Should I be worried that my gf seems to have a guy she dated still on her mind?
Q. I have been with my girl for almost a year now... We really love each other.. and are very secure that the other person wont leave us or cheat. She has a past, has been a wild girl and has dated many many people,and one of them--the one sh...
A. 3 May 2011: You need to let this go or you will end up pushing her over the edge and she will leave...Its a word that she associates with him, theres no big deal here at all. Seriously he was part of her past and she cant just erase memories. He was her friend. ... (read in full...)
Addicted to my ex even though he treats me badly
Q. I feel addicted to my ex even though he treated me badly. I finished the relationship but he keeps contacting me even though I asked him to stop each time. I don't contact him but we spoke for an hour the other day after 2 months. I kno...
A. 3 May 2011: I agree there is nothing wrong with you. Even though he treated you badly you still cant help who you fall for whether they treat you good or not. You obviously jut got used to having him in your life and fell in to a routine and now you miss that, ... (read in full...)
My children or the woman I love?
Q. Hi. I am in love with another woman and I am married. But I no longer love my wife of 12 years. It has become a marriage of convenience. We have two young children who mean the world to me. If my wife and I separate, I would not see my chi...
A. 2 May 2011: You shouldnt have to chose. At the end of the day I dont think two people should be together just because of children because those two people will be unhappy and children can sense these kind of feelings floating around. Yes it would be very hard ... (read in full...)
Should I still marry the man I love despite his family's antagonism toward me?
Q. Hi all reading this. I am a very strong individual and never imagined i would be even writing here to ask for help but im so much entangled in this situation i just do not know what to do. Please help me. We met over a matrimonial site and ...
A. 2 May 2011: Dont punish him just because his family are being horrible to you. Obviously the dont like your personality and think you are not good for him, but that is his choice and his choice only, there is only two people in a relationship and if he wants to ... (read in full...)
Addicted to my ex even though he treats me badly
Q. I feel addicted to my ex even though he treated me badly. I finished the relationship but he keeps contacting me even though I asked him to stop each time. I don't contact him but we spoke for an hour the other day after 2 months. I kno...
A. 2 May 2011: Change your number so that he can not contact your phone anymore, or simply just hang up the phone, tell him leave you alone and leave it at that. You have come this far so now is not the time to be going backwards, its the time to be moving on and ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my gf seems to have a guy she dated still on her mind?
Q. I have been with my girl for almost a year now... We really love each other.. and are very secure that the other person wont leave us or cheat. She has a past, has been a wild girl and has dated many many people,and one of them--the one sh...
A. 2 May 2011: I think you are totally over reacting here. Obviously this word was associated with this guy years ago when they were friends. You said they were friends for a long time and in that friend zone they obviously associated this word with AJ. It doesnt ... (read in full...)
Help me get out of the 'Friendzone'
Q. I've known him for about eight years and I like him alot, but I think he only thinks of me as a friend.. is there anyway i can get out of the friendzone before it's too late? Thanks :)...
A. 2 May 2011: Tell him how you feel. Its the only way he is going to know. For all you know he might feel the exact same way that you do. So just spill the beans and tell him how you feel. You wont lose anything and might just gain something from it!!... (read in full...)
How far can you go sexually with someone...without actually having sex?
Q. so, my bf and i are doing wonderful together. and things have started to get a little physical. but the problem is, im not a virgin, and he is. and he says he plans on staying that way. i am completely fine with that, im actually kind of proud of ...
A. 2 May 2011: How do you have sex without having sex? Well thats just a silly question because it just cant happen. Off course there is foreplay you can both do by using your fingers and mouth and also he could maybe use a dildo on you if he would be comfortable ... (read in full...)
Am I being too naive to be upset about my Gf's attitude to sleeping her way to the top?
Q. So I have been seeing this girl for a couple months and we got to talking recently about our work and job history. she is a decently successful actress in commercials and some background TV spots. now here's the thing: she was a model first, and she ...
A. 2 May 2011: Personally I dont think you are being to judgemental, yes everyone has a past but it is up to the each person to make there own choices in life, and not a lot of people like the idea of people using others, so no just do what your heart tells you to ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to relax my brain, do you have a suggestion please??
Q. I have a lots of anxiety, and my brain never can rest. . they recomandeded meditation to me many times. I was hoping ,it will help.. I really dont why , but meditation never worked for me. It is not effective to me, no matter what I try. I li...
A. 1 May 2011: You need to find out what relaxes you. Try meditation. Yoga is a great way to relax your body and put your mind at ease. Everyone has stresses and strains in there life but someone we need to manage these and learn how to deal with them, everyone is ... (read in full...)
We broke up, should I keep the promise ring or give it back?
Q. my bf broke up with me 2 days ago in a txt after i had given him space to think if he can b in this relationship bcuz he was havn trust and insecurity issues cuz i have cheated in my past and decided to txt with my sons coach(txts were innocent).... ...
A. 1 May 2011: Unless he asks you to return the ring to him well then no I would keep it, but if he asks for it yes you should return it. I dont think it will help much with the healing process though.... (read in full...)
How do I remedy this problem??
Q. Okay so, I have now been with my boyfriend for two months. I know its not that long. He says he loves me and I say I love him. Im not really sure if I do though. You see we were best friends before we got together! Its bunch of us, its our. "Click". ...
A. 1 May 2011: Well if they are you're friends then they shouldnt chose sides between you and your boyfriend and fall out with you if you break up with him. Explain to him that you just dont have that romantic connection with him but that you still want to be ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to feel, I have had proof that b/f lied and cheated
Q. I have being dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and everything was well untill when i found out last year that when i was away to another country for a month he started flirting with another girl.When i got back he was totally changed and deep ...
A. 30 April 2011: Well at least he is trying however I am not going to lie to you it is going to be very hard for you to be able to trust him again, and off course you cant help still loving him. He has been your boyfriend for a long time. I guess the decision is ... (read in full...)
I really can't figure out from her behavior if she loves me or not?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now but we broke up once because of the long distance, it happened 2 or 3 weeks ago... But we got back together after 1 day no contact, she said we'll be together in 1 condition if I won't go out with ...
A. 30 April 2011: I honestly think that the distance is getting to much for her. She obviously did care for you once but at the moment I think she is just very confused and doesnt know what she wants. Yes I think distance probably is the best idea. Just mail her and ... (read in full...)
How can I best help my best friend recover from this depressing breakup?
Q. My best friend is suffering through a terrible heartbreak, im trying to help her out because she is suffering so much in pain. My friend and her ex, as a couple were my best friends. My friend is soooooo sweet and she is the one to always work thin...
A. 30 April 2011: I guess there is not a lot you can do sweetie but be there as a friend. Its the best that you can do. Be there for a shoulder for her to cry on and show her that you care. Taking her out is great as well because it takes her mind of things. Are ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend feels sad knowing she will be "wife number 2"
Q. I am 23 years old, and have been dating my girlfreind for 8 months, we are truly in love. when i was 20 i got married, but it only lasted 3 weeks, then got divorced. my girlfreind and i have spoken about our future and how we want to marry and be ...
A. 30 April 2011: There is nothing you can do Im afraid. Its a fact that you were married in your past and you cannot change that now. Just do not rush in to a second marriage. You are still only young and you both havent been together even a year yet. So just enjoy ... (read in full...)
I really like her though I've never met, but I don't know what to do when we do meet!
Q. Hi there. I have two questions, I really need help on this. My friend introduced me to a girl and unfortunately I have not met her, yet. We have been texting each other a lot and we have become friends. But heres the problem, I really like...
A. 30 April 2011: Well you have been texting each other and by the sounds of it you have both been getting on really well so this is a good start. You will be nervous on monday but this is healthy. Even though you are shy just remember that she is only another human ... (read in full...)
How should I confront my husband about his texting in bed when he thinks I am asleep?
Q. How should i confront my husband about him texting when he thinks i am asleep? My husband is sending a 'hi' msg on his bbm to his coworker at 12:30 am, while he thinks i am sleeping with our babies. what should you make of it?...
A. 30 April 2011: Well how does this co worker reply to the message that is saying hi, has there been anything in the messages that sound suspitious to you. I think the best thing you can do before you accuse him of anything is just to take some more time and see how ... (read in full...)
He's scared about things progressing so he has backed off!
Q. I am a gay male in my mid-20's. Just by way of background I recently got out of a 4 year relationship in which I was living with my ex for most of that time. About 8 or 9 months ago I met a guy and we became friends. I didn't even know he was gay ...
A. 30 April 2011: Ok well if he is a virgin no matter what age he is he is going to feel quite scared and unsure of what he is doing. It sounds like he just doesnt feel comfortable yet with who he is or what he wants and its obvious he cares about you so he is trying ... (read in full...)
Am I being too naive to be upset about my Gf's attitude to sleeping her way to the top?
Q. So I have been seeing this girl for a couple months and we got to talking recently about our work and job history. she is a decently successful actress in commercials and some background TV spots. now here's the thing: she was a model first, and she ...
A. 30 April 2011: No you do have the right to feel quite shocked about this, at the end of the day she pretty much sold her body to get successful. However I guess it was her choice and now you just need to decide if she is worth continuing to date or not. If you can ... (read in full...)
Married woman won't leave my boyfriend alone!
Q. What do I do? This women wont back off and leave my boyfriend alone she is a married women but seems to have some interest in my boyfriend in particular like a crush or something. She is always drawing pictures for him, she comments on everything he ...
A. 30 April 2011: I guess if you have spoke to your boyfriend and told him how you feel well then there is nothing more you can do. If he still wants to hang out with her and her husband and talk to her well then am afraid that there is nothing really that you can ... (read in full...)
I really can't figure out from her behavior if she loves me or not?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over 2 years now but we broke up once because of the long distance, it happened 2 or 3 weeks ago... But we got back together after 1 day no contact, she said we'll be together in 1 condition if I won't go out with ...
A. 30 April 2011: If am honest with you it doesnt show me much that she cares about you at all. She has cheated on you and she has makes no effort to contact you and then tells you that you arent allowed to go out with other girls. You have been with this girl for ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to feel, I have had proof that b/f lied and cheated
Q. I have being dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and everything was well untill when i found out last year that when i was away to another country for a month he started flirting with another girl.When i got back he was totally changed and deep ...
A. 30 April 2011: If am honest with you I dont think this guy is to be trusted. He cheated on you and flirted with your best friend in the middle of your relationship. He denied it to you until he knew you had the truth so I think it would be incredibaly hard for you ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with this guy to keep my friend?
Q. 0k. My friend was dating this guy who is 2yearz older than me and my friend, there was no problem at that time. Until the guy dumped my friend because she was cheating with a guy i never heard of. Then after 1 year, the guy told me that he had ...
A. 30 April 2011: Well I think if you value your friendship with this girl you would finish it with him. Its the golden rule in friendship and that is never to get with a friends ex. I guess she is saying she doesnt care because she doesnt want him to know that she ... (read in full...)
Does it ever work out when a couple is forced to marry? (Not arranged marriage)
Q. Is there anyone out there who has been forced (not arranged) to marry someone you do not love or are not attracted to, when you already loved someone else? Has your marriage to this person really truly honestly worked not out of obligation, ...
A. 30 April 2011: Yes you are totally right. Marriage is about two people who love each other and want to be with each other and truely believe that they have found there soul mate. You cannot force that on someone. You cannot force someone to feel something they ... (read in full...)
We were dating, but now she just wants to be friends but do everything we did before!
Q. {Moderator note: we don't publish questions written in ALL CAPS} I need advice. I met a girl and she was very nice and funny... but at the time she was in jail when she got out she broke up with her and we began dating.. we were dating for almo...
A. 30 April 2011: I dont think its ever a good idea to stay close to someone that is an ex. I think it just causes hurt and confusion and most of all upset because usually one person ends up hurt. So no I dont think it is good to continue doing things the way they ... (read in full...)
How do I draw this man closer to me and away from his work?
Q. Hi, I am a 22 yrs old girl. I met a guy online who is 39 years old.After we spoke for online for sometime, he asked me for an Open relationship. At that point of time , i has no clue what does that mean. So i just agreed to be friendly with him....
A. 30 April 2011: I'm sorry sweetheart but if he was really serious about you he would not want to be in a open relationship with you, he would want you to be his girlfriend and he would hate the idea of you being with another man. It sounds to me like this guy has ... (read in full...)
It bothers me knowing that others had sex with my boyfriend but he was my 1st everything!
Q. I am just wondering if I am the only one that thinks this way and if I should just get over feeling this way or if it is something thats ok to worry about. I was a virgin when my boyfriend and I had sex. I didn't know it would bother me knowing he ...
A. 30 April 2011: Theres nothing wrong with you sweetie. Losing your virginity is a big deal and when it is with someone you love it is a great experience for you, I guess you just feel jelous because he couldnt have the same experience with you because he wasnt a ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks he can watch all the porn he wants after our baby is born!
Q. My boyfriend likes porn. He watches it every chance he gets and I've told him I hate that he watches so much of it but he starts getting into the statistics that all guys watch a ton of porn and blah blah. It really irritates me. And I am already ...
A. 30 April 2011: Ok well I would agree with him to a certain amount that yes most guys do watch porn. But it shouldnt be a daily thing. Especially now that you have a child on the way he should be acting more mature and putting your feelings in to concideration as ... (read in full...)
Should I hang around until he can secure a divorce without losing too much of his assets?
Q. Hey! I hope I can get some help here. I have been in a relationship with a man for over one year. The problem is that he is married to someone else. Ok! He left his country and went to the UK on a six months visa. (That was some 15 years ago). ...
A. 29 April 2011: Why would he lose some of his assets before he finalised a divorcee? Have you had a conversation with him to ask him why he wouldnt have thought to sign a pre nuptual agreement before the marriage so that his belongs and hers would both be protected ... (read in full...)
I think my husband's female friend is just waiting on the sidelines for him!
Q. My husband has a female friend that he has had for fifteen years the same amount of time that he has known me. We all used to work in the same company and my husband (he was single then) used to make a fool of himself over this woman always taking ...
A. 29 April 2011: Ok well this really is a difficult one. He has knowing her just as long as he has knowing you, and I cannot help feel that if he really wanted to be with her then he would never have married you. I understand that you feel that this woman is a ... (read in full...)
I am seeing both my boyfriend AND my ex husband and don't want to give up either one!
Q. Please help I have been in a dilemma for many years. I was married for 25 years but somehow I felt my husband did not love me. To make story short, I got really closed to a colleague and his love for me felt so strong. In parallel my husband was ...
A. 29 April 2011: As you have said before, when you were married to your husband you were not happy therefore if I am honest I dont think he would make you happy now either. I think the best thing for you to do is tell your ex husband that he cannot contact you ... (read in full...)
Why is first love so hard to get over?
Q. Why is first love so hard to get over? It's been 15 months since my girlfriend dumped but I still find it tough getting over here. Every night, I see here appearing in my dreams. any help from you guys in this regard would truly be appreciated. ...
A. 29 April 2011: I guess that everybody is different and it takes all different lengths of time for our heart to heal. First love is extremely hard to get over because you have nothing else to compare her to and you have never had feelings for anybody else either so ... (read in full...)
Could gay/bisexual guys possibly fancy effeminate ones?
Q. First things first, I'm an 18yo gay male, and have been wondering quite a few things for a while. A description of self: I'm gay, and I've been out of the closet since the prehistoric. I act, think, and talk like a femme, and somewhat dress, b...
A. 29 April 2011: There is no 'normal' way to be gay. At the end of the day you are attracted to men but you obviously have a preference just like you would have a preference to certain way women looked if you were straight. You cant help who you are attracted to and ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why I'm always intitiating spending time with my bf...did he just get used to me doing that? Or is it something else?
Q. I always have to initiate hanging out with my boyfriend. He does it probably only 20% of the time, while I ask to hang out 80% of the time. We have been together for 2 years, and we do not live together, but we go to the same school. Like if I don't ...
A. 29 April 2011: Yes I think that sounds fine to me. At the end of the day everybody is different and expect different things in relationships. If it is really anoying you talk to him about it.... (read in full...)
Is he only playing games with me?
Q. what does it mean when a guy says that we can see each other when our schedules allows? Just wondering because I was dating this guy but somehow I think he only wanted me for sex. Like, he would call me Saturday and ask if we could go movies ...
A. 27 April 2011: Well a relationship works both ways, did you contact him at all to meet up? both people should make an effort. maybe he was only after you for a bit of fun, or maybe he actually does like you but he feels you dont feel the same and he wants you to ... (read in full...)
I saved up all year to see my LDR girlfriend and now she wants to come here!
Q. i have a massive dilemma. so im in a ldr relationship with my gf. and weve been talking about me going to see her in the summer for about 5 months. she lives in america i live in england. im on a gap year. so it comes to 3 weeks before the trip and ...
A. 27 April 2011: Well if she wants to come to you well then let her. You can get to know her in England and show her a good time with all of the money that you have saved up. Off course you were looking forward to heading over to the usa on a trip. Maybe she culd ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm confused about my sexuality...
Q. Hi All, First thank you for your time, I greally appreciate it. I am 22 male. I have been facing one issue for which I am seeking assitance herewith. It was okay all till the age 20 and then suddenly I am having different thoughts, likes...
A. 27 April 2011: It sounds to me like you are really confused about what sex you are. It could be possible that you are wanting to become a female and that is why you are having these feelings. It may be that you are trans gender. Meaning that you where born in to ... (read in full...)
How do I make her feel the way she used to feel about wanting to date?
Q. I am 18, and so is my ex girlfriend. We dated for a year, having been friends first for a few months, and split mutually two months ago. The reason we split was because the relationship had become 'complicated'. This was mainly because she went to a ...
A. 27 April 2011: I guess she jsut doesnt want to in a relationship at the moment. She is enjoying single life and doesnt want to be tied down in a relationship. I guess there is nothing you can do here, she has told you clearly that she doesnt want to be with you at ... (read in full...)
In denial of what we're meant to feel
Q. Met this guy, we're at different uni's but live just down the road from each other. We started getting to know each other and fooling around over Christmas when we were back home, went back to uni after agreeing it was just flirtation and amazing ...
A. 27 April 2011: You need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. The both of you might be feeling the same thing but are unsure about how the other person is feeling. That is why you need to sit down with him and tell him how you feel and let him tell you how he ... (read in full...)
I just cant move on even after I quit communicating with her. Help!
Q. Hello everyone. Please help me. I just need your 10 mins. I need love. It has been 2 months since I was dumped by my girlfriend of 3 years. I live and die everyday. I moved to USA from Pakistan 2 months ago and after 10 days she dumped me. After...
A. 27 April 2011: She didnt treat you right and even if she told you she loved you back did she show you that she loved you? Actions speak louder than words. She said these things about her now boyfriend maybe she was just saying these things as she was covering up ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why my gf gets mad at me so suddenly/quickly when we love each other!
Q. What is the tings that ticks women of emediately.??? What makes women mad at you in a way that they say nothing?? Please tell me a little on how your emotions work. Because I have a girlfriend with which I had an amazing fun night at the movies. ...
A. 26 April 2011: Ok well maybe she just picked up that by you asking her when she wanted to go home that you wanted her to go home. Every girls mind works different and not all girls act the same way or do the same things. Therefore I guess you just need to try and ... (read in full...)
I had an affair. My husband forgave and now that I'm no longer cheating, I can't decide if my husband is "the one." The indecision is killing us
Q. I have been married for almost 16 years now (together since high school). I had an affair for just over a year. We broke up last summer because of it but got back together. I continued to cheat with the same man. My husband recently found out ...
A. 26 April 2011: Well I think it is kind of obvious that your husband is not the one for you because you cheated for so long I just dont see how you could cheat on him if he was the one for you and if you were entirely happy I dont think you would have cheated.
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I just cant move on even after I quit communicating with her. Help!
Q. Hello everyone. Please help me. I just need your 10 mins. I need love. It has been 2 months since I was dumped by my girlfriend of 3 years. I live and die everyday. I moved to USA from Pakistan 2 months ago and after 10 days she dumped me. After...
A. 26 April 2011: Most people go through heart break and it is not nice to be on the recieving end of it and think that the other person just moved on and didnt care. I am sorry that you had to get hurt but I guess you just need to give yourself time to move on now. ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why I'm always intitiating spending time with my bf...did he just get used to me doing that? Or is it something else?
Q. I always have to initiate hanging out with my boyfriend. He does it probably only 20% of the time, while I ask to hang out 80% of the time. We have been together for 2 years, and we do not live together, but we go to the same school. Like if I don't ...
A. 26 April 2011: He may have just fallen in to a routine of you being the one to get in contact with him to hang out and he might not even see it as a problem for you. If all other areas of your relationship is good and he is still treating you well then I would ... (read in full...)
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