I am 13 and my girlfriend is a bit shy to go any further, what can I do?
Q. hi i am 13 and i think my girlfriend is a bit shy about doing anything physical she is ok with hugging and kissing at school discos but she wont go any further what can i do ??????...
A. 10 February 2007: You are so so young, enjoy the hugging and kissing, and all the joy that being 13 brings. All that physical stuff can wait till way way later. Good luck ... (read in full...)
It's soooo obvious he fancies me yet when friends asked him outright he denied it and said he likes me only as a friend!
Q. Hey, everybody. So there's this guy I have been crushing on and he has been giving me non-stop hints that he has feelings for me as more than just a friend (he is basically going overboard to get my attention). However, when my friends told him...
A. 9 February 2007: Trust me this guy likes you. Im going through the same thing i really fancy this girl bigtime, and i give he lots of flirtatious attention, and vice versa. But when im asked if i fancy her i say no. Truth be told i deny i fancy her is because I... (read in full...)
I really don't like this boy and he won't leave me alone! What can I do?
Q. This boy fancys me and he is really disgusting but he won't leave me alone What should i do?...
A. 9 February 2007: Be honest and tell him the truth, Just tell him your not interested and never will be. Im sure after that he will get the messaage. Good luck x... (read in full...)
What's the difference between love and lust?
Q. I know this seems like a really simply question but im so confused ... whats the difference between love and lust? see i dont want to make a fool of myself if its just lust...
A. 7 February 2007: I think love is more long term, you think about them all the time, right from when you wake, till you put your head on the pillow to go to sleep. The one you would do anything for.
Lust is more of a short lived crush, usually involving lots of ... (read in full...)
Saw my ex and I dream of him! Does this mean I am not in love with my current partner?
Q. I've been in a relationship for 4 years and have a baby of 1 year, I recently saw my ex-boyfriend in the pub and haven't been able to stop thinking about him and having dreams of myself and him being together. Does this mean that I am not actually ...
A. 6 February 2007: I would say that you have mixed feelings, you have been with your current boyfriend for 4 years and have a child with him, and obviously love him. I think seeing your ex boyfriend in the pub has triggered off old memories that you had together. If i ... (read in full...)
How do you know when you're in love?
Q. how do you know when ur in love???...
A. 6 February 2007: You know you are in love when you care for that person more than you care about anything, more than yourself. You want to be with them 24/7, and when you are not with them your counting down the minutes till you see them again. You get massive ... (read in full...)
Something for Valentines...but not too cheesy!
Q. Hi, I need some advice on what to buy my boyfriend for Valentines day. We've been together for 8 months and as this is our first valentines day I want to get him something special. We're 17 and he is into sailing, computers, RAF, Airsofti...
A. 5 February 2007: Going on the basis of not a huge amount, what about a nice bottle of aftershave, a pair of boxer shorts covered in heart shape patterns, a love songs CD, heart shaped chocolate.
Hope this helps x ... (read in full...)
My bf has been secretly visiting 'swing' clubs and cheating on me! What should I do?
Q. Hi i recently found out my boyfriend of 4 years has been frequenting swinging clubs for the past few months and having casual sex. Im heartbroken, but I feel like an idiot as i thought he loved me. When i confronted him he said it was a once off...
A. 5 February 2007: It dosen't sound like it was just a one off, he has been frequenting these swing clubs. A swing club is alot of different people all sleeping with each other. I see what you are saying about if it was a drunken night you could probably after time ... (read in full...)
She's been down so I am giving her space until she wants to talk...am I doing the right thing?
Q. My girlfriend has been feeling down for about a week and a half. I try to talk to her about it but she doesn't want to talk. She's fine around my friends and sometimes pulls out of the mood and is happy for a little bit when no one is around. I ...
A. 5 February 2007: I think you are doing the right thing, giving here space and time to let her sort herself out. She knows you are there for her if she needs you.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
He was unavailable to take my call...and I'm being suspicious! Am I being silly or what?
Q. hi been with my b/f for over 2 years..we spent the whole day together yesterday and he took me home at night. I got there at about 9:40. I did ask him to call me later to say nite...1:15 am or so came, i decided to call and say night..a lot of ...
A. 5 February 2007: I agree with the two other posts, i think you are being a little paranoid.
Making a pile of stuff to throw out in the garbage, then falling asleep while his phone is downstairs in his pocket sounds like a perfectly justfiable reason for him not ... (read in full...)
He says I wasn't the woman for him right from the start! Should I just move on?
Q. I have been with a guy for the last 2 years, We had our ups and downs. He has ended things with me a few times but I took him back everytime, but only because he came running back. This time though he has ended it with me, but still told me that he ...
A. 5 February 2007: I think this guy has been stringing you along from the start.
You have been with him for the last two years, and he has admitted to you that you were not the one from the beginning, so why did he stick it out all this time?.
Take his advice a... (read in full...)
Guy at work admits he likes me but won't me as he doesn't date co-workers. What can I do?
Q. I have been going out with some guys from work once a week for a month or two now, a big group of us go, but I have two particular friends who I always thought were gay, who I'm closer to than the rest. The first is most definitely gay, however ...
A. 4 February 2007: Some places hold a strict policy on office dating. But your place seems quite layed back with regards to co-workers dating, as you mention there are many couples in your work place.
I do think this guy likes you, however i think he is shy or scar... (read in full...)
How long should I wait until I ask about moving in??
Q. Is nearly 3 months too soon to ask someone how they feel about cohabitation? I really want to ask my boyfriend, as he has to move out of his house soon, and I have my own place. As far as I'm concerned, this guy is the one and I guess there's no set ...
A. 4 February 2007: I don't think there is any timescale with when to ask someone to move in, its how you both feel about each other.
You say that this guy is the one, so pop the question and im sure he will jump at the chance to move in with you.
hope all goes wel... (read in full...)
I just need to escape!!
Q. hi, I have quite a big problem. I finished with my ex girlfriend after being with her for just under a year, so i could get with another girl, who i thought i loved. I told this girl i loved her and i have been with her for 2months now. She tells...
A. 4 February 2007: You went to all that trouble of finishing with your previous partner so you could get this girl, now you don't want this one.
If your feelings are no longer there for this girl you have got to tell her now, otherwise you will be just stringing her ... (read in full...)
He doesnt seem interested anymore but I dont want to lose him!!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a week and already having problems. I am 17 and he is 22 and i think the age gap is making him have second thoughts. His friends are the same age as him and all have younger partners. He just doesn't seem inte...
A. 4 February 2007: I don't think the age gap is an issue here, after all its only five years difference.
I think the best thing you can do is be positive, and stop thinking you are going to lose him, or he is going to stray. There is no reason why you should lose him,... (read in full...)
Had a great crush on the girl I work with... until I found out she has a boyfriend! How do I get her out of my head?
Q. I am in a miserable situation. I am 25 working as admin in an airline. I have a great crush on a girl at workplace. I didn’t notice her before but from last three weeks or so i noticed that she has got some feelings for me. So i took a step forward ...
A. 4 February 2007: I know what its like to crush on someone, you can't stop thinking about them, and the buttterflies racing around in you stomach. At least this girl was straight with you and diden't string you along like some would. Keep her as a close friend, and ... (read in full...)
Can't shake my crush on this older teacher!
Q. I have a massive crush on my teacher, but I'm 16 (17 soon) and he's a LOT older than me. Problem is, I can't shake it, we spend so much time together at school, and his behaviour towards me isn't normal, and often very flirtatious. We're quite cl...
A. 3 February 2007: Its hard to make a judgment without knowing exactly how old this guy actually is, whether he is in his twentys thirtys of fortys, im assuming he's not in his fiftys. Nevertheless it is still wrong for a teacher to flirt with his pupils, and were ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my online guy. The problem is, I am stuck in the web of lies I created
Q. I met this guy on the internet a few months ago and to start with i was just looking for fun and having a laugh, if i'm honest i just wanted a bit of attention. now i've fallen in love with him. he's in love with me too. and i know that people often ...
A. 3 February 2007: this is the problem with lying early on in a relationship, its hard to backtrac, so consequently the only way forward is to continue lying, telling more lies, and digging yourself deeper and deeper into a hole.
The extent of the fibs you have told... (read in full...)
How can I get over my fear that I will be cheated on again?
Q. after an 8 year relationship and three wonderful children i separated from my cheating ex who happened to be cheating with a friend! now i have found a new love and i am afraid that he will walk away with one of my friends how do i over come this ...
A. 3 February 2007: Obviously your husband of eight years cheating on you with a friend has affected your confidence and self esteem, and its natural to be cautious in future relationships.
Stop focusing on the negative aspect of this new relationship, and start to f... (read in full...)
How can I meet someone who doesn't abuse me?
Q. I have several failed relationships, i honestly think it is me. I meet the wrong type. They either hit me or abuse me mentally. I get away from them but the next one turn up and is just as worse, if not worse. How do i meet someone lovely, kind and ...
A. 1 February 2007: i know excactly how you feel, my last two relationships turned out to be nightmares. They say love is blind, well i would believe that because i was the only person who could not see they were not right for me. If i had listened to friends and ... (read in full...)
We're good mates but she refuses lifts to work...and she accepts them from people she despises!! Do I ask her why?
Q. Why would this be happening.? I work in a factory that works very odd shift hours. There's this girl i work with who lives in the same town as me. We're good mates and get along great together. Really good friends. Because of the unsociab...
A. 31 January 2007: I don't think she refuses the lifts because she thinks your creepish or anything, as you have said you are quite good friends.
I think she fancys you in some way, and feels either shy or awkward being alone with you in the car. Which is why she ... (read in full...)
I never see my best friend - she's always at this farm doing drugs and getting laid!
Q. My best friends got no respect for herself. She spends most of her time over this farm near her house. Her brother and his mates and loads of other blokes get drugged up over there. She thinks they're all so cool but they're not and i dont think its ...
A. 31 January 2007: I think you have got a very mature sensible head on your shoulders, its a pitty your friend does not take a leaf out of your book.
What she is doing now at the farm, taking drugs, getting laid, she will no doubt come to regret later on in life, thes... (read in full...)
Not sure whether guys don't like me because I'm 'big' and not very girly. Or whether all guys are jerks! Which is it?
Q. I've got two problems: 1. My best friend (call him person A) is a guy and every keeps saying we fancy each other and I'm not sure if they mean or are just messing around. Whenever someone asks me if I fancy person A, I never know what to say beca...
A. 30 January 2007: I woulden't go so far as to say all guys are jerks, admittedly there are jerks out there, but there are some nice guys too.
If a guy dosen't like you because you are big, they are not worth it anyway. Find someone who likes you for who you are.... (read in full...)
What do I get a 31 year old man for Valentine's Day?
Q. What kind of things would a 31 year old man like for valentines day?? any help would be appreachiated xxx...
A. 30 January 2007: It really does depend on what his interests are. Without knowing this i would say aftershave, or a nice bottle of wine.... (read in full...)
What can I do about my embarassing gas problem? It's painful and is ruining my social life!
Q. Right I know you'll all probably laugh at this but quite a serious question. Does anyone else feel that hours after they've eaten dinner or through the night/next morning they need to let off a lot of gas? See this is becoming quite a problem for me ...
A. 29 January 2007: Yes if you feel a bout of the f***s coming, and you have company, or your in bed with your boyfriend, head for the toilet and let rip in there.
Maybe change what you are eating, stay clear of gassy things and see if this helps.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I love him - I don't even know if he's seeing anyone!
Q. how do you tell a guy you like them you know its love as you cant get him out of your head and well your always thinking of him and what to be with him but he is older than you and well your not sure whether he is seeing someone please help me i ...
A. 29 January 2007: You sound like your feelings for this guy are quite strong. Without knowing what sort of situation you two are in, whether you work together, or you go out in the same group of friends together, whatever. I suggest you flirt with him to make your ... (read in full...)
Keeping my distance from him has only made my heart grow fonder! What do I do?
Q. I'm 21 and I think I'm in love with this man who is quite a bit older than me, I dont know what to do because when I see him my heart totally goes out to him, but he is married. I talked to some of my friends about it, and one of them keeps telling ...
A. 29 January 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen, stay away from this guy he is a married man. Chances are he won't leave his wife, and you will end up as his bit on the side.
Go for a single guy, there are lots out there.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
I feel like she could find someone better than me. Is this normal?
Q. Im scaried of losing her even though shes told me "she loves me". I believe that she loves me. I think i have a number of annoying things about my personality and i can't shake the feeling im not good enough for my girlfriend and that she will leave ...
A. 29 January 2007: Right, you are going out with a girl, you love her, and she loves you, so whats the problem?.
I think you are thinking things that are not even there. If your going round thinking she is going to leave you, or you are not good enough, these sort... (read in full...)
He wants to meet me but I told him such outrageous, huge lies about myself...how do I deal with this?
Q. hi, i've been speaking to a guy off the internet for almost 2 years, first we text for almost a year then we progressed to talking on the phone, over the past few weeks we've got really close and now this guy wants too meet me, which under normal ...
A. 28 January 2007: The best way to start any relationship of friendship is to tell the truth and be honest. If you start on a lie, you will be telling a lie to cover up a lie, and it just spirrals out of control.
I think if you like this guy tell him the truth an... (read in full...)
I love him but having serious doubts about marrying him..what should I do?
Q. im deaply in love with my fiance. we have been together for over 5years. our plans to get married are underway but i am started to get cold feet and have my doubts about becoming his wife. we have our problems like other relationships, but we always ...
A. 28 January 2007: The only person who knows whether you are ready to marry your fiance is you. Alot of people get cold feet with a wedding looming, this is natural. However it sounds like you are having serious doubts, so i would put it off untill you are 100% ... (read in full...)
I have fallen for one of the managers where I work!!
Q. I'm 21 and the guy i like is 31. Him and i get along great. He is a manager in a different departmant in the store that i work at so hes not my manager. Well since i talk to him alot someone had 2 get in the middle of my business and i know who...
A. 26 January 2007: It sounds like he does have a thing for you, but as the other posts say, don't get involved with him untill you know for sure he has finished with his live in girlfriend.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my 'double chin' without surgery? Any suggestions?
Q. I’m in my late 20s and not overweight, but I’ve noticed I’m getting a double chin! I’m developing low self esteem because of this. Does anyone know of a product I can buy for my double chin w/out surgery, or any exercises I can start doing. I’m in s...
A. 26 January 2007: I have found i started to get a double chin a couple of years back, and the excercises i adopted are not unlike the ones CD mentions.
But the one for me i found most effective is to tilt your head back and try to get you bottom lip as far up your ... (read in full...)
I slept with my manager but later found out he was married! I'm gutted! Everyone at work is gossiping! Help!
Q. Hi, My problem is I have recently started a new job about two months ago, which was going really well. However at the Christmas party I ended up sleeping with one of the managers. This was made worse by the fact that he is married and is alot old...
A. 26 January 2007: In any work environment no matter where you are you are always going to get gossips. After a while the gossip will die down.
However i think you are going to find it quite difficult having to see this manager guy day in and day out, knowing what... (read in full...)
My friends all have bfs and I'm feeling left out. How do I meet people?
Q. Hi, it's quite depressing really, all my best friends have boyfriends but I don't. They spend loads of time with them and I always seem to be left out, I REALLY want one and there's loads of people I like, but they don't like me back. I really want ...
A. 25 January 2007: Slow down abit, you are still only very young, there is all the time in the world to meet people. relax go out, and have fun.
If all your mates are taken, why not do an activity after school, start a hobby that you enjoy.
Your friends are ... (read in full...)
He's showing all the signs of liking me but we're both really shy. Do you think he actually likes me though?
Q. Does he like me? He's in the same group of friends as me, so we see each other quite often. He'll often sit next to me or stand near me, or follow me into a different room. He often looks at me from across the room and smiles at me, and when we're ...
A. 24 January 2007: It sounds like this guy likes you, he is showing the classic signs of fancying you alot. I think he is shy, maybe he is scared of rejection, maybe he is generally a shy person.
Do the two of you work together?
Help him along abit and suggest... (read in full...)
Gf left me for someone she just met! What can I do?
Q. What can i do when my girlfriend of 6years leaves me for someone whom she just met??...
A. 24 January 2007: I knows its hard being dumped, espesially after a six year relationship.
You have got to pick yourself up and move on, whats done is done.
I agree with ponungahungh, you would be better getting out there and finding someone new.
Good luck ... (read in full...)
My uncle is touching me inappropriately and offering me money! What should I do?
Q. Hello. My uncle has been touching me up around the chest area and i don't know what to do. He also keeps texting and asking to see me and offering me money. My Ex-Boyfriend has given me a few choices as follows. - Tell police. - ...
A. 22 January 2007: You diden't say how old you were, but its sexual abuse whatever age you are.
You need to nip this in the b**t right now, other wise it will just continue.
Do as your boyfriend says and tell the police.
Good luck x... (read in full...)
My friend tells my secrets so I stopped sharing them w/ her. Now she's angry about it!
Q. Well I have a bit of friend trouble!! I've got a friend called "Mary" and i cant trust her!! If I have a secret or something thta I dont want anyone to know and I tell her and tell her not to tell anyone! The first thing she does after is tell ...
A. 22 January 2007: She has no right to have a go at you for keeping things from her. After all you have very good reason to. You have told her things in the strictest of confidence, and she has gone behind your back and told other people.
tell her you are upset bu... (read in full...)
How do I change my screen name on this site?
Q. how do i change my screen name on dear cupid?...
A. 21 January 2007: Yeh i have tried to do this, but i could not find a way to do it, even when you go into your column, or your account there is nothing there to do it.
I reckon the only way is obtain another Email address and register again, using a different user... (read in full...)
I have an eating problem and really hate myself. It's affecting my sex life..what can I do?
Q. Hi Everyone Can you help me please? I have a wonderful husband we will be married 4 years this May. But the problem is me. I have no confidence in myself. I have an eating problem and really hate myself. I feel fat and unattractive. E...
A. 21 January 2007: I think this is an issue between you, and only you. You have a husband of four years that loves you very much, and thinks you are beautiful.
You are 7 stone 12, which is no weight atal, alot of women would give their right arm to be this size.
Yo... (read in full...)
If a girl fancies you, does that mean that they find you good looking/handsome/sexy?
Q. If a girl fancies tyou, does that mean that they find you good looking/handsome/sexy? Thanks!...
A. 21 January 2007: I know people say its whats inside that counts, but i think the first initial attraction is looks, then personality comes later.
I would say that in answer to your question, yes if she fancies you she finds you handsome, but as CD says she coul... (read in full...)
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