Why did she act this way? A boyfriend back home?
Q. Hi everyone I just wonder what people think about a situation I've found myself in as my instincts are telling me one thing and I'd just like to know if anyone comes to the same conclusion. I met a girl a few months ago, we got along really ...
A. 19 November 2021: I can't help but feel that the reason she was acting like this was your feelings for her and stronger than what hers were for you.
She sounds very complicated, serious, and rather secretive. To not want to have a drink with you in fear that she... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship and I can't keep the closeness feeling
Q. This is so obvious a problem, that I should know how to deal, but Covid and all the isolation, etc. has so blunted my feelings that I'd like to ask for help. Basically, my boyfriend has been working 1,000 miles away for several years no...
A. 19 November 2021: We have got to be realistic here, he has brought a house 1,000 miles away, you are unable to move there, and you have recently met someone else.
In your hearts of hearts you already know what you should do, Like WiseOwlE says, you don't need any... (read in full...)
Soap star won't acknowledge Facebook message
Q. I’m friends with a soap star on facebook, I sent her a friend request as a joke and it backfired on me as she accepted the request. I’ve tried to talk to her a few times. she doesn’t seem to respond and only sees messages I send and doesn’t reply. ...
A. 19 November 2021: Just be thankful she accepted your request, you should be really happy with that.
She probably is bombarded with messages all day every day, she can't respond to them all, its nothing to do with you, she is a soap star and very busy i should i... (read in full...)
Is My girlfriend taking me for a fool?
Q. Hi guys, you’ll have to bear with me on this one. It’s complicated to say the least. Just before Christmas last year my girlfriend cheated on me with another man. She aborted his baby as well just to add to the mess. I found out back in September ...
A. 19 November 2021: I know that you still love her, so your finding it really hard to let go even despite everything that she has done to you. But in all honesty i think your best bet would be to run for the hills and try to get over her.
I agree i think there is... (read in full...)
My wife won't go topless at a nude brach
Q. my wife and I have been to nude beaches and she likes looking at nude men and I would like her to take herr top off but she refuses...I don't understand why...
A. 15 November 2021: Who know's why, maybe she is not as comfortable with her body as she was in her younger years.
Does she give you an explanation when you ask her?.
At the end of the day you just have to respect her wishes. ... (read in full...)
I am insecure about mty partner still being close to 2 exs
Q. How can you tell if you're seeing red flags, or you're just blowing things out of proportion because you're scared... and you've doubted yourself from the very start of your relationship? I've been insecure in my relationship (of approx 2 years a...
A. 15 November 2021: Personally i think that there are just two many red flags surrounding this relationship.
There are more reasons to end this relationship for good and walk away than there are reasons to stay.
He has lied to you a few times now, and as a co... (read in full...)
How can we help our daughter with dating?
Q. My daughter is 16, and she came out as lesbian during the pandemic to us, in May 2020 when she was 15. We've no issue with her sexuality. What the issue we feel we're struggling to help her with is finding a partner, as she's asked us for hel...
A. 15 November 2021: To be honest with regards to your initial question, helping your daughter find a partner i would say don't treat it any differently to if she was dating a male or female, dating is dating, a relationship is a relationship whether its two women, two ... (read in full...)
How can I tell if a married man has feelings foe me?
Q. dear cupid, How can I tell if a married man has feelings for me or is just being kind and caring to a lonely, single, bereaved woman? We started chatting a year ago and are the same age. He "tested the waters" with me and I said no because ...
A. 15 November 2021: I think that you should steer well clear of him, nothing good will come of keeping him in your life. HE is a married man and will never leave his wife to be with you. I you keep up contact with him you could very well end up being the woman on the ... (read in full...)
I am just not interested in my husband any more
Q. I am married and for whatever reason I am no longer sexual involved with my husband. Lately I’ve been turned off by him and I’ve been stressed out by him. Previously I loved having sex with him on a daily basis. He he usually turned me down and ...
A. 12 November 2021: It sounds like you used to have a healthy sexual relationship. How long have you been feeling this way?.
You say that you are turned off by him, and also stressed by him. With limited information provided here we can only guess as to the reasons ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship but interested in someone else for quite a while. What do I do?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 7 years now, however 3 years ago I signed up to some dating sites and on one I met this woman who lives near by, we talked a bit - obviously me hiding my relationship, and actually met a few times. There was a real ...
A. 12 November 2021: I think you should have walked 3 years ago. I think signing up to a dating site, and then meeting another woman is devious and disrespectful to your current girlfriend of 7 years.
You clearly don't want to be in this relationship, you are stil... (read in full...)
Do I get back together with my ex?
Q. Me and my ex broke up at the beginning of this year. We weren't sleeping together, we were arguing and we just couldn't agree on anything. After lockdown it was a slow build up that tore us apart. Some really bad arguements happened and we really ...
A. 11 November 2021: I think that you are already giving enough reasons in your post as to why it would not be a good idea to get back with him. To name but a few, buy your own admission you say the thought of arguing over the same things and the bad sex are two good ... (read in full...)
He only asked if I wanted a drink but I was horrible to him
Q. I feel really guilty because I was pretty horrible to a guy who gets the same bus as me every day after work. I’d gotten the feeling that he liked me as he’d give me all these glances as we stood at opposite ends of the bus stop each time and then ...
A. 11 November 2021: I do think that what you said to him was rather harsh, and he probably went home rather upset by this.
Whats done is done, you have said it to him now, we can't unsramble scrambled eggs. I think that as you are probably still going to be still se... (read in full...)
I want to meet the guy who saved my life
Q. I really want to meet up with the guy who saved my life last year but he’s really reluctant and I don’t know why. Is he just shy? Most of all I just want to say thank you to him in person but I have to confess I do have more intentions as well, ...
A. 11 November 2021: I'm sorry to hear that you had such a nasty accident, i am really glad you are over the worst of it and on the road to recovery.
This guy saved your life, he is like a hero, a night in shining armour, this is the perception that you have of him n... (read in full...)
Partner spends all his money then gets nasty if I don't give him money
Q. my partner spends half or more of his money every payday on weed and takeaways then he runs out of money and has nothing to eat. when he runs out of money he is horrible to me he expects money from me to eat when im struggling on my own paying for ...
A. 8 November 2021: You need to leave him and get out sooner rather than later. Nothing is going to change anytime soon, and he is certainly never going to change.
You have given it your all, you have tried your very best to support him, but he is beyond help and... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is immature and its annoying
Q. Hi My girlfriend seems immature. We have been chatting for about 6 months and have decided to meet. She hangs on to every word I say and I dislike that very much. Seems everything needs to go her way. For example, we talk on the phone I suggest ...
A. 8 November 2021: You have only been chatting for 6 months, and already you encountering red flags.
She is what she is, we can't change people, and its pointless to even try, she is never going to be the person that you are looking for.
She wants to take th... (read in full...)
My crush was staring at me
Q. I caught my crush staring at me yesterday but he looked away.i still find this amusing.helpplease! What does this mean?...
A. 8 November 2021: Its hard to say from what you have mentioned here. He might like you but is to shy to talk to you, which is why he looked away.
Or he might just be a people watcher, he might have been in a world of his own and never realised he was staring.... (read in full...)
I ended the affair, we are both still married to our spouses and now years later, he wants to be friends. Why?
Q. I had an affair that was emotional for years and then physical for months. I ended it pretty quickly knowing how wrong it was - even leaving my job to get away from him all together. For the past couple of years he has continued to reach out, which ...
A. 8 November 2021: You were lucky to have kept your marriage when you got found out the first time around. Affairs are based on lies, and deviousness, and sneaking around.
He wants more than just friendship which i think you already know. Your mistake was replying... (read in full...)
Why does he want to be friends after the affair?
Q. I had an affair that was emotional for years and then physical for months. I ended it pretty quickly knowing how wrong it was - even leaving my job to get away from him all together. For the past couple of years he has continued to reach out, which ...
A. 8 November 2021: I'm guessing that him establishing contact with you he wants a lot more than the friendship path and that he wants to rekindle what you had before.
As you know having an affair is wrong revolving around lying and cheating. I think that you are ... (read in full...)
Is it over before it even really got started?
Q. I was seeing a male friend. (a) It was slowly progressing friendship. I began talking to another male friend, (B) (b) began to spread rumors about himself and me that we were engaging in sex. That wasn’t true at all. However my first male fr...
A. 5 November 2021: B is not someone you want in your life, he is untrustworthy and likes spreading gossip, now he has possible ruined your chances of getting with A.
Of course he will not rectify his lie and put it right, why would he, and what could he possibly... (read in full...)
I suspect my girlfriend is seeing other guys again but don't know how to approach her
Q. Hi Something is bothering me about my girlfriend recently. we have been together since December 2020 but live in different cities as we are students. We haven't been able to see each other as often as we would like due to covid-19, as des...
A. 3 November 2021: Trust is one of the most important contributing factors in a relationship, without trust a relationship is doomed to fail.
She has already broken your trust and lied to you early on in your relationship, so its only natural that your guard is... (read in full...)
My friend told me we couldn't meet because she was afraid of covid then I see on social media that she was out with friends. Why did she lie to me?
Q. I’m a little confused and hurt by something that happened last week and need advice please. A friend that I’ve know for over 10 years made a lunch date for us. We used to meet up often prior to covid but with restrictions etc… we have seen mes...
A. 3 November 2021: You caught her out hook line and sinker, thanks to social media.
She blew you out with a lame excuse, then goes out and has lunch with her friends, not the sort of friend you want in your life. She knows she was caught out, so this is why she ... (read in full...)
Hi cupids! Should I take him or what u suggest????because of my job
Q. I like my co-worker hes my type(shy)! Ha I think about him¿like dream of him Should i keep it professional OR??? ...
A. 3 November 2021: I always say that with dating people that we work close with on a daily basis can be quite risky.
when things are going well all is rosy and good, but when/if things never worked out things can become quite awkward, not just for the two of you, ... (read in full...)
Is it weird for a doctor to hug you?
Q. Is it weird, inappropriate, or flirting for your doctor to share a warm, longish (3-4 second) hug with you and rub the middle of your back up and down at the same time? When I say doctor, I mean general practioner....
A. 3 November 2021: Without knowing the circumstances of which this took place, and how well you know the GP, and assuming this happened on a visit to the actual practice where he/she works then i would say its not normal for a doctor to get out of his/her chair and ... (read in full...)
Feelings that I don't know how to address
Q. Hi all thanks for taken a moment to read this. I just need some help with a situation I have found myself in. I have a boyfriend we have been together 3 years, we are okay together sometimes. I feel somewhat unloved and not cared for as I should b...
A. 1 November 2021: I don't think that you should tell him anything at this moment in time. You are in a relationship that you have been in for 3 years so at the moment it is wrong that you are even texting someone else.
The right thing here would be to end things w... (read in full...)
I'm married but have to celebrate my birthday alone?
Q. Dear cupid My husband is not keen on celebrating bday. He never celebrates even his bday, but I like bdays esp mine. I always do something special for me ony bday, take a trip or buy expensive stuff for me... We planned to do a trip this year a...
A. 1 November 2021: I don't know why he agreed to going away for your birthday and let you go to all the trouble of booking it all, then let you down at the last minute.
I think to cancel on you then not talk to you is very immature indeed. I don't know how long the... (read in full...)
Feel Like A Toy Should I Leave Him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for a little over a year now, we made our relationship "official" a few months ago. We are in a long distance relationship, living in separate countries. He's never really planned anything for us to do together, like w...
A. 25 October 2021: I think that are to many negatives than positives surrounding this relationship.
I think the best option here would be to end this virtual relationship and move on. It does not seem like he is making too much of an effort to try to make this wor... (read in full...)
I love my husband but I don't know if I should be with him
Q. Hello, I am having some really hard thoughts about my marriage and no one seems to understand. I have been in a relationship with my partner for almost 8 years but we got married this summer (August 19th 2021). We live in his parents house. I wa...
A. 22 October 2021: So i am assuming that the 8 years you were together prior to getting married he was the same person he is now, still doing the same things, no hobbies, and minimal friends, and just work in his life. So i have to ask you why did you go ahead with ... (read in full...)
How do I have sex with my aunt in the bedroom
Q. my aunt has romantic feelings for me and i feel the same way with her, and she keeps staring at me sexually and it kind of turns me on the way she does that. and i wish that we could make love in the bedroom (with protection of course) and as a teen ...
A. 22 October 2021: I would advise leaving this fantasy within the confines of your own mind, and leave it there.
I think that quite possibly you are mistaking the emotions of Aunty/Nephew love and twisting it in your own mind into something sexual, which you and ... (read in full...)
How do I tell the my brothers/sisters I don't have the money to have them for Christmas?
Q. Dear Cupid , I'm a single woman and share a Condo with My Mother in her 60's .. Every Holiday for the past 16 years both My Siblings a Older Brother and a Married Sister with 4 Children have never volentered to have a Holiday at their Home. I ...
A. 22 October 2021: I don't think that it should be down to you every year, and footing all the expense of it as well, this is unfair. Your sister has a huge home with four kids, she also makes more money than any of you.
I think everyone has got into a pattern ... (read in full...)
I miss my crush so much but I probably won’t ever see him again.
Q. My crush got laid off due to covid last week and I miss him so much, I feel like I have a big black hole inside me. I wish I could say I was exaggerating but I really am not. I have rarely had crushes throughout my life, so when I have one it is...
A. 22 October 2021: The thing about crushes is that they don't last forever, infact often short lived.
Soon the feelings that you are feeling right now will dissipate, and things will get easier, you might even start to notice someone else that you are attracte... (read in full...)
My husband wants me to get pregnant by his gay friend
Q. I have been with my husband for 3.5 years, but we've been together for 9 years in total. The big issue here is kids, we both want them, yet my husband has other ideas about how and it's caused arguments. He wants me to sleep with his frien...
A. 21 October 2021: This post is just screaming out, Complications, Complications, and more complications.
Why on earth why would you ever even contemplate doing this, its never going to end well, is no one looking at the bigger picture here?.
Why is your h... (read in full...)
My difficult mother hasn't spoken to me since our disagreement
Q. I have a rough relationship with my mother. Growing up, she's been emotionally and verbally abusive, so as soon as i graduated college and found a job, I moved out, despite her objections. (See my previous questions if you want to understand our ...
A. 20 October 2021: No I don't think that you went to far, and i don't think that you was rude in any way either. You Mum simply expected you to drop your plans and go over and see her regardless, but you stood your ground, so well done you.
Don't feel guilty, ... (read in full...)
Our conversations have quickly escalated into sexting
Q. I approached a guy (call him ALEX) on social media. Alex is the cousin of one of my sister's friend. We didn't know each other then. I wrote to him to say hi. But the convo escalated quickly into about sex. And we sexted. I immediately regretted it ...
A. 20 October 2021: There are too many red flags with this guy and i think you are better off with him out of your life.
Just because he is a research scholar by day does not mean that he can't be a sexual sleaze by night.
It is clear the only thing that he wa... (read in full...)
I’m engaged but still thinking about a holiday romance. Do I stay or leave?
Q. I’m 32 years old, and im engaged to a wonderful man, however just recently I can’t stop thinking about a past love of mine and I hate myself for it. We are due to be married next year, have been together 7 years and we are honestly so good...
A. 18 October 2021: I think you are looking at the relationship with Nick through the memories of a holiday romance. A romance that was short lived but carried with it the great feelings of being on holiday as well.
If you got with him and started a relation... (read in full...)
I just found out my boyfriend use to be a sissy in high-school
Q. I recently discovered that my bf of 1.6 years was a huge sissy back in high school like super feminine. I found from some of his old female friends when I attended his high school reunion with him a few nights ago. They even said he never had a ...
A. 13 October 2021: It was a long time ago, people grow up and change over the years. Most people are completely different from when they were at school, especially when your talking a decade later, or even 15 years.
I think its wrong to judge him by what some peo... (read in full...)
Why not tell me to go and move on
Q. Me and my gf broke up over an argument. First time in 5 years. It was due to her always complaining about money issues. She was not working enough and kept using credit cards which one day I snapped and told her to fix her problems. We both stopped ...
A. 12 October 2021: Its hard to say if she still likes you or not. I'm sure she does as you did have quite a long relationship together.
Most arguments if its not playing away normally boil down to something of a financial nature.
Maybe she is still trying to ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong or overreacting or should I leave
Q. I’m 29 yr old female from Ga and me and my gf have been together for almost 3years now, She has kids but that’s not the issue… She also has this ex who keeps hitting her up and randomly sending how much she still loves her and misses the kids, she ...
A. 12 October 2021: I think that you are right to worry, and no i don't think that you are being insecure. I'm sure if the situation was reversed and you had an ex in your life calling you every day she would not be happy at all, and tell you to get them out of your ... (read in full...)
How can I seduce or flirt with my cousins wife
Q. How can I seduce or flirt with my cousins wife. I have caught her looking at my dick while talking to her.. should I make a move or wait until she makes the first move....
A. 12 October 2021: Probably not the answer you come on here to achieve, but to put it bluntly steer clear of your cousins wife and stop looking at her in a sexual way.
She is married, and he is your cousin, where do your family loyalties lay?. Leave it alone. ... (read in full...)
I haven't dated in awhile and am not sure if I'm picking up the right signals
Q. I've been happily single for a long while by choice but I recently met someone and well...as I've been out of the dating game for a while, I need to know if this guy actually likes me? I first met him a few months ago. He's my landlord's contr...
A. 12 October 2021: Its hard to say if he likes you or not from what you say in your post. He could just have been being friendly and polite as he probably is to everyone.
When he came in he had three of his team there also, so he could of been flirting to try to i... (read in full...)
He shared my intimate photo with somebody else. What do I do?
Q. I sent an intimate photo to the guy I’m dating. You can’t see my face and there’s no full nudity, but it’s implied. Anyway, he was at a bar the other night and he told me this woman kept hitting on him. She wouldn’t leave him alone even thoug...
A. 11 October 2021: I agree with YCBS, i don't think that any malice was meant in what he did. He obviously was not happy about being hit on by a persistent woman who would not leave him alone, so he showed the photo to get rid of her as he knew he was with you.
... (read in full...)
I don’t know if I should stay with him or not, as the more I’m getting to know him, it sounds like everything is all his way or the highway.
Q. I’ve been dating a man who’s older than me. He was all full on with me at the start, I think I was being love bombed looking back on it and he was seeing a future with me. The first couple of months was difficult for us to see each other as h...
A. 11 October 2021: I think that now the rose tinted glasses have come off you are seeing the real him.
I think all the love bombing in the beginning was to reel you in, get you hooked, now he finally has you your seeing the real him, and the real him is not very app... (read in full...)
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