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He only put the tip in. Am I still a virgin?

Q.   I don't know if I'm a virgin or not.. Help? I was with him and he kept fingering me and tryed to make it easier for him to get it in.. Well, when he tryed to put it in It definitely hurt. He told me he only got the tip.in and that's all.. But I ...

A.   11 July 2014: Hi, From what you say, you lost your virginity. The bleeding seems like the hymen breaking. ... (read in full...)

He said he was "taking a step back" ... what did he mean?

Q.   I'm having a hard time dealing with a break up right now. The guy I was dating have been liking each other since we were young but went separate ways after high school. About seven months ago, we got back in touch and rekindle the flame we had. I ...

A.   11 July 2014: Hi, I can only guess at this. It is a man going into his cave. He needs time on his own to let this embarrassing episode pass and put some time between the event. He has a loss of pride so needs to retreat to the cave. A lot of men use the cave... (read in full...)

Haven't conceived after 18 months of trying ...

Q.   Hi guys, I'm feeling really low today and I just need to get this out. I'm 31 (and a half) and my husband and I have been trying to conceive for about 18 months. It took a long time before he felt ready for a family and then if only we'd known ...

A.   9 July 2014: Hi, I sympathize. Years back, I met my future wife who had a new baby from her ex. We dated, I got to know her and her baby and we married. We tried for a number of years to conceive a child together but with no success. By doing the math, I ... (read in full...)

My B/f waits for me to fall asleep after sex and then proceeds to masturbate!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have been in a one year long distance relationship with my boyfriend we love about six hours away and we see each other about once every two months. Whenever we have sex he later waits for me to fall asleep and then proceeds to mastu...

A.   8 July 2014: Hi, Being LDR, he shows that he probably does masturbate regularly.I think it is the timing of it that is not good. It does seem inappropriate to do this after having sex with you so infrequently because of the distance. Men will masturbate what... (read in full...)

I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!

Q.   You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...

A.   2 July 2014: Hi, Sorry, this is really going nowhere. Two years is just a 'carrot' to keep you hooked. I really believe you should get out of this. It is not good for you. In two years, which will never come, he will be offering another excuse. Sorry. ... (read in full...)

She invited me to church but doesn't want to go on dates.

Q.   So I recently meet up with this girl I dated in high school and she invited me to church with her and we went together sometimes! So anyways at first I thought she lost all feelings for me but the first time I went with her to church I could feel ...

A.   1 July 2014: Hi, Ask yourself...Do you want to date her or have her as a friend? If you want to date her, then she doesn't seem dating material. Do not be her friend in the hope she will want you. You will spend months and months hanging around and it will driv... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend wants me to drive him to his work.

Q.   so me and my ex have broken up but its only been about 1 month or so... he says in a another relationship already like he has a new girlfriend... now he has been contacting me saying that he loves me even when we talk on the phone its love you... ...

A.   1 July 2014: Hi, You are being used. He shows you no respect. If he loves you, then why is he with someone else so soon? You need to say, 'No' and distance yourself from him. ... (read in full...)

Worried about my boyfriend and his ex, what can we do about the problem?

Q.   I'm sure you guys get these kind of questions a lot, but I'm currently going through this. Basically, when my boyfriend and I first got together a year and a half ago, he was still pretty hurt about his ex cheating on him and the break up they ha...

A.   1 July 2014: Hi, The worry for me here is when you say 'his face lit up.' and also that this is the 'only' problem you have. This is not good for you. It seems he wants her and just doesn't know if he can do the 'forgiving' thing. I feel you should be very ... (read in full...)

Do I contact him again when he's not responding?

Q.   Ive been dating a man for over a year now. He is divorced and has kids. He is quite busy with his work, travels a lot for work, and deals with a lot of guilt about not spending enough time with his kids. Friday I texted him and asked him if...

A.   1 July 2014: Hi, He has all this emotional stuff going on. He is not ready for a relationship. Comments like, 'We'll see,' really are a waste of time. If I were you, I wouldn't invest any more time in this man. Don't worry about his welfare and if he is alri... (read in full...)

Is it a compliment that my husband has been masturbating over our wedding photos?

Q.   A few times I have found my wedding photo album not the way I had put it away. I solved this when I found my husband masturbating while looking at photos of me in my wedding dress. He didn't notice me seeing him doing this. I haven't told him anyt...

A.   1 July 2014: Hi, I believe this is a compliment. He is sounds very happy to be married to you. My wife kept her wedding shoes and stockings for me as well. If you see what I mean. I think it is OK. ... (read in full...)

It's like I don't exist when his child is visiting

Q.   Hi everyone. I would like to ask for advice on dealing with my boyfriends behaviour. We have been together 3 years, not living together. He is fun and good company, cooks meals and helps clean up, he is attractive and we seem to have had good ...

A.   28 June 2014: Hi, My situation is similar to yours. My wife has three children that are at colleges away from home. We have a great life together but when they call, or are at home, she gives them her first priority. She always has because they are her chil... (read in full...)

After 3 months of an amazing relationship why did he suddenly stop talking to me?

Q.   I have been dating this guy for 3 months. He lives in NJ and I live in NY- we are about an hour and a half away from one another. Some background on us- we met 7 years ago on vacation and really hit it off. He had a girlfriend so nothing ever ...

A.   27 June 2014: Hello, My first thoughts here are that perhaps, he has been going through a previous relationship failure, separation, divorce and you were his rebound. The reason I say this is that a similar thing happened to me. I hooked up with a girl who live... (read in full...)

I am unable to achieve orgasm with my girlfriend. Any advice?

Q.   Hi I am 21 years old and just gotten into a relationship very recently, we have had sex 3 times now, and each time I have been unable to reach orgasm, I think I have somthing called delayed ejaculation... When I lost my virginity I couldn't...

A.   24 June 2014: Hi, I experienced this same problem. I had been out of a relationship for a long while and had been masturbating regularly. When I finally met a new girlfriend, I simply couldn't get erect, let alone ejaculate. However, I explained to my girlfrie... (read in full...)

Should I try to change career?

Q.   I'm a 22 year old female, i have a son who is four years old. I have been in and out of jobs since he was born but i never stick to a job. I am now studying towards a law degree but i feel like giving up already, i thought it would be for me but i ...

A.   24 June 2014: Hi, To answer your question about the police force. I would go into your local police station and explain you are interested. They will then be happy to point you in the right direction as to what to do next. You could look on the internet and send... (read in full...)

It feels like I am putting in all the effort with this girl!

Q.   Hey everyone so ill try to make it as short as i can ive been stressing over these past couple of days trying to make the best decision. So ive been in a LDR for about 3 months ive met this girl as a friend i also met her family aswell before we ...

A.   22 June 2014: Hi, She seems to be fitting you in when it suits her. If I was you, I would not be so 'available' and see what develops. If she doesn't try to get in touch more, then I would just move on. Thanks. ... (read in full...)

The last time I got naked for a man the internet didn't exist ....

Q.   Ok I need the brutal truth from men. I'm freshly back on the dating scene . The last time I got naked with a man for the first time the internet didn't exist ( at least not like today) and things were different. It seems highly likely that any man I ...

A.   22 June 2014: Hi, Truth: I dated a 47 year old divorced lady who was 5ft 6 and 200 1b.(her observation of herself) She had had 3 three children from her previous husband. I married her. For me, I enjoyed our relationship so much I wasn't comparing. Ple... (read in full...)

Her ex is my friend, they're still friends, and I'm having trouble dealing with it

Q.   Curious for general perspective, and especially grateful to hear from anyone who is dating, or has dated, a guy, while you (the girl's) "ex" or old hookup buddy stayed around as friends to both sides. Assuming your new relationship is/was healthy, ...

A.   20 June 2014: Hi, The problem for you is that this is 'in your face.' You see him regularly. It is not his fault, he isn't a threat to your relationship, but the memory is in your face. Deep down you know what went on so asking her will only upset you more. Yo... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and best friend had a FWB relationship 3 years ago and never told me! Why not?

Q.   It may be something or nothing but ever since I found out my boyfriend and my best friend had a very short relationship (purely sex) nearly 3 years ago, I can't work out why neither of them told me before, instead I found out from a mutual friend. ...

A.   20 June 2014: Hi, I think finding it out has been the shocking thing for you here. Suddenly, your 18 month relationship has this added 'thought' in it. Also, the person it was with is a part of your circle. For me, I am afraid it is a deal breaker. Sorry, I... (read in full...)

My husband is masturbating ALL the time!

Q.   My husband is masturbating ALL the time. He does it 3-4 times a day during the work week and more on weekends. We will just be sitting there enjoying a movie and I'll look over and he's doing it. We have sex regularly. We've had it four times this ...

A.   14 June 2014: Hi, This seems very excessive. It's not normal, far too much and he is not respecting your feelings. I am married, I only ever masturbate when my wife is away for a few days. And even then, not a lot. I wonder if he has just started this and it i... (read in full...)

My vagina doesn't look so nice

Q.   Hey guys I don't want him to see my vagina when i was younger i shaved it and i got shaving pimples and i got dark pimple spot and it doesn't look so nice ... what can i do ????...

A.   13 June 2014: Hi, I don't think this will be an issue. In all fairness, I couldn't describe my partner's simply because I don't focus on it in detail. Thanks. ... (read in full...)

Can tall girls get away with heels?

Q.   I am 6 feet (183cm) tall and u sometimes wear heels Should tall girls wear heels what do you think ??? ...

A.   13 June 2014: Hi, Yes, go for it. Very attractive. My only thought is just be careful when passing under doorways. The extra height from 6 feet to 6 feet 4 or 5 can be very close to the door frame and you may not be used to that height difference. I am male ... (read in full...)

I feel he is not really interested in me but surely he would bother wasting his time like that!

Q.   Hi been dating a guy for 5 weeks now we've kissed and been intimate but i don't really think hes that interested in me.....we met on a dating website but he lives locally to me sand id rather he just said if he doesn't think it will go ...

A.   11 June 2014: Hi, Maybe, the sex started too quickly and he doesn't see you as a long term potential. I don't know why, but a girl I met initiated sex on the 2nd date and for me, it sort of destroyed my image of her as a potential wife/girlfriend. Maybe... (read in full...)

Does it make me sound like a bad mother if I ask my neighbour out? How do I do it without making myself sound desperate and cheap? And would a younger man even be interested in spending time with a woman 11 years older?

Q.   Hi everyone I'm a 46 year old divorced working single mom of 4 kids, so needless to say I'm usually very busy with everything. I've been divorced for 3 years now. Here's my dilemma, about a month ago I just moved into a new place that I'm renting ...

A.   11 June 2014: Hi, I think this is a great idea. Carry on talking to him as normal and possibly invite him in for a coffee some time. I wouldn't worry about the age gap either. Also, a similar situation happened to me once, a divorced mum of 3,(47) six years olde... (read in full...)

I’m losing patience with her and feel like she isn’t treating me right

Q.   There is a girl and she is a friend of mine but I have a crush on her. She is from another country and will go home later in the year, so I’m settled on just being friends. We met online and were really good friends, we spoke often and she was very ...

A.   11 June 2014: Hi, Thank you for follow up. I am really pleased for you. That's great! If you are happy about the 'date' then see how things go. I really hope things can work for you. Thank you!.... (read in full...)

I’m losing patience with her and feel like she isn’t treating me right

Q.   There is a girl and she is a friend of mine but I have a crush on her. She is from another country and will go home later in the year, so I’m settled on just being friends. We met online and were really good friends, we spoke often and she was very ...

A.   10 June 2014: Hi, If I were you I would leave this alone. The only reason that I would chase up a woman like you would be if I fancied her. Because she hasn't responded in the way I would want, then I wouldn't bother. For you, why bother with all this emot... (read in full...)

Am I wasting my time with this girl?

Q.   So there's this girl that I like and I've taken her out a couple of times now and just when things were looking up, she goes camping with her friends and sleeps with another guy when she was drunk. The next day this guy texts her saying he really ...

A.   10 June 2014: Hi, Don't waste your time. There will always be someone popping up. Move on and don't waste your time with her. ... (read in full...)

My long distance girlfriend make me feel anxious and insecure.

Q.   My long distance girlfriend make me feel anxious, insecure. Yesterday was our second anniversary. I sent her flowers and she texted me until almost 10 pm. I know she forgot it and pretended it wasnt. I know her family and friends and they are kind...

A.   9 June 2014: Hi, Thank you for the follow ups. Have you ever met your LDR? Have you spent time with her together holding hands, laughing, walking etc? Best wishes. ... (read in full...)

When and how are you supposed to know when the end to a relationship is coming?

Q.   I wonder , now my ex girlfriend, I thought every thing was going fantastic, then one day in the park she said it was over, out of the blue. So what am asking, when and how are you supposed to know, when it is coming, I treated her good, her ex beat ...

A.   7 June 2014: Hi, Being distant from the partner, disinterested, lack of wanting to meet up etc. Sex and all that. However, let her go now. She seems the type that can't cope with a good guy. Heaven forbid! There are people out there that are unable to break... (read in full...)

My boyfriend got drunk and his friends called his ex to come get him, not me!

Q.   I'm so angry right now that I feel like I could burst! My boyfriend of 10 months spent the night at his ex wife's house after a drunken night out with pals, and even though I believe him when he says nothing happened, mainly because when he is THAT ...

A.   7 June 2014: Hi, You sound like a good person. Please don't settle for this kind of guy in life. Please don't allow yourself to live this kind of life. If she is still part of his life then let them be. Move on to a better situation. Thanks. ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend slept with my friend before we got together as a couple and it bothers me

Q.   I have been seeing this guy since November time, at first we just slept together and then in January we started seeing eachother. We made it official in April. Before me he was casually sleeping with my friend but had no feelings for her, on Boxing ...

A.   7 June 2014: Hi, I am afraid the way to solve this is to leave the relationship. That way you will not have to do the mind games and see the pictures in your head. The relationship is only in the early stages so that's one way of solving it. The other wa... (read in full...)

My LDR girlfriend didn't like the gifts I sent for her birthday. Could I have done things in a better way?

Q.   I've currently in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend. Long distance as in we're both in different countries and we've been in this relationship for at least 7 months now. We met online and just started chatting and exchanging some ...

A.   7 June 2014: Hi, This doesn't sound too good. I would worry more about why she didn't want to talk to you on her birthday? LDR can be hard enough but simply to not even respond to a call is not a good sign. I don't think you have done anything wrong, I just... (read in full...)

Neighbor asked my daughter to be bridesmaid then cancelled the big wedding and now I'm stuck with a dress and shoes!

Q.   My Nextdoor neighbour was due to get married in August and asked my 7 year old daughter to be bridesmaid. My daughter was thrilled as she'd never been a bridesmaid before and it was probably her only chance (before shes an adult)as all our ...

A.   6 June 2014: Hi, In philosophy I studied the 'sunk cost' fallacy. Let me explain, I paid 3 hours parking for my car in Town because I needed to do some business. Well, I managed to complete in 30 mins. When I got to my car, I realized I still had over 150 min... (read in full...)

My long distance girlfriend make me feel anxious and insecure.

Q.   My long distance girlfriend make me feel anxious, insecure. Yesterday was our second anniversary. I sent her flowers and she texted me until almost 10 pm. I know she forgot it and pretended it wasnt. I know her family and friends and they are kind...

A.   6 June 2014: Hi, There is something not right here. You see, when people are both wanting to move in together, they are all over each other. They can't wait, it's great, it's exciting, it's wonderful. It's thrilling!! You are not getting any of this from her... (read in full...)

What to do when I am sure my fiance is still in contact with his ex-girlfriend, the love of his life

Q.   Okay, here it goes. I live with my fiancé and we each have our own computers and cell phones and don't share our passwords and have a level of privacy. He told me when we got serious that he didn't want me to have contact with my ex-boyfrien...

A.   5 June 2014: Hi, I totally agree with what you did. You needed the sticky notes etc and searched for some. When I run out of stamps I search my wife's stationery boxes. I am suspicious of your fiance and I believe you are correct to have a doubt here. I belie... (read in full...)

Will I be forever stuck as just her friend?

Q.   I waited too long and now it us clear that she now only wants to be my friend. I am okay with this for now but if the feelings were there once, could she ever see me as more than a friend again? Or am I stuck forever her friend?...

A.   3 June 2014: Hi, http://www.dearcupid.org/question/now-im-just-a-friend-because-it-took.html Did you post this above earlier? I felt you should have asked. Did you ask her? Thanks. ... (read in full...)

I feel like men don't want to enter a relationship with me because I have a child.

Q.   I'll try to keep this short. I'm 25 years old and I have a 6 year old daughter I've been dating for the past 4 years since I split from her father. The problem I'm having is I feel like men don't want to enter a relationship with me because I have a ...

A.   3 June 2014: Hi, I think at early 20's, some guys look around and there are lots of girls so they tend to choose girls without children. I think that would make sense as there is much more freedom with dating a girl and not having to get babysitters or dealing ... (read in full...)

This married guy knows I have a crush on him and he touched and kissed me and said, "lets be casual". What does he mean by that?

Q.   here's this guy a married man 47 yrs old, he's my friend and most of his family members were my friend also. last year i realized i really like him (crush). but i kept it inside me. he's so nice to me and whenever we see each other he always f...

A.   3 June 2014: Hi, He means 'I want regular sex with you, but let's not tell anyone.' As time goes on you will be fed the lines, 'My wife doesn't understand me.' Or, 'At the moment, my marriage is over, it is just a matter of time.' Or, 'This year will be your ... (read in full...)

Telling my best friend that I have feelings for her?

Q.   Hello there, I have this best friend of 5 years whom i had a crush on at the start of our friendship but we had a talk about it and decided just to be friends. i was able to get over her and became best friends (i even dated someone else at ...

A.   3 June 2014: Hi, In two months, she leaves your country and lives somewhere else. I would just let this all happen and move on. You have a ready made answer because when she leaves, she will be gone from your life and the 'seeing' and 'frustration' will begi... (read in full...)

Should I keep him as a friend? Why did he tell me he had sex with her? Should I have a relationship with him?

Q.   Dear Cupid, I have feelings for this guy. We've been friends for years and his gf and him are on a break because she had to go to uni for 9 mnths now. We have been spending time together as friends. I have visited his apartment. We kissed and...

A.   3 June 2014: Hi, STOP. You are being used. He doesn't want you, he wants a fling. He already has a girlfriend. He doesn't care. If I were you, I would stop all the contact. Thanks.... (read in full...)

Just found out that I'm 5 weeks pregnant. That father is a man who lies and cheats. Can you help me with options advice please?

Q.   I have just found out that i am 5 weeks pregnant. It came as a bit of a shock as i had broken up with my ex due to the fact that he had turned up at my house with a love bite on his neck! He told me that he was play fighting with his friend a...

A.   3 June 2014: Hi, I am sorry for your situation. I believe you would benefit from professional counselling. I feel you need to speak to a qualified person. Best wishes. ... (read in full...)

I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!

Q.   You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...

A.   8 May 2014: Hi, I can understand that being in your situation makes you very vulnerable. Seeing him once a week is frustrating for you and the mind games are so hard. You have to be strong and make a strong decision which will empower you. You tell him t... (read in full...)

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