Can I still consider myself a virgin or is it wrong?
Q. i know this might sound like another stupid question...but is it really wrong to call myself a virgin even if he did penetrate me... i know the whole definition of being a virgin and all but i tried to prevent it...he was just to fast for me to stop ...
A. 3 November 2008: Whether it is wrong or right to consider yourself a virgin is subjective. In my opinion it is understandable that you still want to consider yourself a virgin. I think it is ok if you consider yourself a virgin. ... (read in full...)
Can I still consider myself a virgin or is it wrong?
Q. i know this might sound like another stupid question...but is it really wrong to call myself a virgin even if he did penetrate me... i know the whole definition of being a virgin and all but i tried to prevent it...he was just to fast for me to stop ...
A. 3 November 2008: You can be in denial that you were penetrated if it makes you feel better. You can try and forget about it and consider yourself a virgin. Don't tell anybody, if you did not bleed then nobody will know.... (read in full...)
Can I still consider myself a virgin or is it wrong?
Q. i know this might sound like another stupid question...but is it really wrong to call myself a virgin even if he did penetrate me... i know the whole definition of being a virgin and all but i tried to prevent it...he was just to fast for me to stop ...
A. 3 November 2008: You can be in denial that you were penetrated if it makes you feel better. You can try and forget about it and consider yourself a virgin. Don't tell anybody, if you did not bleed then nobody will know.... (read in full...)
I'm the new-comer and these girls say nasty things about me behind my back, what can I do?
Q. i am the new girl at school and it seems like everyone at school is fond of me...well so i thought. there are some "black" girls at school who absolutely hate my guts. no im not racist because im mixed but i just dont understand why.... i am also ...
A. 3 November 2008: Don't play any attention to what these girls are saying. I believe they could be jellous for a number of obvious reasons. ... (read in full...)
I'm too young to be stressing and worrying!! Please help me!
Q. Hey, I seem to be uncomfortable, with worrying, should I be worried about what might or might not happen in the future. I am still young and have a ton of problems in my mind. I'm just wondering if my worrying is carrying to much stress for my a...
A. 2 November 2008: Hi dear, its normal that you worry sometimes but not too much ok. Try and find something to do when your worried and/or stressed. Take a bath that can be chilling. Your also going thruogh puberty which can be stressful and worrying, its the ... (read in full...)
She keeps telling me "Nothing is wrong" So should I let it go, or keep pushing?
Q. Ok well me and this girl I have been going out for three years are going good, but I am having trouble knowing when something is wrong. Are there any signs to show that something is wrong because she keeps telling me "nothing is wrong" or "its noth...
A. 2 November 2008: Hi, umm I think you should just tell her that it would make you feel happy if she told you when something was wrong. Say to her that you will accept her opinion and her choice and that she should not fear from expreesing her worry to you. Just use ... (read in full...)
What do I do if my ex blackmails me so I can't date anyone?!
Q. Hello, I am in stuff I don't want to be in. My ex girlfriend keeps pulling that 'if you loved me you would kissed me or hug me or agree with me.' I did love this girl but she is using it against me, and I have some friends who know about us, and ...
A. 2 November 2008: The big question is how is she going to blackmail you?? I don't get it?? anyway whatever your girl freind blackmails you with is just wrong on so many levels, she is possessive and not trustable. In my opinion you should terminate the relationship ... (read in full...)
My penis is aroused every morning, is that normal?
Q. Hi. I am 22 year old guy. Every morning when i wake up my penis is erected and really hard. I am a virgin and i masturbate quite often. (daily or once every two days). I masturbate to pornography. I think i dream too much about the pornography,...
A. 2 November 2008: My penis is aroused most mornings and yes it is normal. I guess you have an average level of testosterone which is cousing your penis to be errect in the morning. It is called a morning boner. Most guys your age would wake up with a boner. ... (read in full...)
Please help. My life's a roller-coaster of feeling so loved to feeling so worthless!
Q. Hi, I have recently come out of a 3 year relationship not knowing who I am or what I did wrong. He was very controlling, I gave up my job, and alot of my friends. Its not that he stopped me, it was just easier that way. Everything that was wrong ...
A. 2 November 2008: I believe this guy is highly manipulative and not good for your well being. He is not a person that you can reason with easely because he does not put himself into quistion.
Yes I do think he knows what he is doing and he is doing it on purp... (read in full...)
Can I still consider myself a virgin, even if it didn't mean anything to me?
Q. i was a virgin recently and my so called boy friend came over..we were casual flirting and then he started to get a little too flirty. he layed me on my bed and i told him i didn't want to have sex and i tried to move my hand to block his penis. i ...
A. 2 November 2008: If you were bleeding then you are not a virgin anymore. I think If you get penetrated that means that you are no longer a virgin (I think). Don't get too upset about it. However it was extreamly wrong and unacceptable what he did to you. Maybe the ... (read in full...)
My life is finished and I don't know what to do...
Q. This is my first question cuz I just signed up... sorry if this is long. My gf and I met when I was 17 an she was 16 we started dating and we both were always excited to see each other an plan days ahead. We didn't go to the same schools and we ...
A. 2 November 2008: Your life is not finished. You going through a difficult time and you can't see the end of the tunnel, which can cause you to be depressed and worried. It is wrong from your girl to say that you riuned her life because when she got pregant I assume ... (read in full...)
I'm miserable and in love with someone else.
Q. Hi everyone, ok I have a sitution thats a little different then a lot I've read so far. I am a female and I'm with a female, I've been with her off and on for 3 years and she is a wonderful person but she doesn't trust me and she has some serious ...
A. 2 November 2008: This is a difficult situation. I think it is important for your well being to move on. The problem here is that she is emotionaly dependant on you. You should say to her that you are not anymore attracted to her, but be gentle and give her time to ... (read in full...)
The boyfriends nasty habit
Q. I have a boyfriend now... haha... anyway.. he is constantly touching my sides and leaning his head on mine. He is always slapping my butt in front of his friends just to show off and it gets really annoying. we are only 13 and I know that's young, ...
A. 2 November 2008: You are a sound young girl, you should just have the confedents to tell him how you feel.... (read in full...)
There is a picture of my boyfriend and his ex hugging, on a wall in his parent's home, where he llives. It bugs me, how do I bring it up?
Q. My boyfriend lives with his friends. In their house the is a wall that has all their pictures and stuff. One of the pictures has my boyfriend and his ex girlfriend in it, hugging each other. It is a group picture, my boyfriend didnt put that on ...
A. 31 October 2008: I fully understand that it bothers you and yes it is not tactful of them to have that picture on the wall however unfortunitly they do not have to take it down if they don't want to and you need to respect that. You can bring it up by having the ... (read in full...)
Is this what you would call 'love'?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years and I love him very much but I do worry that I dont know what love is and so worry that maybe I dont love him.I know its silly and im 23 years old,I feel like I should know better.I ...
A. 31 October 2008: There is a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. If you said that you love him very much that is enough for a relationship however maybe you have an issue of showing effection, thats why maybe you don't really know what ... (read in full...)
My husband wants to make a sex tape!
Q. My husband (for 3 years) wants us to make a sex tape for his birthday (hes turning 28). We have no kids yet (we're still talking about it). I told him to dream on. I dont want to get out and then everyone will i'm a slut. He promise he'll get a safe ...
A. 31 October 2008: If you think it is sick and wrong he then should 100% respect your opinion, if he then starts doubting your trust, that would be emotional blackmail. Make it clear to him that you don't want it. If he cannot respect your opinion that would be ... (read in full...)
What could these symptoms be?
Q. i am so young but i have memory loss problems.when i try to focus on one thing i lose so much focus on sumthing else n it feels like im retarted.or it feels like im lazy when it comes to thinking.is it a stage?i can't really remember what happened ...
A. 31 October 2008: I also don't know how severe your memory problems are, it could be in the norm or maybe not. ... (read in full...)
What could these symptoms be?
Q. i am so young but i have memory loss problems.when i try to focus on one thing i lose so much focus on sumthing else n it feels like im retarted.or it feels like im lazy when it comes to thinking.is it a stage?i can't really remember what happened ...
A. 31 October 2008: My opinion is that you should go and see a doctor because its hard to say what it could be without professional counselling. You should see a doctor as soon as possible.... (read in full...)
Am I getting upset for no reason or should I confront him and ask him about it???
Q. I was just wondering if I am overreacting. My husband left his email program up and so I was reading one of the emails and it was from an old girlfriend. She was telling him about her marriage and how things weren't so good for her right now and ...
A. 31 October 2008: With all due respect I think you are a bit possessive if you are really upset about it. I believe you are overreacting about this issue, it was only advise. He did not flirt with her or anything. He also did not make any suggestive advances. Don't ... (read in full...)
Is friendship all that's on offer here?
Q. Hey, I've met this girl I really like at my college. I've liked her since we first met and I really really want to be with her, but I can't tell if she likes me the same way or not. One day she practically ignores me but the next she'll ask me if I ...
A. 31 October 2008: I think she is playing with you because she maybe likes you, what she is doing is called love play and it can make you crazy soemtimes...lol.... (read in full...)
Can you get a false positive on a clamidia test?
Q. Hi, I was just wondeering whether a positive clamidia test result could be wrong? I have just been tested and the result was positive. But I am wondering because I have only ever been with one man, ever. I hve only ever done anything sexual ...
A. 30 October 2008: I would ask you doctor for the accuracy of the test and if possible to retake the test.... (read in full...)
Have you ever loved someone you couldnt have?
Q. Has anyone else ever fell in love with someone who you cant have? Either cos they are already with someone or they just dont love you back? I feel so alone. Im head over heels in love with this guy and have been for 5 years. Weve never had a proper ...
A. 30 October 2008: Yes its normal! he does not reciprocate your feelings, that can happen. The same has happened to me and I know its painful, your not alone. Nevertheless are you 100% sure that he does not like you??. try harder to find out before you come to ... (read in full...)
He says he is not breaking up the relationship, all he wants is distance.
Q. I don't understand what my man wants. The last time I was with him he told me that he wanted a distance between us ..... because he can't do two things at the same time faculty and me so he said he's gonna stay with his studies and for me it was ok ...
A. 29 October 2008: I can't really know why he wants to take a distance however his reason that he gave you seems plausible to me. It is important to have a distance sometimes in a relationship for it to be succesful. Being too close can cause tention and in the long ... (read in full...)
Has the age gap finally caught up with us? I'm so discontent!
Q. Where do i start????...ok so im 31 and my partner of 15 years is 41, we have 2 children, and here is the BUT i dont really know if I'm happy any more, we separated about 2 years ago for a year, then got back together when we got back together things ...
A. 29 October 2008: I think its time you made an important choice for yourself. I guess that the age difference is something to do with it. For your well being its important to have a partner that you are happy with. Comunication is very important, if he thinks you ar... (read in full...)
Does thus straight guy like me ?
Q. Hey everyone again its plain old me lotmoney13..... i have a new but old delimma again involving the straight guy. well today at class he asked me what other languages i speak, o i told him tagalog, me being filipino so yeah, so then he said to me ...
A. 25 October 2008: Hay Lotmoney 13!!. I think you should gently make some advances to him. I am pritty sure he has feelings for you. Say that you love him very much!, if he says that he loves you too then good for you, if not then just say that you loved him like a ... (read in full...)
This guy kissed me (I'm male) and more has happened since!
Q. Me and 5 other mates went to South Africa for a holiday which we said that we had been planning and talking about for nearly 3 years. 1 of the guys who came with us was openly gay. He wasn't camp or anything like that lol. The group, myself ...
A. 23 October 2008: Of course you should follow your heart if you like him. Your head is saying no because we all grow up learning that a heterosexual culture and life style is the norm. Being and/or Leading a bisexual or homersexual lifestyle is different. You will... (read in full...)
Three College Roomates...One BIG Secret...Advice Needed!
Q. Okay.... I'm looking for some positive advice on a delicate situation that's developed. Steve, my dorm-mate and i are sophmores in college. We have been best friends since we were freshmen in high school. We purposefully went to the same college so ...
A. 23 October 2008: Hi there, I really do think you should tell your parents and your best friend. Tell your best friend he should not tell anybody, except his parents. I think thuogh you should wait a bit before you come out to other people. I would also avoid telling ... (read in full...)
He cant forgive me because I had sex with someone else! What can I do?
Q. Ok i was in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years, and for a year of that was long distance and we were having major issues in our relationship stupidly i got drunk one night and cried on the shoulder of a friend and we ended up having sex. ...
A. 23 October 2008: I believe you should point out to him that you decided to tell him. Its not like he found out from someone else. The fact that you told him shows that your genuine and sorry about it. He should forgive you if he really wants to be with you otherwise ... (read in full...)
I feel it's my turn to be happy after being nice and generous to all people?
Q. Hey you gus it's lotmoney13!!!! i'm not sure if this'll be my final or not question. everyone who reads my questions knows i'm in love with a straight guy and i can't tell him how i feel just yet. i just wanted to say that i've been so generous and ...
A. 19 October 2008: Hi, even if you are nice and generous to everyone that does not mean that you get the thing or person that you really want..lol that would be an idealistic world. If you really fall for him I personaly doubt that he is straight. Not everybody admits ... (read in full...)
I''m 38 and have an 18 year old admirer..what should I do?
Q. I work in a super market and two of the other staff have told me that I have an admirer. It is said that she is only 18 and I'm 38 and work with her mum who knows about it as she has told me hersself. I dont know what i shoud do. ...
A. 17 October 2008: Wow that's a real complement to you!. I think you must ask yourself if you are attracted to her??. Use your phycological skills and see if she wants something more than just friendship. However if you plan to get in a relationship remember that she ... (read in full...)
I'm bored with my relationship!
Q. I`m 17 going on 18 and i am having relationship problems every Friday. i go see my gf and its the same thing every day and I`m getting bored then another thing is that she works 6 hours after school on friday and 8 hours on saturday. And i feel that ...
A. 17 October 2008: If you don't have too much feelings for her and you don't see it as being a big loss, I guess you can brake up with her however try and remain friends. ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to ask him to clean up after himself?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. we seem be getting in alot of arguments about being equals, money and house chores. His dispute is that he makes more money and pays more bills then i do so therefore I have to clean more. I ...
A. 17 October 2008: It is not wrong if you ask him to help cleaning up. He should not bring up the arguement that he earns more money.
Its not very tactul on his part. I think both of you should be ready for a compromise so that things can work out. Good luck!... (read in full...)
A million milles away relationship with a turkish man?
Q. I've been going with the turkish boy for a while now and I really like him and I know what people say about them that they cheat and only want money etc. but i thought!! mines was diffrent until i started to think: Does he even love me ? Does he j...
A. 17 October 2008: I am affraid that I agree with guillaume unfortunitly although I can understand how you are feeling. It looks like to me that he is not interested in you anymore, sorry.
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I'm confused about my sexuality and could really do with your advice.
Q. I'm confused about my orientation and would like some advice. I'm 26 and I've always found girls attractive, from a young age I have always wanted that coupling relationship with a girl and from about 13 i've been sexually attacted to girl...
A. 17 October 2008: It looks to me that you could be Bi-sexual, since you are sexually attracted to both sexes however if you decide to accept you sexual orientation as being a bi-sexual it is hard to get committed to a fixed relationship with somebody since women ... (read in full...)
I'm only a freshman, what does he see in me?
Q. I'm a freshman in high school and this senior keeps looking at me and stuff. Everytime I pass by he gets red, and when I look at him he gets red too. I have no idea if he likes me or not. Maybe he just wants be be my friend and knowing me I'm not ...
A. 17 October 2008: If somebody is attracted to you it has nothing to do if you are a just freshman. It looks like he just fansise you. If you like him then just go for him. You can't choose who you get feelings for in this life. ... (read in full...)
She's threatening to go to the police years later...
Q. I am 33 years old now, when I was 17 I had a 14 year old girl friend, we were sexually active up until I broke up with her, I have never considered whether I had broke the law having sex with her, I am not even sure I was of the legal age myself. I ...
A. 17 October 2008: Dear Anonymous, No she cannot carry out any legal action after so many years. I believe she has a personality disorder of some type. There is P.D that people can carry out grudges for very long peroid. Do not ever confess that you had sex with her, ... (read in full...)
In her mind she suspects he might actually be gay - and "fighting" his urges.
Q. A friend of mine is dating this guy - she seems pretty into him but recently told me there were some things that in her eyes were 'deal breakers' - which I took to mean she wouldn't end up with him/marry him. When I asked her about it she told me ...
A. 16 October 2008: Hi dear, For what I know there are many homosexuals that try and use different methods to fight their homosexuality. I think he asked her to read from the bible about homosexualty as a phycological compensation so he could feel guilty about his ... (read in full...)
2 and a half years without sex and we're married!!!
Q. I have been married for 8 years and for the past 2 and half years my wife and I have not had sex, or had any kind of physical contact or intimacy. We have 2 boys, 7 and 2. The last time we had sex was when the last child was conceived. I have tried ...
A. 16 October 2008: I agree with eyeswideopen this is not good for your well being. A suggest that you get seperated. You have nothing to feel guilty about if you decide to leave her, You have valid reasons for your choice.... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he is straight, what can I do?
Q. hey there. there is this guy that i really like. he has already had sex with a girl, but I really, really, really like him. I mainly want to lay beside him or on top of him in bed, but he is straight and i dont know what to do. please help me ...
A. 16 October 2008: It is not affirmative that he is sraight, he could be gay. I guess you should try and find out by being friends with him. Maybe he will give you some hits that he could be gay.
Are you 100% sure that he had sex with girls??. Maybe he has not yet ... (read in full...)
I am curious about sex and want to know how to masturbate.
Q. Hi I'm 13 years old and want to start masterbating.I was wondering if anyone had any idea how to masterbate. Are there differentways to masterbate or just one. ...
A. 16 October 2008: You just need to start rubbing your penis up and down and think about somebody that you are attracted to. Good luck!... (read in full...)
I fell down the stairs at school... AND HE CAUGHT ME!!!
Q. Hey everyone it's me again and my problems are growing rapidly. Today I told one of my best friends that I was gay and she said that's cool. I also told her about the guy I liked and she said he's cute and I should make a move. Should I? Again I'm ...
A. 16 October 2008: Its hard for me to judge whether you should tell him or not. If you decide to tell him and he rejets you, you could end up hurt and humiliated however there is a chance that he likes you to. I guess you should wait a little bit untill you get to k... (read in full...)
A woman should shud her mouth and sit in the corner - he's abusive and strange. what's goin on?
Q. Hi My husband just beat me down to the floor last night and held me there. I refusd to be held down so I fought to free myself. He told me to calm down and stop being angry I was calm and I was not angry. I was fustrated I was being accused ...
A. 15 October 2008: YOU NEED TO RUN, not walk out of this abusive relationship.
This guy has a severe disorder and he could be very dangerous to you. It is not possible to reason with him because he is mentally ill and unstable. ACT NOW !! before he could kill you!... (read in full...)
He left me because he wasn't able to commit just yet, should I stay in touch till he's ready?
Q. hey, I really need some help. I am a 15 year old gay boy and my boyfriend of two years left me a couple of weeks ago. Me and my boyfriend where incredibly close. We liked the same things, we hAd the same sense of humor and we where totaly on love, ...
A. 15 October 2008: Hi dear, I understand what your going through, really!.
I know a friend that went through a very similer experience of breaking up with his boyfriend and he got very very very depressed. He had many thoughts of suicide and then went also to see a sh... (read in full...)
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