Take a chance and ask her out?
Q. There is this girl I know. She introduced herself to me online and at first I brushed off as nothing because there's weird people online. But as I got to know her through messaging and found out she goes to my school, we started talking in person ...
A. 19 February 2008: You can ask her out for coffee or tea, or dinner or just stroll in the park or shopping malls.
Suggest something to her and then ask if she likes to go where.... (read in full...)
Keep integrity and stay married.
Q. I feel so bad about this situation. I have a lots of bad thoughts about my husband in my head,but I tell him I love him. I'm not really a dirty lier,but I just don't have any chance to really tell what I think. The reason mainly because I tried to ...
A. 14 February 2008: To increase you self esteem;-
Take full responsibility of your own life and stop blaming others about those ills or problems. Don't think of yourself as a victim.
Mix with those people who can make you feel good and do those activities that ... (read in full...)
Afraid I won't be good at kissing
Q. I kind of like this girl and well her friend knows it and keep trying to hook us up, and well it working. But she is playing hard to get, which i sort of enjoy. But her friend is trying to get her to just kiss me, and it was pretty close to ...
A. 14 February 2008: If you want to be a good kisser, just Google the word 'kiss' and find all those tips .
Just relax and appear calm and confidence. Take things easy and let yourself be swept away by the emotional current .
... (read in full...)
Keep integrity and stay married.
Q. I feel so bad about this situation. I have a lots of bad thoughts about my husband in my head,but I tell him I love him. I'm not really a dirty lier,but I just don't have any chance to really tell what I think. The reason mainly because I tried to ...
A. 14 February 2008: I think you need to work on your confidence , self esteem and your self image.
Firstly, you need to stop thinking negative or view things in a negative manner. You need to change from being a pessimist into an optimist.
When any negatives th... (read in full...)
Staying with his sister every night.
Q. So my fiancee lives 4 hours away, his sister travels and sometimes ends up in the same city as him. Whenever his sister is in town, he stays with her at the hotel. I think the rationale is that since her sister's paying for the room anyhow, he ...
A. 14 February 2008: I think you just have to accept that situation and move on. It is unwise to bring up this topic as it can be a thorn in your relationship.
He has his reasons for doing that.They have a very close rapport and if you bring up this topic , it may l... (read in full...)
Ex wife wants me back and she has new child
Q. Please help. I am a 30 year old male who at the age of 12 fell in love with a girl, also 12. At 15 we started dating and 13 years later we were married with 3 kids. The relationship had its moments and to be honest the arguments were mainly over ...
A. 14 February 2008: Your selection criteria will be based on your own needs or the needs of others.
If it is your own needs, then you will select your current g/f. You cannot give her all your love as you have your children to maintain and care for, unless you want... (read in full...)
Has anyone else felt this way after breaking up with their ex? How do I move on?
Q. Hi there, I broke up with my ex almost 6 months ago and I'm still madly in love with her. I'm majorly deppressed and on the edge of a nervous breakdown. My doctor has given me tablets to try and get me better but it's just not working. I have felt ...
A. 14 February 2008: When you break up, you will go through 4 phases.
The first phase, you will go through is a period of MOURNING or GRIEF for the loss, there is pain , sadness , anger and hurts.
The second phase is to deal with your ANGER.
You will have a... (read in full...)
Why is my abusive ex offering to pay for my car, when he denied to the police having damaged it. Is he playing mind games?
Q. i split with my ex in december, he should be recieving my divorce petition this week. he was emotionally and sometimes physically abusive and also liked to damage my stuff. last time i saw him in december he damaged the body work on my car, for the ...
A. 14 February 2008: He damaged your car's body work in a moment of anger or madness and since you reported to the police , he did not want to have trouble with the law or he regretted or have remorse over his actions.
Since it is settled, you could withdraw that pol... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he doesn't believe that I am!!!
Q. I am pregnant and he doesn't believe me... What should I do...? He thinks that I've cheated on him and I havent. I don't know what to do. He was supposed to go to the doctors with me today and he never even called me. I called him a million ...
A. 14 February 2008: You will have to decide if you want the baby or not.Perhaps you should talk to your parents and discuss with them .Do not do anything rash,keep calm.... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting his attention?
Q. hey guys, I have a serious problem! I have liked a boy for 4 years and we have always been good friends. I think he may like me (?) but he flirts with other girls (younger one as well). I need some tips on how to pull him!! any ideas?? thank...
A. 14 February 2008: Try to be more visual to him. Wear your best according to the occasions and some makeups.He may take notice of you and be attracted.... (read in full...)
What do I do I'm so confused?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have this friend who I've known for about seven months. Since the first day I met him I had a crush on him and through out the months that crush grew to be something more, but the thing is he only wants to friends and he's tol...
A. 14 February 2008: He is not ready for love yet or he don't feel like he want to be committed to you.
Just be friends with him for now though he knows your feelings for him.
You cannot keep your love bottled up and it shines through from your heart.
Just t... (read in full...)
My feelings died for him, will they come back?
Q. Hi all, Please, I need some advice. I have been in a relationship for 12 years, and am now 28. It has been a mistake from the start, but I did love him. He has spent alot of time critisizing me, bad mouthing my family friends, my ways, and tryi...
A. 13 February 2008: You have fought, struggled and suffered so much heartbreaks and heartaches to to break free from that abusive lifestyle and today you can stand proud of who you are.
Do you want to go back to that hyena's cave?
An abusive man may try to chang... (read in full...)
Should I go back home, or stay for the man I love?
Q. Do I go back to South Africa or do I stay with the man I love? I came to London with my two children one of which's father lives in London and we live with him. I was with him 14 years ago and we sadly parted. Now we are back in his life four...
A. 13 February 2008: The writings is on the wall and yet you cannot see it. The person you loved 14 years ago is dead . He is not the same anymore. Times have changed.
Your love for him is only a one way street.
Do you think you can make him love you again?
... (read in full...)
I'm living with a man who doesn't want a relationship!
Q. I live with a man that I love more than anything but he confused me at times, before me he had a bad relationship with someone who used him and he says he got no love left to give and that he doesn't want to get married or have kids. Says he doesn't ...
A. 13 February 2008: Live from day to date. Everyday is not the same and you should not take to heart what he says to you everyday.
He is confused and have not found the Northern Star to guide him to that directions.
He is like living in a dark world and you ne... (read in full...)
My ex doesn't want to be friends, but I do.
Q. Well, me and my ex split about 3 months ago now and he in another relationship(with a girl who lives half way around the world.) I've just started seeing someone also. Though we are taking it very slow, I can't help but compare it to my previous ...
A. 13 February 2008: Let time decide for you.You have stretched out your hands to him but he is not interested. Thats all you can do for now till one day when your path crossed or meet again.
He thinks you are history.But life is full of mysteries and nobody knows wh... (read in full...)
My ex is in love again after three weeks and it's killing me!
Q. Hello aunts! I broke up with my girlfriend about three weeks ago. I know it was a mistake and I wanted to fix it and be with her again but she said no. Now we are still living in a same flat because she has nowhere to go and I am not evil enough to ...
A. 13 February 2008: Could it just be your perceptions about her falling in love and getting over you ? You could be wrong.
She could be sad and heart broken and seeking solace and understanding from her friend.Or she could be punishing you for the break up.
I... (read in full...)
Which one of us should make the first move after our row?
Q. What is the best thing to do after a bad argument with your long term boyfriend in terms of who makes the peace gestures. My bf walked out on me after a big argument which he started due to being in a bad mood. He said it was all over and he was ...
A. 13 February 2008: Thanks Anon,just some common sense only.LOL!
Behind a hard facade lies a soft heart.
What you see is not what you get.
You need to look deeper into their souls.
A small boy inside of him crying for help.
... (read in full...)
Is you're opinion he's cheating or not?
Q. I need to know what you think, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. Even though I've never caught him, I suspect he's cheating, I have checked his cell phone bills I never seem to find anything out of the ordinary. THe thing is, ...
A. 13 February 2008: You can Google your question, "How do you know if your man is cheating?' There are a lot of the tips online and if he is cheating , he will leave tell tale signs. I think he is meeting up with her because the recent text proved it. He li... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned he's talking to another girl on his mobile?
Q. Hi, my b.f picked me up last night to go to his family's for christmas. Maybe 30 minutes later his phone rings i think indicating a text message b/c it only rang once. He went over to his phone and went to the other room but not completely b/c i...
A. 13 February 2008: Your friend is right. You have become obsessed and it can be living hell for your b/f. You would not want to live under those strict conditions where everything will be seen through a magnifying glass or using a comb to check every evidence o... (read in full...)
I still hope he really does love me
Q. I am in love with one of my great friends whom I have known forever! We tried dating for awhile but he was still too immature and I ended it. Recently he moved three hours away and he blamed the distance on the reason we are not together. He ...
A. 13 February 2008: This guy lacked confidence and low self esteem.Maybe in a few years time , he may change.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with my good friend, but I don't know if he feels the same.
Q. Okay recently I have came to the conclusion that I am falling for one of my good friends. I can't stop thinking about him, I worry what he thinks about me. But I am afraid that if I like him and he doesn't like me and finds out it can ruin our ...
A. 13 February 2008: You can Google that question and get all those tips online. If a woman tells a man her feelings, it will not affect the friendship as much as a man telling a woman his feelings for her. When a man is not interested, he would still be fr... (read in full...)
She did things with her ex, that I haven't experienced before. How can I handle this situation?
Q. hi, i need help. about one or two months into my relationship with my girlfriend, she hinted at an event in her past that sounded like she was sexually assaulted. seeing as i care a lot about her, i have always been very cautious when it came to ...
A. 13 February 2008: You should not have judged her. Whatever she did with the ex is her business and private matter between them. You should not equate what they did together and what she did not do with you. Every one change and what was once liked may now be not i... (read in full...)
I intended it to be a one night stand, but I'm really starting to like this guy. Please help
Q. Help, I hooked up with a guy but now i really like him... okay so i answered a personal add in the casual encounters column with intentions to have a sexy hook up with no strings attached... Well after trading emails and pictures, phone ...
A. 13 February 2008: You could give it a try and only time will tell . Good Luck!... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to wish my ex "Happy Birthday"?
Q. I was wondering what you would do in this situation: I went out with a guy during January this year. He was my first boyfriend (I'm 18). We were strangers, but we worked at the same place, and he was the one who asked me out. A couple of weeks ...
A. 13 February 2008: I don't think it is inappropriate, you are just wishing him well on his birthday. You are still friends even though he is an ex. What ever he thinks about your actions is just speculations.He may have raised eyebrows and he would not know the rea... (read in full...)
Site News: We hit another milestone :-)
Q. For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...
A. 13 February 2008: CONGRATS!! CHEERS!!!!!! May this site grow from strength to strength. ALL THE BEST TO YOU AND EVERYONE GOD BLESS !!!... (read in full...)
Take a chance and ask her out?
Q. There is this girl I know. She introduced herself to me online and at first I brushed off as nothing because there's weird people online. But as I got to know her through messaging and found out she goes to my school, we started talking in person ...
A. 13 February 2008: If you don't try , you will never know. You have nothing to lose but everything to gain. Give your best shot.... (read in full...)
I finally got free.
Q. I finally broke up with my emotionally abusive ex. But why didn't I break up with him at the times where it was really ugly between us-like when he was being unreasonable and getting mad at me because I wouldn't smoke or get drunk (which I don't do ...
A. 13 February 2008: Congrats to you !. You became a door mat or you thought you could be a martyr.You soldiered on , accepting , forgiving and rationalizing his every actions and you were dying inside. You had your doubts and indecisiveness until it daunt on... (read in full...)
What to do about telling my mum
Q. I am wondering if I should tell my mum about this new guy im dating. I am 18 years old and yes I know that since I am an adult I do not have to tell her, but it would be nice to be able to open up to her and have her blessing. And also my mum is ...
A. 13 February 2008: If you think you are comfortable letting her know, then invite him home for dinner. Ask your mother first and feel her out.... (read in full...)
Is you're opinion he's cheating or not?
Q. I need to know what you think, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years. Even though I've never caught him, I suspect he's cheating, I have checked his cell phone bills I never seem to find anything out of the ordinary. THe thing is, ...
A. 13 February 2008: You can hire a PI or you ask a friend or you become a PI... Follow him from a distance and see where he goes and who he meets. But make sure , you are not caught by him for spying on him. You cannot live on suspicions all your life or it ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel uncomfortable.
Q. my g/f for a year wants to go to las vegas to spend the weekend with an old guy friend of hers and a group of friends of theres i have never met any of them. she has some history with him meaning she lived with him , and has slept with him. says it ...
A. 13 February 2008: .. because you love her so much and care about her, otherwise , you wouldn't give a damned! LOL! Tell her you felt jealous because you are not by her side. If the situation was reversed, how would she feel about you? Cant blame you for feelin... (read in full...)
Does she have someone on the side???
Q. Okay I have been dating this chick for over 6 months now and I notice that her ex that she use to deal with calls her from time to time asking her wassup. Now my thing is this if you have a relationship with someone else and your ex partner calls, ...
A. 13 February 2008: Curiosity kills the cat. Being a woman , she is curious what her ex wanted to say. That is something which you cannot easily control. This maybe a red flag.
The condom issue could be another red flag.. Just be more observant about her and her surr... (read in full...)
I want to send him a card for his Birthday, should I?
Q. Okay, so I like this boy that I do theater with in my town. We're friends and don't go to the same school, but I really fancy him. I want to send him a card for his birthday, but I'm not sure if this is strange. Also, I want to instant message him ...
A. 13 February 2008: Sending birthday cards to a friend is normal .You want him to know that you think of him and care about him as a friend.He will know you are interested in him because not many girls will care to send cards to him if they are just platonic friends. ... (read in full...)
She gives me mixed signals, I'm confused
Q. Looking for any advise here, I'm really confused. And sorry this is long, I like to ramble, and there is a long ish back story. I met a girl about 3 weeks ago when I was out with friends. There was an amazing attraction between us both straight aw...
A. 13 February 2008: She wants to be friends for now and setting the boundaries .She does not want you to have high hopes or build up too high an expectations from this relationship.
She does not want to commit yet or to be involved on a deeper and more intimate... (read in full...)
Did I miss my chance with him?
Q. Over a year ago, I split with my ex. It tore me up pretty bad, and left me really out of focus. Not long after I met Mike, he was fantastic, atractive and it seemed like well, too good to be true to be honest. I pushed him away I suppose and over ...
A. 13 February 2008: You spurned him and I am sure , he won't forget about that.Now that he is into someone, you rue your missed opportunity.
You can still be good friends with him but it would be unwise to tell him your feelings.Don't compromise your integrit... (read in full...)
I have an issue with her about losing weight
Q. I've been with my girl for 5yrs during which we have had ups and downs. I was getting divorced and it was bitter. I loved her a lot but during all the stress (mostly from my side) the love has eroded. Is this because its a long term relation...
A. 13 February 2008: Are you a perfectionist?
Is your expectations of her is too high?
Do you judge her?
If you use the same standards to judge her , then you need the same standards to judge your self.
We should accept our partner whatever size they come ... (read in full...)
Can depression make him cold towards his family?
Q. My husband has suffered from depression off and on for some years but over the last year it has got worse to the point where he wants to be alone all the time and says he is not sure he loves me any more and wants to get a flat on his own. Can ...
A. 13 February 2008: Try to get along with him as best as you can and try not to argue or do anything that can make him depress..Pray for him.... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling jealous of his gorgeous ex?
Q. I'm dealing with some stupid, irrational jealousy here... or envy, I don't know, I feel inferior compared to his ex even though I shouldn't! This guy says I'm his first love. He has endured several problems to be with me (actually he's jealous of ...
A. 13 February 2008: One sentence is all you need, "Don't compare with anyone because it will never end!"
There will be others who will be more beautiful and better than her.
If you start comparing with others, you will never be happy or contented.
Yo... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a co-worker. How to go about it?
Q. i m in love with my co-worker,the problem is i m married and he got kids,,please help!!!!...
A. 13 February 2008: That is like quicksand and dangerous ground to step on.
Don't step in or your life can become like hell.
Think what you will lose for the love of this man?
Can you afford to lose everything that you have build up and have?
Ponder this... (read in full...)
How can my wife and I bond closer the way we did before?
Q. I need a little help:( I am a 28 year old man who has been married for 6 years. I have a wife and a 5 year old son who I love with all my heart. My problem is, since my wife gave birth to our son she has had problems with her temper and anger...
A. 13 February 2008: Try to see from her point of view and bend as far back as you can . This is what love is all about. She has her needs too.Marriage is about satisfying each other's needs.
In marriage it is about pleasing our partners. If she has got an itch , w... (read in full...)
I don't feel like doing things for my fiancee and she's pregnant, am I unhappy? What should I do?
Q. I don't feel like doing things for my fiancee and she's pregnant, am I unhappy? What should I do?...
A. 13 February 2008: Are you punishing her because she is pregnant?
Do you blame her for this pregnancy?
Was this unplanned?
Why are you unhappy?
Do you still love her?
You will have to seek those answers and it will help you to treat her better.... (read in full...)
Why is my old school friend chasing me on the net, he's married
Q. Okay, so this guy I've known since high school and fell in love with, but we only went on one date and slept in the same bed one night spooning, started AIMing me the other night. I haven't really talked to him in two years, and since then, he has ...
A. 13 February 2008: He never had the chance to get off his chest.Treat what he said as hot air and nothing else.He is married. Period!... (read in full...)
Was I out of order to tell my partner not to flirt with women on the internet?
Q. Please can someone help me you see I don't know if I was in the wrong with my partner or not so heres the story... I've been with my partner coming up 7 years, we've got kids together and I would say we have a happy, caring and loving relation...
A. 13 February 2008: There are always two sides to a coin, the male and female perspective.They don't see things in the same way.
From your side, you may think you are in the right and he may think from his side , likewise.
Sometimes , it is not who is right or ... (read in full...)
Over 10 times a cheater...now I feel I can live without him.
Q. My boyfriend has cheated over ten times in our home and outside our house. Its always sex and talking on the phone; he says he loves me everyone says its true you can tell he loves you more then anything but nobody can explain or undersand why he ...
A. 13 February 2008: What you feel and what you do are two different things.
You may feel you can live without him but when you really leave him and be on your own , your feelings may not be the same.
You many want him back like so many posters here who regrett... (read in full...)
Which one of us should make the first move after our row?
Q. What is the best thing to do after a bad argument with your long term boyfriend in terms of who makes the peace gestures. My bf walked out on me after a big argument which he started due to being in a bad mood. He said it was all over and he was ...
A. 12 February 2008: Who should say sorry first?
The one that is rational or level headed should do the apologizing to clear up the obstacle in their relationship.
This person should not care whether whose fault it is but to get the relationship back on the high... (read in full...)
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