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I was straight until I met her... now I'm happy, but my family will kill me!

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Question - (3 November 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 5 November 2008)
A female United States age 36-40, *ndamaged writes:

Hello. I am 24 and I was straight, I just broke up with my boyfriend and now I met a girl which is strange. I have some kind of attraction to her like crazy. I don't want to label my self gay, but she asked me to be her girlfriend and I finally said yes. I can't tell my family they would kill me. I have never been with a girl but she makes me happy smile and laugh like nuts. What should I do? Should I see where it takes me or just back out before anyone gets hurt?

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A female reader, michele21 United States +, writes (5 November 2008):

michele21 agony auntim a lesbain ive been with my gurl for 3yrs when i told my family they were a little confused and upset at first but they told me if i was happy they are happy for me thats all that matters at the end of the day is your happiness believe me i learned that the hard way......not only am i gay but my girlfriend is black so im in a biracial realtionship as well....but my family loves her now once they gave her the chance to get to know her...so if she make4s you happy and you like it stick with it you will find a way to tell your family when the time is right...

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A male reader, yum yum Switzerland +, writes (4 November 2008):

yum yum agony auntYour parents need to accept that you are the way you are and that it is your life and you choose the person who you want to be with.

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A female reader, WiccanWonder United Kingdom +, writes (3 November 2008):

WiccanWonder agony auntwell, if it makes you happy keep going with it.

Why would your family kill you? Its not their life, its yours, do as you please!

From Tasha x

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

any woman that's a real woman will tell you that we all (as women) have attractions and desires for another woman. Women are just sexy individuals. I just think that anyone that tells you different is in denial themselves. We all at one time or another has been or are bi-curious. Being in your early twenties is about the time that it starts. you are bi-curious and not necessarily gay because you still lust for men, right.

You are young, do you and feel good about it and if you feel that you really love this girl then hey take it from there. But let her know that you are not gay and pretty at a curious stage of your life. That way, she is aware of your actions and can prepare herself in advance if after your first encounter that you decide that the lifestyle is not for you.

Life is all about exploration...live, love, laugh and learn...

good luck.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (3 November 2008):

Go with your heart and see where it goes, you'll only regret it if you don't. What-ifs can be destroying.

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