Why would two grown men want to play a video game as nothing but sexy dressed characters if it wasn't for the sexiness?
Q. I've been with my bf for 3 years. We're both in our 30's. We don't live together. Anyway, sometimes I feel he's a pervert. lol. I know this sounds silly, and especially at my age, but almost every thing we watch together has T and A in it. He also ...
A. 3 December 2013: I responded to your submission before seeing any of your follow ups so I'll have to revise my answer.
To be honest, I'm starting to suspect you two are better suited to one another than I first thought.
Between his adolescent fixation with bo... (read in full...)
Why would two grown men want to play a video game as nothing but sexy dressed characters if it wasn't for the sexiness?
Q. I've been with my bf for 3 years. We're both in our 30's. We don't live together. Anyway, sometimes I feel he's a pervert. lol. I know this sounds silly, and especially at my age, but almost every thing we watch together has T and A in it. He also ...
A. 3 December 2013: So let me get this straight....
Your 30-35 year old boyfriend seems fixated on all things sexual and goes out of his way to watch it in your company to get a reaction out of you, yet YOU'RE the one who's immature? YOU? really?
Then there is... (read in full...)
How can I prove I'm not messing around?
Q. I have met up with this girl. We were getting on fine for a month, then I stayed there one night, and the next morning. She asked me to leave, she said she was unwell. I left and rang her in a hour, she told me that I was cheating on her, while I ...
A. 1 December 2013: Why in the world would you want to??
After only one month of dating, this lunatic has already gone through your phone, turfed you out of her home and leveled baseless accusations. Her behaviour was outrageous. She's an unstable, boorish woman wi... (read in full...)
Her lack of support in this situation is making me re-think dating her
Q. HELLO EVERY ONE,well ive been seeing some one for acouple weeks, was ask over to her daughters house for thanksgiven, she lives their. Well every thing was going great, then her daughter ex husband showed up, invited, but with in five minutes he ...
A. 1 December 2013: Your president has paid security personnel to protect him. He doesn't need you to help ruin a Thanksgiving dinner on his behalf.
It might be best if you don't contact her then. This lady friend wants a simple, enjoyable life with a partner ... (read in full...)
Her lack of support in this situation is making me re-think dating her
Q. HELLO EVERY ONE,well ive been seeing some one for acouple weeks, was ask over to her daughters house for thanksgiven, she lives their. Well every thing was going great, then her daughter ex husband showed up, invited, but with in five minutes he ...
A. 30 November 2013: The ex was extremely rude for bringing up politics to begin with, for the way he expressed his views and for becoming combative with a guest. You were equally in the wrong for allowing yourself to be baited and just as rude for helping to create a ... (read in full...)
My ex went off on me because I'm seeing his married friend. I don't know what to do
Q. where do i start its a long story , iv been trying to get a hold of my x for the longest time we did not part well, anyway we had been together for 4 yrs friends befor that so finly did reach him we stared talking again he said he would come and ...
A. 29 November 2013: 30-35? Really? this question sounds as if it came from someone much younger.
OP, I don't know why your ex would be giving you his friends' phone numbers, especially if they're married. And I don't know why you're calling them.
Cease all con... (read in full...)
I want to watch my wife give oral...
Q. Let me start by saying my relationship with my wife is AWESOME. Sure we have had some ups and downs, but overall it has been AWESOME. When we dated we were active like rabbits and it didn't really matter where we were, we would find a place to ...
A. 27 November 2013: So your fantasy is to have your wife do all the work and assume all the risk so you and some stranger can have the time of your lives? Besides a tired jaw, a mouth full of gism and a pat on the head, what exactly would she get out of it?
The r... (read in full...)
Is there really ever a good time to break up with someone?
Q. I've been dating someone for 3 months who has started to get clingy and needy. He's a very nice man and has many wonderful qualities but he is way more into this relationship then me. I'll give some examples of his needy behavior: He tex...
A. 26 November 2013: Now is as good a time as any. It's a birthday. They come every year. He's had plenty already and unless he suffers a sudden terminal illness or a freak accident, he'll have plenty more.
There is nothing so rare about a birthday, so wonderfu... (read in full...)
Am I right not trusting my partner after finding out his ex stayed when I wasn't there??
Q. Hi I'm seeking advice and I guess because I'm in a new country and feeling isolated, some strength and direction to help get my thoughts together and make some decisions would be really helpful. I've been in a relationship with my partner for over...
A. 26 November 2013: OP, hard truths and reality checks are in plentiful supply. What you need is the resolve to act on them.
The man is a harem builder and you and this woman have your designated roles. You are the well worn comfy pajamas and she is the exciting... (read in full...)
My boyfriend tells his best female friend that she is pretty and they talk about graphic sex
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for around six months now and we are very happy. He has a female best friend that he is very close to and says how much he loves her. He openly admits they talk about sex quite grafically and tell eachother when they ...
A. 26 November 2013: Worried...I'd say you should be irritated to be treated like a chump.
Your boyfriend is flirting and carrying on with another woman right under your nose and he thinks that by hiding in plain sight he can convince others he isn't doing anything... (read in full...)
I want to break up but how? Or am I overreacting?
Q. I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 4 years. Typical love story, we met while travelling to our home town at a friend's place, we met we hit it off instantly, we promised to keep in touch, we emailed, we sent text messages, spent ...
A. 25 November 2013: You're not over reacting. He was charming in the beginning, but he's turned back into a toad.
You know, I don't think I'd even bother sending him a break up email. Just block and delete him and let him figure it out.
... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to allow me to close the door to my room when my boyfriend comes visiting? We need our privacy!!
Q. Hi all, I have been with my bf for a few months and recently I invited my bf to meet my parents. What irks me is that I am not allowed to close the door when I am alone with him in my room. We don't always on the airconditioner but sometimes we do. ...
A. 25 November 2013: OP, you're fortunate that your parents allow you to entertain your boyfriend in your room at all. Especially if they're conservative.
This tells me they like your boyfriend and trust you both to a point, but they also know you're both as human as... (read in full...)
His questions are making me uncomfortable -- am I just being paranoid?
Q. Why do I feel this way about him? Am I being paranoid? I've been seeing this guy my friends husband set me up with. They say good things about him all the time and he seems nice so far. I starting a well paid job in a few months and h...
A. 25 November 2013: No, you're not being paranoid. Extremely rude to ask about your income, and he did it several times.
I wouldn't even be thinking about sex at this point. Especially if you don't feel comfortable with this man. Way too soon to making these kinds of... (read in full...)
Do you think is okay to sacrifice freedom in order to make your hurt partner happy?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for 3 years, and I have to admit I was not the perfect girlfriend. Although he has done things that have hurt me deeply, I know I have been worse to him. This Thursday I made a mistake and he left the relationship, I ...
A. 24 November 2013: Not much information to go on here. What exactly is it you'll be giving up? What is it you enjoy doing that bothers him?
Generally speaking, I'd say that no, it is not a good idea to give up your freedom and the things that help make you you for ... (read in full...)
Am I not good enough? Boyfriend didn't get turned having a shower with me.
Q. My boyfriend and I just showered together and through out that whole time he didn't get hard. He didn't even touch me (which is unusual). And then like 2 hours later I was fully dressed and he cracked a boner and when I asked what over he replied ...
A. 23 November 2013: I agree. Nothing to be done here and saying anything would, in my opinion, make an issue where one doesn't exist.
Showering together can be nice, but it can also plain awkward. It's difficult to get caught up in the excitement while simultan... (read in full...)
My husband won't live by the same standards he sets for me
Q. My husband is a jealous person and I havent seen my cousin in 2 years as she drinks, has guys at her flat and is on facebook. These are not the kind of things that interest me but I did pop in and see her before I met my husband as she was always t...
A. 23 November 2013: Then change the rules. Make your own and live by them. If you're not threatened by your husband's association with an uncle who drinks and fraternizes, then don't deny yourself a relationship with your cousin, or anyone else, on his say so.
He ca... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is smothering me, while I support him! How can we get back the relationship we used to have?
Q. I've been in a relationship with my partner for little over a year. Prior to our relationship we were very close friends for 5 years. Due to us being friends for so long, we knew each other incredibly well. My partner had a big circle of friends and ...
A. 23 November 2013: OP, if you decided to squat in your friend's home, and not only ate their food but expected them prepare it for you, then wash and iron your clothes all for free would you think of yourself as a fantastic person?
Your boyfriend is a squatter... (read in full...)
He tells me he loves me but he's not here for me when I need him
Q. Hi, I'm 19 year old girl and at the minute I'm just lost, hurt, upset and don't know what to do. 10 months ago I got with my boyfriend. He's quite abit older than me, he's 27. Everything has been great really happy then a few weeks ago argument a ...
A. 23 November 2013: I hit 'send' too early...
I wish your grandmother a full and speedy recovery.... (read in full...)
He tells me he loves me but he's not here for me when I need him
Q. Hi, I'm 19 year old girl and at the minute I'm just lost, hurt, upset and don't know what to do. 10 months ago I got with my boyfriend. He's quite abit older than me, he's 27. Everything has been great really happy then a few weeks ago argument a ...
A. 23 November 2013: OP, I'm going to take a slightly different tack here.
You didn't find out about your grandmother being ill and in hospital until after you'd returned from your trip. That means that the other members of the family who also love her didn't t... (read in full...)
Its great that he's a good dad, but I want to feel important too!!
Q. My boyfriend of 2 years has a 2 year old daughter. I have changed myself to accept this situation and moved past it. But now, when he invites me to hang out with them, i usually don't bc i don't like how it makes me feel around them. And i don't ...
A. 23 November 2013: Obviously I'm not there to see you in action, but from what you've described I don't think you're being unreasonable. Spending time with a child does not mean virtually ignoring someone else, especially when you've specifically invited that someone ... (read in full...)
I don't want to seem too needy or clingy... What should I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship for the past 7 months. We have had our ups and downs but things are good now. He says he loves me and I love him. I am somewhat insecure about the relationship and we have both had some trust issues because of past ...
A. 23 November 2013: I have my doubts that this guy is on the up and up. Did you originally meet him online? Besides his say so have you any reason to believe he does work in law enforcement? And what branch of the law that requires him to travel so frequently abroad ... (read in full...)
I feel I need to warn other women on the dating website about this aggressive jerk
Q. I need help dealing with a situation. About 18 months ago I met a guy. He was fine and gentlemanly. On the fourth date, he got quite intimidating and clearly wanted sex. He got lairy. I was scared and intimidated but luckily as he did not have ...
A. 22 November 2013: OP, you've done what you can. As unsettling as it is to think he is still out there free to prey on other women, but as you say, he's got several accounts and profiles. To report each one would make you a stalker. Besides, he can just as easily ... (read in full...)
Did I overreact to comments about my weight?
Q. I think I might have over reacted. I was texting back and forwards with this guy I had not dated yet. Everything was going well until he made this comment ~i don't usually date girls like you, but you look decent~ when i asked him what did he mean ...
A. 22 November 2013: I don't think you over reacted. Where I think you went wrong was in explaining what shouldn't need to be explained.
Whether you're the most confident person or not, his comment was extremely rude. And worse if it was designed to create an imbal... (read in full...)
Went through boyfriends phone and found messages to other girls. Is this cheating?
Q. My bf and I have been going out for almost 7 months now. I've never gone through his stuff before but he left his phone behind today and I got curious. I honestly wasn't expecting anything, maybe just a couple messges from his girl-friends. Wha...
A. 20 November 2013: I'd never heard of Tinder before this post so I looked it up and I have to agree with the others. It's a dating/hook up site. And you have to have Facebook to be able to use it.
Even if he'd set up an account before he started dating you, he shoul... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied and cheated for over a year and got another woman pregnant. Should I dump him?
Q. Should I dump my boyfriend he has fathered a child with another woman and lied and deceived me for nearly a year he was having sex with both ov us but I had no idea he was cheating neither did the other girl know about me. He told me cause I caught ...
A. 20 November 2013: Don't take him back. He knew what he was doing from the beginning and where it would likely lead. What if he'd caught a disease instead of fathering a child? Some of them have no obvious symptoms and you'd have gone untreated all this time.
Certa... (read in full...)
Boyfriend tells me I'd look better if I lost weight then regrets it and tells me I look fine! What's going on?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for about 8 months. We're in a really happy relationship except for one thing. On occasion he has told me that I'd look better if I lost half a stone. He also tells me frequently (in a jokey way but I see a serious ...
A. 19 November 2013: So let me get this straight. You're 5'5" and weigh 126 pounds but your boyfriend would prefer it if you lost another 7?
Well, perhaps you are carrying around a little extra weight you don't need so I say lose HIM. Problem solved.
Or, you could... (read in full...)
My mom doesn't approve of the man that I love
Q. Hi, I am marsha. I am 25 year old graduated last year. I love someone who is younger than me. WE were friends before. I know him past 3 year now. We got close like best friend the end of 3year. Then one fine day he asked me out .. not just dating b...
A. 19 November 2013: not much information to go on here. How much younger? Has your mum given you any specific reasons she doesn't approve of him?... (read in full...)
It's not what she lied about, it's that she lied
Q. ok, i've been getting a lot of good responses lately, so hopefully we can keep em going! ok, so my current problem is that my girlfriend, who we just started going out. one of the first things i asl her, is if she smokes, she told me no. now i do...
A. 15 November 2013: Life is hard enough without creating things to be hurt or upset about. And if this is the biggest worry on your plate, then life has been pretty good to you.
If you two have just recently started dating then she really doesn't know how far she ... (read in full...)
I have a second chance with my ex but its on harsh terms- should I go for it?
Q. Hey all Its day 4 post breakup here, i havent started 'no contact' we are still talking every night all night (i know this is not the way to go) Our split was down to distance..5 years in an LDR with neither of us willing to give up our jobs ...
A. 15 November 2013: No, I do not think you should go for it.
For starters, why must it be YOU who relocates? Circumstances may be such that it would be more practical for you to make the move, but the way you've presented it to us (and/or she to you) makes it sound... (read in full...)
We're not on the same page about parenting
Q. My wife tends to fly off the handle when we disagree. I need some advice about how to handle this. Thanks in advance. This morning, our daughter was being very whiny. She's 2 1/2. We've been teaching her to use her words and not whine. After a ...
A. 7 November 2013: Wildly inappropriate? Buying your 2 year old daughter a chainsaw for her birthday would be wildly inappropriate. Your wife's statement is very small potatoes.
She deftly handled your daughter's attempt to manipulate her. She told her she loved he... (read in full...)
How do I deal with childlessness issues?
Q. How do I deal with childlessness issues? Especially the qustion "why haven't I had any"? I'm single and don't have any fertility issues - I've just never met a guy who wanted to get that serious with me. My chances of conceiving a child ha...
A. 5 November 2013: I can understand your frustration. Not only are these questions invasive and rude, but they're also repetitive. We all know where babies come from, how they're made, that raising them is a huge undertaking and that there are many factors at play. So ... (read in full...)
Are my standards too high when it comes to dating?
Q. Now I don’t mean for this to sound shallow at all , but I am really buggered with girls for the past 3 years , I don’t know if I my standards are too high , it just seems the girls I am interested in give me some interested but don’t actually ...
A. 30 October 2013: You don't sound shallow or vain to me. Nor do you sound too picky. Based on the number of submissions we get from people having relationship troubles I would say too many people out there aren't picky enough.
Obviously I'm not there to see and ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks I cheated and I never have. How do I convince him?
Q. My boyfriend of four years thinks that I have betrayed him with infidelity (cheated on him), I did not commit such a act, I'm innocent but he will not listen to the truth, he also wont express his reasons why he is so sure about his accusations. ...
A. 29 October 2013: OP, here is a cut and paste of my response to another woman in a similar situation.
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OP, this is not about trust. It's about power and control.
If your boyfriend truly believed you had or were cheating, he would have done whatever... (read in full...)
Do you think I should have to tell him everything about my life when now hes a friend with benefits ?
Q. Does a guy I see once a week have any right asking questions about where I go and what I do? ive been seeing someone for a year and it turned very serious very quickly. He moved in within four months but it turned sour pretty quick.I chucked him ...
A. 29 October 2013: The name calling and threatening your other friends is grounds to kick him to the curb. So do it. In fact don't say anything to him at all. Just don't respond to him again and let him figure it out.
For future reference, a FWB is a FRIEND with occ... (read in full...)
I think my boyfriend is going mad because he's convinced I'm cheating on him!
Q. Hi my boyfriends thinks im cheating on him i would never do that ! he keeps on recording me and then he says he can hear me with men, i think he is going mad because i no i have never done anythink and he is sure i am i dont no how to make him ...
A. 29 October 2013: OP, this is not about trust. It's about power and control.
If your boyfriend truly believed you had or were cheating, he would have done whatever it is he has threatened to do (leave you, beat the other guy up...whatever). This 'lack of proof' i... (read in full...)
I don't want to make a scene but I think he's being rude
Q. I've been in somewhat of a long distance relationship for the past 2 years since I only see my boyfriend every weekend (we live an hour away). We talk to each other almost every night via facetime so we can see each other. He used to always be on ...
A. 29 October 2013: Yeah, I think you should scale back the contact as well. When you see each other and chat that often you quickly run out of interesting things to talk about.
If you two were living together you wouldn't be gazing into each other's eyes and havi... (read in full...)
I like her but I feel like this needs to be more 50/50.
Q. I just met this amazing girl, She is great we get along so well and have alot of things in common . She has a great since of humor and honestly is the nicest girl I have ever dated and not to mention most attractive. The only problem is she dose...
A. 18 October 2013: OP, you might want to re-examine whether this woman is really a good fit for you. What you have now is the best it's ever going to get. And the challenges you're now facing are only the tip of the iceberg.
As a person who has never collecte... (read in full...)
Do I chase my dream or give it up for my boyfriend?
Q. Hi there...i had posted a question about my boyfriend getting depressed since he didn't get placed and all..my dream company will be hiring freshers from my campus next week and I was dying for them to come..now my bf is asking me not to attend the ...
A. 18 October 2013: I warned you about this in your previous post.
If your boyfriend had secured a placement in an earlier drive and you hadn't, do you think he'd give up that position so you could both being placed together?
You already know the answer to that o... (read in full...)
At first all was well in our marriage, but now I'm a lonely, lost lady as I have to be and do what he thinks is the best for the marriage!
Q. Dear aunty. I'm a young lady who is in late 20's and I got married at the age of 20 as a second wife to my husband who is 13 years older than me. At the beggining all was well but now I fell ...
A. 18 October 2013: What would happen if you acted on what YOU thought was right, even if he didn't agree with it? What would he say or do?
What is stopping you from doing that now?... (read in full...)
The relationship is great -- except for his psycho ex
Q. I am very much in love with this man and we are engaged to be married in a year. He treats me wonderfully and we are best friends. The only issue is the mother of his child hates that we are together and has drawn a wedge between us. She is violent ...
A. 18 October 2013: Has your fiancé sought full time custody of his daughter? I'm guessing the answer is no and if that's correct, why not?
What kind of man is content to simply be a part of his daughter's life when he can offer her a safe and stable place to live?... (read in full...)
Do cheaters ever change?
Q. I've just met a Man and during a conversation we were having he explained that he had been in 2 marriages and 1 8 year defacto relationship. He continued to say he had been unfaithful with 2 women, 1, his first wife and 2 a short term ...
A. 17 October 2013: Ok, now even if he has the best of intentions and he fully believes he will never cheat again. You, assuming you are the original poster, know that he has cheated. Not once, but twice over a sustained period of time. Are you ever going to feel as ... (read in full...)
Do cheaters ever change?
Q. I've just met a Man and during a conversation we were having he explained that he had been in 2 marriages and 1 8 year defacto relationship. He continued to say he had been unfaithful with 2 women, 1, his first wife and 2 a short term ...
A. 17 October 2013: Anonymous female, I've said in other posts that I don't subscribe to the belief that once a cheater always a cheater and that they are all selfish users. You have to take each case as it comes.
There are those married to a terminally ill person, ... (read in full...)
Do cheaters ever change?
Q. I've just met a Man and during a conversation we were having he explained that he had been in 2 marriages and 1 8 year defacto relationship. He continued to say he had been unfaithful with 2 women, 1, his first wife and 2 a short term ...
A. 17 October 2013: Yes and yes.
People can and do change all the time. Sometimes for the better, other times for worse. And yes, past behaviour is often a strong indicator of future behaviour. Not helpful, is it?
In your case I believe the man's honesty is meant... (read in full...)
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