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writes:This past summer, my wife, kids, and I went on vacation with my in-laws. We shared a lovely condo on the beach. Since we were at the beach, I went shirtless most of the time and typically just wore my swim shorts or athletic shorts with no underwear around the condo.I generally sleep naked, and one night after I had gotten into bed (naked as usual), my wife asked me if I would get her some water. I knew my mother in law was still out in the living area (she's a night owl), but I know she's not a prude, so when I went out there I warned her that I wasn't wearing anything. She was on her laptop and she said she wouldn't look. I told her I didn't care, I just didn't want her to be uncomfortable. My wife and I have been together for years, so I've known my MIL for a long time (ever since we started dating), and I've come to really like her a lot and I feel very comfortable around her, but have never been naked in front of her before. I really liked the experience, even though she didn't look at me (as far as I know).A couple of nights later, I decided to go out to the kitchen to get some water, and I didn't bother putting any clothes on even though I knew she would probably be out there. Sure enough, she was and I didn't give her any warning this time. We made small talk, and when she realized I was naked, she kind of covered her eyes for a second, but then took them down and we resumed our conversation. She walked over to the counter to get something, so she was to my side, and I saw her checking me out. I didn't care, as it's only natural to check someone out when seeing them naked for the first time.For the record, my wife knows about this whole incident and she doesn't mind. She said her mom isn't a prude, and it's fine with her for her mom to see me naked.My relationship with my MIL hasn't changed one bit. If I continue to allow her to see me naked, is that inappropriate? Should I discuss it with her and make sure she doesn't mind? I just want to get feedback because I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, but at the same time I love being naked as much as possible.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  + ♥, writes (24 March 2021):
 Given your age, I am probably of a similar age to your MIL. I am definitely no prude but there are boundaries that people usually acknowledge as a mark of respect to others. One of those is throwing on a covering if other people are around, even if it's only a pair of shorts.
I would love to speak to your MIL privately to find out exactly how she feels about her SIL parading around naked in front of her. Don't take advantage of her easy going nature. Show some respect. I very much doubt she is 100% comfortable with having your genitals blowing in the breeze for her to see. You are her daughter's husband, not hers. I would recommend you act accordingly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2021): OP here. Thanks for the responses, everyone. I'll take them to heart. Guess I needed a wake up call and I certainly appreciate it.
No worries about me becoming a flasher though. I'm just a closet nudist and only feel comfortable to be nude around family. I guess I'll spare the MIL though.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2021): Typo correction:
"Save intimacy for your wife."
P.S.
What's even worse is how you're trying to make something innocent out of it. You're an exhibitionist, dude!
What's next, streaking through the neighborhood? Wearing nothing but a trench-coat, shoes, and your birthday suit when you do the grocery shopping? Flashing old-ladies in the park? These are rhetorical questions, not suggestions!
Man, get a grip! Show your wife and MIL some respect! Your junk is for your wife's eyes only. Let your mother-in-law look at her own husband's dingaling!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2021): Why can't you put on a robe when you know you have guests?
It's inappropriate! Save intimacy for you wife.
The exhibitionism and struting around in-front of your mother-in-law has nothing to do with improving your relationship. You're getting your jollies!
Come-on guy! Cover your junk around your MIL! You're not giving her a choice, you're just flaunting your ding-dong all over the place!
NO!!! I don't believe your wife or your MIL is okay with it! It was novel at first, now it's just crass!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2021): Hi
The truth is you are getting off on it and almost asking for justification from others because your wife is ok with it, your mother in law has not complained and you are at peace with it. Come on! the only person you fail to mention is papa in law, what does he think? You do state that you went on holiday with Inlaw..S.
I think it's a cheap thrill and you can't fool people.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2021): Women do not think or feel like men do. Men often love to see naked women. Women do not generally like to see naked men. The penis is not a thing of beauty, nor does the sight of it turn us on. The opposite in fact. We have to be in love with or fancy someone greatly to happily embrace the sight of a dangling member. If you think you are pleasing your mother in law, I would think again. I would say you are embarrassing yourself.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (23 March 2021):
 I think if i was at that condo and i was going to get a drink of water knowing that a female family member was still up, it would just be an instant reaction to put on a robe, or a pair of pants or boxer shorts at the very least.
I think you enjoy it, and i think you want subsequent scenarios of her seeing you naked.
She does not seem the person to say anything, but the fact she covered her eyes in the beginning tells me she was a little embarrassed by the whole thing.
I know this is a condo on the beach, and likely very warm. Would you do this if you was at her house where she lives, and just casually stroll around her house naked?.
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reader, mystiquek + ♥, writes (23 March 2021):
 I know this may come as a shock to some men but many ladies do not find the totally naked male body attractive. I'm one of those ladies. I find leaving a little to the imagination is FAR more attractive. I would be dismayed and certainly turned off if my son in law walked out stark naked in front of me. I'm not a prude. Its called RESPECT. Keep your kinky ideas of being naked in front of someone outside the realm of your mother in law. She may just be too cool to say anything to you but the odds are, she'd rather NOT see you naked. SHAME ON YOU!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2021): I have a question OP. Is your MIL ATTRACTIVE? Young (ish) for her AGE? Are you sexually attracted to her in secret? You will need to admit the truth here. Are you turned on by her looking at you? It seems obvious you have some sort of a fetish going on here. Why not join a nudist colony? And walk around there? Find like minded people. Or talk to someone about why you love being naked in front of others. I think you are imposing yourself on your MIL. I agree with Honeypie. I think she is being polite. I would do the same thing. But I would definitely be much more shocked if my son in law did that to me. And I would tell him to put his clothes on. Honestly, I would find it INAPPROPRIATE. And how could it NOT change a relationship after seeing somebody naked? You might be lying to yourself. Just to give yourself the green light to keep indulging in what makes you feel good, at the expense of other's feelings. I would stop this behavior. I can't imagine your wife being okay with it unless she is trying to also be polite. Like mother, like daugther.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (23 March 2021):
 I think you could ask her (be dressed while you ask, ok?) and then tell her that you don't mind putting on a pair of shorts if she is more comfortable with that. DO NOT tell her that you enjoy her gawking. That is creepy!
Personally? I think it's just FAR more polite and decent to throw on a pair of shorts not PRESUME that others want to indulge in your little fettish.
My guess is she will say no worries, it's OK - because she doesn't want to be perceived as a prude or make waves but honestly? I think most women would find it a bit offputting. Your dick isn't something amazing that women, in general, want to see.
Think of what you are doing as UNSOLICITED dick pics. Hardly appropriate.
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