He'll never be anything more than a liar. We had 2 weeks planned. What should I do?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been in long distance relationship for almost two years now. We see each other every weekend, and yesterday he arrived here and is going to stay with me for 3 weeks (we did this before, in August last year and it was grea...
A. 11 April 2011: I understand that you dont want to be left on your own but you are a big girl now and need to take responsibility. Do you not have any friends or relatives that you can stay with for the two weeks?
You need to talk to him as soon as possible... (read in full...)
Opinions on the letter I am going to send to my ex?
Q. I wanted peoples input on my letter im going to handwrite and give to my ex in an envelope. I said some terrible things to my ex after she dumped me and i need to get them off my chest. I just wanted to make things clear since I do owe you this ...
A. 9 April 2011: What dont you understand about the smiley face exactly? It is just her way of showing you that she is happy and that she never wants you to change, dont read to much in to it. It is obvious she appreciated the letter. So leave it at that. Your job ... (read in full...)
She knows I like her and because of this she stays away from me, how do I get her attention?
Q. i really really like this girl who knows that i like her....and bcoz of this, she doesnt really interact with me much....we were kind of friends before...she talks to my friends much more than me and that makes me feel sidelined. I dont like it...
A. 5 April 2011: Im afraid she has made it quite clear here that she doesnt like you. Am sure you havent done anything wrong sometimes people dont like you and we need to accept that. I think you need to accept that she just simply does not feel the same way about ... (read in full...)
Opinions on the letter I am going to send to my ex?
Q. I wanted peoples input on my letter im going to handwrite and give to my ex in an envelope. I said some terrible things to my ex after she dumped me and i need to get them off my chest. I just wanted to make things clear since I do owe you this ...
A. 5 April 2011: If it is going to give you closure on it well then send it I dont see anything wrong with the letter, just make sure that you are not expecting anything from it or are wanting a reply. Because if you are and you dont get it you may end up hurt even ... (read in full...)
I'm jealous of all my friends who have relationships! What should I do?
Q. Hey there... I'm 21 years of age.i wanna tell you my problem here we go... I don't have any relationship and contact ever in my life time, even i didn't kiss lip, this makes me anxious and strange. where comes these problem? I don't know... When i ...
A. 5 April 2011: You dont need help all you need to do is to gain some confidence and take control of your life. Nothing is impossible when you put your mind to it. So start telling yourself you are going to make it work. Be friendly to girls. Get to know them ask ... (read in full...)
When I move away for university we will be long distance, and it will last for 6 years! How do we make this work?
Q. hi.. I am 20 and my boyfriend 23. we have been dating sice i was 16 but take several pauses off. but last year when i entered university, we again became close to each other dated for about a year. then litle problems crop up like he leave me unatt...
A. 5 April 2011: I'm sorry in advance as this is not what you are going to want to hear but I honestly do not think that your relationship is strong enough to last 6 years long distance. You will be entering a new area of your life going off to college and having ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned?
Q. Last night my fiancee got really drunk. Later that night he called me another woman's name right before we passed out. He called me a mutual friends name, who was his roommate for a year and like a sister to him, nothing happened between them ever. ...
A. 5 April 2011: I think you need to talk to him about it. Drunk or not obviously she was on his mind when he said her name and if it was me I would be upset as well. It may be all quite innocent and he was only thinking of her in a non sexual way. Nobody can tell. ... (read in full...)
My girfriend may be dying, why don't I care?
Q. Im really stuck here. My girlfriend was recently diagnosed with viral encephalitis which is irritation and swelling of the brain. She had it before and nearly died from it but recovered. I have felt that the relationship has been over for a ...
A. 5 April 2011: Dont hate yourself for it. At the end of the day it is clear that you do not love her and dont want to be with her, i know that it must be hard especially since you say you dont really care that she is sick. I understand that you dont want to hurt ... (read in full...)
Do I have anxiety disorder ?
Q. hello everyone i had some physical problem so my family doctor prescribed me the urine and blood test which also included the HIV test. Although the reports are negative but i am deeply worried whether the lady in the pathology changed the syringe ...
A. 5 April 2011: First off it is not silly to behave the way you do. When we get some idea in to our head we start making ourselves believe that something is true and start seeing little things that didnt happen at all. I think the best thing you can do is visit ... (read in full...)
I'm confused and wonder if she is using me until she finds someone else
Q. I met a girl on a dating site 8 weeks ago. We only see each other every weekend, I stay at hers, cause we live over an hour away from each other. Every thing seemed brilliant until today when she let me take away her laptop to fix. I found she...
A. 5 April 2011: Well it is still early days for the both of you and she is probably just keeping her options open until she gets to know you properly. I think you should tell her what you discovered on her laptop. Honesty is always the best policy and just talk to ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to see me as much as I want him to. Am I being too clingy? Is he being reasonable?
Q. Hello there need some advice please I am dating a GREAT guy, he is very attractive kind hearted, stable and treats me very well. He is truly one of the nicest and most genuine people I have ever met. The only thing is, sometimes he seems a littl...
A. 3 April 2011: Am afraid if I am being truthful you are being very clingy yes. He only divorced a year ago so that means that you both havent been dating for a very long time. He has only came out of a marriage and he is going to be feeling insecure and he will ... (read in full...)
I have hidden the truth/lied to the love of my life for 2.5 years. Can this be salvaged?
Q. The love of my life, and I met and began dating about 2.5 years ago. We seemingly had similar expectations and values despite our very different upbringings, and insane chemistry. About a week into our relationship she was told that I had previously ...
A. 3 April 2011: Well technically the only thing you done wrong was lie. I understand that you lied to her to protect her feelings because she is insecure, but still lying to an insecure person to protect them just makes things worse as now she will find it really ... (read in full...)
My BFF is being a jerk. Is there any hope for this friendhips?
Q. Well my question is I have a huge crush on a boy in my class but he likes my bff and she knows I like him!!! Anyway she brags about how much he loves her and how much he wants to be with HER! and it's kinda getting on my nerves. Like last year he ...
A. 3 April 2011: Your very welcome :-)... (read in full...)
I love him, but we argue. Should I let him go and see if he comes back?
Q. .."if you love something let it go..if it comes back that's when you know it's meant to be". I'm in love with my ex BF deeply and he does love me but things aren't working out as we argue to much atm because we both have other things on our mi...
A. 29 March 2011: I actually dont believe in that, because at the end of the day if you broke up with him he is going to think that you do not want to be with him anymore, and he wont want to go back then because he will think he is just not wanted anymore.
I gue... (read in full...)
She has not told me she loves me for a year now, what is going on? What have I done wrong?
Q. hi im in love with a married woman and her husband has never meet me and he hates me. i had meet her online 2 in a half years ago. and when i meet her face to face i feel in love with her.i thought i was in love with someone else, but i honestly ...
A. 28 March 2011: Am sorry to break this to you, but if she loved you then she would be with you and not her husband. It doesnt look like she will ever leave her husband for you therefore I think you need to accept that you are the other man. It is not fair on you ... (read in full...)
My BFF is being a jerk. Is there any hope for this friendhips?
Q. Well my question is I have a huge crush on a boy in my class but he likes my bff and she knows I like him!!! Anyway she brags about how much he loves her and how much he wants to be with HER! and it's kinda getting on my nerves. Like last year he ...
A. 28 March 2011: If they are going to treat you badly well then they are not friends. I can see that they are hurting you and it is not fair on you the things they are saying to you. Its hurtful and it is actually bullying when you see it in the bigger picture. You ... (read in full...)
Was I being childish and selfish over this situation? And how to deal with our opposing families?
Q. Hi everyone, Just wondering what your thoughts are on this – I’m in a 2 year relationship with a 32 year old Muslim man from a country outside mine. I am 26 and a white Muslim convert (I don’t wear hijab but I do believe in the principl...
A. 28 March 2011: No you are not being inpatient. At the end of the day if he is serious about marrying you and spending his life with you then he needs to start acting like it. Talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel and tell him you want to meet his family so ... (read in full...)
How much space can you have in a relationship before it turns casual?
Q. I'm a little confused as to where I stand in my relationship. I have been seeing a guy for 3 months now. We're just now exclusive and for the most part he seems genuinely interested in being with me. We didn't jump into dating, it was very slow an...
A. 28 March 2011: You both are in quite a new relationship and it is perfectly normal for each of you to be living your own lives as well. I dont think that you should be worried about him taking those trips as long as you are both getting on well then it shouldnt be ... (read in full...)
Why didn't I see this coming? I was dumped over text message!
Q. met a guy in January. He approached me. We hit it off. In the beginning of our courtship, I was a little cautious simply because I didn't want my feeling hurt by this guy. I expressed my concern to him and we had at least 3 good conversations ...
A. 28 March 2011: This sounds very strange as he was treating you so well and it came out of the blue. Obviously something changed for him and he needs to have the guts to tell you what that was. He is being a coward. I am sorry that you have had to get hurt in the ... (read in full...)
My ex moved on, now having a baby, I'm not over him, heard he still cares, what to do??
Q. I recently wrote in and asked 'how do you mend a broken heart?' My ex of 2 years and i split up 10months ago. We were in a LDR between Uk and USA. He tried to get me back for ages, saying how much he had messed up and missed me and i generally ...
A. 28 March 2011: There is nothing really you can do here. He needs to be the one to make a choice. His friend probably didnt mean any harm by telling you this but she shouldnt have done that because at the end of the day, he is having a baby with this girl and ... (read in full...)
Has anyone ever kept the truth from their partner and it did not destroy the relationship??
Q. Is a relationship where you have lied, and cannot get yourself to tell the truth, a relationship worth staying in? Will the guilt of lying and of having betrayed someone you love get to be too much? Cannot confess a truth, but don't know if the ...
A. 28 March 2011: For a relationship to work you need to be honest with yourself and also to your partner. It will only continue to eat you up and destroy your relationship in the end anyway as you will feel guilty and you will feel like a bad person for lying. No ... (read in full...)
I'm six months pregnant and he does not want to have sex, how do I get him interested??
Q. I am 6 months pregnant and my fiance turned me down when I wanted to have sex a few weeks ago. I was really hurt because I felt rejected and like I'm not attractive enough right now for him. I'm now scared to try and initiate anything in the ...
A. 28 March 2011: I'm sure you are still attractive to him, there could be many reasons why he refused to have sex with you, and you are probably thinking the worst. Just remember being pregnant is a beautiful expereince for both of you.
The best thing you can ... (read in full...)
Please help me with my shyness before I scare another girl away.
Q. Hi, I have a very common but big problem. What I wonder is How do I get a girlfriend? I know it's a bit hard to answer but here's the thing; around girls I like I get nervous. So nervous I can barely talk. I get very annoying and silly which then ...
A. 28 March 2011: I think what you should do is maybe talk to a therapist or councellor about your problems. They may be able to help you out. Building confidence is never an easy thing to do. But its where you have to start of. Join groups or sign up to classes th... (read in full...)
Am I gay if I'm attracted to male cross dressers?
Q. I find 'Lady-boys' and trans gender dressers (male to female) sexy and oddly a turn on for me, could this possible mean I am gay?...
A. 28 March 2011: Everyone has different things that turn them on. It doesnt mean that you are gay. Try not to label yourself just do what you feel comfortable with and explore your sexuality. Just take some time to find out who you are and try not to put any ... (read in full...)
Do you think I can rekindle a friendship after three years?
Q. Can you rekindle old friendships that died at your own hand years ago? The reason I'm asking is because 3 years ago I was part of a group of tight knit friends but after a severe falling out with one of them, they abandoned me. I'm not blameles...
A. 28 March 2011: I think you should go for it and contact them. Everyone makes mistakes in the past but three years on i am sure you have all matured and let go of the past. I think you should contact them and ask them to meet up and see if you can all be friends ... (read in full...)
Are my feelings towards him changing just because I don't see him as often as I use to?
Q. I first starting going out with my boyfriend about 5 years ago, he cheated on me and really hurt me, so we split up about 2 years into the relationship. Now we're back together, we're both mature enough to have a relationship. He then got a job 2 ...
A. 28 March 2011: Do you trust him? You mention that he cheated on you in the past it might be that with him being away so far that you are scared he will do it again because you are not with him through the week and he never seems to communicate with you or text you ... (read in full...)
What are you supposed to do if your BF is losing interest but won't talk about it?
Q. With the bad breakup I had last year, I was completely blindsided. My ex left things completely unresolved between us. Everyone says that you have to get better at seeing the signs when your bf/gf is losing interest. It seems like you can only gain ...
A. 28 March 2011: I guess there is nothing really that yo can do if they are not going to talk to you about it. Communication is a huge part of any relationship and if he is not going to be open and honest with you well then it is not going to work. Its unfair of him ... (read in full...)
Is my ex being genuine this time?
Q. I dated a guy last for a couple of months. We had great chemistry and I really liked him. But he was immature, he started standing me up. Then he only wanted me to come over late at night. Then the next day he'd be desperate to get rid of me. W...
A. 28 March 2011: To me it sounds like he didnt care about you at all when you were together. He treated you bad and if im honest it just sounds like he was only with you for sex. Dont let him use you again. If you really liked him and want to give him a chance well ... (read in full...)
Is he only talking to me because he is a gentleman, or does he like me?
Q. Okay,well there is the guy I have a huge crush on this guy in my math class. I am not like other girls, I am just your plain ol' fat girl. Not by any means morbidly obese, just fat. I don't know if he is talking to me just to be a gentleman, or ...
A. 28 March 2011: Well all different people act differently when they like somebody, therefore there is no real way you can tell if he likes you unless you ask him. If he is talkin to you am sure the only reason he is doing that is because he is interested in getting ... (read in full...)
My ex is cheating on her current boyfriend with me......
Q. My ex-girlfriend is cheating on her current boyfriend with me. It had been a year since we broke up and I get a text from her Recently. You can guess what happened from there and is still happening. I say she needs to leave her current boyfriend ...
A. 28 March 2011: You need to talk to her and see what exactly it is that she wants. You shouldnt be sleeping with her when you know that she has a boyfriend. What the both of you are doing is wrong, and am sure you dont want to be the other man either. Talk to h... (read in full...)
Was I being childish and selfish over this situation? And how to deal with our opposing families?
Q. Hi everyone, Just wondering what your thoughts are on this – I’m in a 2 year relationship with a 32 year old Muslim man from a country outside mine. I am 26 and a white Muslim convert (I don’t wear hijab but I do believe in the principl...
A. 28 March 2011: No you shouldnt feel bad for being upset. Off course it was going to hurt you him running of like that, even though you are aware of the situation he is in with his family, he still shouldnt have ran away, especially since he keeps telling you he is ... (read in full...)
Do I have a shot with him?
Q. This guy i like... He has a girlfriend and i never see them together and i never hear either one talk about the other. Does this mean i might have a shot with him?...
A. 25 March 2011: No it doesnt mean that at all. You should never go after some other girls boyfriend because in future it may turn on you, karma is a horrible thing. They might have a private relationship and therefore they dont talk about each other to other ... (read in full...)
Ex wants me back but I like someone else
Q. i have broken with my boyfriend 6 months ago and these 6 months he was very angry with me because i was the one who broke up but suddenly after 6 months he become friendly with me and know he wants to start our relationship again but know i like ...
A. 25 March 2011: There is only one thing you can do and that is be honest with him. Tell him that you are flattered but that you like somebody else now and that he needs to accept that you and him are over. ... (read in full...)
After every fight he calls his ex! Is he not over her?
Q. I have been married for 5 years. We have baby, but whenever I argue with my husband he always start calling his ex. Then it takes time before I notice. When I confront him he say they are just friends and it was out of frustration. Could it be he ...
A. 25 March 2011: Does he call her only after you both have a fight and no other time? If so then yes if I were you I would be worried aswell.
If it is a case that he is only friends with her and calls her now and again that would be fine, but if he only calls he... (read in full...)
My 3rd cousin is checking me out. Does he want me to help him with relationships?
Q. I have a small concern and issue. I havent seen my cousin for many years. He is my third cousin so we are that distant. Well we moved to a new town and we just happen to run into each other. Him and my fiancée are really good friends. Well I have ...
A. 25 March 2011: Could you make it a bit more clearer, exactly what are you wanting to help him out with? Is it to find him a new girlfriend or for you to actually have sex with him? If its what I think it is and you are deciding if you should have sex with him for ... (read in full...)
Please help me save my relationship today before my boyfriend and I meet
Q. i am desperate for help asap. my boyfriend and i have been dating for 2 yrs on and off. since this past december we have been wonderful. we got into a discussion and it has led to him saying he needs time. my boyfriend is very straight forward. In ...
A. 25 March 2011: I guess sometimes we realise to late when we have done wrong. He asked you for time yet you kept continuing to contact him, that would have came across to him as needy and would have anoyed him as you never listened to him. The best thing you can do ... (read in full...)
One week we are so in love, the next week everything has changed?
Q. Hey everyone My question or advice requirement is as follows Over 6 months ago I met a beautiful stunning girl who was from USA - she was working in Manchester and I live in London We had an amazing time and it got serious quick, we chatte...
A. 25 March 2011: The best thing you can do is to sit back and wait for her to come to you. You cant keep texting or calling. She is not replying therefore if you keep trying to contact her you will come across as needy. She has explained she is not ready for ... (read in full...)
He's been talking to his ex
Q. I'm super confused with my relationship. My boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and its been an up and down relationship. He cheated on me with another girl and it took awhile to get over that but i finally have and she is no longer in ...
A. 24 March 2011: Your right it wouldnt be fair to bring a child in to this so please dont go falling pregnant until you have both sorted this. Whats happening here is you forgave him for cheating on you, but now that he is talking to another girl it is putting ... (read in full...)
One week we are so in love, the next week everything has changed?
Q. Hey everyone My question or advice requirement is as follows Over 6 months ago I met a beautiful stunning girl who was from USA - she was working in Manchester and I live in London We had an amazing time and it got serious quick, we chatte...
A. 24 March 2011: Well theres your answer, good for her she was completely honest with you and told you how she felt. It is clear she is not ready for commitment and she wants to enjoy her life independantly and doesnt want you holding her back. If you think you are ... (read in full...)
Online dating. 17 year older woman. how to come around the hurddle of special friendship for sex?
Q. hi everyone, I have communicating with an acquarius woman for more than 3 months now.I am 23 and she is 40. Despite the age difference we have talked about everything. Her life, marriage, children, her passion, dreams, EVERYTHING!! Same with m...
A. 24 March 2011: Ok well i apologise for misunderstanding that. But still she has made it clear she doesnt want anything more than an online friendship whatever her reasons are I guess you just need to respect her wishes. ... (read in full...)
Strained relationship with mom ever since I came out
Q. I can't stand it! I feel as if I can't be myself around my mum! Ever since I came out last summer We have had a strained relationship. Before she would ask me about girls and stuff and I know it is an adjustment but now I don't feel I can talk about ...
A. 24 March 2011: I guess maybe your news was just a shock to her and that she is unsure how to address it. My guess is she is just as frustrated as you as she probably doesnt know how to talk to you anymore.
The only thing you can do here is to sit down with her... (read in full...)
Online dating. 17 year older woman. how to come around the hurddle of special friendship for sex?
Q. hi everyone, I have communicating with an acquarius woman for more than 3 months now.I am 23 and she is 40. Despite the age difference we have talked about everything. Her life, marriage, children, her passion, dreams, EVERYTHING!! Same with m...
A. 23 March 2011: There is no way to go around it Im afraid. She has made it clear to you that all she is looking for is an online friendship. You mention that she has spoke about her marriage and children, therefore I am assuming that she is still married. If that ... (read in full...)
One week we are so in love, the next week everything has changed?
Q. Hey everyone My question or advice requirement is as follows Over 6 months ago I met a beautiful stunning girl who was from USA - she was working in Manchester and I live in London We had an amazing time and it got serious quick, we chatte...
A. 6 March 2011: It sounds to me like she backed away because you told her you were in love with her. You moved things a bit to fast for her and it scared her a bit. You need to learn to take things slowly and dont rush in to anything. I think now the best thing you ... (read in full...)
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