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My age ? Let say that I am way past the stage when you cry if the boy you like takes your best friend to the prom, and young enough to remember how awful that feels.
What qualifies me to help people- well, let me show off just a bit and mention that I studied Psychology 4 years in college, and, even if then I graduated in a different subject, I never lost my interest in psychology and kept reading a lot about this subject. Yet that does not really qualify me for anything because intellectual knowledge is not the same as real life experience. So let's say I feel I can advice people because I have lived a lot, travelled a lot, met a lot of people from all backgrounds , races and religions- I have loved a lot, and I have also been dumped a lot :)
Plus, I am really fascinated with people and their stories. Not in a gossipy way. I just find that every person is a whole new world that I am excited to discover.
Right now I am single- and happily so. I realized- better late than never - that rather than waiting for Prince Charming I should first become a Princess myself. You can't love anybody unconditionally, if first you don't love yourself unconditionally, and this is what I am learning to do.
Looking forward to hear from all of you..
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19 August 2014: Yeah I know : ultimately love is a mystery, not an exact science. There's always an element of sheer luck, of serendipity, of magic in it. Some times you do everything right, by the book, you are the perfect gf / wife / lover .. and you still get ...
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He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 29 July 2016: OK, now let's take this one step further, Now what ? What happens ?
I mean, suppose that instead he actually weren't interested anymore and had moved on. Why would you have to be shocked ? You left him, OP. You said : game over.
When a person d... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 28 July 2016: Ah , OP- again , that's you :). There are a lot of people who embrace the opposite school of thought to yours, i.e. if they aren't over someone, they try to stay clear of him / her. Either because it hurts being around someone you can't have , ... (read in full...)
My married BF says I worry too much that he is going to be unfaithful to me. Is it all my fault?
Q. Hi. I've been dating a married man for 3 years now. We have incredible sex together and lots of fun. We get along very well and are sexually perfect for each other. I care a lot for him. He cares for me. However, my insecurity issues ...
A. 27 July 2016: Well, like you say, you know he is capable of cheating. You know he is capable of looking fr something new when same old same old is not too exciting anymore. And he is capable of telling lies and covering his tracks ( unless he has informed his ... (read in full...)
Nurses are nasty! I'm a nurse facing surgery and fear I'll be treated badly by other nurses!
Q. Im going into hospital soon for small surgery and worried the staff andnurses will treat me badly? The surgeon and anaesthetist know I'm a nurse as my own Dr told them! so now all the staff and nurses will know I am a nurse, I cannot even hide tha...
A. 27 July 2016: I think that you worry more than you should. Note that I am not saying " you worry about nothing " because unluckily the possibility of not receiving the best possible assistence you would have right to, is always a possibility, whether you are a ... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 26 July 2016: Yes, but you are you , and he is another person. Not necessarily you and he will have the same reactions and behaviours in a given situation.
It's not such a bad idea, you know ? , to let him carry on your interactions at a pace and in a way ... (read in full...)
Did it mean anything or was it just the drink?
Q. Hi. I need help to figure out this guy's behavior. We have been friends since a long time now and went out on dates as well. We never had a physical rel but he knew I was into him. He is an introvert and too shy to even ask me out for dates. He ...
A. 26 July 2016: Ah so he is too shy to ask you out on dates, but not shy at all in turning everything from romantic to sexual ?
Strange kind of shyness.
He may be an introvert, in the sense he may not be very effusive, very talkative, - yet it seems to me th... (read in full...)
I dislike my boyfriend because he's low-income and I have to keep providing for him.
Q. Is it wrong for me to dislike my boyfriend because he is low income? I live with both parents who have good jobs and I get allowance. I should be getting a job at the age of 20 but I am in college. My boyfriend is 23 and in college as well but ...
A. 26 July 2016: You should be thinking about the future, and about the present too. You are being taken advantage of, in fact, it ends up that at only 20 years of age, basically you are already got yourself a boytoy. I'd be curious to see if and how long he ... (read in full...)
Did he really want to date me? Or is it the cable that he wanted to watch? How do I hint that I want to go out with him?
Q. Help .... I'm dating a guy who only wants to sit on my sofa and watch tv... How do I hint to him that I want to go out ??? We have been dating a month I have known him for years he is a friend of a cousin , in one month we have only gone out 3 ...
A. 26 July 2016: OP, would you mind to clarify how do you figure that anybody " basically called you a piece of crap ". You refer to poster one, and since I am the first who answered your post I would have assume you mean me - but in this case , all I can say is ... (read in full...)
Did he really want to date me? Or is it the cable that he wanted to watch? How do I hint that I want to go out with him?
Q. Help .... I'm dating a guy who only wants to sit on my sofa and watch tv... How do I hint to him that I want to go out ??? We have been dating a month I have known him for years he is a friend of a cousin , in one month we have only gone out 3 ...
A. 24 July 2016: It may not be the norm but it's not that unusual either. Boring, maybe :). Unusual, not really.
You see, going out to places ( movies, restaurants, concerts etc. ) costs money, and if he pays for you too, it costs double. Not everybody can or W... (read in full...)
He avoids eye contact, it makes me angry!
Q. brief backstory was seeing a guy, became a push and pull relationship, i got sick of it and ended it. went no contact for about 6 weeks until he called to check in on me, saw him in person after that and he shook my hand and wouldn't make ey...
A. 23 July 2016: My guess ( just a guess, because neither I nor the other Aunts can read this guy's mind and know his thoughts ) is that the difference between his friendly phone call as opposed to standoffish behaviour in person is because one thing is doing ... (read in full...)
Is this girl suitable as a LTR girl for me?
Q. We've known each other for two years and we've been starting something (seeing eachothers and sleeping together) for four months. I like her really. I liked her as a person also before, when we were just friends, and she has always captured my ...
A. 23 July 2016: No, leave her alone.
What you are saying in your post- that single people can do whatever they want, and that you do not have a problem with this girls' sexual choices etc.etc.- it's just lip service that you are paying . You say things that... (read in full...)
Almost twice my age, will he freak out if I tell him I find him attractive?
Q. How would men in their late 40s feel if a girl in her mid 20s had feelings and a few x-rated thoughts about them? Would they be repulsed or find it a joke, or be interested in her? Yes I do like a man a bit older and I'm so scared to hell him inca...
A. 23 July 2016: No he won't freak out. A late 40s guy hit on by an attractive 20something lady ?... At most, he will pinch himself to make sure he is not dreaming, and wonder if Xmas came early this year.
But, it depends what you want from him. If you have in m... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that my distant cousin and I share passionate times together? She has a Bf.
Q. I love my distant cousin. We have made love and it feels like the most beautiful thing I have ever done in my life. I don't even feel guilty about it. I have had meaningless sex with other girls before but with her its just amazing and I cuddle her ...
A. 22 July 2016: The taboo is not that she is a DISTANT cousin !, the taboo is that she has a boyfriend and you are helping her to cheat on him.
" Her problem " you will shrug it off " as for me , I am single ".
No, your problem too. You are going to get hurt. If... (read in full...)
Choosing Boyfriend or potential job?
Q. Hi there, I hope you are all well. I am kindly seeking advice for what is for me a big issue and which I keep thinking over. Basically me and my boyfriend have been together for almost four years this December. We met in the beginning of our ...
A. 22 July 2016: So your bf does not like London because it's OLD ?!! I can't imagine how much he'd suffer if he had to live in Rome. But maybe he could blow up the Coliseum and build a multilevel parking lot in its place.
" When a man is tired of London , he is t... (read in full...)
My partner lives in the old days!
Q. both me and my partner both work my partner thinks he lives in the old days thinks its down to the woman to do all the chores and dinner and gardening i feel this is very unfair he wants to get married and im undecided with way our relationship is ...
A. 21 July 2016: He is not old fashioned, he is just lazy.
In the old days women did 100% of house chores... but men provided 100% of the yearly income. And , gardening ? Heavy manual labour ? No way ; male thing.
Until the 50's my grandmother used to have ... (read in full...)
Does he really not realize he was wrong to take off without coming over my house ? Does he believe his own lies?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a month and 1/2 who told me right from the start he is bipolar. At least once a week he will do something such as make plans with me and then just go off with somebody else and not even call me to let me know. He wil...
A. 21 July 2016: Yes we can see you are hellbent in having him back... but when you are "hellbent" on something, often it's the devil who made you do it :)
The good news ... is the same as the bad news, i.e. I don't think either you have seen the last of him.... (read in full...)
He likes rough sex, I don't! Am I being unreasonable or is he?
Q. I recently started a relationship with a guy I met 4 months ago. We went out a few times in the last 4 months before deciding we wanted to give a relationship a go. We recently started having sex and it turns out that he is really into rough sex and ...
A. 20 July 2016: Now I hope you are not going to let him choke you just to show him how caring and selfless you can be , right ?
If he is not prepared to NOT have sex other than his way, I guess you have to be prepared to part ways. You are just very inco... (read in full...)
Does he really not realize he was wrong to take off without coming over my house ? Does he believe his own lies?
Q. I have been dating a guy for a month and 1/2 who told me right from the start he is bipolar. At least once a week he will do something such as make plans with me and then just go off with somebody else and not even call me to let me know. He wil...
A. 20 July 2016: If I were you I would not bother with dissecting and analyzing the whys and hows. This thing is SO dead in the water- and, for your own sanity and self esteem- such it should stay.
OP - excuse me ? really can't you see anything wrong in the pict... (read in full...)
Recently found out about a fling my Bf had. Is it wrong to want to know these things?
Q. I recently found out my boyfriend had a fling with a girl on holiday not long after we started going out. We had been together for a couple of months, and we were still in the early stages of our relationship. We have been together for 3 y...
A. 20 July 2016: I agree with Anonymous 123.
You already know all you need to know : he cheated.
Now, does it really make such a big difference if there actually was intercourse ? Which is quite probable, btw, seeing the big mysterious deal his friends ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to move out? I feel trapped!
Q. Hi. My boyfriend of 4 years lost his job and he had no money and nowhere to go so I said he could stay with me while he sorted himself out. He got a job a year ago and is still living with me and not paying for anything except food because he pays ...
A. 19 July 2016: What a nerve. If there's something worse than a freeloader, it's a cheeky , entitled freeloader. His comment that he does not owe you explanations about what he spends his money on would be acceptable IF he paid you rent and his share of bills. ... (read in full...)
Not really dating, should I wait for him?
Q. I was dating a guy seriously for 2 months, we spent the 1st month together and he had leave so we decided to do long distance. I felt a 360 change is his character and I started stressing over because he was the one who wanted this and he used to be ...
A. 19 July 2016: You felt a connection.. but obviously there wasn't one , since he started pulling away after only 30 days. So, was it a connection, or was it a projection on him of your hopes and dreams ?
That's why I am skeptical about love at first sigh... (read in full...)
Were his family opposed to me? Or did he just want me for one thing? We broke up but he said we could still be FWB.
Q. Hi, I met this guy nearly 2 years ago, we were really good friends. He then became flirty with me and I had an attraction to him, but then he said we could just be fwb I guess I couldn't go through with this idea and we agreed to continue being fr...
A. 19 July 2016: It makes sense, instead, if you think that he asked you for an FWB even before anything happened ! That's how he got you pegged from the start, as non-wife material. It's not that he was sly about it, he told you that he was having his marriage ... (read in full...)
Not really dating, should I wait for him?
Q. I was dating a guy seriously for 2 months, we spent the 1st month together and he had leave so we decided to do long distance. I felt a 360 change is his character and I started stressing over because he was the one who wanted this and he used to be ...
A. 18 July 2016: I don't think you should wait , what's in it for you in all this ?
You know yourself and you know that until hung up on this guy , you would not be dating anybody so you would not be taking advantage of your " non- exclusivity ".
As for him,... (read in full...)
Boyfriend would rather talk with his mother and not me about issues?
Q. I am falling out of love because every time, my boyfriend and I have a problem, he tells his mom and she never gives great advice. She tells him to dump me but he is my first boyfriend. I don't understand. I thought she liked me but I guess not. We ...
A. 17 July 2016: She is not being a hateful mother-in-law. She is being a practical, rational one.
If these arguments happen often , and you and yor bf are often having "issues" ( as I suppose it is the case- I don't think you would resent him so much for havi... (read in full...)
He is 19. Should I break up with him for my parents? His parents are not happy either
Q. Friends I want help ! ??please give me some suggestions I fell in love I don't know what to do My age is 14 and my bf age is 19 ,we 're best friends now we are dating ! And I really love him I don't wanna lose him any more i have too many ...
A. 17 July 2016: If he is a Muslim, and you are not, and you live in India - come on, you know it's a no go , and you are wasting your time.
Not that in India there can't be any interfaith couples who decide to defy traditions , society and parents, - but they... (read in full...)
I found out he's still married, but separated, he lied about his son and he's a borderline hoarder!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating a guy for 2 1/2 years. He is older than me (I am 35 and he is 53), and when we started seeing each other he said he had been single for awhile. He has a house that is in disrepair, and approaching hoarder status. ...
A. 17 July 2016: You are a very accomodating, forgiving lady ! In fact, you give a Whole new definition to these two adjectives.
Pardon me ?... This is not some little White lie, this was a whale of a lie which would have been an instant delabreaker for most woem... (read in full...)
Why does he act all uncaring?
Q. So we have been going for about 2 months and 1/2 of the relationship we spent it together, then he moved. I fell for him because he seemed to genuinely care about me and was concerned about how I was doing. Lately though he makes the conversations ...
A. 17 July 2016: Giving him a month or two to sort himself out just in case, as Janniepeg suggests , won't hurt- but frankly I see it more like the anon reader.
I think he is checking out- or inching out- from the relationship in a rather passive aggressive way.... (read in full...)
I understand that I shouldn’t have gone for his best mate but I was drunk and he got with other people! I need advice!
Q. Hello, I was seeing this guy from uni for 4 months and he used to come round mine all the time and it wasn't just for sex. He told me he liked me and I really liked him but it was casual and we both agreed we could see other people. I started to m...
A. 16 July 2016: "... so surely he was jealous too and wanted to be exclusive ?"
That's a naive way to see things.
If he had wanted to be exclusive with you- he would have been ; who was stopping him ? Not you for sure.
Jealous ( make it " territorial ... (read in full...)
How can I stop looking for revenge? Is it a case of "what goes around comes around" ?
Q. How can I stop looking for revenge? I just recently got dumped by my ex of 6 months via text - my stuff all is still is at his house . This was two months ago and since being hurt the stage has moved on to anger and waves of depression. I have ta...
A. 15 July 2016: Frankly I doubt that your therapist may have literally said that this man had no reason to leave you. That would be an uninformed, unprofessional assessment by him, since the therapist does not know your ex and has not heard his version.
Your ther... (read in full...)
I'm ready to be married and have a baby! He's feeling pressured!
Q. I'm ready to get married emotionally, physically and financially but my bf for 2 years not yet ready. first issue when we're together is our religion I'm an INC member [mod note: see https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Iglesia_ni_Cristo ] and his a ...
A. 15 July 2016: You want to convert him !, how's this " respecting each other " !? It would be respectful if you agreed to disagree about religious matters, and each one let the other practice his religion in liberty, without judgements or manipulations.
Anyw... (read in full...)
Wants a brood mare? Should I meet him? Been talking to him online but some of his questions are a concern.
Q. I know this sounds silly however I have been talking to this guy online. I told him I would meet him as a friend. He has been asking some off questions like if I will be fertile when we have planned to meet. He has asked several times and also w...
A. 15 July 2016: Maybe he would, ... but that stranger won't be you anyway, right ?
I mean, don't tell me that you seriously consider meeting him ! You tell him that you'll meet him " as a friend "... and he , a perfect stranger, asks several times info... (read in full...)
Since we spoke and I have not heard from him. Do you think that he's not interested in me?
Q. hi there, I would really like some help on a current situation :) basically I have been working at a summer camp for 3 months, I met a guy there but I did not really notice him until the final month. I started to get to know him and I developed ...
A. 15 July 2016: It's hard to say. It's only 4 days !, and, as you say, you haven't exactly asked him out, just suggested to keep in touch some time . Let's say , 50/50. It may be simply because he is away , busy with his stuff, - or, well, the fact that he is ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 14 July 2016: Of course you can do it .We had no doubts about it.
I must say that I see it somewhere halfway between Andie and Serpico.
I.e. : while I don't think the Macho Man approach is necessarily the winning one, and personally I don't like guys " w... (read in full...)
Did I permanently mess up my chances with this girl?
Q. Okay, so I've been eyeing this girl both in person and on social media for about 8 months now. She doesn't even know I exist because the few times that I've seen her in person I was really far away for her to notice and it was at a county fair with ...
A. 14 July 2016: I am a bit confused- this is not the girl who is an escort, whom you posted about before - this is all another girl,right ?
Never mind. First off I think, that you should consult your doctor. I sort of have the feeling that maybe you are self... (read in full...)
I told the truth about her boyfriend, now our friendship is over!
Q. Hello. My friend whom i met this year at uni is mad at me. We are now on school holidays. Through text last week she told me her boyfriend kissed one of her ex friends. I texted her back what i truely felt and told her she deserves better. Not so ...
A. 14 July 2016: Yes, too far. The intention was good, but you carried it out with the finesse of a bull in a china store :)
Come on, public status about " people should have standards "?: Yes, that's your thought and you can express your thoughts, but, you frie... (read in full...)
My life's okay, it just all seemed to fall into place.
Q. Hi guys, I just wanted to ask whether there's other people out there in a similar situation to me. Basically, I'm 25 years old, I still live at home with my mum and brother, I'm single (not speaking to anyone serious either) no savings, I h...
A. 14 July 2016: No, that's the recreational drugs :). Maybe you recreate yourself a bit more than you think, and more than it's good for you. I have seen it happen so many times..."Recreational " drugs may also be not dangerous healthwise, and not addictive ... (read in full...)
13 years old. Some of our friends have done more than we have ever tried. How should I react if he asks to to do more with him as far as touching?
Q. Errh', okay - so I'm fairly young, just turned 13 a few days ago. I have a very serious relationship with a boy, who is about a year and a few months older than me. (I'm off to gr. 8, and he's off to gr. 9.) It's extremely obvious that he absolute...
A. 14 July 2016: Slow down, honey. You are 13! I don't know the laws in your country, but, by and large, ( USA, most European countries )you are not supposed to engage , and people is not supposed to let you / make you engagé, in sexual contacts.
Sexual cont... (read in full...)
I feel like he doesn't even like me anymore so why does he want to marry me? And shouldn't he be reassuring me?
Q. So I've been with my bf for 8months now and we're already planning our wedding! Yes is too early I know:(. So we went to choose our rings and I chose one for him cause he couldn't choose a nice one. He told my mum I chose mine but I chose hi...
A. 13 July 2016: I hope I am wildly,crazily off the mark, but... it's a jungle out there, -so, how's the financial situation ?
Does your bf work full time, has he a sufficient, steady source of income ? Whose place is it where you live, yours ? Is the only name... (read in full...)
Is this a cultural shock that is affecting my relationship? Has anyone experienced anything similar?
Q. I dont know where to start. I am from South America and I emigrated to USA 8 years ago, I studied got a degree. I have a good job and support myself , single no kids. I met an Iraqi guy 2 years ago, hes younger by 8 years. He came legally, ...
A. 13 July 2016: Well, yes, as Serpico mentions, the age gap may also be another difficulty. Although, interestingly enough, in Muslim cultures quite less so than in the Western world.
Khadija, first wife of Mohammed, prophet and founder of Islam, was 14 year... (read in full...)
O reply from potential date with friend do I block them
Q. Hi , i recently asked on here for advice about asking a friend on a date he said he would think about it and the advice was to let him have 3-4 days to get back to me . well its been 8 days he hasnt made any effort to contact me at all , i have ...
A. 13 July 2016: OP, you came here for advice and you GOT advice, pretty unanimously which is not to put yourself in position to be pitied or laughed after by this guy. You want to say something that makes it look like you don't care and you come up on top anyway, ... (read in full...)
O reply from potential date with friend do I block them
Q. Hi , i recently asked on here for advice about asking a friend on a date he said he would think about it and the advice was to let him have 3-4 days to get back to me . well its been 8 days he hasnt made any effort to contact me at all , i have ...
A. 13 July 2016: Bad idea. If after having been brushed off you tell him
" I am too good for you " , he will inevitably read it as
" sour grapes " ; that's what it will sound even if it's not true.
Plus, I think we all have to be coherent or at least make a... (read in full...)
I can't rely on friends. Should I accept the offer of a work colleague to take me home from hospital after my surgery?
Q. I have to have surgery soon, and will be going home that day, im told i need someone to take me home but i have noone? Its day surgery and i must be driven home Im all alone with no family or reliable friends, friends are busy and wont care ...
A. 12 July 2016: If you are allergic specifically to morphine, they will give you another opioid. And if you are allergic to all opioids, they'll give you non- opioid based narcotics/ painkillers, which could nevertheless make you feel drowsy / tired , so you ... (read in full...)
O reply from potential date with friend do I block them
Q. Hi , i recently asked on here for advice about asking a friend on a date he said he would think about it and the advice was to let him have 3-4 days to get back to me . well its been 8 days he hasnt made any effort to contact me at all , i have ...
A. 12 July 2016: Yes , it would be over the top. Be a class act and forget the whole " Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned " thing.
After all, this guy did not OWE you a date.
You may object that he owed you, though, a reply out of common courtesy, and I 'd... (read in full...)
I can't rely on friends. Should I accept the offer of a work colleague to take me home from hospital after my surgery?
Q. I have to have surgery soon, and will be going home that day, im told i need someone to take me home but i have noone? Its day surgery and i must be driven home Im all alone with no family or reliable friends, friends are busy and wont care ...
A. 12 July 2016: Sure, why not ?
She would not have offered you a ride if she had not felt like doing it- precisely because you aren't very close ; it's not as if she would had looked bad if she had not offered.
It' not so weird that she voluntereed to offer... (read in full...)
Is this a cultural shock that is affecting my relationship? Has anyone experienced anything similar?
Q. I dont know where to start. I am from South America and I emigrated to USA 8 years ago, I studied got a degree. I have a good job and support myself , single no kids. I met an Iraqi guy 2 years ago, hes younger by 8 years. He came legally, ...
A. 11 July 2016: There are no common law wives in Iraq. There are no common law wives in Islam.
The concept itself does not exist.
There's only " halal" ( pure, allowed ) and " haram "
( impure, forbidden ).... (read in full...)
Is this a cultural shock that is affecting my relationship? Has anyone experienced anything similar?
Q. I dont know where to start. I am from South America and I emigrated to USA 8 years ago, I studied got a degree. I have a good job and support myself , single no kids. I met an Iraqi guy 2 years ago, hes younger by 8 years. He came legally, ...
A. 9 July 2016: Posts like yours always get my goat. They irk me big time.
Proviso : I respect profoundly ANY religion, any belief, any culture. Including those I don't understand or approve of.
People have any right to practice their religion and follow t... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 28 June 2016: Personally, but I think many women share my preference, I don't like arrogance but I like confidence. It may be a fine line.. but it exists.
OP- it's just a date. You are asking for some of her time, not for one of her kidneys. No need to twis... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 27 June 2016: I agree - no need to fake " keen ".
I did not mean to jinx your date, OP :). It's just , that you know how they say : Expect the best. Prepare for the worst.
Best of luck ! ... (read in full...)
I would love to ask this waitress out. Any suggestions on how to handle this?
Q. I like a waitress in the town near to where I live. She has served me on several occasions, and said hi and spoken to me. I would love to ask her out, but my bottle always goes!! It was my birthday yesterday, and on the way out she said 'Ha...
A. 27 June 2016: I'd follow the program and do what she said : next time you go to this place , ask for her and remind her your coffee date. If she meant business, she will arrange with you a day and time . If she was tryng to let you down easy ( alas this can ... (read in full...)
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