How do I get my wife to show me affection again!
Q. I just returned from a deployment from iraq. my wife had an affair with another woman. I have forgiven her for the infidelity but now she will not have sex with me. The other woman is now trying to get my wife to leave me by laying these games. ...
A. 24 October 2010: Your wife could be lesbian or bisexual and has recently come out of the closet. I think you should not try and convince her how much you like her etc..but try and find out what she wants and except here decision. She might not want to be with you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend never climaxes!
Q. i have a sex issue. my boyfriend is the type of guy that can last forever in bed. YET, he never comes. he can last two hours and not come. he says that he doesn't care because all he wants to do is pleasure me. i do all these things so that i can ...
A. 23 October 2010: Hi,
There could be many reasons why your boyfriend doesn't climax, He could have a sexual dyfunction, or it causes him too much anxiety to climax. He could also be gay and in denial. He might not like you in a sexual way.
He could be also telling... (read in full...)
I am afraid a guy I met online will tell all and the life I have built will crumble
Q. Hey everyone heres my problem . i started at a different college for the second time . quite quicky i was put on the rugby team . for many years i had / still am unsure about who i am - seeing as so many people have played cruel mind games...
A. 23 October 2010: Hey,
I think before you decide to come out as Bisexual or gay you should always beware of who you tell and consider the environment that you are in. Being in college is not always a safe or healthy place to come out. This another guy in college ... (read in full...)
Is there any chance my straight best friend will fall for me, a teen gay?
Q. I know this question has been asked by many a gay guy, but i was hoping for a more specific answer. My friendship with this guy started rather oddly (he is the same age as me and we have actually been at school together for the past 5 years). He was ...
A. 22 August 2010: From what your telling me I believe he is Gay and is attracted to you. Unfortunitly there are still many young and older gays out there that have trouble accepting that they are gay because of social stigma. My advice is that you should use your ... (read in full...)
Its killing me not to be able to tell him how I feel
Q. I know you probably get a lot of questions like this on here, so I regret to tell you that this is another one of them. I apologize if this seems a little long winded, but I need to get this all off my chest and I've always thought that it's ...
A. 22 August 2010: It looks like to me that he is in love with you. I believe you should tell him that you find him very attractive. Go for it !... (read in full...)
Did he like me? What should I do?
Q. Dear aunts, I'll try and be as brief as possible (unfortunately this will be very longwinded), but I am looking for some advice and I really didn't know where to turn to, so here I am. Well I am a gay male, and a few months ago I was not scouting...
A. 13 August 2010: I am Gay and have had some experience. I am sure that you are not looking too much in the events that happened. I think he could be a bit of a closet case because he is afraid to act upon his sexuality. Get to know him better before you make ... (read in full...)
Married with 2 kids but interested in men
Q. I am a married man with two kids, but I think I'm atleast bi curious. I have strong urges to find out what it's like to be with another man....
A. 12 August 2010: Hello. If one day you realise that you are Gay I think then you should come out of the closet and tell your wife because its no fun living a lie. There are many gay people who are married nowardays who are coming out of the closet while having a ... (read in full...)
My husband of four years watches gay porn and denies it! What should I do
Q. I have a real problem! My husband of four years watches gay porn online and denies it. We have two children and I’m 8 months pregnant with our third. I first caught him about two years ago. He refused to admit it! So, I confronted him with ...
A. 6 December 2009: I'm sorry but I'm going to be honest. I'm sure that your husband has some homersexual tendancies. However that does not mean he doesn't like you or that he's not attracted to you. He just has gay tendancies. Many people are in denial over being gay ... (read in full...)
How do I supress my feelings towards the same sex?
Q. Over the past few months i've forgotten slightly about my sexual orientation. I've been making plenty of friends, both male and female. However, despite my good friendship with one guy, it just hit me today that I might have some attachment to him. ...
A. 6 December 2009: You need to accept yourself for who you are. Surpresing your feelings is just being in denial about your sexuality.
You need to come to terms with it, even though there are many obstacles of leading a gay life style. You need to be brave. Take care... (read in full...)
She lives so far away what can I do?
Q. i meat a girl over the internet. We got talking and the next thing u know were in love. But she lives sooo far away i dont know what to do were only teenagers andi cant stop thinking about her. What should i do.????...
A. 17 September 2009: I know you probabely won't like me telling you this but here goes. It is common that people believe they have fallen in love with somebody over the net. I'm sure you see her as a wonderful person etc. However your imagination of how she is can be ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my clingy friend?
Q. I'm not sure what to do. I have a clingy friend and I've been able to tolerate it for a couple months, but now it's to the point where I'm tired of it. If I don't pick up when she calls me, she repeatedly calls me back until I answer plus she texts ...
A. 17 September 2009: In my opinion you should try and make yourself as clear as possible to her again. Tell her you don't appreciate her clingyness. If she doesn't change her behaviour she could have a dependant personality disorder, therefore you should advise her for ... (read in full...)
Broke up, now I have to move out. Should I tell him I am going?
Q. I had hurtful break up with my ex month ago. It was the most difficult situation I ever faced. He was my true love, he lied on me and he said stay here in my place as long as you need as a good friend and good flatmate, but I found out that he is ...
A. 15 September 2009: You should take things slowly and think before carefully what you do. I understand how you feel that he is your true love etc. This is a dangerous kind of relationship in my opinion, because you are in love and you are ready to forgive him for ... (read in full...)
Straight but kissed another guy, and feeling really crappy about it.
Q. I'm a straight male and this weekend I made out with my male friend, while we were drunk. I've been sort of wanting to experiment with the same sex, despite not really being attracted to other guys.. and only having a history of dating females. ...
A. 15 September 2009: Did you ever put yourself into question that you actually could be Bisexual or Homersexual and are subconjesley struggling with your own fears and misconceptions. Ask yourself why did you kiss this other guy did you feel absolutly no attraction to ... (read in full...)
I have been fooling around with a guy and now I cant seem to get an erection when I'm with a girl!
Q. Im a 23 year old guy, and i have a couple of problems that i think are interlinked. I lost my virginity pretty late, i was 18, with my girlfriend at the time. We had sex a few times and then broke up after a month or two. After that i started ...
A. 28 August 2009: Hi, I think you might be having problems accepting that you could be mostly likely homersexual. I'm Gay and was in denial untlil I was your age. I was in denial for many reasons and factors. One of the reasons was that I never felt attracted to guys ... (read in full...)
I can't figure out if he's gay or not
Q. Hello, I'm a 19 year old gay male. I'm still closeted to all but one person and guess what? I've got the perennial gay problem -- I like someone and I don't know if they're gay or not. I know that this is asked a lot, but I'm looking to see what ...
A. 17 July 2009: I would not ask if he was gay because he would get very shy and feel awkard. I had a very similar experience and I know what your talking about. From your post I would say that I am 100% sure that he is gay. I usually don't say that I am 100% sure ... (read in full...)
I hate being gay! Can I become heterosexual by taking medication?
Q. I HATE BEING GAY. can we deliberately convert a gay person into heterosexual by means of medical treatment? (i.e. hormone injections, hormone medications (such as??))...
A. 24 May 2009: No, there is no medication on the market to change sexual orientation.... (read in full...)
My husband told me he's gay but he wants to be "ex-gay"
Q. My husband told me yesterday that he was gay. It wasn't a big announcement, he just said to me "I have something to tell you, it's important!" so I sat down and listened. He admitted he was gay, and said tearfully "I DON'T want to be this way! I ...
A. 19 May 2009: I believe that there is nothing you can do to change sombodies sexual orientation. Since I believe its genetic.
His lust and attraction towards men won't change. However
if he loves you and is loyal, his homersexuality should not effect your mar... (read in full...)
He is really confused and miserable, and so am I. How can I help him?
Q. i am in a kind of tight situation. my best friend is in love with a girl he has known for 3 years..but..he has been with his girlfriend for 7 years...he doesn't love her.never did.but he was with her,cuz she needed his support and he wanted to suppo...
A. 28 March 2009: In my opinion if he is not married or has no children, he then should break up with her and be with the girl who he is in love with. If he forces himself to be loyal to his girlfriend now he could end up with regrets. It also is going to put a huge ... (read in full...)
Need suggestions for extremely difficult work situation
Q. Ok I desperately need as many opinions and thoughts as possible as this is quite an important decision I need to make with in the next few hours - the more help I get the better. The economy in the UK right now is extremely bad - the value of our...
A. 27 March 2009: In principal I would always rather have a job than nothing however on these circumstances i would not take the offer, there are limits. They would be exploiting you.... (read in full...)
Do you think this will ever go anywhere?
Q. I am gay and my mate always knew it. My mate is a big strong Fence Builder who drives a work van and has 2 teenagers from his first marraige and one more kid he's seen only once from a second marriage. We were in a church together for years until I ...
A. 25 March 2009: In my opinion he was always in denial of his sexuality due to social presure and religous factors. He has struggeled most of his life with misconceptions and fears of his homersexuality. You should ask yourself if you would like to have a ... (read in full...)
Problems with son and college.
Q. I was recently told by my 17-year-old son's college lecturer that he's been getting poor grades. I asked why, and all he said was "your son's more interested in pursuing a vendetta than his grades". I confronted my son, and asked him what this wa...
A. 25 March 2009: I believe you should have asked some question to his teacher. You should ask his teacher were he heard these rumors from. Ask him all what he knows about this vendetta.
I am not sure what his teacher means by saying that your son prefares to purs... (read in full...)
He cheated... now what?
Q. I need all the help I can get! I just went on my boyfriend's myspace and he's been cheating, what the hell do I do? I'm scared, it's been happening for a couple months. I'm so stupid, why didn't I see it before? What can I do? I'm having his ...
A. 23 March 2009: First of all take a deep breath and calm down. Pace yourself. In my opinion you should focus on your boyfriend and not the girl that he is cheating you with.
Tell him straight out that you know what is going on between him and the other girl, and ... (read in full...)
I'm gay and don't want to be!
Q. So I'm 19 years old. I have had a tough, tough life. My Mother had me at 14, she was a drug addict and and alcoholic. So therefore I was adopted by a single woman I lived with her for pretty much all of my childhood during that childhood I was ...
A. 19 March 2009: I agree with loving arms. Listen to her sound advice!!... (read in full...)
How to tell if a guy is gay?
Q. I'm a guy. And there is this guy that gives me some signals. I would like to know if he is in to me. If he is gay or smthing. Well, he hugs me and when i am trying to sleep he comes near me and tells me to kiss his cheek for goodnight. but t...
A. 13 March 2009: I dont know if he is gay but However I am practically sure he is into you. He might have his girl friend for a cover up. many gay people have a girl friend as a cover up. If you like him then make a move. good luck!!... (read in full...)
Was I in an emotionally abusive relationship?
Q. I dated this guy for a while and at first it was casual. I lost my virginity to him and became extremely attached. He would tell me that he has such a busy schedule and he said that if he didn't call me for days or weeks, I shouldn't be mad at him. ...
A. 5 March 2009: I believe its a subjective issue on whether you were emotionaly abused. He seemed only interested in having intercourse with you and from you post it does not give the impression that he manipulated you in an abusive manner when you had ... (read in full...)
He broke up w/his g/f, says he's bi-curious, but nothing is happening
Q. okay, so heres the deal: there is this guy, he says hes straight, had a girlfriend, and I really like him. He knows it, he told me that if he was gay he would be interested in being with me. Were really good friends and I've heard rumors that he'...
A. 5 March 2009: He is still young I presume and needs to come to terms with his sexuality. You should hang out with him and just let things role. Don't make any advances to soon. Once you both start getting more confedent with each other then you can make advances ... (read in full...)
Why plead with me to be friends and then hide the fact from his friends?
Q. I think I should not be in any contact with my ex-boyfriend, but your input would be nice. So, we've been broken up for 14 months now. Since January this year, he has been very friendly. Last month he visited me for the weekend and then insisted I ...
A. 1 March 2009: In my opinion there could be plenty of reasons. Instead of me surmising all the different possiblities why your boy friend is keeping it a secret from his friends that you hang out and stuff. I would ask him why he is denying it from his friends ... (read in full...)
I don't think I want to carry on, what can I say to end this relationship?
Q. Well... Im thinking about breaking up with my boyfriend who has latly really got on my nerves... But the things is im really bad at breaking up a realation ship, i like dont have the confidence this probly sounds stupid but i feel really bad and i ...
A. 22 February 2009: I guess he is soo proud to be with you and thats why he has told many people because he is soo happy he cant keep his feelings a secret from everybody, however he should have resisted and kept it a secret for you. If your not happy with him anymore ... (read in full...)
Do you always listen to your intuition? What should I do in this situation?
Q. Do you always listen to your intuition,or you just say no to it? I do. I know long time ago ,that my intuition is suffering from repressing it, but if I go with it, I must leave my husband ,and that is the biggest step in my life , after I went to ...
A. 22 February 2009: I believe you could be scared to listen to your own intuition because that means that you would possibly have to take some drastic measures. Your husband seems to be too defensive when you ask him whats wrong with him. He should ask why you are ... (read in full...)
How to ask a guy you like out on a friend date?
Q. Hey well I'm a gay male, and I have a little dilemma.... Well I have a crush on one of my friends and I kinda wanna ask him out, as a FRIEND! My problem is, that I get kind of shy, loose, and bubbly and he ends up assuming I'm drunk.... sorry ...
A. 22 February 2009: You just need to tell yourself that it is absolutely normal to ask him to hang out with you and that there is nothing wrong with it. Just put the tiger in the tank and ask him. However if your in love with him its totally normal that you are shy ... (read in full...)
Is it me or is he a sex maniac?
Q. my husband is opsessed with women of all types porn celibrities, calendar girls. he watches naked girls on line early morning then come and has sex with me makes me feel like he need them to turn him on and I am just a filler. I am getting breast ...
A. 22 February 2009: I Believe that your husband is a sex manniac indeed. However it is natural for men to fantasise over other women. That does not mean he is not loyal to you. However he is not respecting you with his actions. You should have a chat with him and tell ... (read in full...)
He is also gay, I thought he liked me?
Q. hey, im 14 and gay. one of my classmates is gay too and i have a crush on him (we confessed to each other that we're gay). we were talking about getting together and stuff, but suddenly on one day he said he's going to meet someone else. what's ...
A. 17 February 2009: well considering your young age its possible that he could be nervous for taking such a big step. coming out of the closet and then being together with you might all be too much for him at once aspecially if he really loves you, these factors could ... (read in full...)
How do you ladies feel when your man forgets V-Day?
Q. How do you ladies feel when your man of 3 years forgets it's Valentines day and you get nothing. Not a card, not a flower, not a single romantic sentiment? Please advise. I don't know what to do. Mention it? Or just let the day pass by like it ...
A. 14 February 2009: I can understand how you are feeling. I forgot totally about Valentines day and I did nothing for my girl friend. She got really disapointed however I love her to bits, so don't take it too personal allthough you are right!. Take care!.... (read in full...)
Do guys have mood swings like girls do???
Q. I don't know, I just want your thoughts on this.. do guys have mood swings like girls do??? Lately I've had a high temper.. it seems that every stupid thing gets on my nerves... and since I was sick from a cold my eyes were always watering...
A. 14 February 2009: These type of feelings are especially normal at your age since you are in puberty. However mood swings can happen at any age but they get less intensive as you get older. Boy's also have mood swings.... (read in full...)
This family friend is very dangerous but no one believes me, I'm worried!
Q. Please help me! I need your advice badly. My father has got this “friend” who I believe is a risk for the integrity of my family but my father doesn’t realise that because he is a big hypocrite and a kissass to my father. He believes the guy...
A. 12 February 2009: Why you think that this person is a danger to your family??. You don't give any legimate reason why this guy is a danger?. Is it only because he hangs out with certain people that are shady?. If you could give more reasons why you think he is dange... (read in full...)
Should I trust that my online BF really loves me?
Q. :) i wants too know one thing that i always think about this is for guys! Im a 13 year old girl and ive fallen in love with a boy over the internet we've been together for 2 months and i think hes the 1! BUT! HE KEEPS SAYING HE LOVES ME BUT LIV...
A. 30 January 2009: You cannot fall IN love with someone over the internet, although it is possible that he loves you as a person. People usually get a total different opinion from the person when they meet up in real life. So that means that if you would see him in ... (read in full...)
What man stares at another man with passion in his eyes?
Q. I've been married for 1 year but with this man for 6 years. Before we got married any woman would have wanted him, strong, smart, handy, a great lover, a good friend, I can go on , but I will stop there because it all was a bunch of bull sh!t. Maybe ...
A. 29 January 2009: You should end this relationship as soon as possible in my opinion because he obviously does not love you from what I gather from your post. I believe he has also pronounced homersexual tendancies. He seems that he has past all limits allready.
Y... (read in full...)
I don't wanna be seen as coming between best friends.
Q. I am very much in love with my boyfriend however there are a few things which really upset me and I don't know how to approach him on these issues as I don't want to lose him. He would rather go out with a load of people and get drunk on valenti...
A. 28 January 2009: In these circumstances you should talk to you boy friend about this. You are in a relationship and he should be loyal to you if he really loves you. You must clearly tell him that you will not tolerate him flirting and kissing with other people, ... (read in full...)
Can I be fined for my first offence?
Q. This has nothing to do with relationships or anything like that... I just had a serious question. I got a ticket today for the first time. This was my first offence. The officer who gave me the ticket didn't tell me it was a warning or anything. He ...
A. 22 January 2009: YES you can be fined for your first offence.
If you go to court you will be fined. ... (read in full...)
How to NOT be attracted to someone who is off limits?
Q. Is there any way to stop being attracted to someone who's off-limits? if it's not going anywhere, that would just be easier.... :(...
A. 21 January 2009: Unfortunity thier is no law to whom you are attracted to. If you feel attracted to him there is nothing that can stop you being attracted to him. having an attraction to somebody is not a tap that you turn on and off when you want. Take care!... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for following my feelings?
Q. Around this time last year I was messing around with this guy, that I thought I really liked. . . we finally made it offical in the beginning of the summer but after a week into our relationship I realized feelings wasn't true so it became a sexual ...
A. 19 January 2009: No you are not wrong for following your feelings because you are young and still not yet commited. You should make it clear that you don't want to pursue the relationship with your ex boy friend anymore. Do not play any attention to what other's are ... (read in full...)
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