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I'm sorry I took her back ... should I end it?

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Question - (11 November 2017) 6 Answers - (Newest, 14 November 2017)
A male Nepal age 22-25, *upid_dan writes:

SHould i end wid her?

she and i came in relation even if she had a boyfriend back then. i somehow convinced her to come in relation. cuz i loved her. but she was kinda confused between him and me. been in relation for 2 months. i had to leave the town for studies. She then left me saying she loves him more. i hated her for that. deleted every photos , threw all things related to her.

i got over her ,keeping busy in work,friends.

all off a sudden she calls me and says to get back in relation.

i said yes to her. but this relation is not like before. i dont love her like before. and honestly i dont care . i think i just should end wid her. am i right? just askin ur honest opinion before this.

thank you.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (14 November 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntYes I think you are doing the right thing ending it with her. She hurt you and that is probably why you don't love her like you used to. Although you where both in the wrong, as you knew she was in a relationship and tried to convince her to be with you anyway, so some people would say this is karma getting you back. In future try and date girls who are single. Then you won't have all this drama.

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A female reader, femmenoir Australia +, writes (13 November 2017):

femmenoir agony auntI always say, NEVER bring the garbage bag back into the house!

Your ex gf, she has some cheek coming back to you, after telling you that she loved her other bf more than you and you were silly and naive enough to take her back after all that.

You no longer feel the same way about her and rightly so, so you let her know that it's over and that you can't be with her, because your feelings for her aren't complete as they used to be and you know you won't change your mind.

Wish her well, then after she's gone, you delete her from your mob ph, from all social media sites, so that she cannot keep making contact with you.

You can and you will do much, much better. Trust me on that!

Good luck!

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A male reader, WiseOwlE United States + , writes (12 November 2017):

That's young-love for you! Which really isn't real-love. It goes back and forth.

Once you end a relationship, never go back!

A good rule to live by is to never take a person back who has left you for someone else. If they really cared for you; they couldn't leave you for anyone else.

They only comeback either because they're jealous, because you found someone else; and/or the other guy didn't workout as planned. You're degraded down to second-choice.

Being second-choice makes you the lesser of evils. It means you are only being used to show the other guy she can get you back no matter what happens. You're a sucker.

Generally; you should think carefully before calling it quits, or taking someone back after a breakup. Once it's done, let it remain done. If you get dumped, maintain your pride and dignity; get-over them for good and move-on.

Revisits from exes is usually nothing but drama. Recycle paper, glass, metal, and plastic. Not exes!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (11 November 2017):

Honeypie agony auntYes, you should end it.

It didn't work out in the long run and that happens. She liked the IDEA of dating you, but the reality of her ex-BF. You liked the IDEA of her but not the reality.

And here is the thing, OP - when you pursue a girl who HAS a BF and she CHOOSES to leave him for you - then there IS a strong possibility that at some point.... she will LEAVE you for someone else or the ex-BF. Girls/women with a partner should be off-limits, OP. You have reaped what you sowed.

SO... if you are looking for a GF, find one that doesn't HAVE a BF or recent ex-BF. Someone who is single and who wants to be with you and no one else.

Wish her well, and tell her you just don't feel the same way and you don't think that will change.

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A female reader, Youcannotbeserious United Kingdom + , writes (11 November 2017):

Youcannotbeserious agony auntWhat other option do you have? Stay with her indefinitely? Why would you do that, in the process ruining both your lives?

Be kind but firm ending the relationship. Tell her you no long feel the same way about her and you feel you should both move on and find people you deserve.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom + , writes (11 November 2017):

N91 agony auntOf course.

Why would you stay with someone you don't like? That's just silly.

Things probably broke off with this other guy and she saw you as the next best option. That's until this guy wants her back of course.

Unnecessary drama, remove her from your life and stick to it this time.

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