I've had to cancel seeing her a few times, she has family problems, what can I do to make her feel better??
Q. I really am so down. I need help , well advice me and my girlfriend have an amazing relationship. Really. We love each other Now the problem is she has an over emosional big sister and a really agrivated brother. So when she does somet...
A. 25 April 2011: Your very welcome.... (read in full...)
Small hard spots inside of me. What are they?
Q. Hi,I've got small hard spots in my vaginal walls under the skin. They are not sore or anything, I'm just worried they are something serious. I dont think they are because I've had them for a while now but I'm too scared to tell my mum or go to the ...
A. 24 April 2011: You shouldnt be scared about going to your doctor. At the end of the day thats what doctors are there for and it is totally confident. Its there job and it is not as embarressing as you think. You need to get a check out if you get bodily changes it ... (read in full...)
Sexually inexperienced--should I just tell him to grab a condom?
Q. I'm not really sure what I'm asking here...advice I guess... I recently started to fool around with a friend (we haven't had intercourse- only oral sex, and a lot of dry humping with nothing but our underwear on). Anyhow, thing is I had only eve...
A. 24 April 2011: If you are able to be intimate with him well then you should be able to talk to him about it. So really there is no way around it. You need to talk to him and ask him does he want to have sex and ask him to tell you what he likes so that you can ... (read in full...)
He has cheated on me at least 6 times but still I am with him!
Q. Im so stuck. I feel lost and heartbroken. And im really uncertain of what to do. I have been with my boyfriend for two years now. I have always been faithful to him. Completely stopped talking to other boys infact to make him feel better. Although ...
A. 24 April 2011: Its who he is. He is trying to control you by putting on the water works and then threatning to hurt himself if you leave. He is only threatning this because he knows if he tells you he loves you cries and says he cant live without you well then you ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I might be pregnant and I'm scared to tell my parents!
Q. Hi, Im 14 years old and I have a boyfriend that is 16. Me and him had sex about a monto get h ago and I was supossed to get my period a week ago but it hasnt come. Im afraid I might be pregnant. We used a condom, but it broke. I dont know how to t...
A. 24 April 2011: Ok well you say the condom broke so therefore there is a big chance that you might be pregnant. Why didnt you think to go to the doctor for the morning after pill after it broke? You should have knowing to go and get it to prevent yourself getting ... (read in full...)
Can someone who was abused never be able to love again.... I miss her
Q. Recently i went through a bad break up. i was separated for over a year and a half when i met this woman and she knew what my status was. i wasn't looking to date but we kept meeting each other professionally and then it just clicked from there. ...
A. 24 April 2011: I am sorry but I dont think that she did love you. She may have once cared for you, but if she loved you well then she wouldnt have left you. Its horrible that she was abused in the past and if she hasnt dealt with that yet well then yes it might ... (read in full...)
I've had to cancel seeing her a few times, she has family problems, what can I do to make her feel better??
Q. I really am so down. I need help , well advice me and my girlfriend have an amazing relationship. Really. We love each other Now the problem is she has an over emosional big sister and a really agrivated brother. So when she does somet...
A. 23 April 2011: Talk to her brother, but do not do it infront of his mum. You are an adult and I am assuming he is aswell. So talk to him privately and ask him why he has made this story up. Be reasonable with him and tell him that you are trying your hardest to ... (read in full...)
Difficult situation, we click, but he is married. What to do??
Q. I met a married man on his 50's, 10 years older ten months back. At first he told me he is divorced but admitted the truth on our 2nd month. He told me to give him 2 years to wait for him to finally divorce his wife. I always have told him to just ...
A. 23 April 2011: Yes he can lie and cheat to her, what does that show you about this man? He took vows to this woman and he is now breaking them. Who is to say he will not do the same to you. You say you are giving it two years because you dont want to hurt his ... (read in full...)
I am infatuated with my boss!
Q. I have a lady boss who is 10 years younger to me. she is married. She used to like me a lot in terms of me being competent in my work. I like her to the extent that I don't want to report to anyone else at least till she is working in the ...
A. 23 April 2011: Ok this is getting quite serious. It is starting to become an obbsession with you. Which is not healthy. You need to sit down and realise that she is a business woman and the only way she is speaking to you is because you work for her. You should ... (read in full...)
I found a text from another woman and it's tearing me apart!
Q. hi i neeed some help.. i would realy appreciate every reply Basically I have been in a relationship for nearly 2 years our relationship was going extremely well we were like sole mates we trusted each other with all our heart..I could feel his l...
A. 23 April 2011: Well sweetie when a guy betrays your trust this is what happens. It is always at the back of your head niggeling and it makes you feel insecure. Its normal to feel the way that you are feeling and am afraid he is just going to have to live with it ... (read in full...)
I'm meeting an old friend (crush) tomorrow, how can I overcome my nerves?
Q. I'm meeting with an old best friend/guy I used to go out with tomorrow for a brief reunion before he leaves to go travelling. Long story short, we were best friends during school but there was a spark between us. A year ago, we had difficulties...
A. 23 April 2011: Sweeite if the both of you where best friends well then this will not be a problem. BELIEVE ME. Yes of course you are going to be a nervous wreck at the moment about meeting him, this is completely normal but as soon as you both meet it will be like ... (read in full...)
Was what we did considered cheating?
Q. Today i went out with my friends including this guy who I've been having feeling for recently and we went to the park and everyone else went off and it was just me him and my best friend and we were playing catch and coming on to each other as a ...
A. 23 April 2011: Technically no it was not cheating but yes it could very well be something that your boyfriend will get jelous of. Try and look at it from the other way. If that boy was your boyfriend and you were some other girl would you find it acceptable for ... (read in full...)
Difficult situation, we click, but he is married. What to do??
Q. I met a married man on his 50's, 10 years older ten months back. At first he told me he is divorced but admitted the truth on our 2nd month. He told me to give him 2 years to wait for him to finally divorce his wife. I always have told him to just ...
A. 23 April 2011: What you are doing at the moment is wrong I hope you know that. He is a married man and therefore he belongs to another woman and you are the one that is having an affair with him. If you were serious about him well then you should have put your ... (read in full...)
With our differences in parenting styles, how do we compromise??
Q. Hey me and my husband have completly diffrent parenting styles. He is was to strict and i have rules to but im more layed back. He doesnt even want our kids when teenagers to drink pop. I never heard of a teenager not knowing what pop taste like. I ...
A. 23 April 2011: Your right this is all down to how the both of you where brought up and am sure that the both of you turned out just fine. Everyone has there disagreements. I guess the only way to make it fair between the both of you is to sit down and each write ... (read in full...)
He wants a house here, I don't, what should I do?
Q. At the beging of the year, I started to see my ex boyfriend again and things are going great. But now he want's to buy a house and settle down. I really love him and care for him but I hate living in this town and so does he so I don't understand ...
A. 23 April 2011: I think you should try and talk to him. You say you wouldnt mind a ring on your finger well that must show that you love him and if that is the case well then you should not give up without a fight as you will be left heartbroken and asking yourself ... (read in full...)
He wants to be in the military, I am anxious now in our relationship, what do I do when he leaves for war??
Q. My fiancee wants to join the marines and be a sniper. I really dont want him to go and i cry just thingking about it, i got him to agree before that he wouldnt go but it always comes back up. So sence it would make him happy i finally said ok. But i ...
A. 23 April 2011: You wont handle it very well if you keep going the way that you are going. You are jumping way ahead he is only at the stage where he is wanting to join the marines and already you are thinking about him going to war. Even if he joined tomorrow the ... (read in full...)
Is masturbation a normal thing??
Q. i have this problem i mustarbate sometimes i have a gf and we have briliant sex but i do and sometimes i feel watching porn and thats against my believe of 10 commandement. Wat i tink is i m too old 2 mustarbate and also tink i m not normal is the ...
A. 23 April 2011: The answer to your question is yes it is normal. Even some married men still masterbate. It is just a thing that relaxes men and gives them time to chill out on there own. Dont worry there is nothing wrong with you at all. It is completely normal.... (read in full...)
He stopped talking to me, should I join the scout group he is in or not??
Q. this guy that i like doesnt talk to me at all any more we used to talk quite alot but then this girl asked him out for me and he stopped talking to me this was about a year ago and i am goin to start the scout group that he goes to but i dont wan...
A. 23 April 2011: Well hunny if you want to start the group then start it. Dont not go just because you are scared that he will stop going. If he stops going that is his problem not yours. Go for it you have nothing to lose and it will be fun for you am sure.... (read in full...)
How do I ask my mom about birth control pills diplomatically??
Q. i need to get on the birth control pill, im seventeen. how do i go about talking to my mom about it? i really need it. ...
A. 23 April 2011: I know that this is a scary topic to bring up with your mum, but believe me you are being very sensible about this. I am sure that your mother will appreciate that you are thinking about these things and she will realise that you are mature. Yes she ... (read in full...)
With these two sexual encounters, what are my chances of getting pregnant??
Q. i have had sex for the first time, without protection. but within two hours took plan b, as well as he pulled out. i know pulling out doesnt work. but what are my chances a of being pregnant? then i had sex a second time with a condom and pulli...
A. 23 April 2011: If you need to ask these questions well then darling you should not have had sex as you are clearly not ready to have it. First time yes there is a chance you could be pregnant as the pull out method does not always work and it was very silly not to ... (read in full...)
I've had to cancel seeing her a few times, she has family problems, what can I do to make her feel better??
Q. I really am so down. I need help , well advice me and my girlfriend have an amazing relationship. Really. We love each other Now the problem is she has an over emosional big sister and a really agrivated brother. So when she does somet...
A. 23 April 2011: I am really sorry that I dont have a better answer for you but am afraid that you cant fix her. Most of her problems are coming from her over protective family who seem to run her life for her. She needs to take control of her life and stick up to ... (read in full...)
Any suggestions as to how I can end my lonliness??
Q. Helo dear cupid...well this is my second time to raise my question, the first response wasn't satsfied me yet.here is my trouble and challenge...i strongly wanna break my lonliness,but still exacerbated, i'm still single upto 25 yrs.from time to ...
A. 23 April 2011: You are expecting to much from being in a relationship. Just because someone is single does not mean that they need to be lonely. You have friends as you have stated therefore you are not alone. You should not be lying to them as you should not be ... (read in full...)
We broke up, he's with her, how do I move on??
Q. 5 weeks ago I found out my husband was having an affair with my friend who was also my bridesmaid at our wedding!! We have a 9 month old little boy. He is in a relationship with her and as been since we split. I am absolutely devastated, he as ...
A. 23 April 2011: I am so sorry that you have had to go through this. I guess we never truely know somebody as well as we think we do. You need to drop as much contact from him as you possibly can, if you are still in contact with his family well then ask them not to ... (read in full...)
I've been feeling anxious and I've been thinking about my ex all day. Why am I feeling like this?
Q. I've had a bit of a low day today. I've been feeling anxious and thinking about my ex girlfriend all day. I know we all have highs and lows, but I really hate days like this and i'm trying to pinpoint where this comes from. I don't even know if I'm ...
A. 21 April 2011: Your very welcome.... (read in full...)
G/f hates the idea of me going away for a year to college!
Q. hi all. me and my girlfriend's relationship is amazingly strong. we love being together and we are in different schools but the relationship works for sure. no problems. I finish this year and would like to go study 2 years . unluky it's ...
A. 21 April 2011: You just need to be honest with her. Start by telling her that you love her but that you need to go away for your education for a year. Tell her how much you have looked in to other options so you can stay closer to her but that there are no other ... (read in full...)
Fiance very racist and negative and he's exposing our son to his views!
Q. My fiance has always had a negative outlook on life,he is 1/2 black and 1/2 italian he feels every1 is racist and it frustrates the heck ouuta me!he says so much negative things in front of our 5yr old son and i dont like it,i try 2 bring it up 2 ...
A. 21 April 2011: I totally agree with you. Your son should not be growing up being told that most people are racist in the world. He should have the right to judge people for himself and this might very well effect your boys confidence and make him feel that people ... (read in full...)
40 year old girl friend wants her 60 yr boyfriend to arrange her affair with her new lover.
Q. My 41 year old girlfriend wants me to arrange her affair with another person .She wants me to hide my relationship with her I am 60.Separated. I have a college going son.(Late marriage)For the past 3/4 years , I have a rather intimate relation...
A. 21 April 2011: Do you really think that low of yourself that you are willing to share some woman with another man? When you know deep down that it is him that she loves and wants to be with and that you will always be second best. Seriously what is this doing to ... (read in full...)
Was this the right answer to "you're special." Does she like me?
Q. We chated for 4 weeks already. i ask this question "how many contacts have u had"(bb). she said "100+". she ask me back "how many did u have? i bet more than me" than i said "more little. cuz only the special one can be my contact." then she replied ...
A. 20 April 2011: Am sorry but your post is very basic and doesnt give me alot to go by. It sounds from what you say that yes she may want to be friends with you, but I guess if you want more then tell her how you feel and then you will know where you stand.... (read in full...)
Long distance relationship .. ex wanting to be friends with me till we meet and have a real relationship !
Q. hello .. ok i've been in a long distance relationship .. i'm from tunisia and he's from uk .. it was good most of the time. he was planning to visit me on dec but we broke up before that .. so we haven't met ! after new year we talked and we we...
A. 20 April 2011: Why dont you just wait until you go to the united kingdom to study and see how you both get on face to face. He says he wants to marry you yet he has never met you and he is being distant. You both need to spend quality time together to get to know ... (read in full...)
The rule is no dating at my uncle's factory. She is causing people to talk. What does she want?
Q. I am a cute guy who's who got no girlfriend until i travel to another town to continue my education but I'll be with my uncle for a while in his factory where i work. in his factory speculates no relationship of opposite sex is allowed. I've been ...
A. 20 April 2011: It sounds to me like yes she does like you, but she is doing this because you both got caught out. She does not want to disrespect your uncles rules therefore she is backing away. She probably doesnt want to cause trouble between you and your uncle ... (read in full...)
My new wife wants nothing to do with my kids. How can I help everyone reach a compromise?
Q. I have been married for a couple of years to a very attractive and intelligent woman who holds down a good job and earns a lot of money. She is a wonderful woman but although she knew I had children before we married she now won't have anything to ...
A. 20 April 2011: You should never be made feel guilty of spending time with your children. In fact it is good that you are spending weekends with them and being a father to them. I Am sorry but your wife knew that you were a father before she married you ther... (read in full...)
Fiance very racist and negative and he's exposing our son to his views!
Q. My fiance has always had a negative outlook on life,he is 1/2 black and 1/2 italian he feels every1 is racist and it frustrates the heck ouuta me!he says so much negative things in front of our 5yr old son and i dont like it,i try 2 bring it up 2 ...
A. 20 April 2011: You need to talk to him about this in a calm enviroment. Some evening after your son has gone to bed both of you sit down and have a couple of drinks and relax and just explain to him that he should try and be more positive around your son. Tell him ... (read in full...)
G/f hates the idea of me going away for a year to college!
Q. hi all. me and my girlfriend's relationship is amazingly strong. we love being together and we are in different schools but the relationship works for sure. no problems. I finish this year and would like to go study 2 years . unluky it's ...
A. 20 April 2011: Well it sounds to me like you have a strong head on your shoulders and you know what you want. Ok I dont blame your girlfriend for worrying about you being far away at college and her not wanting you to go. But if you get to see each other even once ... (read in full...)
What to do about decietful wife
Q. Hi, i hope you guys can help me out. My wife of 5 years has broken my heart with her deciet, when we first started dating she new everything about me, how i wanted to marry a virgin woman with a good personality,kind at heart and honest. I told her ...
A. 20 April 2011: Wow that is a really big thing to lie about. You must be very hurt at the moment and nobody could blame you. My guess is she knew your views on what kind of woman that you wanted and am guessing she felt like she had to lie in order for you to want ... (read in full...)
Why he doesn't acknowledge me?
Q. Hello, Me and this guy were seeing each other and talking and getting to know each other. We are both physically and sexually attracted to each other a lot. One day he was hanging out at the park which is nearby my house with his friends a...
A. 20 April 2011: Does his friends know that you are both seeing each other? It sounds to me like he doesnt want his friends knowing for some reason and this is why he blanked you. Talk to him about it because nobody deserves this behaviour.... (read in full...)
Should I let this relationship with my ex go because of his double standards?
Q. I don't know what to do. I've been off and on with my boyfriend for about 6 years. Right now he is out of state because he said he needs to even though he could do his business here since it is through internet. Anyway, the last 8 months since he's ...
A. 20 April 2011: Ok well if this new guy doesnt want to be with you then that changes things. You need to stop making out with the new guy because it sounds like you want more than he does and you are going to end up getting hurt in the long run. So I think the best ... (read in full...)
I've been feeling anxious and I've been thinking about my ex all day. Why am I feeling like this?
Q. I've had a bit of a low day today. I've been feeling anxious and thinking about my ex girlfriend all day. I know we all have highs and lows, but I really hate days like this and i'm trying to pinpoint where this comes from. I don't even know if I'm ...
A. 20 April 2011: Off course you are going to feel sad that is totally normal. She was a part of your life and now you are getting over the break up and coming to realise that she will no longer be such a big part in your life therefore it is completely normal to ... (read in full...)
In a relationship, but fell in love with someone else.
Q. Ok, so here goes..i cant handle this thing alone anymore and i need some advice. I'm in a relationship with this guy for 3 years and we live together. I love him and everything is great apart from the usual arguments couples have. Recently i got in ...
A. 20 April 2011: Ah that changes things. I thought from your original post that you have actually met this guy and that he was a big part of your past and someone that you couldnt let go of. If am honest with you I think you are better cutting contact from him and ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with him, and I don't want to regret keeping it a secret!
Q. There's this guy that goes to my school and I'm falling for him. He's not in my class and I'm only going to see him for one more month and I don't want to think about what will happen if I never tell him how I feel. A few weeks ago, one of my c...
A. 20 April 2011: Well if he is shy then he may not know what to say back to you I understand that part but he should take it as a compliment. Well instead of telling him you like him why not ask for his phone number. Just say to him you would like to hang out with ... (read in full...)
Should I wait for my ex-bf, whom I still love, to get his act together and come back to me?
Q. I guess im trying to learn how to deal. I broke up with my bf over a month ago because our relationship went from seeing/talking to each other daily.. to still talking daily (he'd call to say hi, i miss u/love u) but barely hanging out. He used to ...
A. 20 April 2011: It sounds to me like yes he still does love you, im guessing the pressure of working and studying is leaving him stressed out and also with not a lot of spare time for you, therefore yes what he is asking is fairly reasonable.
Be there for him.... (read in full...)
I haven't seen my mother-in-law in 6 years, and now she wants to see my husband and son, but not me. What should I do?
Q. My mother inlaw has hated me for elven years now. My husband went 6 years without speaking to her. Because of the disrespect to has to his wife. She is not a good grandmother to our son because of the hate she has towards me. She wants us to meet ...
A. 20 April 2011: I know this is really difficult for you and she sounds like a hard woman to deal with but at the end of the day she is your husbands mother, she gave birth to him and brought him in to the world and she has every right to see him if he wants to see ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged, he's married, but we've both confessed feelings for each other. How can we deal with this without it affecting our friendship?
Q. My coworker and I have feelings for each other. The problems are he's married and I'm engaged. He admitted to me that he's attracted to me. I admitted that I like him, too. We had a talk. It was a talk about not crossing the line and we are not ...
A. 20 April 2011: If am honest with you if you have feelings for him the best way to handle them and get over them is to cut contact with him. Off course you dont want to do this because he is a friend and you do care about him. But if you are serious about your ... (read in full...)
In a relationship, but fell in love with someone else.
Q. Ok, so here goes..i cant handle this thing alone anymore and i need some advice. I'm in a relationship with this guy for 3 years and we live together. I love him and everything is great apart from the usual arguments couples have. Recently i got in ...
A. 20 April 2011: Whoever you feel more drawing to then go to that person. But just remember if you chose the other fella you will be leaving your family behind and also your home and relationship. Do you really know him that well to give up your whole life for him? ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with him, and I don't want to regret keeping it a secret!
Q. There's this guy that goes to my school and I'm falling for him. He's not in my class and I'm only going to see him for one more month and I don't want to think about what will happen if I never tell him how I feel. A few weeks ago, one of my c...
A. 20 April 2011: Ok well it is obvious that he wasnt interested in your friend. Which yes is a shame for her but dont let this corrupt your mind. Talk to your friend and tell her you like him as well and see how she feels about it. Tell her you are sorry but you ... (read in full...)
In a relationship, but fell in love with someone else.
Q. Ok, so here goes..i cant handle this thing alone anymore and i need some advice. I'm in a relationship with this guy for 3 years and we live together. I love him and everything is great apart from the usual arguments couples have. Recently i got in ...
A. 20 April 2011: Im sorry sweetie but nobody can make this decison for you. It has to be your choice. It is a very hard situation to be in but you really need to give one of them up. I think the best thing you can do is sit down and write down all the pros and cons ... (read in full...)
Should I let this relationship with my ex go because of his double standards?
Q. I don't know what to do. I've been off and on with my boyfriend for about 6 years. Right now he is out of state because he said he needs to even though he could do his business here since it is through internet. Anyway, the last 8 months since he's ...
A. 20 April 2011: In fairness it is not fair to this new guy that you keep dating on and off. You date him because you and your ex has had a fight and broken up and then as soon as you are back together the new guy gets forgotten about, have you actually concidered ... (read in full...)
I've been feeling anxious and I've been thinking about my ex all day. Why am I feeling like this?
Q. I've had a bit of a low day today. I've been feeling anxious and thinking about my ex girlfriend all day. I know we all have highs and lows, but I really hate days like this and i'm trying to pinpoint where this comes from. I don't even know if I'm ...
A. 19 April 2011: I think you need to accept that she is out of your life and take your time to deal with that. You say you do not want to think that she wont be in your life at all. But believe me it is very very difficult to be friends with someone who is an ex ... (read in full...)
I've been feeling anxious and I've been thinking about my ex all day. Why am I feeling like this?
Q. I've had a bit of a low day today. I've been feeling anxious and thinking about my ex girlfriend all day. I know we all have highs and lows, but I really hate days like this and i'm trying to pinpoint where this comes from. I don't even know if I'm ...
A. 18 April 2011: Yes I guess the best possible thing that you can do here is to try and get your ex girlfriend out of your head completely. Have you items that make you think of her? Do you have her on social networking or still keep in contact with her? Any photos ... (read in full...)
I've been feeling anxious and I've been thinking about my ex all day. Why am I feeling like this?
Q. I've had a bit of a low day today. I've been feeling anxious and thinking about my ex girlfriend all day. I know we all have highs and lows, but I really hate days like this and i'm trying to pinpoint where this comes from. I don't even know if I'm ...
A. 18 April 2011: Am sure there is lots of people that can relate to how you are feeling belive me you are not alone. As you said everyone has there good and bad days. My guess is that when you are feeling anxious you wish that you had someone to talk to a girlfriend ... (read in full...)
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