Is it worth ringing him??
Q. Is it worth ringing him? Any advice would be appreciated! - I'm in love with a guy who definitely is in control of our relationship! - He only rings when he can or it's convenient for him, he only sees me when he is available to do so and he onl...
A. 4 December 2008: I think it is worth a bit of chasing certaily if you like him. He maybe is waiting for your call to see if you are interested in him. I don't see the harm in calling him unless you think that you could get disapointed with his responce. Good luck!... (read in full...)
My partner of 15 years is treating me like, well, sh*t... please advise!
Q. My partner of 15 years who I love and very much do everything for like a 50's house wife treats me like shi.... I am in my late 30's and he is in his 60's. When I ended up in Sept this year having a brake down and I had to live on our boat for ...
A. 4 December 2008: He is making you very unhappy and from your post it looks like that he won't change!. I think you should end this relationship for your well being even if it is hard. In the long run when you take distance you will see it was the right thing to do. ... (read in full...)
I don't understand If I am gay or straight, or bisexual?
Q. I am a 28 year old male and I have recently broken up with my girlfriend. All my life I have been fantasizing about women and enjoying relationships with them. I recently had a hard time getting erect with my now ex-girlfriend. So I tried ...
A. 3 December 2008: Sexuality for many people can be confusing and hard to understand. These typical labels like bisexual, heterosexual and homersexual are sometimes too rigid.
If you are romantically, phyicaly and emotionaly attracted to women but have fantasise over... (read in full...)
I know it won't last forever but what can I do?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for over a year now we're both 17. I know it won't last forever because I can feel it inside me if you know what I mean but what should I do? Should I keep going out with her to enjoy the time we have together ...
A. 3 December 2008: You are still young and its understandable that you don't want to get commited into a relationship, however if you enjoy being with her then I suggest you keep going out with her. Good luck!... (read in full...)
My Penis is "turning" to the right - could be a health problem?
Q. That's my second question and I love this site because of the anonymity, I greatly thank you about the last advice :) That's acutally very embarassing, but I'll try to explain. I'm 19, my penis is not too curvy, but when it gets erect it tu...
A. 3 December 2008: There could be a number of reasons but I could not tell you why this is happening. If it worries you then you should try not being shy, see the doctor and just tell him.
Take care!... (read in full...)
I'm having a hard time understanding his intentions....should I be worried?
Q. Im having a hard time understanding his intentions This guy I had a past with but found out to be a player, is back in my life. Over the summer, he liked 2 girls but ended up dating one of them and then cheating on her after she moved away for s...
A. 30 November 2008: There is a possibility that he could fancy you and is scared to ask you out because he does not want to be rejected. He could also be just flirting with you
but does not want to get into a relationship. You should hang out with him more and find... (read in full...)
Do you think I'm wrong in telling her not to come to the club on new years eve?
Q. Hi, I wonder if you guys can help me. I work in a busy nightclub in London's west end as a Bouncer. It's become a busy period now as christmas and new year is coming and I'll be working a lot over this period. I told my girlfriend that I can't spend ...
A. 27 November 2008: You are not wrong for telling her not to come for new years eve because you have valid reasons, however don't be angry with her because she just wants to surprise you and it also shows that she really wants to be with you. Take care!... (read in full...)
Should I pursue it?
Q. My husband of two years and I seperated in September mainly because the marriage was abusive, but also because he decided he was having a midlife crisis (at age 24!!) and couldn't decide if he wanted to be married any more. Since we have been apa...
A. 27 November 2008: In my opinion and experience, people in general who are abusive in a relationship only get worse. He sounds like that he could have a personality disorder which I don't think you have yet realised or taken it as a possible cause for his actions . ... (read in full...)
Urgent help required..... difficult, awkward and unreasonable boyfriend!
Q. Hello all - I am a 34 year old women who has had a somewhat difficult relationship with a guy who is having councelling due to his upbringing (unloving parents) and he can be most unreasonable, thinks he is never at fault, stubborn and never lets ...
A. 27 November 2008: You should terminate the relationship with him. He has
A personality disorder and its going to effect your well
being in the futor. He is a person hard to reason with. People with a personality disorder are very often highly
manipulat... (read in full...)
Is it okay for a 13 year old to masturbate?
Q. is it ok for a 13 year old to masturbate? ...
A. 27 November 2008: It's OK and also important for your health and well being.
You should do it.... (read in full...)
I'm a teacher - should I continue to respond to this pupil's emails?
Q. I am a secondary school teacher. One of the students from the school I work in has started writing emails to me to which I have responded to. He is only 3 years younger than me. The messages are quite innocent but I am a bit worried as I would not ...
A. 19 November 2008: You should tell him that as a teacher you are not allowed to email pupils privately because it is not professional and that you both could get in trouble for it. If you are attracted to him which could be possible then you could say in addidion; ... (read in full...)
She says she was forced into oral, but is there more to it?
Q. alright, so my girlfriend told me recently that the reason she doesn't go down on me all too often is because she had a bad experience with it once. she said she was forced to do it by a big, aggressive guy she was kind of seeing after a break up...
A. 19 November 2008: Well she could be blackmailed into having oral sex. He could be using several methods of blackmail, emotional blackmail..etc. You should ask her some quistions like, is he thretening you?, is he blackmailing you?, why do you still go and see him?, ... (read in full...)
My parents caught my BF fingering me and now they won't talk to me.
Q. HELPP! my parents caught my bf fingering me... and they havent spoken to me since (it happened last night and havent talked to me all night and today) are they disappointed..? sad? will they ever get over it? im so depressed right now because i ...
A. 19 November 2008: Well maybe your parents are shocked at what they saw and have difficulty handeling it. They will come round to it.
However I suggest that you make sure next time when you engage in a sexual activity with your boy friend you should do it in a priv... (read in full...)
She gave mixed signals and I don't understand!
Q. I have a question/scenario. Here is your chance to give some good advice to a confused man. I had been dating this girl for about 4 months. Everything thing was going FANTASTIC! I played it cool - didn’t try to rush anything - Just had the most ...
A. 19 November 2008: Its is possible that she could have been hurt in her previous relationship and is scared of getting hurt again. She said that she loves you, I think she could have some feelings for you and is scared that this relationship could end up the same way... (read in full...)
Am I a lesbian, bisexual or just perverted?
Q. Hi!I have a question for you.Well,I am 25 years old,and over this last months I think...I ve changed. Since I was 7 years old, I masturbate, and think about sex at all times. I also remember thinking about sex before that age. So, since then,I e...
A. 19 November 2008: I think you are just trying to accept yourself. If you fantasise over women I think you possibly be bi-sexual since you also enjoy having sex with men. You are not perverted but maybe have a high sex drive. ... (read in full...)
My F-I-L harrassed me, and said he won't stop until he gets what he wants.
Q. I am 32 years old and married my husband 5 months ago. My husband's father had been very close to me, really helping me be accepted in the family. Its a big family with 5 kids, all of whom are married, my husband being the youngest of the children. ...
A. 19 November 2008: This is a very serious matter. He is sexually assaulting you. You say No!, DON'T TOUCH ME, LEAVE ME ALONE. You must
talk about this issue to your husband. Do not feel guity or shy if this is true because this could be the offenders way of mani... (read in full...)
Should I help him anyway?
Q. So I have a guy friend who's need failing some classes. Well I think it's because he's not really doing the work and he's freaking out because he might have to be held back (my grades better then his). He asked me if I could help him, I told hm all ...
A. 15 November 2008: Well it depends on your personality I guess. I think you should help him. What goes around, comes around. Help him if you can. Maybe one day in your life you might need help for something and I am sure that you would appriciate if somebody would ... (read in full...)
Should I make my BFF dump her boyfriend or should I ignore this?
Q. Ok, I am in quite a pickle. I have searched yahoo for an answer. First off, I'm gay. My bestfriend is a girl. She's like my sister. Her boyfriend is a really nice guy. At least to everyone but me. HE likes gay people. But he doesn't like me. He ...
A. 14 November 2008: Its not up to you to decide for her if she should break up or not. If she ask's you then you should give your true opinion about him. He should respect his girl friend if she likes to hang out with you. He is possesive and a bully if he is giving ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I should leave my marriage.
Q. I don't know if I should leave my marriage. We have no fun. No sex, no good times, nothing. No adultery, or drinking, or beating what seem to be the only valid reason, to leave a marriage. It is a dilemma, because, why would I leave, if I'm not ...
A. 14 November 2008: I can understand how you are feeling. It is not good for your over all well being if you don't have sex nor any good times and no fun. In my opinion these are deffinitly valid reasons for getting a divorce. However it is imporant to give an ... (read in full...)
Can a person 20 or 30 years older fancy someone who is 16-20 years old?
Q. Hey guys, I have one question for you. Do you think it's possible that somebody who is much older than you (20 or 30 years) fancys a girl who is 16-20 years old? Especially if that somebody is in position of power (like for example boss, teacher,...
A. 7 November 2008: Yes I agree with Aunty Em, even if the person is 20 or 30 years older he still can be romantically, physically and emotionally attracted to a person who is 16 or even younger.... (read in full...)
My friend says he's straight but I don't know.
Q. Dear Cupid. I'm a 31 year old gay male. A few years ago I meet a guy I'll call him Bear. Last year Bear and I met up at a part and we hit it off real well. I let him know from the start that I was gay and he was great with it. So to this day we have ...
A. 6 November 2008: He has made some suggestive advances to you, so I therfore would tell him about your feelings . Tell him that you noticed some of his actions which you seemed like as if he is telling you that he wants something from you. Tell him not to be shy that ... (read in full...)
My man of 8 years will not even try to have sex with me.
Q. Dear Cupid: What have I done? My man of 8 years will not even try to have sex with me. He won't even flirt, act interested or touch me. Since our daughter was born he has regularly slept in another room, and he likes it that way. I think it...
A. 6 November 2008: There could be many reasons why. It is very Important that you go and talk with him about this issue, its really not normal. He could have some chemical imbalance where his self-esteem is suffering. It is vitally important for your well being to ... (read in full...)
Liar liar pants on fire!!
Q. My husband is a worldclass liar. Let me start from the beginning. So around 12 years ago I got addicted to pain pills and ended up going to rehab in malibu california. While in rehab I kicked the pills and was feeling really great. I also fell in ...
A. 6 November 2008: It depends sometimes there is hope, somtimes not. However if you want to be with your husband I guess you should just accept that he is addicted to porn. It is your choice whether you can accept it or not. However your husband does not seem a ... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend not feel so guilty?
Q. One of my very close friends is down lately, because after she broke up with her girlfriend (she is lesbian) her ex tried to kill herself. What can I say to her to relieve some of her guilt and help her through this tough time? I always find it h...
A. 6 November 2008: Well I think you can say to her gently that you are there for her if she needs any moral support. Tell her that its natural that she feels guilty but its however not her folt. The girl decided to try and commit suicide herself nobody advised ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gives too much time and attention to a child that isnt even his!
Q. I have a serious issue,my bofriend and I have been together exclusively for18mon,but we been messing around off and on for 8yrs.he has a son and daughter from previous relationship,also inappropriate talkin between them tomuch contact!he's crazy ...
A. 6 November 2008: Well its difficult now since he has allready gotten very much involved looking after the girl. The girl is emotionaly dependant on your husband now. I do understand that this frustrates you. Its natural that you are feeling like that. You should ask ... (read in full...)
All my friends are boys and I cant be friends with a boy without fancying them!
Q. is this unusual? Well ever since I was young my bestfriends have always been boys, i am 14 now. But I cant be a boys friend, without me fancying them. I hate it and i dont know what it is and when it will go away because of all this i fancy abou...
A. 6 November 2008: Its normal to fancy many boys at the same time, I guess they are all goodlooking lol. However at the end of the day you can only choose one that you want to be with and have a relationship with.... (read in full...)
I am 18 and want to date a 23 year old girl that I work with
Q. Ive been working in virgin megastores for over a year now, started when I was 17 and am now 18. Ive also worked with a girl for that year as well...at first there was no attraction physically, but as ive gotten to know her ive become mad about her! ...
A. 6 November 2008: There is nothing wrong for you dating a 23 yesr old in my opinion. I guess you should tell her how you feel but be confedent about it. Invite her out when you can. When you tell her that you have feelings for her, try and be relaxed.... (read in full...)
Is 5 years too much?
Q. Hey everyone, I've just started dating this guy that I feel like I've known my whole life I think I'm really falling for him! The problem is he's 18 and I'm only 13. Is it wrong?...
A. 4 November 2008: In retrospective thinking I believe that it is wrong for you two to be dating because of the age gap. Sorry.... (read in full...)
Is it normal for him to have naked women on his phone?
Q. My husband thinks it's normal for him to post naked women on his phone. I disagree. Help please. ...
A. 4 November 2008: It is subjective some people will find it perverted and some will think thats normal for a man. However if your husband is married with you it is a bit strange and imature in my opinion.... (read in full...)
I was straight until I met her... now I'm happy, but my family will kill me!
Q. Hello. I am 24 and I was straight, I just broke up with my boyfriend and now I met a girl which is strange. I have some kind of attraction to her like crazy. I don't want to label my self gay, but she asked me to be her girlfriend and I finally said ...
A. 4 November 2008: Your parents need to accept that you are the way you are and that it is your life and you choose the person who you want to be with.... (read in full...)
Is 5 years too much?
Q. Hey everyone, I've just started dating this guy that I feel like I've known my whole life I think I'm really falling for him! The problem is he's 18 and I'm only 13. Is it wrong?...
A. 4 November 2008: In my opinion it can be good for your experience but however I would consider it borderline pedophilia. He is
18, the gap here is just a bit too much. If you were 15 it would be ok in my opinion but not any younger. However if he does not do anyt... (read in full...)
Is my foreskin normal?
Q. i am 16 and my foreskin covers all of my penis even when erect, also when erect it hurts when i try to pull it back. has this ever happened to anyone else before? and is there a way of fixing it? any answer will be appreciated thank you...
A. 3 November 2008: I can't really give you good advise but the best thing is that you go and see a doctor.... (read in full...)
What I really want is for her to move on and be happy without me.
Q. Basically, I'm in that type of situation where we start off as best friends and eventually got to where my friend and I have got to now, in danger of losing our friendship completely. My bestfriend and I have been friends for about five years...
A. 3 November 2008: I don't personaly think that what you did is a mistake however that is subjective. It seems obvious that she loves you and you deep down want to be with her. Forget about the friendship try and get into a relationship, she likes you so much that ... (read in full...)
She's popular and I'm a loser...
Q. I'm beginning to fall in love with a girl at school and she's like a popular girl but not the most popular and I'm like the loser. I know she exists but she doesn't know I exist. What do I do....? ...
A. 3 November 2008: You really need to improve on your self-esteem. Nobody is a loser, we are you different and we all have weaknesses and streths. Try and Biuld up your confedents and just go and talk to her. If your class mates think that your a loser just don't play ... (read in full...)
Is my best friend overreacting to this situation or am I in the wrong?
Q. My best friend used to like this guy when she was younger, she says she loved him for about 3 years, but nothing ever happened between them, she has now been going out with a different guy for a year and a half but has recently warned me not to get ...
A. 3 November 2008: You should ask her why is she warning you about this guy??.
She could be jellous of you and in that case she is not really a good friend. Find out for yourself how this guy is and come up to your own conclusions. Good luck!.
... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my husband and his attitude?
Q. To me loving your partner means doing things (not sexual) he likes to do even though you don't like it just because he likes it. Last night I was watching something and he criticizes it and had a whole lot of commentary, which is usual, and I just ...
A. 3 November 2008: I agree with Kinky Boots however if he does not change even after you toughened up and explained him clearly how you feel, then you should consider a divorce because his attitude is not good for your well being. Good luck!.... (read in full...)
Is there a chance she could be pregnant?
Q. My gf and I are worried. Last week she gave me a hj. I came and some of my cum got on her hand. She licked it off and it was only a little bit but after she went to the toilet. She cleaned down there with that hand. Is there a chance she could be ...
A. 3 November 2008: There is no chance she could be pregnant.... (read in full...)
Can I still consider myself a virgin or is it wrong?
Q. i know this might sound like another stupid question...but is it really wrong to call myself a virgin even if he did penetrate me... i know the whole definition of being a virgin and all but i tried to prevent it...he was just to fast for me to stop ...
A. 3 November 2008: Whether it is wrong or right to consider yourself a virgin is subjective. In my opinion it is understandable that you still want to consider yourself a virgin. I think it is ok if you consider yourself a virgin. ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend struggle to get an erection? Is he impotent? Should he see a doctor?
Q. Hi there, im abit worried about my boyfriend. He finds it very hard to get or keep an erection. He was a virgin before we got together so at first i thought it might be down to nerves, but we have been together a year now so i know that its no...
A. 3 November 2008: One reason that is possible is that your boy friend could be homersexual therfore has problems keeping his errection.
In my opinion many homersexuals live in denial over their sexuality. Its only one theory that could be possible.... (read in full...)
Can I still consider myself a virgin or is it wrong?
Q. i know this might sound like another stupid question...but is it really wrong to call myself a virgin even if he did penetrate me... i know the whole definition of being a virgin and all but i tried to prevent it...he was just to fast for me to stop ...
A. 3 November 2008: You can be in denial that you were penetrated if it makes you feel better. You can try and forget about it and consider yourself a virgin. Don't tell anybody, if you did not bleed then nobody will know.... (read in full...)
Can I still consider myself a virgin or is it wrong?
Q. i know this might sound like another stupid question...but is it really wrong to call myself a virgin even if he did penetrate me... i know the whole definition of being a virgin and all but i tried to prevent it...he was just to fast for me to stop ...
A. 3 November 2008: You can be in denial that you were penetrated if it makes you feel better. You can try and forget about it and consider yourself a virgin. Don't tell anybody, if you did not bleed then nobody will know.... (read in full...)
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