Husband blames me for his abusive behaviour saying he is not happy due to my weight. My situation makes me depressed.
Q. I was so glad to see all the Answers replying to weight-related questions because I have been upset many times by my partner telling me I am 'fat'. I was bigger than I am now when I met him 3 yrs ago) and have lost a couple of stone in the last 2 ...
A. 10 February 2008: Waterloo Sunset,
I really like your post.I cannot help laughing at the way you expressed it. You are one hell of a women !What a strong language !LOL!... (read in full...)
Husband blames me for his abusive behaviour saying he is not happy due to my weight. My situation makes me depressed.
Q. I was so glad to see all the Answers replying to weight-related questions because I have been upset many times by my partner telling me I am 'fat'. I was bigger than I am now when I met him 3 yrs ago) and have lost a couple of stone in the last 2 ...
A. 9 February 2008: If a man loves you , he will accept who and what you are..When there is no love, whatever you do will come to naught. You have already gone down in weight but he has increased his pressure on you.
The issue here is not your body but his abusive ... (read in full...)
Loving him has changed me but haw can I change him?
Q. i like a boy and he likes me ,i know that from a freind but his freind likes me too .and the boy i like doesn't want his freind to get mad at him for dating me (i don't like his freind) i really wanna date him and love him but i can't what should i ...
A. 9 February 2008: You could give his friend the cold shoulder and he would get the message.When you are all together, you can show who you like .His friend will back off.... (read in full...)
My partner of 17 yrs jumped into another relationship immediately after the separation, which battered my confidence - how can I regain it?
Q. My partner of 17years, I have known her for 19years, left me and than jumped striaght into another relationship. I found out three weeks later. Its been year since the spilt but I still think about her, not as much now. She hasnt made no contact ...
A. 9 February 2008: There are things which happened and it is beyond our control. We do not want to stop anyone from having their happiness.If some one is unhappy , we should not obstruct them.
Release them and wish them well.... (read in full...)
Husband blames me for his abusive behaviour saying he is not happy due to my weight. My situation makes me depressed.
Q. I was so glad to see all the Answers replying to weight-related questions because I have been upset many times by my partner telling me I am 'fat'. I was bigger than I am now when I met him 3 yrs ago) and have lost a couple of stone in the last 2 ...
A. 9 February 2008: He is mentally and emotionally abusing you . You don't have to take his BS. Stand up to him and if he continues, leave him for a period of time and he will know how to appreciate you .
Don't play his blame game.... (read in full...)
My friend does not mention me much so I feel left out, how should I confront her about this?
Q. i have a lot of mates but i keep on feeling left out one of my freinds we go out we walk to school and we talk on a regular basis but there is no mention of me on her myspace but she mentions all of her other freinds witch i am hurt by. i like a b...
A. 9 February 2008: I think it would be better if you change who you mix with. Even if you confront her, it would not address your issue.She has a bias and prejudice against you.... (read in full...)
...he was watching porn and masturbating, without even asking how I'm feeling!
Q. My boyfriend and I were having sex when I felt a severe abdominal discomfort and I asked him to stop. After taking a rest for about 5 minutes, he wanted to force himself into me again but my pain was still there so I said I didn't want to do it ...
A. 9 February 2008: Not all men are the same . Some have a higher or lower sex drive. I think we should not judge him. If you feel unhappy , you could tell him how you feel about it.... (read in full...)
Guys....does it matter if girls have arm hair??
Q. hello Welll i know this question sounds pretty weird but do guys care if girls have arm hair or not? I know some girls that shave their arm hair and i just wanted to know if it even matters...i've never done anything to remove my arm hair but some...
A. 9 February 2008: I guessed I gave a wrong reply in my earlier post. Oops! Very sorry for the mistake.
Before he loves you , it matters to some but after he loves you , it does not matter.
You can dye them lighter shade and it will not be so obvious.... (read in full...)
We slept together in weekends, I've fallen in love with him so what can I do to have more than his friendship?
Q. I met a nice guy about 6 months ago, things happend. I have fallin in love with him but he only loves me as a friend. What can I do to make him love me for more than a friend. We did sleep together in the 6 months, I was every weekend at him. please ...
A. 9 February 2008: If you sleep with him , you will only be a friend forever. Why should he loves you more than a friend? He can get what he wants from you and there is nothing for him to love you more than a friend.
If you want him to love you more, you will hav... (read in full...)
He gets a long more with my flatmate.
Q. i really like my flatmate at uni. he is funny and hot. we get along, but he gets along much more with my other female faltmate. he will always be in her room and arrange things with her, such as when to go out and wher and then talks about it with ...
A. 9 February 2008: I think he is more attracted to your flat mate than to you.If that is the case, then you cannot do anything about it . You need to accept the reality of that situation.
When you sensed that you cannot win his attentions over your flat mate,bet... (read in full...)
Not sure if I want to get back together with him or not. Can we rebuild the trust?
Q. I left my ex-bf a little over a month ago, and he keeps calling me almost every day. We don't have much to talk about, or at least I don't. Not like when we first met and couldn't shut up. The thing is, he was married to someone, (let's ...
A. 9 February 2008: I think it is impossible to live under those kind of conditions .It is time , that he learns to walk without your clutch.Maybe after a few years, you may reconsider if he is a changed person.... (read in full...)
My ex called out of the blue. When I call back should I suggest that we get together?
Q. Hoping one of the great and caring agony aunts can help me here. I was with my boyfriend for twelve years and he just packed his bags and left two and a half years ago. He went back to his hometown and reconnected with a new person. Understandably ...
A. 9 February 2008: I think you should as after all you are still on friendly terms.Even if he does not want a deeper relationship, you can always be friends.... (read in full...)
I am willing to have a secret affair with a co-worker (we both have troubled marriages.) Please advise.
Q. I am 34 years old, married for 6 years, with 2 children. My husband and I have began on a rocky road. His family caused alot of trouble between us the first 2 years. We finally got past that, only to run into financial trouble. My husband is a ...
A. 9 February 2008: What no man see, God can see.
Sooner or later, it will not be a secret and you will be exposed.
It would be better to leave your respective marriages if there is no more love .Rather than have clandestine love and where you will cheat and l... (read in full...)
Do we all have a purpose??
Q. Do we all have a purpose? I wonder how can you explain,if your life doesn't go well?I mean if its a complete disaster. Is the best way , to think, it is happening for a reason? Or that you are punished? Or what is the best way to explain downfall? ...
A. 9 February 2008: When you want to produce steel , you need to burn those iron ore and removed all those impurities.You get the final product which is stronger and more lasting.
Just as if you want a stronger you , you need to go through the fire to produce ... (read in full...)
How do I walk away from someone I love so much?
Q. hey, i wrote in a cuple weeks ago asking should i stay or walk away from my married boyfriend, the thing is. i got 1 reply saying stay, i saying leave and 1 saying run. the thing is i no he's not happy where he is. i no he's not. if you read my f...
A. 9 February 2008: If you have difficulty leaving, it is because you did not have enough yet. It is also not the time to leave yet.
You have entered a dark tunnel and there are like miles and miles of darkness before you can see the light at the end of this tun... (read in full...)
Finally met him in person, and he came out as very shy and reserved. How can I make him open up more?
Q. Well i meet up with this guy a few days ago, we have talked over the computer for a while and got on well though i know when you meet someone in person they can be very different.Well he was very shy and nervous and would hardly look me in the face ...
A. 9 February 2008: Give him some time and be relax with him and he will soon open up .You cannot hurry and you will need to be the mover and lead him .... (read in full...)
Amazed my dream girl ended it...
Q. Hi, My girlfriend of two years is my dream girl, i love her so much and we have seen each other nearly everyday since we got together, She has always been intense and loved spending time with me, i have always been honoured that she felt that way...
A. 9 February 2008: Call it a time out or break in your relationship. Give her some time to ponder about it.
Keep your communications open and don't lose hope.... (read in full...)
He never wanted me to see her.
Q. It has been a horrid year, I found out my husband was having an affair, it has been 10 months, although I have been looking like I am healing, I am thinking over and over about what he did to me, and his our kids, I know he is sorry, genuinely he ...
A. 9 February 2008: An affair has happened and it cannot be undone.You can either forgive and move on or be stuck in a time warp or some black hole in space and forever feel aggrieved and sad.
It does not matter how or why it happened . There is really nothing ... (read in full...)
How to change his mind about this.
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 1 year and 6 months now. In the past he had fingered me and I have gave him a handjob. One night we were talking and he told me that we should stop doing this cause he thinks it will lead to sex. Well we have ...
A. 9 February 2008: Sex and emotions are very strong feelings . If anyone thinks they can control them , they don't know what they are dealing with.
In theory, you can say , you can control it but when you reached that point, you simply cannot control anymore.... (read in full...)
Failure to commit, seems a little too comfy and bored
Q. My boyfriend and I met, and I moved in with him 2 months later. Now I've been living with him for almost two years, and we are totally in love in a lot of ways. I'm starting to regret having put myself in this situation, I want to get married ...
A. 9 February 2008: As you have said, what is there to do when you are already living as husband and wife? Maybe , you can talk to him to at least make it legal for official matters.
If you want to make him notice you naked, you may try to wear a fig leaf like Eve... (read in full...)
Guys....does it matter if girls have arm hair??
Q. hello Welll i know this question sounds pretty weird but do guys care if girls have arm hair or not? I know some girls that shave their arm hair and i just wanted to know if it even matters...i've never done anything to remove my arm hair but some...
A. 9 February 2008: When you are married, it maybe OK .But when you are single, you would look more sexy with a clean and hairless armpit. He may not tell you but it is a turn off for many males.Don't shave at your own perils.
If you don't like shaving, then you need... (read in full...)
How can you tell if there was a thrid person involved in your break-up??
Q. Hey everyone, just wondering if anyone has had experience worrying that their ex that just broke up with them has done it because they met someone else. Even though I know that I 'don't want to know', it's hard to not wonder and be a bit obsessiv...
A. 9 February 2008: Think of it like watching a sad movie and the curtains came down and you shed a tear or two or maybe you have no more tears to shed. The END of the story and you move on with another happy movie.
After a while , you will know if it is because ... (read in full...)
Can we get over the fact that we've each slept with other people?
Q. Ive just started dating this guy a few months ago and everything was going great till we told each about sexual history let's just say at 19 he's had ten times about sexual partners i have, (3) or so he claims, and he knows im Bi but when i told ...
A. 9 February 2008: Don't look to the past because it is gone.
Live in the present and think of the future.
Whatever is bygone ,let it be bygone and buried .RIP!
When you climb a mountain, don't look down but look up only.... (read in full...)
Back in contact with my ex for the 3rd time. I don't want to cut contact with her again, but I DO want to move on. What can I do?
Q. Hello. I'm trying to be friends with my ex-girlfriend. This is the 3rd time that I have tried to keep contact with her, because every other time I tried I've ended up avoiding her, because I've been too upset. We spoke properly for the first ti...
A. 9 February 2008: Lead a balance life and do everything in moderations. Have checks and balances in your life.Look at things in the proper perspective.
Get your priorities right and everything will be OK!... (read in full...)
Can you be in love and not know??
Q. My boyfriend and I had been dating months before he said he loved me. I reciprocated as I have strong feelings for him. Someone asked me once though how come I loved him and I couldn't really tell them. I started thinking about how you tell if it's ...
A. 9 February 2008: Love is a mysterious force. Some are in love even when they have not met their partners. While some are in love and yet do not feel it.
They love you alright but it is not that kind of romantic love.The reality has not sunk into their hearts. ... (read in full...)
He doesn't support me and I support him.
Q. My husband goes to his mother with every problem we have,plus some. And when she comes to me she has this front of like she so holy holy and in the neutral.But today she accidently called my house phone while talking to my husband.It's like her ...
A. 9 February 2008: You married a child husband. He should not tell his mother about your marriage problems. He should grow up and learn to deal with it.
You need to communicate to him that if there are any problems , he will have to settle it with you and not his ... (read in full...)
Tips on getting him to propose.
Q. My bf and I have been dating for over a year now. And as a joke he poped the question, a couple of time. We basicly live together. I go to school and I work. He works full time and has his own appartment. The only difference is, i'm actually serious ...
A. 9 February 2008: Tell him , you love the sound of pitter-patter of little feet...LOL!... (read in full...)
Desparate and feeling worthless.
Q. lately ive just been feeling so worthless and it kinda seems like the world would be so much better without me. my girlfried deserves so much better than i can offer and no matter how much i try to improve i only make things worse. no matter what i ...
A. 9 February 2008: You g/f loves you and that is what counts. You cannot promise her gold or riches and that is not what she wants from you.She could have gone for a very rich man.
You should treasure and appreciate her and not think what she wants from you .Jus... (read in full...)
Interracial relationship on the rocks.
Q. Dear Cupid, For the past 3 months I havnt met with my Girlfriend, Due to for the first 2 months i was trying to spend some time with her and my family, in my house, She never found the time to come here, Saying she couldnt b/c school a...
A. 9 February 2008: If you love her, you should keep on wooing her.You should keep the fire going and not let it extinguish.... (read in full...)
I think it would be awkward to ask.
Q. i just recently broke up with my boyfriend. my BEST friend told me(while me and my boyfriend were dating)that he liked me more than a best friend, and i feel the same. He is kinda the reason i broke it off with my boyfriend. My friend helped me with ...
A. 9 February 2008: When you hang out with him , you will see from his mannerism if he is still interested in you. You don't have to ask him. Just use your power of observations and your intuitions.... (read in full...)
Who might be the father.
Q. If I had sex in May throughout the whole month with my boyfriend then we broke up and had a rebound hookup around June 7 and now am pregnant and due February 25, who would that make the father?...
A. 9 February 2008: I don't think it is easy to deduce who the father is as there are many probabilities and possibilities. Any answers would just be pure speculations . You will have to wait till the baby is born and have a DNA test to prove who the father is.... (read in full...)
Help with my survey...
Q. dear cupid I am currently doing a survey and would like to know how many percent of the world population are fat and skinny, how many are average weight and how many are underweight also can someone also define what average weight means? thanks...
A. 9 February 2008: I think you can find the answer from Google.
... (read in full...)
I can't get rid of my boyfriend no matter what I do!
Q. I'm really worried about my relationship, me and my boyfriend of 2 years are fine at the moment but I feel like when I look into his eyes they are not to be trusted, call it a gut feeling if you like, he has already cheated and told other girls he ...
A. 9 February 2008: Breaking up is a very hard thing to do but there is no choice if you don't love him anymore. He has to accept the decision that your relationship is no more.
Tell him you could still be friends and slowly wean him off you.Act cool towards ... (read in full...)
Coming to an end... or rough patch?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am completly in love with my boyfriend of almost a year and a half and I want to be with him forever but latley we have been having some issues... getting in a lot of little fights over nothing, been to busy with our schedule...
A. 9 February 2008: Just respect each other's opinions and try to see from his perspective. A man and a woman is different and they don't see the same on many issues.
If you don't agree, just agree to disagree and move on. There is no instant answers and you end up a... (read in full...)
What do men mean when they describe their wives or girlfriends as "controlling"?
Q. What do men mean when they describe their wives or girlfriends as "controlling"? If a man isn't exactly complaining, yet that is the 1st word he uses to describe the wife/GF, is this a compliment? Hate to sound so stupid, but I'm serious and need to ...
A. 9 February 2008: Forgot to add. It can be a compliment to her or it could just be a matter of fact.There is no negative connotations. It is the way of life for them when the men get married.
Before marriage, the men are like wild stallions , roaming the world.
... (read in full...)
What do men mean when they describe their wives or girlfriends as "controlling"?
Q. What do men mean when they describe their wives or girlfriends as "controlling"? If a man isn't exactly complaining, yet that is the 1st word he uses to describe the wife/GF, is this a compliment? Hate to sound so stupid, but I'm serious and need to ...
A. 9 February 2008: Whether she is in fact controlling or not , once a man marries, he is no more free to do as he pleases. He has to think of her and subconsciously , it is a form of control because he cannot do as he liked when he was single.
The other controll... (read in full...)
How do I make myself more sophisticated without shunning my family values and without giving up a part of myself to please my guy?
Q. Shane is extremely good to me. I've never had someone care for me as much as he has. But at times he wishes I would dress more sophisticated. He’s accustomed to dating very feminine, classy women, and I guess he assumed when we met that I was much ...
A. 9 February 2008: When you are in love, you will change. You can read about beauty and make ups from magazines or online and from your guy. He can give you the inputs of what is his preferences.
If you like your guy , you will need to change some . Every girl lik... (read in full...)
How can I tell if he truly does love me?
Q. I'm new to this but I have been with my boyfriend for a month and a week today. I really truly do love him he says he loves me but I really can't tell if he does? We agree and disagree some time but I still do love him and it's usually over stupid ...
A. 9 February 2008: If he walks that extra mile for you ..
If he is always there when you asked him...
If he shows his care and concern for you...
If he always think of you every minute and every breaths he takes....
If he spends more time with you than h... (read in full...)
Do I listen to my head or my heart? I know it's a bit complex but what do you guys think?
Q. I few years ago I fell in love with a much younger man, in a very strange way. I never acted on it. He was in love with me too, but we never did anything about it. As it was hopeless in so many ways. One is I'm married and have children, they are ...
A. 9 February 2008: I am glad your head is still stuck on your body. Imagine if you had listened to your heart, where would you be today? You should treat your husband well and focus on him only. Do not be distracted by those temptations.
... (read in full...)
Is marrying my bf the right thing to do??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years... he's Turkish... I'm going to his country to marry him in March... am i doing the right thing?...
A. 9 February 2008: If you have found your true love, then it is not wrong. But you will need to find out about their cultures and way of life there and be willing to adept.
Good Luck.... (read in full...)
Looks V Personality, which do girls prefer??
Q. What do girls mostly like personality of the lad or the looks ?...
A. 9 February 2008: Looks will attract first but it will be personality which will get the girls in the final run.
You can read an article I wrote on this site;-
http://www.pinksuzie.com/2007/09/26/your-criteria-for-mrright-looks-or-manners/... (read in full...)
She is 75% sure I am the one...but wants to date other people but I still want us to get back together.
Q. Me and my girlfriend of 2 and a half years just broke up. We had a really long talk about what it all means and basically we have decided to stop contact for around 4 months and then try to be friends. She still loves me but she isn't 100% sure that ...
A. 9 February 2008: If you are meant for each other , nothing will stop you from coming back for each other. It is good that you have a final exploratory phase before you say your 'I Do!' You will not regret later and you will know how much you want each other.It is ... (read in full...)
How can I be happy again after losing my husband??
Q. MY husband passed away 8 years ago and we were married for 26 yrs. How do I go out into the real world and meet someone where do you go and what do you do? How can you make your self happy again? Thanks, want to be happy ...
A. 9 February 2008: You can go to your local church or any charity org. to meet new friends. You can attend any social events or get to know your neighbors who lives in the same street.... (read in full...)
...he was watching porn and masturbating, without even asking how I'm feeling!
Q. My boyfriend and I were having sex when I felt a severe abdominal discomfort and I asked him to stop. After taking a rest for about 5 minutes, he wanted to force himself into me again but my pain was still there so I said I didn't want to do it ...
A. 8 February 2008: How would you feel if you were dumped half way though your love making? You are so steamed and he simply could not proceed anymore.
Maybe , the next time , he should go to the WC and jacked it off.... (read in full...)
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