Late replies......
Q. My ex boyfriend and I got back into contact recently.When he came back on holidays, we hanged out twice. Once just the two of us and the other time with a friend.My feelings for him is still raw. I dont think he still loves me.We just hanged out as ...
A. 8 May 2011: I know it is hard but you just need to accept that it is over, tell yourself over and over again that you are never going to get back with him, no buts or maybes you just need to keep telling yourself it is not going to happen. Once you have ... (read in full...)
I don't get treated to anything at all!
Q. My man doesn't take me out! We've been together a good five months, and he's never taken me for a meal, or anything of the sort. We've been for a few picnics and days out, but usually accompanied my his friends! I feel like I can't ask him to...
A. 5 May 2011: The only thing that you can do is show him what you want. Sometimes hinting to men about what you want falls on deaf ears, so why dont you suggest something. Instead of doing the same things all the time with his friends why dont you suggest to him ... (read in full...)
Do all guys just go out to get sex?
Q. i've dated a few guys in the last two months, one after the other and none of them ended up anywhere. i understand dating is hard, and obviously not everyone meets the right person. but soon after these guys went on two or so dates with me (which ...
A. 5 May 2011: No rest assure that you are doing nothing wrong. Not all guys are out looking for sex believe me there are decent men out there, so hold out for them and believe me they will appreciate you more for it when they come along. Yes it is true that a lot ... (read in full...)
No eye contact with my old flame, does that mean he's not interested/
Q. Help!!! I am in my mid fifties and met up with the boyfriend who gave my first snog about 13 years of age, I met up with him 7 years ago and since then he has kept in touch but told me of the ladies he is dating and then got back with his ex wife. ...
A. 5 May 2011: Your very welcome. I hope that he gets back to you soon and if he doesnt well then just remember it is his loss.... (read in full...)
He gets short tempered when I get emotional.....any ideas on how we can deal with this?
Q. I love my boyfriend of 18 months but when I get PMT and emotional he gets short tempered and can't deal with it. I get tearful if we disagree and feel over sensitive generally. He tells me I am over the top and he can't tread on egg shells. I never ...
A. 4 May 2011: I guess your boyfriend just cant handle emotions very well. I guess a lot of men are like this. If they see someone crying it scares them because they dont know what to do and it just makes them angry at the person and feel uncomfortable.
I gue... (read in full...)
Late replies......
Q. My ex boyfriend and I got back into contact recently.When he came back on holidays, we hanged out twice. Once just the two of us and the other time with a friend.My feelings for him is still raw. I dont think he still loves me.We just hanged out as ...
A. 4 May 2011: Maybe he knows that you still have feelings for him and he is ignoring you because he just doesnt feel the same way. It is probably him trying to be kind to you in his own way so that you dont think he is leading you on. Sweetie you really need to ... (read in full...)
Does it sound like she likes me and wants to be with me?
Q. i really like this girl and have done for a while now but the thing is shes one of my friends girlfriend. he isn't that good of a friend either. i was talking to her last night via facebook and i was talking to my best friend as well who also kn...
A. 4 May 2011: It could actually just be possible that this girl thinks you are a nice guy and she trusts you with her problems. I dont think you should do anything here, she is in a relationship and you know her boyfriend. Even if he is not the closest of friends ... (read in full...)
Why does he suddenly want to rush things with me now?
Q. im 18/f hes 19/m :) so me and my best friend like each other (yes haha i have posted earlier on today! haha) the thing is, for the last 5 months that we've been insanely close for we haven't done anything sexual with each other at all, we di...
A. 4 May 2011: I guess it is just his male hormones, deep down he probably does want to wait and not ruin things but then male hormones kick in and he wants to have sex with you. If you want my advice I think that you should wait it out. I understand that you want ... (read in full...)
Is he keeping me hanging because he doesn't want to see me with another guy? Should we continue as friends or go no contact?
Q. I posted a question a while ago for advice with my ex who still contacts me, meets up etc. This might be a long post but its not a drag I promise and I appreciate any advice given :-) For those who havnt read my previous post. Basically m...
A. 4 May 2011: Yes the best thing that you can do if I am honest is have no contact with him, either he wants a relationship or not, when there is feelings involved there really is no middle. Friends would work if you where over him and accepted him as a friend ... (read in full...)
Can you give me some suggestions as to how my fiancé might cope with my past?
Q. Last year, I left an abusive relationship. My ex lied, cheated and abused me physically and emotionally for many years. During the time frame (years ago), I also briefly worked as a porn star when we were in a financial dilemma. I'm now out of...
A. 4 May 2011: There is nothing really you can do here. Your past is your past and you cannot change that. The only thing you can do now is continue to show him that you are not that person anymore and make him realise that it was only a job to you and a way for ... (read in full...)
Do you lose your virginity if you get fingered?
Q. Do you lose your virginity if you get fingered?...
A. 4 May 2011: No you only lose your virginity when you have sexual intercourse.... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to give me my stuff back. Do you think it means he wants to get back together?
Q. dear cupid, so, about three weeks ago, my boyfriend and i broke up. there aren't really any hard feelings, and we didn't fight about it--life just kind of got in the way of us being together right now, and we just calmly discussed the situation. ...
A. 4 May 2011: Erm from what he wrote back it is really hard to understand what his meaning was from behind the text but no I wouldn't take it that he wants to get back with you. In fact it is quite a childish response from someone when it was a mutual break up ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never texts me back!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a lovely relationship, but he never texts me back! Only if I'm in a bit of a mood with him and then he texts me loads! It's really annoying because I can't get in touch with him, and it feels as if he never thinks of me. I...
A. 4 May 2011: Yes I think that you should sit down with him and tell him exactly how you feel. Maybe if he knows then that you feel like this then he mat start making more of an effort!... (read in full...)
Our relationship lacks intimacy and sex!
Q. My husband has never wanted to kiss me or caress me. I am not ugly, I take care of myself and exercise an wear makeup well. If I try to kiss him he scrunches his nose like I am a disease. I have to give him head but he never gives it to me. If I ...
A. 3 May 2011: I dont for one minute think that you are ugly. Has this something that has just developed or has he always lacked affection? You say you have to give him head and you dont get anything in return. So you are not getting anything sexual out of this ... (read in full...)
Is it too soon to move on?
Q. Please give me advice as im confused. I separated from a 5 year relationship about 12 weeks ago. Although my ex is saying in his head its been over for approx 18 months. We have a child together and I love him but he says we will never get back ...
A. 3 May 2011: Ok well you mention that he is not your usual type, but look at it this way your usual type hasnt worked out for you as of yet has it? So maybe it might do you good to change your type and see how it works out for you. In my opinion no it is not to ... (read in full...)
Fiance won't get rid of pictures of his ex!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half, he recently proposed and I said yes. Only problem is he won't get rid of pictures of him and his ex girlfriend. They had many issues, he said they would break up and get back together, ...
A. 3 May 2011: No I actually disagree with you here. Ok i know it is not nice knowing that your boyfriend has pictures of him and his ex but if they are stored away somewhere and he is not always sitting looking at them well then I dont see the problem. At the end ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never texts me back!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have a lovely relationship, but he never texts me back! Only if I'm in a bit of a mood with him and then he texts me loads! It's really annoying because I can't get in touch with him, and it feels as if he never thinks of me. I...
A. 3 May 2011: Well maybe it is just a case that he doesnt like texting. Some people dont actually like sending messages. Therefore maybe you could both call each other more instead. If he doesnt call you either well then you need to question does he actually care ... (read in full...)
How important do you think chemistry is when choosing a bf or gf?
Q. I am in my mid 30's, I think I have a pretty face but I don't really have a good body (I've abused it in my 20's and I have the physical scars to prove it). My ex husband (with whom I was with for over 15 years) divorced me 5 years ago because he ...
A. 3 May 2011: Well firstly should I say that it was very selfish of your ex husband to say that to you, that must be one of the most hurtful things someone can say to a woman and its extremely disrespectful on his part. Anyway moving on. I guess sometimes ... (read in full...)
I have a very strong need to talk to my coworker about "that night." Should I?
Q. I have been happily married for almost 9 years. About six months ago while away on a business trip I had a brief encounter with a married coworker. We didn't have sex but we kissed and a bit more. Ever since I met this guy there has been a clear ...
A. 3 May 2011: I think you need to get to the bottom of what it is that is giving you the urge to talk to him. Obviously there is something there when you want to bring it all back up again. If I were you I would have thought that leaving it all behind you and ... (read in full...)
How do I feel that spark?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 months and he is in love with me and I really like him too, but I don't know If I feel the same way. And he has many family things happening at home and I know it will crush him if I broke up with him ...
A. 3 May 2011: You cant force yourself to love somebody. Either you want to be with them or else you dont am afraid. Give it some more time as feelings can deepen over time. But if after a few more months you still dont think that your heart is in it well then it ... (read in full...)
I'm 13. How do I get a girl to like me?
Q. I am 13years old in sixth grade and no one likes me and I dint know y any ideas on how to get a girl to like me...
A. 3 May 2011: Nobody should change for anybody. Just be yourself. Be friendly and kind and talk to people and get to know them. But never change yourself. If they dont like you well then that is there problem not yours. ... (read in full...)
Why did he disregard the conversation and not call back?
Q. I am wondering why my boyfriend just hurried to get off the phone by telling me he had an important call to take. I was just getting ready to break up with him and I had started the conversation and he was participating in the conversation with very ...
A. 3 May 2011: Ok well I didn't realize that you where in a LDR so I apologize. I guess the only way you can break up with him is over the phone then, that is acceptable. If you are going to be unhappy for the next few months well then tell him soon so that you ... (read in full...)
Not impressed. he asked me to go skating, but instead he ignored me. Why?
Q. Ok, so I met this boy over the week end at a leisure place near me I had no idea who he was, but he was hanging around my older brother and some of his friends. He introduced him self to me and we started to hang out. We were talking and he was aski...
A. 3 May 2011: Maybe he was just trying to impress you by showing an interest in your family and showing you that he can be good with children, who knows. Its still early days so just see if he contacts you again and see how you both get on in the future!... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to ask my BF to hang out with me more often?
Q. So well its almost summer time, we have 4 more days until school is out. My boyfriend lives three hours from me when were at our homes - he says we will most likely only see each other once this whole summer (3 months!). I don't really like that ...
A. 3 May 2011: He is not to be trusted! You deserve better.... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to ask my BF to hang out with me more often?
Q. So well its almost summer time, we have 4 more days until school is out. My boyfriend lives three hours from me when were at our homes - he says we will most likely only see each other once this whole summer (3 months!). I don't really like that ...
A. 3 May 2011: No sweetie you are not wrong at all. If i am honest it sounds to me like your boyfriend is just not that bothered at all. He said you will probably only see each other once over summer holidays he hasnt even tried to make an effort to arrange ... (read in full...)
I suspect my BF is cheating and need some advice as to handling the situation.
Q. This is kind of a long one but i need to tell the whole story in order to get advice. A bit of history first. My boyfriend and i and been going out for 3 years. We are looking for a house to rent in June and this will be our first real home togeth...
A. 3 May 2011: Sweetie if I am honest with you i think it might just be your insecurites. Your boyfriend knew you had trust issues and he probably didnt want to let you know that some girl from work was texting and hanging out with him. He probably lied to cover ... (read in full...)
Should I try and make amends with him, at least on a platonic level?
Q. My ex moved away and that is when we stopped dating. Eventually I stopped replying to his e-mails cause I was seeing someone else and was very busy. Now we're both back home and he ignores me completely, but my feelings never went away. I tried to...
A. 3 May 2011: If he is ignoring you well then this is a clear sign that he doesnt want to get back in contact with you. I think the best thing for you to do is to leave it at that and dont email him again. If you see him face to face smile say hello and ask him ... (read in full...)
Why did he disregard the conversation and not call back?
Q. I am wondering why my boyfriend just hurried to get off the phone by telling me he had an important call to take. I was just getting ready to break up with him and I had started the conversation and he was participating in the conversation with very ...
A. 3 May 2011: I guess maybe he just didnt want to hear the truth or else he didnt know how to handle you breaking up with him therefore he hung up the phone. Its always best to break up with someone face to face anyway. If you respect him well then do it face to ... (read in full...)
My marriage is void of intimacy and I feel I'm running out of time.
Q. I have been married for 33 years. We (my wife and I) never had intercourse before marriage. Although we did everything but, before marriage. We have never been able to make each other orgasm or cum through intercourse. Masturbation seems to be the ...
A. 3 May 2011: I guess your wife has just reached a point in her life where she has lost her sex drive. Believe me this is more common in women her age than you would probably think. However I guess you are feeling kind of lost without the intimacy and nobody ... (read in full...)
Our relationship is suffering. How do I compromise with my mom?
Q. Hey. I'm a little worried about my relationship with my mom. (mother to daughter). We used to be really close, and i would be able to tell her everything. I can't do that since I hit the teens and there are horrible fights every single day. Over ...
A. 3 May 2011: She is not jelous of you, I guess she just doesnt want to see her little girl grow up to fast. It does sound to me like that is a lot of make up for someone to be wearing. I guess she just doesnt want people to think the wrong image about you. ... (read in full...)
I love him..but I'm not sure how to say it, or what to do.
Q. Here we go again... I just got out of a two year relationship, with 1 year olds father, he was very mean, and treated me like i was his property instead of a person, he doesnt treat me like a women, and i finally have had enough!! So as of two week...
A. 3 May 2011: I guess there is nothing really that you can do here. You cannot force him in to wanting a relationship with you. You say he is perfect but I guess he is not so perfect or he would be all yours. I think what his problem is, is that he doesnt want ... (read in full...)
He's 23, I'm 40, we had a fleeting relationship, but now he's suddenly decided he wants space and has taken off!
Q. Ok in october 2010 I moved into a new neighborhood, directly across the street was a gorgeous younger man. I have been living with someone for 2 1/2 yrs in a "relationship" but he treated me crappy but was helping me pay for college, so I exsist...
A. 3 May 2011: Yes am afraid so. You might think he will think that, but no he will think that you are clingy and you just will not let go off him. Men have different ways of thinking and if you keep contacting him he is just going to get more fed up with you. ... (read in full...)
No eye contact with my old flame, does that mean he's not interested/
Q. Help!!! I am in my mid fifties and met up with the boyfriend who gave my first snog about 13 years of age, I met up with him 7 years ago and since then he has kept in touch but told me of the ladies he is dating and then got back with his ex wife. ...
A. 3 May 2011: The thing about the no eye contact well that doesnt mean that he doesnt like you, it could just be possible that he is vunerable and shy and doesnt want to look you straight in the eye. Dont take it as him not liking you. Go for it and dont look ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my gf seems to have a guy she dated still on her mind?
Q. I have been with my girl for almost a year now... We really love each other.. and are very secure that the other person wont leave us or cheat. She has a past, has been a wild girl and has dated many many people,and one of them--the one sh...
A. 3 May 2011: You need to let this go or you will end up pushing her over the edge and she will leave...Its a word that she associates with him, theres no big deal here at all. Seriously he was part of her past and she cant just erase memories. He was her friend. ... (read in full...)
Addicted to my ex even though he treats me badly
Q. I feel addicted to my ex even though he treated me badly. I finished the relationship but he keeps contacting me even though I asked him to stop each time. I don't contact him but we spoke for an hour the other day after 2 months. I kno...
A. 3 May 2011: I agree there is nothing wrong with you. Even though he treated you badly you still cant help who you fall for whether they treat you good or not. You obviously jut got used to having him in your life and fell in to a routine and now you miss that, ... (read in full...)
What does he mean he can't give me what I want?
Q. What does a man mean when he says he can't give you what you want?...
A. 2 May 2011: He obviously doesnt want the same things that you want. If it is in regard to being in a relationship well then it means he doesnt want to be in one. ... (read in full...)
Is ex just keeping me around so he won't be lonely?
Q. I know half of you are going to be upset with this, but I have been talking to my ex-boyfriend for the last month and it seemed like he was ready to get into a relationship with me again. We dated two years ago, but we've kept in contact over that ...
A. 2 May 2011: It sounds to me like yes he does still care about you but that he is just not in the right place right now for a relationship. Am sure he still cares about you and still wants you in his life. But dont hope that one day he will be your boyfriend ... (read in full...)
Did he cheat on his g/f with me?
Q. hi, im here for some advice on a friend. we are17 and juniors in high school. he has a gf. but we've become really close. we flirt a lottt. so i added him on fb the other day, and he immediately mssgd me. he asked to hang out and gave me his number ...
A. 2 May 2011: Yes he did cheat on her. He is a flirt and a guy not to be trusted. Now my question to you is why did you let this happen when you knew that he had a girlfriend? It is wrong on both of your parts to be acting like this. Look at it from another angle ... (read in full...)
I (male) had sex with my (female) friend's bf (male) and don't know if I should tell me friend or not!!
Q. Me and my b/f started dating on phone and it took us about 3-4 months before we could see each other. It was a week after me and my b/f started dating that a friend of mine came to visit me and i told her about my new boyfriend and showed her all ...
A. 2 May 2011: If he forced you to have sex well then this is called rape and you need to talk to someone about it. If he raped you then contact your local police station and tell your friend straight away as am sure you wouldnt want him to hurt your friend in the ... (read in full...)
No eye contact with my old flame, does that mean he's not interested/
Q. Help!!! I am in my mid fifties and met up with the boyfriend who gave my first snog about 13 years of age, I met up with him 7 years ago and since then he has kept in touch but told me of the ladies he is dating and then got back with his ex wife. ...
A. 2 May 2011: Well if am honest with you it does sound like he just sees you as an old friend who he had a catch up with twice, there is nothing here to say he felt anything more. But if you feel something more for him well then yes life is to short so get on to ... (read in full...)
Can two completely different people be in a happy relationship?
Q. I have been with this guy for about 2 months.He is into rock, heavy metal and I like pop.He likes to get drunk and smoke pot, and I'm just not into it.We have a good chemistry and we like to debate about our differences, but there are some things ...
A. 2 May 2011: Try being a bit more open minded and accept who he is. At the end of the day sometimes opposites do attract but if you are not comfortable with who he is or some of the things he does well then he may not be the guy for you im afraid.... (read in full...)
My children or the woman I love?
Q. Hi. I am in love with another woman and I am married. But I no longer love my wife of 12 years. It has become a marriage of convenience. We have two young children who mean the world to me. If my wife and I separate, I would not see my chi...
A. 2 May 2011: You shouldnt have to chose. At the end of the day I dont think two people should be together just because of children because those two people will be unhappy and children can sense these kind of feelings floating around. Yes it would be very hard ... (read in full...)
Addicted to my ex even though he treats me badly
Q. I feel addicted to my ex even though he treated me badly. I finished the relationship but he keeps contacting me even though I asked him to stop each time. I don't contact him but we spoke for an hour the other day after 2 months. I kno...
A. 2 May 2011: Change your number so that he can not contact your phone anymore, or simply just hang up the phone, tell him leave you alone and leave it at that. You have come this far so now is not the time to be going backwards, its the time to be moving on and ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my gf seems to have a guy she dated still on her mind?
Q. I have been with my girl for almost a year now... We really love each other.. and are very secure that the other person wont leave us or cheat. She has a past, has been a wild girl and has dated many many people,and one of them--the one sh...
A. 2 May 2011: I think you are totally over reacting here. Obviously this word was associated with this guy years ago when they were friends. You said they were friends for a long time and in that friend zone they obviously associated this word with AJ. It doesnt ... (read in full...)
He's 23, I'm 40, we had a fleeting relationship, but now he's suddenly decided he wants space and has taken off!
Q. Ok in october 2010 I moved into a new neighborhood, directly across the street was a gorgeous younger man. I have been living with someone for 2 1/2 yrs in a "relationship" but he treated me crappy but was helping me pay for college, so I exsist...
A. 24 February 2011: Yes you really do need to stop that. When somebody asks for space the last thing you should do is text or email them, you are probably driving him further away from you without realising it. Its time to let go.... (read in full...)
He's 23, I'm 40, we had a fleeting relationship, but now he's suddenly decided he wants space and has taken off!
Q. Ok in october 2010 I moved into a new neighborhood, directly across the street was a gorgeous younger man. I have been living with someone for 2 1/2 yrs in a "relationship" but he treated me crappy but was helping me pay for college, so I exsist...
A. 23 February 2011: The only thing you can do sweetie is to let him go. He has told you straight that he needs space, therefore the only thing you can do is give this to him. Am sure you were an important person in his life but he needs to sort out his head at the ... (read in full...)
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