A guy I was messaging online wanted me to do things I wasn't prepared to do and in the end he stopped contacting me. Now I see he's viewed my profile again. What does this mean?
Q. I have been on and off a dating site for about 5 months and have made a few pen pals. In the first few months there was a guy, he is 29 years old and he wanted a friends with benefits situation. In the beginning he was sort of nice complimenting ...
A. 23 August 2013: The obvious answer to your question is no, you should definitely not contact him. And I wouldn't read anything into his checking your profile. It's not a sign of regret, just idle curiosity.
The man pressed you to do things you weren't comforta... (read in full...)
I got horrific razor burn and ingrown hairs from shaving my groin. How can I make it go away and avoid it happening again?
Q. My girlfriend told me she prefers a man that is shaved in the groin. I've always just trimmed fairly short, but I figured I would give shaving a shot if it is what she likes. I've only ever shaved my face so I wasn't too experience with what to do ...
A. 23 August 2013: Simple things to avoid razor burn: 1. Hair should be trimmed beforehand 2. Let hair soak a while (7-10 minutes maybe) 3. Use a new blade 4. Go with the grain, then one sweep against if you have to 5. Exfoliate and moisturize the area regularly... (read in full...)
What does it mean when your husband doesn't get hard anymore?
Q. Hi I'm a married woman, mother of 2 and 1 on the way. My husband and I just recently relocated for a better life for the family. We don't know anyone here so we just rely on each other to get to know the area more. So as most parents know, its ...
A. 23 August 2013: I think the (temporary) insecurities brought on by the move and perhaps by this pregnancy have made you hyper sensitive.
It is not uncommon for men to be reluctant to have sex with a pregnant wife (even if it is your third). It's not a loss of ... (read in full...)
Did the fortune tellers mess with my mind or do I truly want to change careers?
Q. Hi guys,you've always given me great advice on love so now I need some career advice. Before I start, I want to say that I have some form of ocd called pure o, where I over analyze thoughts to the point where I have become mentally ill and anxious. ...
A. 21 August 2013: I know a few people who got similar 'readings'. Myself included. A friend put on a big production for Halloween one year. They had another friend who claimed to be a psychic and offered free readings, so in the spirit of the season....Anyhoo she ... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't help out around the house.
Q. I've been with my fiancé for a couple years now, I really love him and love the time we spend together. My issue is he doesn't help out around the house. What do I say to get him to help out more without starting an argument or make him feel like ...
A. 14 August 2013: I think we'll need a bit more information. Do you both work and pay bills fairly equally? If yes, do you both work roughly the same number of hours doing similar kinds of work? I mean do you have a fairly light job while you're boyfriend is doing ... (read in full...)
I've decided to break it off -- what's the best way to tell him?
Q. well here I am two years later with the same guy that I orginally had "the talk" with, not once but twice! First time it didn't phase our momentum of hooking up, but second time we didn't speak for 4 months and didn't see one another for like ...
A. 11 August 2013: Since this is a casual arrangement, you haven't seen one another in a month or had any contact in two weeks I'd say there was nothing to end really. It's more a case of not starting it back up again when he does call you.
And when he does, yo... (read in full...)
The boyfriend, his ex and their child are going to the movies!
Q. Hey. This site always gives me great advice and I was wondering if you lovely people could give me your opinion. Dating boyfriend 1.5 years. He has a 6 year old daughter with an ex. Bit if history/ Seen as myself and my other half knew ...
A. 11 August 2013: OP, it's not enough to do the right thing. We must be seen to be doing the right thing and I don't mean drawing attention to ourselves every time we donate to charity. I mean we should not act in a way that causes others to question our intentions. ... (read in full...)
Should I have confronted a married man in a restaurant who kept staring at my pretty daughter?
Q. My 19 year old daughter is very pretty. She along with my wife and I went to a popular restaurant for dinner last week. As we were being seated I see this middle aged guy sitting with his wife and kids staring at my daughter, he didn't take his eyes ...
A. 11 August 2013: However attractive your daughter is she is not an object to be stared at.
OP, I think you handled this perfectly. His wife and his children are no doubt aware of his gutter behaviour. Making a scene might have given you some temporary satisfac... (read in full...)
My sister is pregnant and imposing on our other sister.
Q. Long story short my younger sister is pregnant and I'm not too excited about it. She just turned 20 and was not in a relationship with the father who is unemployed. He wants nothing to do with her or the baby. She just graduated high school last ...
A. 10 August 2013: By 'post updates' I assume you mean on Facebook. So, a simple thing you can do is 'hide' those from your younger sister. You can always undo whatever changes you've made at a later time. It may seem like a small thing, but it would help not to have ... (read in full...)
He gave me the reasons to go and snoop!
Q. My boyfriend is very close friends with his ex, he says she has been very good to him when he had problems, although she has since married, then divorced with a kid she is trying to make things work with her husband and is visiting him in the ...
A. 9 August 2013: It seems to me that it's you clinging to the hope that your toad will turn into a prince, or at least a decent human being.
Your fiance is a man of poor quality so he, naturally, attracts friends of poor quality as well. He's given you plenty o... (read in full...)
Am I asking for trouble by dating my ex's uncle?
Q. I am dating my kids daddy's Uncle! and he doesn't want hie Family to know yet he say's! Am I being played / because sometimes I hear from him and sometimes I don't!...
A. 9 August 2013: There are a number of reasons to keep a new date under wraps, and one of them is to keep one's options open. In this case I think dating a family member is a pretty good reason to not want to advertise it.
You may not be related by blood but he i... (read in full...)
A female in denial of her feelings. Anyone dealt with that?
Q. Im curious. Has anyone ever dealt with a female who was in denial of her feelings? And if so, what did it take for her to get over it and come around?...
A. 7 August 2013: Very little information to go on here.
I'm guessing this female in question is a woman you want who doesn't want you, yet you've decided she does and just needs your guidance to realise that.
The woman is not in denial. She knows what she w... (read in full...)
Whose not telling the truth about the mysterious life insurance policy?
Q. Dear Cupid ,okay I went to the source of finding out about if my mom has insurance on herself come to find out yes she does but the company claim that the policy premium was never paid for to start coverage back in 1999.So the woman said she ...
A. 7 August 2013: While it is possible that the insurance company is mistaken, it is highly unlikely.
Like eyeswideopen says, unless your mum can provide proof that those premiums were paid, there is no coverage. I'm a bit surprised that the insurance company ... (read in full...)
Any tips for coping with feelings of jealousy and insecurity over ex-husband's new girlfriend?
Q. Any tips for coping with feelings of jealousy and insecurity over ex-husband's new girlfriend? I know it shouldn't bug me, and I don't want my ex back, he was a very bad husband (putting it mildly). I think my ex is dating now and the woman I thin...
A. 6 August 2013: At the risk of sounding cliche, the best revenge is success. The more fulfilling your own life is, the better you feel about yourself, the less interested you'll be in your ex and what fun he MIGHT be having.
And the good times will undoubte... (read in full...)
Is it me or is it him who causes the drama?
Q. If I have bad habits, I want to know so that I don't screw things up next time. My ex and I started talking again. It was just supposed to be a catch up thing. But he ended up calling me almost every night. Before we knew it, we were expressing ...
A. 6 August 2013: I think you both moved way too quickly and when he tried to slow it down you got scared and tried to speed it up.
I don't see the point in keeping in touch with exes in most cases, especially when you live in different states.
Talking every... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is asking questions about my past that I don't know how to answer without causing upset!
Q. As per the title my gf likes to try and find out about my past. It sometimes catches up with me, one of her friends is going out with someone who i used to know. Small world. Anyway, my gf has asked me "if i have ever had more than one gf at t...
A. 6 August 2013: This girlfriend is curb material so kick her to one and move on.
She is prying into your personal business to confirm whatever dirt has been given her about you by someone with an agenda. And she continues to maintain an acquaintance (which i... (read in full...)
She knows I am married, so why be like this?
Q. I am struggling with temptation right now. A good female friend of mine back from High School who moved back into town has started to become flirtatious towards me like we used to back then....I have been married for 4 years and don't have any real ...
A. 6 August 2013: I don't know what kind of person your friend was before but I can tell you she is anything but a good friend now.
A good friend would not tempt you to do something they knew would cause you guilt and stress, that could cost you your wife, yo... (read in full...)
I'm dating a great guy and want it to go somewhere but should I be worried that we don't spend the weekend together?
Q. So I've been dating this really great guy for about a month now and am having a hard time wondering whether things are moving in the right direction in terms of pace and interest level. We met online and have been on 7 dates (yes still counting ...
A. 6 August 2013: If you get together once on the weekend, then in fact you do get together on the weekend. It doesn't have to be the whole weekend. In fact it's best if it isn't. You'll want some time on your own to do your own thing qand weekdays aren't the same.
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He sees a future with me and I don't at the moment. Should I stay with him and hope my feelings grow or break it off?
Q. I'm 24 year old in a relationship with a guy the same age!he loves me and sees a future with me(marriage,kids) I don't,is it bad or will I grow to feel the same about him..I mean if I don't feel the same should I break it off?...
A. 5 August 2013: You may very well grow to have similar feelings or you may end up feeling pressured to. It could easily go either way.
If everything is otherwise fine and you have been very clear where you stand with your boyfriend, there is no need to rush out... (read in full...)
What do you do when you have a bad feeling about someone your child is dating?
Q. What do you do when you have a bad feeling about someone your child is dating? My daughter and I are very close and I don't want to lose that. She has been dating this guy for about six months and I can sense that he doesn't like me for some ...
A. 5 August 2013: Whatever misgivings you may have about your daughter's boyfriend, nothing will improve until she has them too.
You can encourage her to think instead of coasting on feelings for him by asking her questions. Conversationally I mean, the way you ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is asking questions about my past that I don't know how to answer without causing upset!
Q. As per the title my gf likes to try and find out about my past. It sometimes catches up with me, one of her friends is going out with someone who i used to know. Small world. Anyway, my gf has asked me "if i have ever had more than one gf at t...
A. 5 August 2013: You're not obliged to answer any of these questions. You could say something like 'I am as entitled to privacy as anyone else, as are those in my past. You tell me why you're asking these questions and I'll decide whether or not I want to answer ... (read in full...)
Do I booty call my baby mama? Or stay away because we don't have an emotional relationship? Its just sex!
Q. alright. so in a nutshell i have a baby momma. when we initially got together in our earlier twenties she was this good girl routine play. you know wanted a family and relationship and all this stuff. so sure enough i was down for this girl then i ...
A. 5 August 2013: I got part way through the first paragraph and decided I couldn't stomach any more. If you're old enough to have sex and father a child then surely you're old enough and mature enough to answer your own question. Be the kind of father you and ... (read in full...)
Is it just the bipolar, or is he just a jerk?
Q. I have been with my partner for about 10 months, but it has been full of drama the whole time, and I don't know if I put up with it anymore or give up, so what do you think? Our story is...we meet online and were friends for awhile before started ...
A. 5 August 2013: He's just a jerk.
Bi-polar ranks right up there with ADD and ADHD in my book so I share your parents' disinterest in it. But even among those who do believe in it, they will tell you it does not cause one to have sex with a transvestite and deny... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are in love but I am a lesbian and she says she is bisexual and I wasn't her first choice. I don't know if we can fix this.
Q. I am gay and my girlfriend says she is a bisexual - she says she ignored it for fear, don't accept it, even fell in love with her best friend once, but lied to herself -, but today we were talking about it, about her exes (all boys)and I said "I am ...
A. 2 August 2013: Tried to fix what? What exactly is the problem?
Unless we marry the first person we're attracted to and live happily together for the rest of our lives, no one is anyone's first choice.
Think back and try to remember all the things that were... (read in full...)
Am I a bad person for breaking up with my boyfriend because of his out-of-control ADHD?
Q. I recently broke up with the guy I was dating with because of his ADHD. We were together for 2yrs but over the time it got progressively worst. For instance, he constantly breaks things at my place because he is not paying attention to wha...
A. 2 August 2013: No, it does not make you a bad person. On the contrary it makes you a reasonable and intelligent person. Too many people get sucked into this cycle and end up miserable.
I never bought into the ADD/ADHD thing. The mental health industry is const... (read in full...)
Would it be an insult to get my wife an anniversary card after I cheated on her with a prostitute?
Q. I admitted to my wife just after Christmas that I'd cheated on her with a prostitute. I regret my behaviour very much and have no intention of ever repeating it. My wife is trying to forgive me and we're still together, but she doesn't wear her ...
A. 30 July 2013: I wouldn't treat this anniversary the same as the ones before it, obviously, but you could ask your wife if she would like to do something special that day. A card she can probably do without, especially if she's already told you the marriage is ... (read in full...)
My bf of 3 years wants us to take a break as he thinks I'm too clingy.
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years wants us to take a break as he thinks im too clingy. This all happened during our recent vacation. I wanted to spend time with him but he wants to hang around the bar which made us to fight. We made up during the trip ...
A. 30 July 2013: If your boyfriend becomes physical then I would recommend putting as much distance between him and yourself as possible. Permanently. If you want to be safe, don't expose yourself to danger. This is a no brainer.
Now to the other matter. 'Clingy'... (read in full...)
What does it mean if your ex continues to wear something you gave them after you've broken up?
Q. If someone you were once with still wears something you gave them when you were together ands still wears it after you aren't. Do you think they wear it because it's a reminder of you or because it's from you, or do you think they don't think ...
A. 30 July 2013: She wears it because she likes it. Breaking up with someone doesn't mean we have to torch everything they ever gave us.
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My boyfriend has a squirting fixation and makes me feel inadequate because I can't do it.
Q. Sorry to be vulgar, but I am experiencing a bit of tension in my relationship because I am not meeting my partner's expectations. I am his first, and he has a "squirting" fixation... before we got together, he actually did not know it was poss...
A. 30 July 2013: In addition to what the others have said, twisting yourself in knots trying to live up to your boyfriend's unrealistic and, frankly, gross adolescent expectations does more harm than good, to you, to him and to other women. All you're doing is ... (read in full...)
His ex intrudes and I take my anger out on him
Q. We've been dating for 2 years now. things are great between us. We both have a kid of each from previous marriage and both kids are all grown (counting the days to send them off to college lol). Lately, I've been having some issue and I am having ...
A. 16 July 2013: This is not something you have to come to terms with. It's something you have to deal with and having the tools to do that will make the world of difference. If she calls or just shows up and it's a bad time for you, show the appropriate conc... (read in full...)
Can someone please reassure me that having a small flat will not stop me from having a loving relationship in future?
Q. Advice or just opinions needed please. I'm due to move home after a very painful and drawn out split from my long term partner, who was a binge drinker and abusive. My health became very bad due to the stress of his behaviour and I could no longer ...
A. 16 July 2013: Most welcome :)... (read in full...)
Put a dent in my boyfriend's car, how do I handle this?
Q. I backed into something last night in boyfriends new car and now he is not speaking to me after though he was rude and acts like i did it on purpose. How long will he be mad? It isnt even a big dent (2in) also how should i handle it we live together...
A. 15 July 2013: I agree that you should offer to have it fixed. It may be a small dent in the car, but it will lead to a bigger dent in his finances.
It isn't just about the cost of repairs, it's that he HAD a flawless new car and now he doesn't. It's also the... (read in full...)
Does he want to hook up or date?
Q. So I've been casually talking to this guy for a few years that has consistently asked to meet me and not just webcam and phonecall. I have a boyfriend that I've been thinking about breaking up with for quite a while now, so I asked him for advice ...
A. 15 July 2013: He wants a hook up. OP, save yourself the headache and don't even bother asking him. He'll only tell you whatever he thinks will get him what he wants. And next time, don't lament to another guy about your problems, boyfriend problems or othe... (read in full...)
Can someone please reassure me that having a small flat will not stop me from having a loving relationship in future?
Q. Advice or just opinions needed please. I'm due to move home after a very painful and drawn out split from my long term partner, who was a binge drinker and abusive. My health became very bad due to the stress of his behaviour and I could no longer ...
A. 15 July 2013: OP, there are many people out there who don't even own their own home and they manage to find love. Owning a small flat will absolutely not decrease your chances, but in fact INcrease them.
Owning the property without a mortgage means you'll h... (read in full...)
Caught my girlfriend cheating. She doesn't know that I know. What should I do?
Q. Please, please help?? My world has been turned upside down. I have been with this woman for just over a year. I fell in love with her very quickly. I've never met anyone like her. I've loved before but never like this. Anyway, about 6 mont...
A. 14 July 2013: Do NOT just show up, especially if you suspect he is there. You can control what you do, but you have no control over what someone else does so you can't be absolutely certain how they will respond. Being in the wrong does not guarantee they will be ... (read in full...)
Should she just be up front about the nose job?
Q. Just a simple question, I know everybody has their own opinions on people who have nose jobs. But please don't be judgemental and say those who do are 'shallow, stupid, fake' or any other insulting and personal comment. Because it depends on the ...
A. 14 July 2013: Your sister is not obliged to offer any kind of explanation, truthful or otherwise, to anyone about her reasons for getting a nose job. Fear of people's judgment of plastic surgery is only part of the reason, OP. She doesn't tell people the truth... (read in full...)
Is he making up an excuse not to see me?
Q. I'm a 50 year old lady. 6 years ago i met this guy in the same age group as me,we really hit it off, but after 7 months it ended. One of the reasons really was he had never been married and i think he had commitment issues. anyway after a while i ...
A. 11 July 2013: He could be asking the same question about you. OP, it's really too soon to sound the alarm. Wait the two weeks and see what happens.
Are you still with the man you were with for 18 years or is that now officially over? What do you expect w... (read in full...)
If your partner has an emergency and you share a lease, would you charge them for rent?
Q. My live in boyfriend and me got an apartment in march I paid the first month and him the deposit, a month into the lease I had to leave town because of a medical emergency where my sister's heart condition became worse and she needed surgery. Since ...
A. 11 July 2013: Your boyfriend isn't charging you rent. Your landlord is and you agreed to pay it when you signed the lease.
Apartments come with a fridge and stove so you did not provide all of the appliances, certainly not the big expensive ones. You brought ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him off for giving my friend herpes?
Q. My friend had sex with this guy she hardly knew (we're on holiday) and firstly he stole her headphones and totally avoided her, but now she has got ulcers on her tonsils and it looks like herpes. Plus she has all the other symptoms like muscle ...
A. 10 July 2013: Your friend is a grown woman who knew the risks and made her decision. It turned out to be a bad one, but that is hardly a surprise. She barely knew the man.
The best thing you can do for her is be supportive. That means you keep an open mind and... (read in full...)
Has anyone suffered anxiety attacks and over came them?
Q. Is there anybody that suffers with anxiety attacks and if so how did you over come them? I don't know why I started getting them although I think it could be related to a male friend of mine who keeps texting me and showing interest the las...
A. 9 July 2013: I used to have anxiety attacks and I got through them, and eventually overcame them by:
1. Talking to a calm, confident friend or relative. I'd let them know what was happening and they could alternate between reassuring me that my chest wasn't g... (read in full...)
What makes someone like my husband so immature and extreme in his reactions?
Q. Why is my husband so selfish? He was the oldest of 8 kids but I swear he acts like an only child sometimes; someone who never learned how to compromise, or share things, or accept another person's ideas and viewpoints. Case in point; we bought some ...
A. 8 July 2013: OP, your husband may be more sensitive to compromising, sacrificing and sharing because, as an oldest child, particularly in a large family, he`s done more than his share of compromising, sacrificing and sharing. There are some benefits to being the ... (read in full...)
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