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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:my ex(x) and I broke up nearly 3 years ago we were only 16 and I was always jealous and he got drunk one night and kissed another chick and broke up. I wanted him back but the following months he just used me to make out but he wanted another chick who just wanted to be friends with him. I became a couple with one of his best friends(n) (I thought he wouldn't care anyway but a year later x told me it was hard for him) suddenly x became nice and seemed like he wanted me back although I had a boyfriend and we became extremely good friends until autumn because this chick suddlenly wanted x as a boyfriend, my boyfriend and I broke in autumnSo since then the contact always gets a bit less althought he said I am a good friend and he doesn't want to lose meso sometimes he writes me on Facebook but I don't know what I should think about it because somehow I am mad that he is with this dumb chick and because he did a few s^^^^y things to me but somehow I don't care about him anymore and probably I would happier without having contact to him. we live totally different lifes he is at the armed forces and i study at college, we haven't seen since 3 months we don't even have common friends anymore. for me it is like he would force this friendship and i feel like we don't know each other and like there isn't a connection between us anymore...(but he was my first love and since then i've never loved a guy so much and when i am totally honest i would like to have the perfect guy he was back someday)so how should i behave what shall i write him? i don't want to tell him how i feel because then he would call me a drama queen
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (12 March 2012):
 Honestly, I would write him a letter on paper, write it all down and then... BURN it. That way you got it all out but without involving him in how you feel. He is an ex, a thing of the past. You have both grown (hopefully) and it' time to let the past be the past.
If you do not really WANT to be his friend tell him and unfriend him. It's only Facebook, he will get over it.
PS. He will never be the guy you want him to be or the guy you think he can be... Trust me on that.
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