I'm tired of always helping things my husband can't do.
Q. I'm danielle,I live here in south korea and I have a husband who has disability so the problems is I'm tired of always helping things my husband can't do....
A. 18 February 2008: Thanks for sharing your life with us. You did it for your family so that they may escape from poverty back home. You sacrificed your happiness and well being for your family's well being. This is a supreme sacrifice .
Think of it as a gratitud... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with my friend who drifts away then comes running back.
Q. I've been friends with this girl for several years now. We're in our sophmore year. And for the last couple of years things have been rocky. When things are going good in her life she drifts away from me and stop talks to me and basically isn't my ...
A. 17 February 2008: Do you want to be a door mat for her? When her boots get muck, she will find you and walk all over you and then leave until the next time.
Learn to say 'NO!'... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend saved those videos?
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were both in realationships prior to us being together. I snooped and found a camcorder, with some videotapes. I find out he had been filming various types of females, while he was in his old ...
A. 15 February 2008:
One time when he was young and stupid and got plenty of time and had nothing to do, he went and did some stupid thing , filming girls butt .
The chicken has come back to roost for him.
When you were young, did you do any impetuous thing ... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend saved those videos?
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were both in realationships prior to us being together. I snooped and found a camcorder, with some videotapes. I find out he had been filming various types of females, while he was in his old ...
A. 15 February 2008: I saw a a T.V program on this butt business and how those butts were in actions, jogging, walking or climbing.They were just butts because the program did not want to identity the owners. Ordinarily, we seldom observe people walking and how the butt ... (read in full...)
It's all such a mess, I was told my husband cheated on me and threw him out, now I've found out he didn't!
Q. I have been with my husband for almost 7 1/2 years now... we've been married for almost 4. We have two sons, one 5 1/2, and the other is 1 1/2. He was my high school sweetheart, and we've been through so much. He was in the Marine Corps, and is such ...
A. 15 February 2008: All's well that ends well!
I am glad and happy for you that everything is bright and shinning again in your life.
Take care!... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend saved those videos?
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were both in realationships prior to us being together. I snooped and found a camcorder, with some videotapes. I find out he had been filming various types of females, while he was in his old ...
A. 15 February 2008: It was only a fad . Don't get mad and it is not worth messing your relationship over this.
You should see the humorous side of it.LOL!... (read in full...)
Heartbroken and confused...
Q. Hello. I'm finding it really hard to cope losing my girlfriend. She ended our relationship Tuesday because she was not happy but I really love her. If we were still together today it would of been 14 months and 2 weeks. I love her so much my heart ...
A. 15 February 2008: Loving her is one thing but how you treated her is another .
You need to know why she was unhappy with you? Is it because of something you did or is it because of you as a person?
If you did anything wrong or did not do something which was ex... (read in full...)
Why has my boyfriend saved those videos?
Q. Ok, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years. We were both in realationships prior to us being together. I snooped and found a camcorder, with some videotapes. I find out he had been filming various types of females, while he was in his old ...
A. 15 February 2008: That was in the past. Whatever happened in the past, do not dig it up. Everyone has a past and it is best you let it go .
Would you feel better if you asked him to delete or throw them away?... (read in full...)
Do you think I could win her over or not??
Q. Hey. Today I told the girl I like how I feel. I thought she liked me but when I told her her response was "i like you but not in that way. You're like my best friend. I mean thing change and maybe feelings change. I just want to stay freinds ...
A. 15 February 2008: You need to woo her first and romance her before you can tell her your feelings.
If you are just a friend to her and you tell her your feelings, she wont feel the magic of your love.
You need to treat her in a very special way and pay more att... (read in full...)
Should I go further with a co-worker?
Q. Hi. I really like a guy I work with. We get on really well and I would love to take things further but don't know what to do. If he doesn't want to, i don't want working together to become difficult. We've been out for a drink a couple of times ...
A. 15 February 2008: You can ask him to the movies or a sight seeing tours or outings during the weekends .
If he is interested in you , he would accept.You would then know where he stands.... (read in full...)
How do I get myself back to normal after all the heartaches I've endured?
Q. ok here it goes... i fell out with my boyfriend of 4 and a half yrs about 2 and a half years ago and ever since i fell out with him ive realised what it is like to be lonely. one minute i am single enjoying the single life then next minute i a...
A. 15 February 2008: You mind can be either negative or positive. You can control your mind to think in a positive way or you can allow your mind to delve on the negative or self defeating thoughts.
You need to control your tongue too from speaking negative thoughts... (read in full...)
How long could it take for his sperm to fertalise my egg??
Q. I was having sex, and when we stopped, we realised the condom had burst... We hadn't been going long though, although he did say he definitely ejaculated. Tomorrow I'm planning to go get the morning after pill, but is there anything I can do to ...
A. 15 February 2008: The sperm can live in your Fallopian tubes for 5 days .
Your most fertile period is 5 days before and after you ovulate.(Calculate from the first day your period arrived)
Since your period stopped 4 days ago , it is unlikely that you will get pre... (read in full...)
My bf's ex is haressing me....should I tell him and if so how??
Q. Hi...my ex's new girlfriend is harassing me. Should i inform him of her behaviour. We have a child together. I have kept quiet for while now but it gets worse as the days go on....should i tell him and if so how should i inform without sounding...
A. 15 February 2008: If you have tried and cannot handle her by yourself , you would need your ex help.
Just ask him to tell her to keep away from you .You don't want to bother her and hope she does the same. He will know what to do.... (read in full...)
How can I compete with the 'train wrecks'??
Q. Before I met my b/f he had a tendency to get involved with what I call "train wrecks", meaning women who were kinda bad, kinda bad for him, unstable, unpredictable, kinda wild, kinda raunchy, didn't have much of an education, sometimes didn't work, ...
A. 15 February 2008: In a man's mind , there are two types of girls, the good ones and the bad ones. The good ones are marriage materials and the bad ones are only worth a fling and nothing more.
Just live from day to day and do not think too much about the future.I... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with my friend who drifts away then comes running back.
Q. I've been friends with this girl for several years now. We're in our sophmore year. And for the last couple of years things have been rocky. When things are going good in her life she drifts away from me and stop talks to me and basically isn't my ...
A. 14 February 2008: You have a good disposition but you need to be aware that your friend is only using you when she has problems.
You need to harden your heart towards her .She is taking advantage of your good nature.
Such friends we can do without.... (read in full...)
It's all such a mess, I was told my husband cheated on me and threw him out, now I've found out he didn't!
Q. I have been with my husband for almost 7 1/2 years now... we've been married for almost 4. We have two sons, one 5 1/2, and the other is 1 1/2. He was my high school sweetheart, and we've been through so much. He was in the Marine Corps, and is such ...
A. 14 February 2008: Time will heal all your hurts and pains. Just be good and nice to him like a good wife should be.
It will return back to normal in time.... (read in full...)
Does this mean that he still has feelings for his ex, if he visits her blog very frequently?
Q. I've known my boyfriend for 4 years, we were in a close group of friends, but only started our relationship a few months ago. I found out that he has been visiting his ex's blog very frequently even though she does not update regularly. I was...
A. 14 February 2008: He could be in mourning over the loss.It could just be a phase or a fad and he may get over it.... (read in full...)
He does not kiss me in bed, except rarely. Is it normal?
Q. My husband rarely kisses me in bed. His says: "We don't have to kiss every time we have sex." Ladies, are your husband like this too? Because I always thought that if you don't love, you don't kiss. And to be honest his not kissing me in bed turns ...
A. 14 February 2008: Does your husband feels that sex is a chore and to be quickly done with ? Or he could be disinterested with sex .It seems to look that way to me.... (read in full...)
A man came to fix my fridge, we texted intermittently and now I am confused!
Q. 5 weeks ago a man came to my house to fix my fridge, we got on so well, we both felt we had known one another all our lives. He is going through a divorce at the moment, I have been divorces for years. He came back the following week and the same ...
A. 14 February 2008: Probably, he is a friendly type and just wanted some conversations . It goes with his job. ... (read in full...)
We want to move in together but cannot come to an agreement!
Q. I had a really horrible childhood, my mum and dad split when I was little and he has barely been in my life, when he did arrange to see me and my sisters he would always let us down, my mum then went through 2abusive relationships and got into a lot ...
A. 14 February 2008: There are many army personnels who are weekend husbands . They love their families and allow their wives to dictate where they want to stay.
From a relationship standpoint , it would be better that the wife stays near her friends and relative... (read in full...)
Is it too early to ask him to recommit to being my boyfriend? What is keeping him from asking me to be his girlfriend again if he loves me "with all his heart"?
Q. I had been living with my boyfriend for about six- seven months. We loved eachother and we spent everyday together---things seemed perfect. We talked about getting married one day, spending the rest of our lives together, about buying a house. M...
A. 14 February 2008: You gave him everything on a platter and he did not have to pay or work for it.
He is like a free loader. Even if you get that response from him , it is only playing around with words and it means nothing to him.
When he gets tired of you , h... (read in full...)
Going through depression, considering myself ugly!
Q. help i am going through depression i am onyl 14 (15 in 2 months)i think i am the most ugliest girl in my year this is because i recently got told i was ugly by my best freind i think she is right too!!! and also i looked in the mirror i thought ...
A. 14 February 2008: Your story is like the fairy tale we read when we were young.
The ugly duckling became the most beautiful white swan.
Hey! Let no one say you are the most ugliest. Those words are just rubbish.Don't believe them hook line and sinker. Your bes... (read in full...)
My BF's comment made me realise I need to improve my self image and confidence, how can I do that?
Q. This is a silly concern. Today I was telling my BF I lost 2 pounds out of nowhere. He was happy for me. I've lost a lot of weight since we started dating. He's always been very attracted to me. We were talking about my weight and height... he not...
A. 14 February 2008: You can also Google that question and get all those tips online.There is a wealth of info there.... (read in full...)
My BF's comment made me realise I need to improve my self image and confidence, how can I do that?
Q. This is a silly concern. Today I was telling my BF I lost 2 pounds out of nowhere. He was happy for me. I've lost a lot of weight since we started dating. He's always been very attracted to me. We were talking about my weight and height... he not...
A. 14 February 2008: Know who and what you are . Think of all those positive qualities you want to have.
You are smart, intelligent,beautiful ,lovely, kind , generous, helpful and friendly.
Love yourself and think positive always.
Value yourself and don't be to... (read in full...)
I'm tired of always helping things my husband can't do.
Q. I'm danielle,I live here in south korea and I have a husband who has disability so the problems is I'm tired of always helping things my husband can't do....
A. 14 February 2008: Life is not easy for you and I am sure you feel tired when you have to take care of a disabled person. I am not going to judge you and I hope you have enough rest , eat well and the other family members treat you well.
Maybe, you would like to ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with their hurtful remarks?
Q. I have always had a complex about my eyes, they are very sensitive and tend to go red very easily and i have bags under my eyes though not massive ones but i am aware of them. At work the maintenance men who come occassionally have recently being ...
A. 14 February 2008: Hear no evil, speak no evil and see no evil.
Think of them like monkeys for they do not know how to talk except to mumble gibberish. Just ignore those hurtful words and they will give up when they don't see any response from you.
If they said ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I can't control my feelings.
Q. This guy I used to like just got back with his ex-girlfriend sometime in december and we were not talking for awhile and now we started again. In the begining we talked on the phone and aim all the time. And now, the same thing is happening again. ...
A. 14 February 2008: Once bitten twice shy
Twice bitten , never to try again.
Will you put your hand into the viper's snake pit and try your luck? Will you be bitten again?
Think of him like those rattlesnake and stay away if you don't want to be bitten .... (read in full...)
My life has turned upside down because of him.
Q. Well, there is this guy and he is my friend. and I'm crazy about him. but he just considers me as his sister! But I love him more than anything! and he knows this. I don't know what to do! I'm so confused!! I don't know how to make him fall for me. ...
A. 14 February 2008: He won't and he cannot and he will not change. You are not his type or you are too young for him.
You can still be friends with him or you move on with your life .... (read in full...)
I am in a lesbian love affair with my teacher, with complications. What can I do?
Q. I'm currently in a lesbian relationship with my teacher for 8 months (she's 29 and i'm 18) and im madly in love with her..... I know she's serious about me because she broke up with her bf of 2 years just to be with me. I love her deeply cos she's...
A. 14 February 2008: The best thing is to put your relationship on hold till you graduate and then resume your relationship again.It is only a temporary measure .... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before calling her?
Q. Before I say what happened I would like to say I am a genuine person and not a player! rite.. I was out last nite and I gathered the courage to ask for this girls number. I know her friend and had a bit of a dance with her. I asked if she had...
A. 14 February 2008: If you asked for her number, she will expect you to call within 3 days. Just call her up to say 'Hi!' and chat with her.
If she is interested , she will come out to meet you . If you do not know what to do or where to go , you can ask her.... (read in full...)
How do I make our relationship last?
Q. right now thing b/w me and my bf is going down the drain slowly... i dont know how (both of us) how to fix it, we promise each other we'll change, but for me im not. im going through what i use to do 3 years ago when i was 14: mentally cut mys...
A. 14 February 2008: It is idealistic to think relationship can last forever.If you are meant to be together, you will .You should leave that to fate or destiny or providence.
Everyone of us will grow and change. When you were a baby , you need milk and when you beca... (read in full...)
Do I still love him or not?
Q. dear cupid i dont know what to do i have been with my husband for nearly three years and we have a daughter together who is three mths.i also have another daughter who is five but her dad was someone else i used to be married too. The problem is my ...
A. 14 February 2008: He could be going for a 'walk-about' and then return again. His absence could be only temporary.You try to get along as best as you can.
Try to rebuild your own life. Know who you are and what you want in life.That will be your mission.
Take... (read in full...)
I can't get our family friend out of my mind. Please help.
Q. Is it possible to be in love with 2 people? I'm in my early twenties, married with three kids and i love my husband more than anything but i also have strong feelings for our friend , he does allot of family things with us, e.g putting kids toys ...
A. 14 February 2008: You can be in love with many but there is only one whom you will love with all your heart.
You can love them as a friend or as a relative and nothing more.
If you constantly think of him and cannot get him out of your mind, that is an obses... (read in full...)
How can I increase confidence in myself and tell her how I feel??
Q. Hi everyone, There is this girl. we've been close, went to a school dance together. That was Saturday. I'm pretty sure she likes me and I know I like her. I want to tell her how I feel but whenever i try there is always something in my way or I...
A. 14 February 2008: You can Google that question and get all those tips online.
You need to act brave and pretend you are just acting in a theater. Treat it as a joke. If she rejects you , say you were only joking and quickly change the subject.... (read in full...)
How can I recover from this emotionally abusive marriage??
Q. I have recently split from my husband who was my partner for 12 years, married for the last three years. On our very first holiday together over 11 years ago, the first verbally abusive fight happened when he got very drunk and spent hours trashing...
A. 14 February 2008: What you did was right , you need to have a clean break from your partner to give you some space to collect your thoughts .If you did not leave, there could be domestic violence against you .
Whether it will be permanent or just temporary will be ... (read in full...)
I just feel like after 4 years he should just know I am "the one," after asking me to move in with him. Your thoughts?
Q. My boyfriend and I have had a rocky past, we have been together for over 4 years, The last time we got back together be told me that I was everything in his life, and that now he knows what love is, and that he wanted me to be his family. Things ...
A. 14 February 2008: It is only words. He may not be able to say 100% because that is not possible realistically . It is just a play on words.
A woman can give a man 100% but a man cannot give a woman 100% because he has his career to think off.This is assuming... (read in full...)
I discovered I am still in love with my ex but he is only using me, how to get over him?
Q. hi i had thought i was over my ex and i saw him the other day and we snuggled and he gave me massages i think he was just using me and it seems like that because once i leave he contacts me every other day to say hi and stuff but he is just playing ...
A. 14 February 2008: Want to get over a person is not difficult. You only have to demonize him and think of all his bad habits and his bad ways and you will puke whenever you think of him. His name will become a revulsion to you .... (read in full...)
How do I prevent from starting to love my ex again without wrecking our friendship?
Q. I have a problem with my current gf and my ex..... me and my girl have been going out for 3 weeks now and everything goin wonderful and moving along great....and I have extremly strong feelings for her... but my ex.......we broke up almost a ye...
A. 14 February 2008: If you like your current g/f , you need to stay away or avoid your ex or you will lose your g/f. She will not like it and it will make her unhappy.... (read in full...)
How do I show him that he can trust me after my flirtings so we can rebuild the relationship?
Q. My bf works away we have been together just under a year and have been planning our lives together im so in love with him i had a work dinner got very drunk and we went out after i flirted with another guy which included letting him put his arm...
A. 14 February 2008: Time is a great healer. It will take time to gain back his trust.
You know what is right and wrong , so you watch your steps.... (read in full...)
Obsessed with a girl from college and letting other opportunities pass by...
Q. I'm a male in his early 20's, and for a while I think I've been obsessed with a girl from college. She has a long term boyfriend, and the're both good for each other. I know it's best for me to just stay away and I have been, but It's not getting ...
A. 14 February 2008: We should separate reality from fantasy.If we choose to live in fantasy , the world will pass us by.
Two years is a very long time and I think you should put that image of her into the back of your mind and let her remain there.
Go on living ... (read in full...)
How can I make my bf more romantic??
Q. Ok so me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years and he has no idea about being romantic!! I don't know what to do i love him to death but he never does anything romantic. Now don't get me wrong he shows plenty of affection but he never su...
A. 14 February 2008: Generally speaking most guys are unromantic and predictable.You will have to lead him on what you need.
They are like rough diamonds and need your polishing to make them shine.
Not all men are born romantics. ... (read in full...)
Keep integrity and stay married.
Q. I feel so bad about this situation. I have a lots of bad thoughts about my husband in my head,but I tell him I love him. I'm not really a dirty lier,but I just don't have any chance to really tell what I think. The reason mainly because I tried to ...
A. 14 February 2008: To increase you self esteem;-
Take full responsibility of your own life and stop blaming others about those ills or problems. Don't think of yourself as a victim.
Mix with those people who can make you feel good and do those activities that ... (read in full...)
Why would he tolerate the silly situation he is in now?
Q. I need help and hope that the amazing agony aunts can help. I split with my boyfriend of thirteen years two and a half years ago. I have been dating but not really seriously. He returned to him hometown a long way away and promptly met someone ...
A. 14 February 2008: Follow your instincts.Cut off all ties with him.You are no more responsible for his emotional needs. He may appear hopeless or helpless.
Do not have any excessive sympathy for him. He needs to learn to cope with his own problems.
Harden your h... (read in full...)
Why do guys always ask me out after the first date?
Q. What does it mean when a guy asks you to be his girlfriend after the first date? This has happened to me 4 times now and I wanted to know whether I actually impressed these guys that much for them to want me to be their girlfriend. Or if it was just...
A. 14 February 2008: Those guys want to keep the chase short. They don't like to be kept in limbo , neither here or there.
If you are not interested , they will move on to their next target.
Once you agree, it means they can bed you.... (read in full...)
How do I approach this situation for the best?
Q. God I'm in agony. Me and the major love of my life who I have been with for 6 years have had a major major bust up about a week ago (we've had lots of problems) and not spoken for a week (he stormed out of the house and said he was never coming ...
A. 14 February 2008: Call him and tell him that you want to talk and settle those issues and meet him in a public place .It is better you meet face to face than through the phone or e-mails.The home atmosphere maybe intimidating. A public place is the best place to meet ... (read in full...)
Happy Valentine's Day to all!!!
Q. HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY to all the aunts and readers! May Cupid's arrow strike true and pure on this day devoted to love: romantic love, platonic love, family love, love for your pets, etc.!!! Love to all, Manya XX00...
A. 14 February 2008: Thank you .
Wishing you the best and the most enjoyable Valentine's day to you too.
... (read in full...)
Afraid I won't be good at kissing
Q. I kind of like this girl and well her friend knows it and keep trying to hook us up, and well it working. But she is playing hard to get, which i sort of enjoy. But her friend is trying to get her to just kiss me, and it was pretty close to ...
A. 14 February 2008: If you want to be a good kisser, just Google the word 'kiss' and find all those tips .
Just relax and appear calm and confidence. Take things easy and let yourself be swept away by the emotional current .
... (read in full...)
Keep integrity and stay married.
Q. I feel so bad about this situation. I have a lots of bad thoughts about my husband in my head,but I tell him I love him. I'm not really a dirty lier,but I just don't have any chance to really tell what I think. The reason mainly because I tried to ...
A. 14 February 2008: I think you need to work on your confidence , self esteem and your self image.
Firstly, you need to stop thinking negative or view things in a negative manner. You need to change from being a pessimist into an optimist.
When any negatives th... (read in full...)
It's all such a mess, I was told my husband cheated on me and threw him out, now I've found out he didn't!
Q. I have been with my husband for almost 7 1/2 years now... we've been married for almost 4. We have two sons, one 5 1/2, and the other is 1 1/2. He was my high school sweetheart, and we've been through so much. He was in the Marine Corps, and is such ...
A. 13 February 2008: Just be frank and sincere and tell your husband that you made a big mistake , apologize to him and seek his forgiveness.Since he love you , I think he will accept you back.
You should have checked and verified those rumors first before you take... (read in full...)
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