How do I move on from this? I feel my boyfriend was really out of line!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years, he is generally quite a loving and doting boyfriend but very headstrong and stubborn in his beliefs that results in my concerns always not being heard in the relationship. Recently, as w...
A. 1 September 2021: In the two years that you have been together has he ever given you any reason for you to distrust him?. Do you get jealous if he is even remotely near someone of the opposite sex?.
You may get varied answers on this, but my view is he really n... (read in full...)
My bf says he was drinking alone but then what was the deal with all those cups and glasses?
Q. I dropped in on my boyfriend of 2 years unexpectedly after a night he was drinking. When I walked into the lounge he had two cups out and two small glasses but says he was drinking alone. Wee have a good relationship and there isn't any other ...
A. 1 September 2021: He has not given you any other reason for you to suspect he is up to no good so i agree you should not accuse him if he has done nothing wrong.
The extra cups could simply be from the previous day that he just has not taken out the the kitchen ... (read in full...)
I fear my long time boyfriend has a hidden iPhone that he uses to communicate with another woman but he keeps denying it. What do I do?
Q. Hi. I am hoping everyone here could provide me with some advice. I am very upset with my long time boyfriend and I am deciding on whether I need to continue this relationship. He and I have been living together for 3 months and together for 8 y...
A. 1 September 2021: I think that the trust barrier has been broken, you are convinced he is chatting to others on another phone, you are already contemplating him leaving you for the person he is supposedly chatting too.
The emotions and feelings you are having a... (read in full...)
Boyfriend and I worked for same company. He got fired and is now pressuring me to quit
Q. Hello, I have been with my partner for almost two years, were engaged. I work for a pretty good company I actually got him hired were I worked. I have been with the company for 3 years. The company I work put me in a manager training class w...
A. 1 September 2021: I have to question why you are actually with this guy?. His is pompous, ego driven, and total disrespect to you and all around him, and is not a team player.
This is not the way to get on in business and be successful.
Should you quit because... (read in full...)
He claims he loves me but I really don't know if his love for me is based on what I provide for him
Q. Hello, My boyfriend and I have been together for about 2 years now. He claims he loves me but I really don't know if his love for me is based on what I provide for him. He bought some land and now needs financial assistance with it. O...
A. 1 September 2021: You are his go to only when he wants financial assistance, when he does not get this his true colour's come out, and as you have seen his true colour's are not very nice.
I'm sorry to say that this is no different to the posts we get where so... (read in full...)
I know his kids will come first and I wouldn’t want it any other way but where do I fit in?
Q. Can you aunts and uncles give me some advice on dating a man with kids? I’ve been dating a man for about two month, we both have a lot of work commitments due to the job we do so this gives little time to meet up. He also has two children to diff...
A. 1 September 2021: This relationship is still very much in its infancy and you are asking where you fit in with him and his children.
He is doing his father duties as he should be doing, so you will of course fit in around holidays and work.
I don't know how o... (read in full...)
My wife was crying on our wedding day because she was thinking about her ex!!
Q. I got married almost a month ago. My wife and I have been together for three years and known each other for five. She had just gotten out of a seven year relationship when we met. He was her first love and they broke up because he was on drugs and ...
A. 1 September 2021: She has had a considerable amount of time to get over this breakup and to heal. After all this time she decides to tell you on what is supposed to be the most special day of your lives that she is crying over an ex, which also implies that she is ... (read in full...)
I don’t know if I should stick with my boyfriend or leave
Q. Hey Cupid’s, I’ve been feeling a certain way with my boyfriend a while now that things aren’t quite right. We live together and although we love and respect each other in certain ways. I don’t know if I can see myself growing old with him and fee...
A. 1 September 2021: Even though you love and respect him i feel that in terms of a future relationship you are a million miles apart.
I think the initial attraction of when you first met has worn away and you can now see things in a more clearer perspect... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to make rules for my cheating boyfriend?
Q. I’ve recently taken back my boyfriend after he cheated on me. Am I right in telling him he can’t go out with his mates because I think they are a bad influence on him? The last thing I’d ever want to be is a controlling partner as I cannot STAN...
A. 1 September 2021: At the end of the day, no matter how you dress this up he cheated on you.
He knew what he was doing, he made a choice knowing he had a girlfriend, but he still chose to have a kiss and a fumble, and in my book that's cheating.
He has broken... (read in full...)
My wife complains often and does little
Q. How do I get my wife to stop complaining about things that don't seem to exist? I have been married for 15 years. The last 7 years it's been a battle. Honey I can't get off the couch my stomach hurts too much, honey my head is hurting. I offe...
A. 31 August 2021: Something is not right with her for sure. I suggest you book an appointment with your doctor and he may suggest some things that may help, or steer you on the right path regarding getting help.
Has she worked in the past?. Maybe finding employme... (read in full...)
My younger boyfriend hangs out with his friends every day
Q. Hi my boyfriend is 30 and I'm 40. Hes still hangs out ALOT with friends, on a daily basis. I usually keep quiet about it but we have no alone time really. Just when we sleep basically. We have been together for over a year, I thought maybe it...
A. 31 August 2021: I think if he really wanted to spend time with you and be with you then he would. Probably not what you want to hear but i just think he is not as in to you as you are him.
I don't think this is going to change anytime soon, and yes i think th... (read in full...)
Do you think my husband's sexual preference makes him bisexual?
Q. Dear cupid My husband of 3 years told me yesterday he likes having dildo/vibrator in his ass, and this started when he was a teenager.the thing is its freaking me out that he might be bisexual, I asked and he said no. I did play it cool when he ...
A. 22 August 2021: It has taken him quite a long time to divulge that he likes this, and i assume were were together for quite a while before you got married.
I don't think that this makes him gay or Bi, he just enjoys the feeling of it, and has also been doing th... (read in full...)
How do I deal with a clingy girlfriend?
Q. Hi everyone How do I deal with a clingy gf? Little background. We have been together for about 2 years. In the beginning she didn't appear clingy. This last year she certainly has been. If I don't see her, theres an argument, if I d...
A. 22 August 2021: I know you say that you love her, but there really is only so much of this sort of behaviour one person can take, we all have our breaking points.
I think the way she is making you feel is unhealthy for both of you. I'm not sure she is ready to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend demanded a new phone from me, got it, and then told me that I'm stingy and petty
Q. Hi and thanks! My boyfriend and I have been together almost 2 years. I recently purchased a new cell, it was well needed as my other one was old and not functioning properly. My bf decided he should also have a new one, at my expense. I was ...
A. 22 August 2021: You have been together for two years, has he shown signs of this kind of behaviour during this time?.
You went out of you way to get him a phone, when really he should be getting it himself, he is a grown man after all.
He was expecting a bran... (read in full...)
He used me for money and is still trying to contact me
Q. Good day! So here is my story and please I'm not coming here to be bashed. Cause I'm very aware I made bad choices. I met a man online 1 year ago. He was incredibly sweet, charismatic, caring. We talked for many months before I actuall...
A. 19 August 2021: Its good that you are aware that you made bad choices. This guy was a scammer who latches on to people being very nice and charming, but is only after money.
If he peruses the internet if out of 50 people only one is willing to entertain him he h... (read in full...)
Does his Porn Past matter?
Q. Hi Cupids here’s one for you. I’ve been chatting to a guy for a few weeks on Snapchat and I really fancy him loads, but he’s just confessed that he used to be a porn star. We met in a club a few weeks ago, swapped details and have been chatting al...
A. 19 August 2021: Like you say everyone has a past there is no getting away from that. I think this will only be a problem if you let it.
If you said he was still doing it now and wanted to date you at the same time then i could see how you would be upset by this.... (read in full...)
Why has she ruined what was, or seemed a happy relationship?
Q. I`ve been living with my partner in her house for 6 months. During this time we`ve had a couple of ups and downs as I`ve stumbled upon internet activity with dating sites and found her to have dating apps on her phone. Each time denying doing ...
A. 19 August 2021: She has betrayed your trust the first time around, to which she convinced you she was innocent.
Then you find this secret phone where she has been exchanging explicit messages with other men, so she has betrayed your trust again.
You say... (read in full...)
Do you think there is any possible explanation to justify the pictures?
Q. Hi! So my girlfriend said she went to the museum with 2 friends and posted some photos to social media. However the reflections in the glass in the photos are weird. Firstly there was one of her holding a guys arm when he posed for a photo, so...
A. 17 August 2021: I also received a message in my inbox not happy with the answer given.
Not sure why OP has resulted to messaging people privately on an open forum, but i think the post was never really very clear from the beginning. What OP wrote in my pers... (read in full...)
A deleted contact (a woman) has reappeared on my husband’s phone contacts list after she was deleted in June!
Q. Hi everyone. I’m at a loss right now. And I need your help. I have been with my husband for 8 years. I was a single mom when we met. He has embraced my son and generally he has been good to me. The relationship is not perfect and it is rocky at t...
A. 17 August 2021: In the beginning of your post you seemed sure she was a 13 year old girl, but then at the end of your post you don't seem certain.
There is something not right about all of this, and you are right to feel the way you do.
I think that his r... (read in full...)
Did I handle things in the wrong way dealing with my relatives?
Q. My cousin, Brooke, came out of the closet a few years ago, and her parents stop all communications with her. Brooke had to go to therapy due to the depression she had, which her parents were mostly to blame. Her own mother told Brooke "As far as I ...
A. 17 August 2021: I do not think that you did anything wrong whatsoever, infact it shows that you are a person who stands up for what you believe in.
You felt right saying what you did, you said it in a polite way and got your point across, and i disagree with the... (read in full...)
Boyfriend spending all his time w a couple. Weird?
Q. My boyfriend of fifteen years off and on has been spending an unusual amount of time with a couple that he calls friends.the cute younger girl and him are very flirty and are very close. The girls boyfriend now husband seams oblivious to this. I ...
A. 16 August 2021: Listen to your intuition, your gut feelings because these are normally right.
It does seem odd that he is spending a lot of time there, especially if they are flirting and sending messages as well.
You have asked to take you there to prove h... (read in full...)
Do you think there is any possible explanation to justify the pictures?
Q. Hi! So my girlfriend said she went to the museum with 2 friends and posted some photos to social media. However the reflections in the glass in the photos are weird. Firstly there was one of her holding a guys arm when he posed for a photo, so...
A. 16 August 2021: I think that this is your insecurity to deal with. She can't justify it because there is nothing to justify, its a distorted reflection, but by your own admission you say that you can't quite see. It could very well be a distorted pic of another ... (read in full...)
I feel like I would drop plans with my friends in a heartbeat for him but he wouldn’t do the same for me
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now and its going better then good he’s the most loving and caring man I’ve ever met. We love each other and everyday he goes above and beyond for me to make me feel special and loved. I had a very rough ...
A. 16 August 2021: By your own admission you are both only 27 and still young with your whole lives ahead of you.
I think its normal and natural to want to stay in touch with friends and go out with them for a catch up. I actually think that this is healthy ... (read in full...)
Is a 17 year age gap to much?
Q. Is a 17 year age gap too big? I’ve being dating a man who’s 17 year older than me. He’s got three kids to two different women. He’s never been married and I don’t know what went wrong with the two ex’s. It’s early days so I don’t want to ask too ...
A. 16 August 2021: I agree with the other aunts that have previously answered, i don't think this is about the age gap at all.
In answer to your question anyway, if a couple love each other, both are over the legal age of consent, and more importantly neither ... (read in full...)
I can't forget about the foreplay. Is this normal?
Q. I have a question. Is it normal that I can't forget about the foreplay? Because honestly, he is my first boyfriend at my twenties and the first time someone kissed me on the LIPS!!!!!!! And I really liked it. Also, he is the first one who touched ...
A. 16 August 2021: Yes this is very normal, its your first time so of course you are going to think about it.
Its good you stuck at foreplay and never rushed into full blown sex.
Only progress in to sex when you are ready, if it does not feel right do not go ... (read in full...)
Scared my boyfriend will lose interest
Q. I am scared that my boyfriend (18M) is gonna get bored of me (16F) before telling abt my problem we do a long-distance relationship we call/ft pretty much everyday. my boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 months and we start school very soon we ...
A. 16 August 2021: I know its hard, but you should stop living in fear of he may lose interest in you or not. Life is to short for worry's like this, especially at your tender age.
Things may very well change, he may get get busy with studies, as will you also.
... (read in full...)
Things were great, then suddenly she blocked me
Q. Hey all and first off, thanks for taking the time to review my situation. So this started a little under a month ago, me and this woman I met through the internet have been chatting 24/7 every day. Met up a couple times and hit it off. Things ...
A. 15 August 2021: She has blocked you, i would not even bother trying to investigate the reasons why.
She has either just lost interest or met someone that she prefers more than you, and never had the courtesy to be up front and tell you.
Typical inter... (read in full...)
I feel I am being used as a sugar mama
Q. Hello! So my boyfriend and I have been together just over two years. We get together 2 or 3 times per month. Hes usually pretty good to me but also seems entitled and expects the best. For bdays as an example he thinks it's good to give him ...
A. 12 August 2021: OP read your post back to yourself and see what you think. I feel we are going to be telling you what you already know, which is fine.
He is a user, and a loser, and you know in your heart of heart that you can do so much better. You need to ... (read in full...)
Pornography has made husband a one minute man
Q. My husband's porn watching has become abnormal,he's now a minute man in bed.we've been married 4 2years.what should i do...
A. 12 August 2021: I think i just answered your previous question, so the fact that he is using porn is certainly a contributing factor to why your sex life is suffering.
He has become addicted to the porn, which is fine if you are a single person, but within a... (read in full...)
Husband isn't satisfying me in bed
Q. My husband isnot satisfying me in bed,what help and advice do you give.should i quit him....
A. 12 August 2021: Looking at your age bracket your marriage is still only in its infancy. This is very early on to be talking out problems in the bedroom.
I agree with FA, i think communication is the key here.
Also knowing each others likes and dislikes, ea... (read in full...)
I just found out someone I briefly dated was dating his now wife
Q. Hello Not sure how to process this. I just found out someone I briefly dated was dating his now wife. I feel angry and used. I would never ever date someone taken. The fact that I was an unknowing participant hurts me. Actually the last time I s...
A. 12 August 2021: I know its not made you feel good, and you feel used and betrayed, but as YCBS pointed out you need to draw a line under this and move on. Keep holding on to it and dwelling on it is not healthy, you need to think to yourself that you dodged a ... (read in full...)
Could be have been going inside me and still leave some outside?
Q. I have been having sex regularly with my boyfriend over Summer break. Normally, he will pull out and go over my stomach or on the sheets below me. The last few weeks he has started to push deeper before pulling out but still leaving a mess o...
A. 12 August 2021: You are potentially 13 years old and to young to be doing such things.
Surely at you age you have some form of basic education as to what can happen if you do things like this.
He should of worn protection. By not doing so you now run the risk... (read in full...)
Dilemma to tell friend I like her
Q. Hi Everyone! So basically i have feelings for a girl, but she is my good friend. We've known each other for more than a year, have a lot in common, get along very well etc. we did not meet through a dating app and bonded initially through a shared...
A. 12 August 2021: Like previous girls you have know before could not tell if you liked them or were being friendly, maybe that is the case with this girl.
I think if something is going to happen between the pair of you it will happen, and will happen graduall... (read in full...)
He will be nice for awhile then ask for money, when I say no it's like a different person
Q. Hi, and thanks! So my boyfriend and I have been together about 3 years. When it's good it's great, when it's bad, its horrible! He has mood swings. Mostly money related. He will be okay when he has money, but if hes broke he acts like a chil...
A. 12 August 2021: I think your friends are right, he has stuck around because you were generous to him in the beginning. You were probably the only one that would give him the time of day, and how does he repay you, by being mean and disrespectful to you.
You a... (read in full...)
I think this girl likes my boyfriend
Q. Hi everybody. Some advice please. There's this girl that I just noticed. I've been observing her behaviour. I noticed her looking at my boyfriend. At first, I thought it was nothing because maybe she looks at him out of curiosity or something els...
A. 11 August 2021: By your own admission your boyfriend is charming, and is also a drummer so of course he is going to attract a lot of attention from the opposite sex.
I think it all boils down to trust at the end of the day. Trust is the most important factors ... (read in full...)
Does wife want a threesome or just role play?
Q. I have been happily married with my wife for many years. Sex is good. Sometimes it is romantic, other times is primal and erotic. We often flirt with the idea of a threesome, but more just role play as I think she is too conservative to follow ...
A. 10 August 2021: This is a fantasy, and that is exactly how it should stay, a fantasy that goes no further than that.
Have a look over previous posts where couple have brought in a third party and you will observe the fact that a good majority of them never en... (read in full...)
Why do I desire her so much when I know in reality is 100% a never?
Q. Why do I desire her so much when I know in reality is 100% a never?...
A. 10 August 2021: I don't know the reasons why she is a 100% never, but i'm guessing this is a lust feeling, rather than a feeling of love.
Feeling's of lust tend to be short lived and will eventually fade away and diminish.
If she is a forbidden fantas... (read in full...)
Partner in his 40s wants to go clubbing
Q. How do I settle down that my partner in his late 40s still wants to go clubbing? Wee have been together for 2 years and before he met me his life was work and then party every weekend. Which is fair enough he was a single guy, no responsibility o...
A. 10 August 2021: I'm also suprised that he want to do this as this is something that most people did in their late teens early 20's. I know i did during these times as well, but the thought of clubbing now seems rather odd to me.
Maybe if its a special occasion... (read in full...)
Are either of these guys right for me?
Q. Hello. I am confused over two men in my life, and am not sure if either is right for me. I was in a relationship for several months and it ended earlier this year. He was always too busy with work to be there for me, even when I had to go into h...
A. 10 August 2021: I don't think that either of these guys are right for you, and i think in your hearts of hearts you already know this.
The first boyfriend was always to busy to have anytime for you, even when you were in hospital he could not bring himself ... (read in full...)
Do I say how I feel or remain quiet but regret it?
Q. Hey everyone, I’m in need of some help! So a few years back I was chatting to this boy ok Twitter (weird I know) but we lost contact due to me getting in a relationship and me living far away at the time. Fast forward and I’m out of my relationship ...
A. 10 August 2021: I think that to save yourself from any upset and heartache i would refrain from declaring your feelings to him.
I think that you are lusting after him,the feelings of lust can sometimes be confused with feelings of love, and tend to be short li... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable when I question my partner on why I haven't met his parents
Q. Am i being unreasonable when I question my partner on why I haven't met his parents. It has started to really bother me. Wee have a good relationship, been on holiday together, he's good with my kid ect. I think I keep myself reasonably well....
A. 10 August 2021: If you had said you has only been with him a couple of months i would have said its still quite early on in the relationship and he is holding back to see if this relationship turns into something serious, but two years of not meeting his family is ... (read in full...)
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