! I feel totally down right now. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday over the telephone. It was like this. We had difficult times and were just starting to get to the right track again. Yesterday we talked about our problems and we ...
A. 31 January 2008: Those problems are just temporary only. You need to look further ahead. You can tackle those problems one by one. Some problems need more time. Don't expect quick solutions to her problems. It is like a frog in the well. You need to jump and jump ... (read in full...)
I'll be devastated if I lose her. What can I do?
Q. My wife of 3.5 years has just left after a fight and said she needed some time and space. I have been fighting depression for some few years now and did not know it until last week when I saw a psychiatrist. I have been verbally abusive to her and ...
A. 31 January 2008: You need to knock on her door until she gives in and open the door for you. Don't give up easily .Whatever it takes, you need to prove your love for her.You need to wear her resistance down till she comes home together with you.Be prepared for the ... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but I don't want it to end! What should I do?
Q. Hi all! I feel totally down right now. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday over the telephone. It was like this. We had difficult times and were just starting to get to the right track again. Yesterday we talked about our problems and we ...
A. 31 January 2008: Don't give up hope. Sometimes, they just want to punish you but in their heart, they want you to call again.Give her a few days and then call again when they are not so angry.
It is not the end yet. She is just throwing obstacles in your path or ... (read in full...)
What does a boy really want in a girl?
Q. I'm trying to become friends with this really hot guy who I'm head over heels for. But problem is I just can't figure out how to get him really into me, or at least I can't tell. I think he's interested in me but it's really hard because he's really ...
A. 31 January 2008: You need to be physically and mentally attractive to him. Get a new hairstyle,wear beautiful clothes, smile more. Boys are attracted to visuals. ... (read in full...)
I'll be devastated if I lose her. What can I do?
Q. My wife of 3.5 years has just left after a fight and said she needed some time and space. I have been fighting depression for some few years now and did not know it until last week when I saw a psychiatrist. I have been verbally abusive to her and ...
A. 30 January 2008: You need to woo her and romance her again and to promise her that you will try to control yourself and ask her for another chance. Remember to tell her that you love her.She needs a lot of confirmations of your love verbally and in actions. ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm losing him. What can I do?
Q. Hey, i really need advice, I met a guy online last february, met him and started dating, fell in love with him and all that, got engaged in july just gone, however he lost his job a couple of weeks ago and since then he's been stressed out abo...
A. 30 January 2008: Try to give him moral and emotional support .Be more understanding and patient. Try to avoid contentious issues and picked up the slack if you can without criticizing him .
Losing his job can make him lose his confidence and self esteem.... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but I don't want it to end! What should I do?
Q. Hi all! I feel totally down right now. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday over the telephone. It was like this. We had difficult times and were just starting to get to the right track again. Yesterday we talked about our problems and we ...
A. 30 January 2008: You forgot to say the most important words she wants to hear from you.."I LOVE YOU WITH ALL MY HEART!"
Don't forget to say that every time you talk to her.
... (read in full...)
He invited me to functions and I had other plans. Now he won't call.
Q. I just met this guy three weeks ago. He is 6yrs younger than me. I love him but the age gap gives me problems. I'm a single mother of a 15yr old son while he has 11yr old son and 8yr old daughter from his previous relationship which he chose to ...
A. 30 January 2008: Wait till his anger blows over and he will come back to you. If you have apologized, there is not much you can do. The next time , you should go to his functions and cancel your other plans ,no matter what. By not going to his functions , he ... (read in full...)
Once a month sex life ...if I'm lucky
Q. My bf and I are very much in love with each other and planning a long term future together, only problem is he says he has a very low sex drive. We only have sex about once a month which to be honest is not my usual way, as I have quite a high sex ...
A. 30 January 2008: What is the reason that he has a reduced interest in making love?
This website has a wide range of explanations about this problem. I hope you can find your answers there.
http://web4he... (read in full...)
He abuses me emotionally, But I can't leave him!
Q. Please help me. I'm desperate. I am so in love with my bf, I mean I have never been in love like I am now, but things have happened, I should leave him. Things have turned so nasty between us, but I am so in love, I can't actually tell the diff...
A. 30 January 2008: You cannot leave him because he has emotionally abused you to the point that you cannot think for yourself.
If you love him , you need to get away from him, for him to realize that it is emotional abuse or blackmail.You are not leaving him but ... (read in full...)
He bores me, I want to break up. How can I do it gently?
Q. I want to break up with my boyfriend of two years. He is a very sweet, but dull person. Sounds harsh, but there's no spark there. I can't chat with him like with my friends. I don't love him or fancy him anymore. I really want to be single because I ...
A. 30 January 2008:
You can write him a letter saying that he is such a good guy and that you are not worthy of his love.You can thank him for all those good times together .
You can Google ," Breakup letter."
There are two breakup letter generators. You c... (read in full...)
I want more, how do I tell him without scaring him?
Q. I have been in an on and off (mainly on) relationship for 9 years with a guy I truly adore. He makes me laugh, we know each other inside out, we have the same goals etc. But I am 25 now, and I am ready for our relationship to be a lot more serious - ...
A. 30 January 2008: If you have been in a relationship for that long and he has still not committed ,I think you will have commitment problems from him. It is better that you talk to him about it or you will miss the last train.
Don't you think it is time to talk abo... (read in full...)
Two people in relationships kiss, touch another person
Q. I am in a relationship that is bad-the past month and a half we have almost quit it about seven times. The other day, I went to watch a football game at my friend's house and we all ended up drinking too much and a guy kissed/touched me, as I did ...
A. 30 January 2008: If he likes you , he will call you .If he ignores you or don't call , then it is only a one time due to the alcohol and circumstances or situation.
If you are interested, you may try call him and chat him up.... (read in full...)
He is sending me mixed signals. Does he like me or not?
Q. I like this guy well his not really just a guy his one of my close friends. i've liked him for ages and he knows it as well it just i've asked him out before and he said no. since then we have had phone sex, weve gone swimming together and his he ...
A. 30 January 2008: Some lads just go in for the cheap thrills.It does not mean that they love you.They could be just playing with you .
Love is different, he shows his care and concern for you .... (read in full...)
I'm afraid that if I tell her I want more than the sexual relationship we have, she'd stop seeing me (she's my friend's fiancee.)
Q. My name's Steve, and I'm 35. *all names changed* I've been working with a guy named Ryan who's 25 for the last 12 months. When we first started working together, he invited me over to his house to hang out with his friends and have a few drinks. ...
A. 30 January 2008: It is not who you think you are but what she thinks you are that counts. You do not have to tell her , if she loves you she will want more of your emotional side.This is her love progression.... (read in full...)
At first I wasn't inerested, but now I can't get her off my mind.
Q. I met a girl in 2006, I never took in interest in her, but after some time I was no longer seeing the girl anymore. All of a sudden I started feeling eager to see the her. I cannot clear her off my mind, I think I am in love with her. I don't know ...
A. 30 January 2008: Just be friends with her first or if you come on too strongly , she will run away from you. Find out where she hangs out everyday... ... (read in full...)
What happens when you take the pill?
Q. I'm considering going on the pill, but I'm not fully sure what happens. Do I have to stop taking it for a week, or something, to have my period? I'm confused where to get it from too. Can any of you give me some advice on where to get the pill, an...
A. 30 January 2008: You can read all about the pill on this site:-
http://www.epigee.org/types_of_men.html... (read in full...)
I broke up with her but I don't want it to end! What should I do?
Q. Hi all! I feel totally down right now. I broke up with my girlfriend yesterday over the telephone. It was like this. We had difficult times and were just starting to get to the right track again. Yesterday we talked about our problems and we ...
A. 30 January 2008: You should call her as quickly as possible before she changes her mind. She is also troubled and need your confirmations. Don't wait, do it now.
Don't wait for her to call you.You need to let her know that she is your most important person i... (read in full...)
I need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship...
Q. Need some encouragement to move on from a 6 year relationship with a man I still love. I'm 43 He's 46.. Talked of marriage in the past, lived with him for 3 years out of the 6 years. Living by myself now. My kids are grown, raised them by myself. ...
A. 30 January 2008: It is obvious from what you wrote that not only is he not satisfied with what he has or appreciate you but you too have the same malady.
Both of you have very strong drive and it is pulling your relationship in opposite directions. Both of you a... (read in full...)
I am jealous because my boyfriend doesn't spend enough time with me.
Q. I'm having trouble with my bf lately. I feel bored, and don't feel like want to see him anymore. We've been together for 3 years. He seldom spends time with me during the weekend,he spends all his weekend on trespassing to take photos. I know he is ...
A. 30 January 2008: Why not you join him or take an interest in his hobbies. You can go out together and enjoy together.... (read in full...)
She won't have vaginal sex with me, only the back door kind!
Q. Hi, I have been dating this girl from past 3 years now. We tried having vaginal sex many times but every time i have been unable to penetrate her for some or other reason. Either she is too scared of the pain either she is too tense etc.We tried ...
A. 30 January 2008: She could be born a hermaphrodite . There is nothing you can do except to look for another girl.... (read in full...)
Why do I have so much fear inside me?
Q. I am worried about the future of my relationship. I am dating a single father with a 5 year old son (his mother passed away). I get along great with his son, but i'm scared about putting too much energy into this. Also I get a little jealous at ...
A. 30 January 2008: Worries are like driving a car with the hand brakes on.You should live and enjoy from day to day and just leave the future to God...
You can read my article on this link;-
http://ww... (read in full...)
Turned on secretly seeing wife with another man
Q. i saw my wife having sex with another man. they didn't see me and i watched until they finished. i didn't get angry, i got turned on. i want to tell my wife, but will she be disgusted with me? i really wanted to join in when i was watching, ...
A. 30 January 2008: You could have video recorded her sex sessions as proof. It is only your words against hers but you know the truth.
She has no more love and respect for you except for the security you provide.It is up to you to decide if you want a divorce ... (read in full...)
I left hubby now I want him back but he's with someone else now, is there any hope?
Q. i left my husband about a year ago. i thought i was unhappy with our life together and messed up big time. now that i realize my mistake i want him back but i think it's too late. he has been with a woman for around 8 months or so. the thing is he ...
A. 30 January 2008: Just keep your lines of communications open with him and hope one day he will take the bite on your bait and then you can reel him back in.
Man are creatures of habit. After wandering , he may want to go back to his old home.Since you have chi... (read in full...)
All I can do is picture my ex.
Q. Dear cupid, ok i have just started dating this guy, and everytime we kiss good night, i cry because all i can picture is my ex that i broke up with in october.. ...
A. 30 January 2008: You still love him ? Why not get back together. Any chances of that happening?... (read in full...)
My older boyfriend is now in jail.
Q. Well I'm 15 and I have a 24 year old boyfriend. We love each other but when I told my mom she told a counceler and he was forced to report it, so now he's in jail, He still calls and writes and says he loves me and stuff but I'm not sure what to do, ...
A. 30 January 2008: You have to answer this question. Do you still love him or not?
That will decide if you want to stay or leave him?... (read in full...)
How can I test him to check how much he's in love with me?
Q. my bf of a year now is kind of treating me bad lately and gets upsets very very easy...he was not like that in the beginning.why is he acting like this..he gets upset when i'm giving hugs to other guys who's actually one of my best friends.when i ...
A. 30 January 2008: Act cold towards him and see how he responds.Don't call or see him for a while.... (read in full...)
He likes her more than me.
Q. i really like this guy but he doesnt know. i told my sister that i liked him so she started talking to him and now he hits on her all the time and is starting to like her more than me! what should i do?...
A. 30 January 2008: She is your sister and if she is fair , she should withdraw and give you the chance. If you both go for the same guy , it will be a problem for you two. You need to work it out with your sister.... (read in full...)
Mom said I never have feelings.
Q. ok my problem is my bf lied to me and i broke up with him becasue his ex ws bitching me out but i don't fell bad we broke up my mom said i never have feelings is there something wrong with me?...
A. 30 January 2008: There is nothing wrong with you . It is like your mum said, your feelings for him is not deep enough and because he lied, you broke off.
If you had deep feelings for him , you would forgive him and move on.
Everyone of us, sometimes have t... (read in full...)
Men who don't kiss
Q. my boyfriend says he loves me, does things to show his love but doesn't enjoy kissing..this bothers me. whats the problem...
A. 30 January 2008: You could ask him the reasons why he does not like kissing or is it just your perceptions?
We can only speculate the reasons
1) Bad breath
2) Not openly emotional type
3)Fear of germs
4)kissing phobia
5)culture and background... (read in full...)
My son is punished everytime my husband drinks.
Q. my husband is the greatest guy in the world until he starts drinking, he loves my son from a previous marraige, but when he drinks it seems like my son is the worst kid in the world and I am the worst mother. I was going to leave him a couple of ...
A. 30 January 2008: I am sorry about your troubles but he need help.he could join the AAA or go online.
You could go to this website and read up about alcoholics anonymous;-
http://www.aa.org/bigbookonline/en_tableofcnt.cfm... (read in full...)
What does a boy really want in a girl?
Q. I'm trying to become friends with this really hot guy who I'm head over heels for. But problem is I just can't figure out how to get him really into me, or at least I can't tell. I think he's interested in me but it's really hard because he's really ...
A. 30 January 2008: Girls are different from boys and it is natures way of sexual attractions. They want a girl to complement him .They want love , tenderness , sex and your affirmations of his maleness
Having a g/f can boast their ego's.
They want your attent... (read in full...)
What to do with him...Do you think we are really broken up for good?
Q. hello my ex and i been broken up for about 2 weeks now and sunday night i went to his house we talked..he basically told me that we're still young and that hes not ready to commit yet.then he said i'd be wasting my time if i waited for him.....
A. 30 January 2008: Nobody can foretell the future. As long as there is some breathe left , there is still hope. You can still be good friends if he does not want commitment.
Just enjoy each day as it comes and leave those commitment issues by the roadside. Wait til... (read in full...)
Its gone sour since she moved here to be with me but I'm worried about her wellbeing if we split, so what should I do?
Q. I am 31 yrs old, I live with my g/f which is 26. we met on the internet almost a yr ago. We talked and emailed for a month, then I flew her to me in California. She stayed out here with me for 2 weeks. We had a great time. Then a month later I asked ...
A. 30 January 2008: Is there really no way you can be back on good terms again? Have you tried all your best?
If it is final, then you could send her back where she came from or you could allow her to stay at your place and just be friends unless she wants to leave... (read in full...)
I am jealous of my boyfriends best friend that happens to be a female. Am I overreacting?
Q. I think i'm starting to get jealous of my boyfriends bestfriend. We are in a long distance relationship and have been together for almost 2 years. He has known his friend, which is a girl, for a long time he says and I get sad because they go to ...
A. 30 January 2008: Some men can have female friends but there is no romance. Just like females view two types of men, friends or mate ? You should trust your b/f because they have been friends for long. If they wanted a relationship ,they would have been attached long ... (read in full...)
He's a musician who doesn't work, we have 3 kids, but I think he is cheating on me, what should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years know. We have 3 kids together and he is a musician. Which means he doesn't work. I am the only working household member. He talks to many females on the phone and tells me it is business purposes but yet he ...
A. 30 January 2008: You married a house husband .If you think he is not pulling his weight around the house , you could have a talk with him about your feelings and what you expect him to do.... (read in full...)
Looking for men who have been cheated on but worked it out????
Q. Is there any male out there who was cheated on, but managed to work out your relationship? I'd love to talk to you about what happened....
A. 30 January 2008: A cheated male and a cheated female may not react the same way. What works in the male may not work in the female.
It is much easier for a man to forgive his wife than for a woman to forgive the husband.... (read in full...)
This older guy fancies me, but I'm not into him, people are staring to talk its not fair , should I tell my boyfriend so he wont get the wrong idea?
Q. I have shared a mutual hobby with a married family friend of ours for quite some time (in agreement with our partners because they are not interested in this hobby), however just before Christmas he confessed to me that he had fancied me for many ...
A. 30 January 2008: It is best you keep it to yourself .Your b/f may see things differently .There is a possibility that he may think negatively of you.
If he asked , just tell him that you have lost interest in that hobby. Period.
... (read in full...)
We split up, but she says she still loves me, is there any point in being hopeful we could get back ?
Q. Recently, my ex and I called it quits. She decided that after 2 1/2 years of dating that she needed time to herself and that over the past 6 years she's only had a few months of time where she wasn't dating. However, she says she stills loves me ...
A. 30 January 2008: Let her go as you cannot do much to persuade her to stay with you . She needs more space and time.Whether there is still a chance will depends .This question has no answer. keep your fingers crossed.... (read in full...)
I told her that the morning after pill is abortion, she hates me now, what should I do?
Q. Dear friends, I have been crying for a day now because of my best friend. I have known her for over 9 years now, and we've helped eachother so much. I moved in with her and her son from another state and lived with her for about 5 months and then...
A. 30 January 2008: It is very sad when long time friends can break up because of some misunderstandings.
You can apologize to her and let time heal her hurts and hope that sometime in the future that she sees the folly of such mistakes and be friends again.
... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 30 January 2008: How long will you grief? Will you grief till the last day and the last breath of your life? What is the point?
Do you want him to be in penitence though out his life or until your pleasure to decide to give him a final reprieve
? You are not ... (read in full...)
Confused...I still love her, but I'm not happy and I want to leave.
Q. I'm 24 years old and have been in a relationship for 5 years. We have a one year old daughter together and we have plans to get married. In the beginning it was rocky and I wasnt the best boyfriend. I cheated on her. But now I believe that I have ...
A. 30 January 2008: It is not easy but you need to try harder to please her and love her and give her time to heal those hurts.
No matter how , you got to stick to her and never leave. ... (read in full...)
My friends tell me he likes me, but he won't ask me out. WHY?
Q. I need help so badly right now. I am a college student and the guy I have liked for a year is graduating in May. I have known him for a year but we never really started getting to know each other until a few months ago. We flirted a lot and we ...
A. 29 January 2008: Maybe, he is broke and cannot afford to take you out.Another reason could be a phobia of commitment.Perhaps you can try to call him out and chat and find out more about him.... (read in full...)
How can I get sex?
Q. I'm a 15 year old boy who needs sex, and I don't know how to get it. Any Suggestions?...
A. 29 January 2008: If you don't know how to get it , you are probably not ready for it yet.You can Google it and learn more about it online first.You should learn how the birds and the bee's do it.... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 29 January 2008: Life is just simple. In my world, you only need total forgiveness , just as we asked for forgiveness from God for our wrongs.If we do not forgive others, how can God forgive our sins?Do we have no sins?Are you perfect and sinless?
No matter w... (read in full...)
Confused...I still love her, but I'm not happy and I want to leave.
Q. I'm 24 years old and have been in a relationship for 5 years. We have a one year old daughter together and we have plans to get married. In the beginning it was rocky and I wasnt the best boyfriend. I cheated on her. But now I believe that I have ...
A. 28 January 2008: Why are you not happy with her? What are your reasons?
You love her, that is the strongest reason to stay.... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: [Quote]Her husband should be apologizing and doing all he can to rebuild the trust. He needs to take responsibility, acknowlege it and give her some closure. She is trying hard to understand how her husband could even do such a thing. What has ... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: If she cannot accept her husbands infidelity , then it is easy , divorce, there is not much to say anymore.
Why stay in a marriage when you cannot accept him or force yourself to be in what you cannot get from him.
He cannot gives you what y... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: Again, sorry to pick on you Laura, but, you say he is a man, not perfect and not to hold him to my standards. Why not?
First of all, you need to realize that there are vast dissimilarities between a man and a woman . They will not react to the... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 28 January 2008: Why shouldn't it be that he needs to meet mine rather than me lowering to his???(Unquote)
In the first place you married him .He comes with a baggage and in marriage , you try to compromise.If you insist that he meets your standard and he cannot o... (read in full...)
Turned on secretly seeing wife with another man
Q. i saw my wife having sex with another man. they didn't see me and i watched until they finished. i didn't get angry, i got turned on. i want to tell my wife, but will she be disgusted with me? i really wanted to join in when i was watching, ...
A. 27 January 2008: If you wife is sleeping with another man , there is something wrong in your marriage.Either she is not getting enough or there is no love in your relationship.
If you say you love her and want her to be happy , you will have to close one eye on h... (read in full...)
Our sex life is in tatters due to his affair. How can We move on!?
Q. Hi people, My husband had an affair last year. We have made enourmous progress in trying to get back on track, but it is tough. Through the recovery process, our sex life obviously has come into discussion and debate. Our sex life pri...
A. 26 January 2008: You are hurt and in pain but you need to get out of your self pity.It will not do you any good to hold on to those grudges.You need to release them for your healings.
You need to forgive him totally and bury the past.Time will heal your pains. Y... (read in full...)
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