Our relationship is going stale, he's perfect in every other way, now his friend is flirting with me, what should I do?
Q. I've been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now. My boyfriend and I recently got back together after a 5 month long break. The problem is, I don't know if I'm really in love with him. He is dependable, sweet, and loves me. He treats me so well. ...
A. 17 February 2008: Thanks for your trouble in updating us. I hope you will find this new friend a better specimen..LOL!
Be happy and enjoy life!... (read in full...)
He cheated, so I broke up with him. Now I changed my mind, but he doesn't want ME!
Q. Right well I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now! we got together on the 26th January 2007 but we split up Thursday of last week! I finished him because he cheated on me while he was drunk and then denied it and said that it was me in the ...
A. 12 February 2008: You have a tremendous amount of generosity and forgiveness of your b/f's excesses. He is not worthy of your love and yet you still love him.Are you an angel?
If others can be like you , I think this Dear Cupid site will have to close shop. LO... (read in full...)
He cheated, so I broke up with him. Now I changed my mind, but he doesn't want ME!
Q. Right well I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now! we got together on the 26th January 2007 but we split up Thursday of last week! I finished him because he cheated on me while he was drunk and then denied it and said that it was me in the ...
A. 12 February 2008: [Quote]
But i think this site would fall flat on its face if couples had to give both sides of a given story.
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This must be another of your quality advice. Thank you.... (read in full...)
He cheated, so I broke up with him. Now I changed my mind, but he doesn't want ME!
Q. Right well I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now! we got together on the 26th January 2007 but we split up Thursday of last week! I finished him because he cheated on me while he was drunk and then denied it and said that it was me in the ...
A. 11 February 2008: [Quote]
He cheated on you. Why would u want to be with him again? He can cheat on you again.
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This is a stereotype answer. Not everyone is the same. Maybe, the one who said this will cheat again but it does not mean that others will... (read in full...)
He cheated, so I broke up with him. Now I changed my mind, but he doesn't want ME!
Q. Right well I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now! we got together on the 26th January 2007 but we split up Thursday of last week! I finished him because he cheated on me while he was drunk and then denied it and said that it was me in the ...
A. 11 February 2008: I am glad you are now back and you did not have to apologize.But if you were to apologize to him ,it would make a bigger difference to your relationship. It is better to be humble than to have pride. Pride is the downfall of many. You broke up ... (read in full...)
He cheated, so I broke up with him. Now I changed my mind, but he doesn't want ME!
Q. Right well I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now! we got together on the 26th January 2007 but we split up Thursday of last week! I finished him because he cheated on me while he was drunk and then denied it and said that it was me in the ...
A. 9 February 2008: Even if she does not want him back , she has to apologize and forgive him to heal her hurt.This is part of the healing process.You forgive and asked for forgiveness.
If she does not apologize or forgive him , she will have no peace and will be ... (read in full...)
He cheated, so I broke up with him. Now I changed my mind, but he doesn't want ME!
Q. Right well I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now! we got together on the 26th January 2007 but we split up Thursday of last week! I finished him because he cheated on me while he was drunk and then denied it and said that it was me in the ...
A. 9 February 2008:
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How can saying sorry to a guy thats cheated and blamed you, and ask his FORGIVENESS???? be a good quality advice?
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I think you need to read her question thoroughly. She does not want to break up with him and want him back.Sh... (read in full...)
He cheated, so I broke up with him. Now I changed my mind, but he doesn't want ME!
Q. Right well I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now! we got together on the 26th January 2007 but we split up Thursday of last week! I finished him because he cheated on me while he was drunk and then denied it and said that it was me in the ...
A. 8 February 2008: You asked how to get him back. I don't see where I am rude. If you think my answer is rude, that is OK. You may not like the truth. It does not matter.
Your question ask for an answer and some people are too judgmental. Did you ask for their op... (read in full...)
My first time wans't god. Did we do it right?
Q. hi im 16 years old ill be 17 shortly ive been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now and recently losy my virginity with him it was his first time to! as we were doing it i relaxed a bit as ive read its beter if we are relaxed but im not too s...
A. 8 February 2008: If you were not good, will he come for more? You have to be careful that it is love and not lust. The mouth only say love but in fact it is lust.
Wanting to have more sex with you is not about love . It could be pure lust. Has he done anything... (read in full...)
I'm scared to show my long distance boyfriend my webcam.
Q. I'm scared to get on web cam for my long distance boyfriend. I'm 18 years old and I met my boyfriend off the internet, he lives pretty far away from me, we talk on the phone and we already plan on meeting really soon, sometime in the next month or ...
A. 7 February 2008: Your fears were unfounded and you worried for nothing. Glad you know the truth and it set you free.... (read in full...)
My children's grandmother wants to take custody of them from me!
Q. Hello, My name is Faith and im 21 years old. I have triplet 5 year old girls Their father died 11 months after their birth. 3 days ago his mother demanded that the children went to live with her as im struggling. Im not. I work a part ti...
A. 7 February 2008: Since you have been taking care of them for 4 years, you are a capable person and if this case really goes to the court ,this fact will be taken into considerations.
It is really sad when she acted that way. She should have given you support ... (read in full...)
I just don't feel we are functional together...what should I do??
Q. I am having trouble deciding what to do in my current relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We have been having trouble (miserable around each other) and I moved out of his place into my mother's. He wants to...
A. 7 February 2008: You have to decide if you can find happiness in that relationship. You should not be influenced by his actions.
Maybe, you need to be separated for a time to give you a better view and then decide. Lest you become too hasty and did not think ha... (read in full...)
How do I convince my boyfriend to marry me?
Q. we have been dating for 7 years ,he had told me for several times that we will get married ,but last summer when i told him that i cant wait any more lets get married,he said "i am not ready for marriage" ,i love him so much ,and i know that he ...
A. 7 February 2008: You cannot go on forever like that, just hanging in mid air. You need to give him an ultimatum or a time frame. If he cannot abide by that time, then it is best you find another one.He can keep you waiting until you are left on the shelf.... (read in full...)
A girl with whom he had casual sex before we met recently gave birth to his baby, how can I dismiss my sadness to be able to accompany him in his joyous time?
Q. Ok...to start off, I don't think many people have gone through this but I really need help. here's the situation: Well, my boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now. We are really in love (I know it may seem soon but it's real). Well, we ...
A. 7 February 2008: You have a right to feel sad because this will affect your future happiness. This baby could be a thorn in his side. He may have to pay child maintenance and his love maybe diluted.There are so many unknowns and you do worry about your future. ... (read in full...)
I regret having treated my ex-colleague badly, how can I make it up to him now, after leaving our common workplace?
Q. hey guys, just wanted some advice on a problem i've been having. Well a few years back i worked with these two guys, they were both really cute, and more importantly, they both had great personalities. they both wanted to be with me, but i r...
A. 7 February 2008: What is past is past. There is nothing much you can change about the past. Promise yourself , the next time if you ever meet again , you will treat him better.If you ever do meet him again , just let it go and do not bring it up.Just be nice to him.... (read in full...)
My children's grandmother wants to take custody of them from me!
Q. Hello, My name is Faith and im 21 years old. I have triplet 5 year old girls Their father died 11 months after their birth. 3 days ago his mother demanded that the children went to live with her as im struggling. Im not. I work a part ti...
A. 7 February 2008: I don't think the courts can take the child away from you but if you have good relations with her, it would be good to have some support from her. Your life would be much easier.
The choice is yours.
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I am having an affair. Part of me wants to stop, but part of me doesnt.
Q. I am having an affair and I am unable to end it. I have been married for 8 years now and I have a great hubby. But..6 months ago I met a guy who just blew my mind. At first it was just great conversation and flirting.. but I admit I knew where it ...
A. 7 February 2008: Think of the great consequences when your affair is uncovered. You will lose your family and your husband.
Do you think it is worth to lose a family and home and everything you have built up for some fun and excitements in your life.... (read in full...)
Can I use a condom during a BJ?
Q. can i use a condom when doing a blow job cause i cant imagine myself sucking his thing?i have never done it and am a 29 year old virgin...
A. 7 February 2008: If he agrees with you and then later you might want to try the real feelings once you find that it does not give him much pleasure.... (read in full...)
He cheated, so I broke up with him. Now I changed my mind, but he doesn't want ME!
Q. Right well I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now! we got together on the 26th January 2007 but we split up Thursday of last week! I finished him because he cheated on me while he was drunk and then denied it and said that it was me in the ...
A. 7 February 2008: The only thing is for you to apologize to him and admit that you were hasty and asked for his forgiveness.Be humble and then hope that he will forgive you.
... (read in full...)
Should I let it go or talk to him?
Q. My new-ish boyfriend is really flirty with other girls. He's always been like that but ever since we have been dating the green monster of jealousy has been getting the best of me. He's a really funny guy and he likes to joke around but its always ...
A. 7 February 2008: In the first place, it is those qualities in him that attracted you to him.He is that way and he may not be able to change or give up those habits of his. In time , he may slow down because he needs to respect you.
If he is single , it is OK. B... (read in full...)
The ex is back again!! What does she want, and what should I do??
Q. Hi Aunts/Uncles. Most of you by now know my situation: Met a girl over the internet, we fell in love, we met, we kept a long distance relationship of 240 miles going for 2 years, we went camping, I took her on Holiday about a year ago, she sp...
A. 6 February 2008: If you have no more interest in her or your love has died, just ignore those text.Move on and she will disappear from your life forever.
If you want to connect back, then reply.
She is probably now single or alone and wants to reconnect back w... (read in full...)
Should I do something or wait for him.
Q. Okay, so I fancy this boy that I do theater with in town. We don't go to the same school, but we are friends. I asked him to my semi formal dance and we went together and had so much fun! We are always talking and flirting...but he also flirts with ...
A. 6 February 2008: Try to find some activities that will involve him. Don't wait because the world will not wait for you.... (read in full...)
Should I confront him at school tomorrow?
Q. I have been going out with this wonderful girl for a couple weeks now. We are in a pretty good relationship. But today after school an aquatance of mine was hanging around with My girl and I and she went to reach to move him away so she could mo...
A. 6 February 2008: I think you have done enough . Further actions would escalate into a war. If he dare to do again , report him to the authorities for molest.... (read in full...)
Why am I still in love with him?
Q. I fell in love back in high school. This guy is imprinted on my brain. I love him. It gives me chills to be in his presence. I try and get the message across that I love him. He talks to me and responds but he never initiates a relationship that ...
A. 6 February 2008: He is immortalized in your hall of fame. There is no harm as you do remember those friends that you like.... (read in full...)
She asked me if I found her friend attractive, I said yes, now she's mad, whats the go?
Q. My Girlfriend asked me if I was attracted to one of her friends, and I never want to lie to her so I told her the truth, that I thought her friend was attractive, but I don't want to be with her friend, I only want to be with my girlfriend and I ...
A. 6 February 2008: Some people think you should never speak a lie but see what got you into?
Never say another woman is more attractive than your g/f or wife.
Apologize and treat her to a dinner.... (read in full...)
She left me for someone who abused her and got her pregnant, it's hard to shake of these feelings for her, what should I do?
Q. I had been hurt by my ex and she went back to her ex and really hurt me. She promised me that she wouldnt hurt me again, and because of how i felt i wanted to beleive it and i did. But she went back to him. And on top of that he was and still is an ...
A. 6 February 2008: You need to forgive her and not to hold any grudges or hate inside your heart for her. Bless her and move on. She has made her choice. For good or bad, she is the one who will receive her dues.
She does not want to be in the same boat with you... (read in full...)
I'm worried that my bisexuality keeps ruining my relationships, someone please help!
Q. I am bisexual and have long struggled with my sexuality. I am so depressed by this all and despite what people say - bisexuals are not greedy. It isnt even so much a sexual thing to me but something deeper and more meaningful. The emotions and ...
A. 6 February 2008: Do you want to be happy while others sad , or do you want to be sad and others happy?
If you play fair , you become unhappy. Do you want to be the center of your world or do you want others to be center of your world.
If you go for your own hap... (read in full...)
I have fallen in love with my best friend, we are going out now, but I'm very inexperienced, how do we move on to home base?
Q. I'm in love with my best friend and it's soooo good. I'm not very sexually experienced though, and I want to take our relationship (we've been seeing eachother for a few months now)to the next level. This is something which i'm understandably ...
A. 6 February 2008: There is always the first time for everyone. Just relax and enjoy. It is like dancing.You keep on practicing until you get the right moves and rhythm.If you want to learn more , you need to watch some porn DVD's.... (read in full...)
Could my cousin be bi and have feelings for me??
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl and I need people's advice. I think my 17-year old cousin is bi or someting or maybe she has feelings for me. Whenever I sign on msn she always clicks me and says hey or hi. What do you think?...
A. 6 February 2008: You are cousins and being close or saying hi is no indications of bi. You need more concrete proof.... (read in full...)
Been snooping through my bf's cellphone and questioning his ex, he found out but never accused me of intrusiveness. I don't know what to think?
Q. hi, i started checking my partners cellphone and read a few messages from his ex nothing too detailed so I never bothered too much,then more textes were coming and they met a few times , when I asked him he made up excuses but never seemed to bother ...
A. 5 February 2008: He had nothing to hide and what he did was above board. Therefore , he is not angry with you for your intrusion of his privacy.Maybe , he find your jealousy a sign of your love for him and that was why he became more lovey dovey!... (read in full...)
How can I help my boyfriend with his Mood Swings?
Q. I need help. My boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year now and he says he loves me; this is not the problem. The problem is his mood swings, one minute he'll be absolutly fine and the next he goes incredably quiet and refuses to talk abo...
A. 5 February 2008: When he is not in the mood, you need to leave him alone. You will get hurt if you stay .Sometimes it rains and sometimes it shines. When it rains , you take shelter.... (read in full...)
Can I forget about everything and get a good night sleep for a change?
Q. I do hope I can get some good advice. Broke up four months ago with my boyfriend. We still talked and occasionally saw each other when he visited me (don't know why he bothered travelling all this way!). Well, last weekend I was in his city visiting ...
A. 5 February 2008: You forgive him for what he has done to you and you blessed him and wished him well.Then you write a goodbye letter to him and burnt it.I think you will be able to sleep well after that.... (read in full...)
I'm very unhappy in my marriage! Ever been in a similar situation and how did you finally decide to leave?
Q. I am mid 30s have been married 12 years and have no children. Each day I put up with arguments with my husband. I feel put down, undermined and belittled. He seems to critique things that I do around the house and pulls me up if they are not how ...
A. 5 February 2008: Before you want to leave , you might want to try to change the situation if you can. If he can be persuaded to do as you want then you need not leave.
You can put your needs and wants to him in a nice way and if it wont work, then you need to ... (read in full...)
Should I change my email address, to keep him away from me?
Q. Should I change my email just to be safe? I recently had to change my cell phone number because my ex wouldn't leave me alone after I asked him to so many times. Anyway, we were engaged, and when we had one of our engagement parties we decided to ...
A. 5 February 2008: If you feel troubled by it, change your e-mail. Since he has not e-mailed you ,you can leave your e-mail as it is. Only when you get abusive e-mails from him , then you change them.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to break up, but still loves me ? wtf ?
Q. Hiya, Was just wondering if you could offer any advice on my situation ? Im 28 and my girlfriend (now ex) is 26. Weve been together for just over 6 months now. I live about 70 miles away and only get to see her on the weekends. She is at ...
A. 5 February 2008: It suddenly dawned upon her that she is still young and want to see the world.She had a taste of what a married life is all about and thinks that it is not for her. She wants to be like wild and carefree.To be born free again.
Those are only sug... (read in full...)
I am attracted to my BF's best friend
Q. So here is my problem, I have been dating my bf for almost 3 (bad) years. I am not happy with him and haven't been for a while, well my bf started telling me about his best friend who lived in ohio(bfs hometown) I ended up talking my bf into ...
A. 5 February 2008: May the best man win!When the shoe is worn and old, there is nothing you can do about them.To keep them or to throw them away?... (read in full...)
She will not stop being friends with a male friend I dislike... is her love not as much as mine is for her?
Q. why is my gf acting this way. we've been dating for a year now...silly things wants her to stop the relationship. i love her to death and she's the only girl i want cannot imagine my life without her. it happened like 5 times she want to put an ...
A. 5 February 2008: You asked why your g/f have this behavior, but I asked you back , why do you have that behavior?
Your love is more than her love for you but your love is not true love . It is possessive love. You are jealous of her relationship with that other gu... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my step-daughter!!! What do I do?
Q. ive fallen in love with my stepdaughter and dont know what to do...
A. 5 February 2008: Love her as a daughter and keep sex out of it....We are human being and can think.... (read in full...)
Is it bad to fake an orgasim?
Q. is it bad to fake an orgasim... even if doesnt know you are?...
A. 5 February 2008: If you like it , then do it, if you don't like it then don't. The man is not going to worry if you had one or not.... (read in full...)
If people only find love when their NOT LOOKING how does anyone ever find love?
Q. Dear cupids. I just have to say I love this site its awesome. Just a love question (sigh is there any other kind. My question is that "if people only find love when their NOT LOOKING how does anyone ever find love????? surly one of the two people h...
A. 5 February 2008: You don't look for love, for love is inside of you. That is why you will never find love. When you find that some one , your love will grow from inside you.... (read in full...)
I can't orgasm, is something wrong with me?
Q. I am a 25 year old female, who has never experienced orgasm. Have had sex enough times, to feel 'unable' to orgasm. Have tried many different stimulations, and am relaxed. Currently taking Alesse birth control pill, and have been since 15. I do ...
A. 5 February 2008: Most women have orgasms through the manual or oral stimulations of the clitoris. This is the usual way.... (read in full...)
Why do guys ask for our numbers and then not call?
Q. Why do guys ask for our numbers and then not call? I am alone in a new city and am definitly open to meeting people. I get approached all the time. Someone even pulled me over to talk to me and get my number when I was driving to work, totally ...
A. 5 February 2008: Why do you expect them to call? Guys don't like to gossip or babbler about the weather, clothes or what you do everyday.
They will only call if they have a need or emergency unlike girls who call and can talk for hours on nothing and everythi... (read in full...)
Is his controlling behaviour normal?
Q. my boyfriend is coming across as very controlling recently he trys to make sure how long I can stay out for and who my friends can be. I can't wear skirts and he is going on a boy's holiday and I can't go on a girl's one. I do not understa...
A. 5 February 2008: This kind of guy is mentally and emotionally abusing you under the guise of wanting you to be better. They are not aware that they are abusing you .
They will make laws and it will only apply to you while it don't apply to them.
You cannot ta... (read in full...)
Is his controlling behaviour normal?
Q. my boyfriend is coming across as very controlling recently he trys to make sure how long I can stay out for and who my friends can be. I can't wear skirts and he is going on a boy's holiday and I can't go on a girl's one. I do not understa...
A. 5 February 2008: Most young males have this controlling psyche or comes from this type of culture or background.They learn from their parents or they are natural born abusers. LOL! They need to learn and grow up.
The only way they learn is to withdraw from the... (read in full...)
Our relationship is going stale, he's perfect in every other way, now his friend is flirting with me, what should I do?
Q. I've been in a relationship for nearly 3 years now. My boyfriend and I recently got back together after a 5 month long break. The problem is, I don't know if I'm really in love with him. He is dependable, sweet, and loves me. He treats me so well. ...
A. 5 February 2008: There are two types of guys, the dependable provider which is boring and the Casanova who is all fun and exciting.
It is not easy or impossible to find a man who is a good provider as well as a Casanova .
As long as you know where is the bou... (read in full...)
Can anyone possibly help me with that "married man dilemma"?
Q. Can anyone possibly help me with that "married man dilemma"? First, I am very aware of the sentiments of most of the advisers here, so let me say right off the bat that I have always agreed on the point but I am in such deep distress right now that ...
A. 5 February 2008: Two weak , insane and foolish people(married) can fall in love with each other and leave a trial of destruction to two families.
You may think of him like a golden statue when you are in love , but when you wake up , he is only made of clay.
... (read in full...)
Do I go out with him even although he has a girlfriend and says she mustn't know?
Q. hi, I'm 16 almost 17 and ive been with my boyfriend for 8 months but recently discovered one of the boys I know in my street as we are all very close because we live in like a culdesac sort of thing closed off. I noticed he looks at me when ...
A. 5 February 2008: It is not wrong to like another person and it is best only you and him know about it. It takes two to Tango.
Having a b/f or g/f does not mean that you cannot get to know others. You want the best and you are looking for the best before you want... (read in full...)
AM I A FOOL?
Q. I had an affair which has subsequently culminated in the end of my marriage. My lover attempted to leave his wife several times during our affair but never quite found the strength. He finished our relationship around the same time my marriage broke ...
A. 5 February 2008: A love affair with a married man has no endings. You can have his body but not his heart.It is sweet at first but bitter to the end.... (read in full...)
I'm scared to show my long distance boyfriend my webcam.
Q. I'm scared to get on web cam for my long distance boyfriend. I'm 18 years old and I met my boyfriend off the internet, he lives pretty far away from me, we talk on the phone and we already plan on meeting really soon, sometime in the next month or ...
A. 5 February 2008: If you are planning to meet soon , it is inevitable that he will see you .It is a matter of now you see me or see me later. You cannot run away and it is better that you do it now and see how he will react.
You should be confident and not thin... (read in full...)
Clingyness and mood swings.
Q. I don't know what to do anymore. My girlfriend has had moodswings since we started going out but lately it's just been out of control and on top of that she calls me like every two seconds and don't get me wrong I like talking to her but not when ...
A. 5 February 2008: See her GP and get her diagnosed.She could be depressed.... (read in full...)
My first time wans't god. Did we do it right?
Q. hi im 16 years old ill be 17 shortly ive been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now and recently losy my virginity with him it was his first time to! as we were doing it i relaxed a bit as ive read its beter if we are relaxed but im not too s...
A. 5 February 2008: How good is your good? What kind of standards are you looking at?
Good for you or good for him?
If you think it is good for him, then you don't have to worry.As long as you are there for him , it will be good enough for him.
As for whether it... (read in full...)
My first time wans't god. Did we do it right?
Q. hi im 16 years old ill be 17 shortly ive been with my boyfriend for about 8 months now and recently losy my virginity with him it was his first time to! as we were doing it i relaxed a bit as ive read its beter if we are relaxed but im not too s...
A. 4 February 2008: Practice makes perfect. Don't worry, you will learn on the job.It gets better with time. You got to do more foreplays and orals .... (read in full...)
I just don't feel we are functional together...what should I do??
Q. I am having trouble deciding what to do in my current relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half. We have been having trouble (miserable around each other) and I moved out of his place into my mother's. He wants to...
A. 3 February 2008: You are more matured than him and you need to call a time out on your relationship to assess your situation from the outside. If you still love him , you can try to make changes in your relationship . If however , you find that he is lacking, you ... (read in full...)
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