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writes:My husband of two years and I seperated in September mainly because the marriage was abusive, but also because he decided he was having a midlife crisis (at age 24!!) and couldn't decide if he wanted to be married any more.Since we have been apart, he is begging me to reconcile with him. I just feel it is too little, too late.He thinks it would be a good idea to see each other one more time before we make a "final decision" and has proposed both of us flying to Dallas for the Baltimore/Dallas football game (we are fans of each team respectively) I don't think it's a good idea, but I am not sure if I should pursue it. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): It is always worth at least one try. Maybe he has done some serious thinking. You will probably keep wondering if you don't go and hear what he has to say. I think he has a maturity problem more than anything else. But why not give it a shot? You will enjoy the "vacation" and the game if nothing else. If he has not grown up enough to deal with marriage you will know soon enough. And you won't be wondering anymore. Best wishes. Tom
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2008): thats not suprising sweety, most men in there twenties dont ever know what they want, but obviously he wants to give it another shot. I would find out exactly why he wants to be with you. Ask a man why he loves you and how he answers is crucial. As for you, its simple, either you want give it another shot, or you dont if you had to answer the question with no time after being asked, your first instictual answer is what you should go with. Go with your gut.
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (27 November 2008):
 Well getting together might help you make up your mind. You are still not sure about what to do, so the change in location might help.
You got married for a reason, because you loved each other I presume? Are the feelings still there? Do you think you can figure the problems out, do you want to?
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (27 November 2008):
 In my opinion and experience, people in general who are abusive in a relationship only get worse. He sounds like that he could have a personality disorder which I don't think you have yet realised or taken it as a possible cause for his actions . Stay clear of him. Take care.
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