Am I wrong for following my feelings?
Q. Around this time last year I was messing around with this guy, that I thought I really liked. . . we finally made it offical in the beginning of the summer but after a week into our relationship I realized feelings wasn't true so it became a sexual ...
A. 19 January 2009: No you are not wrong for following your feelings because you are young and still not yet commited. You should make it clear that you don't want to pursue the relationship with your ex boy friend anymore. Do not play any attention to what other's are ... (read in full...)
My wife and me have been married for 3 weeks now. But a little problem I never saw her breasts.
Q. My wife and me have been married for 3 weeks now. But a little problem I never saw her breasts. Even when we were dating she wouldn't let let me see them. She said they'll gross me out (she has a long scar one of them) and also she thinks she ...
A. 19 January 2009: I don't think that you should rip off her bra when you have intercoarse, that would most likely make her upset and angry. You can try and convince her that she should not feel uncomfortable with her scar. That's all you can do.... (read in full...)
No girlfriends allowed
Q. i am 15 years old. my parents dont approve of me having a girlfriend. i love this girl incredibly. they told me to breakup with her but i wont. please help me. i dont want to disrespect my parents. but they are not letting me see her and they are ...
A. 17 January 2009: My opinion is that your parents are interfering with your private life way too much. They should not tell you to break up with your girl friend. They should advise you and guide you but not tell you what to do concerning your personal life. However ... (read in full...)
Ex really hurt in accident-should I go see him? Or not go?
Q. My situations is this: theirs this guy which I'm intrested in and vise versa, but my ex boyfriend of 3 years has recently had a very bad car accident.. My ex boyfriends sister came to my house telling me that her brother wants to talk to me, he ...
A. 17 January 2009: If I were you I would go and see him to know what he wants, so you can have closure. However it also depends what he did to hurt you, which I don't know. Take care!... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my husbands sexuality
Q. please help! i have been married almost 4 years, and have been together 15 years. in the beginning my husband and i could not get enough of each other. now my husbands behavior is bothersome to me. i have suspicions that he could be bi. i caught him ...
A. 17 January 2009: It looks like to me that your husband has some pronounced homersexual tendancies, he could be homersexual or bisexual. I do not believe that your husband is 100% heterosexual. I believe Your husband is not and was not nessesarly in love with you, ... (read in full...)
Is he making a move on me?
Q. HEY!!!!!!!YALLS!!!!!!!!!!!!its me lotmoney13!!!!!back again!!!!!!!! anyways......so you all know that im a gay male and that i have certain.....feelings for one of my friends.......but thats not what i need help on this time...... So...
A. 15 January 2009: Hay lot money 13!!!, I rememeber you!! lol. Its hard to say if he is making a move on you but its possible that he is indirectly making a move on you. However don't rush into anything. Good luck!!... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm gay!
Q. i am i 15 year old boy and im having problems i don't know if im gay, people think im gay at times. i like to masturbate to gay porn then after that i have no more feelings for it, i started looking at a women and i masturbated a couple of times to ...
A. 13 January 2009: Many young teenagers your age have conflicting issue's with their sexuality. The differece with you is that you seem to be worried about it and therefore you want to seek some advice. I can not tell you if you are gay or not just by reading your ... (read in full...)
My best friend just called me a dumbass....
Q. What am I doing wrong? My ex thinks im dumb, and my best friend just called me a dumbass.. I am hurt. I don't know what else to do, I don't have many friends and the ones I have got treat me like dirt. It is always like this. I was supposed...
A. 9 January 2009: You should CLEARLY tell him that you don't like the way he treats you. If he continues to treat you like dirt, then end the friendship before he gets even more offensive. Friendship is about respecting each other thats the minimum. Don't let him ... (read in full...)
What build size do women prefer?
Q. This is more curiosity then a problem, In general as i know everyone has different tastes what do women prefer in a mans build, for example im 5 10" very broad shouldered with a large chest and a waist narrower then my shoulders with large strong ...
A. 9 January 2009: As you said it depends on the girl what she likes. some girls will prefer skinny guys and some prefer a more robust build body. some girls would not have a preference.... (read in full...)
14, possibly pregnant b/f wants me to move..should I?
Q. okay so i am 14 and i might be pregnant!! i told my mom my boyfriend and his parents!!! but know he is movin to phoenix and he wants me to go with him my mom says i am going to ruin my life if i go but for me to do whatever the hell i want and i wa...
A. 9 January 2009: Hi dear, I can understand your difficult situation. I believe that you are too young to have a child and don't have yet the life experience, even though you are maybe more mature and more experienced than other girls your age. It takes a lot of ... (read in full...)
He called me his "lover" not his "g/f"
Q. I am in a relationship with a man who makes me very happy, who I love talking to, spending time with, and making love with. However, we have never spoken about the state of our relationship or defined it. So much time has passed that I feel the ...
A. 9 January 2009: It is hard to know exactly what he meant. I could only speculate and guess. You should try and talk to him openly about the way you feel. Ask him quistions like 'can we consider ourselves a couple?'. 'Are you happy the way things are going between ... (read in full...)
Does this make me...well... a slut?
Q. OK. Again similar to my previous questions... I will condense what could definitely be an essay worth sized question down to a simple straight-forward, all rounded question. OK. I've had many relationships in the past. Some I would say were ...
A. 9 January 2009: Well there is a difference between 16 and 19 however at 19 you are stil young. Its natrual at your age that you think a lot about sex and want sex. In my opinion there is nothing wrong with having sex as often as you like as long as it is safe sex. ... (read in full...)
I feel I live with a real psycho...
Q. It's going to be a bit complicated psychological question, but I thought I would give it a try. I don't know if you ever heard about "self-deception"? Because I just realized, I might be dealing with it in my life. My husband seems to be in this st...
A. 8 January 2009: I can understand your situation, its hard to deal with someone who is in the state of self-deception. The state of self-deception is similar of being self-deluted which is fooling one'self. The fact that you believe that your husband is becoming ... (read in full...)
I feel she wants to handcuff me during sex to get questions out of me! Should I do it?
Q. hello aunties, Two weeks ago when I was sleeping with my neighbor, her husband found out about us and beat me.. 2 days back I met him in the gym again, he pushed and began teasing me about how he tied me and hit me, everyone was looking at us. ...
A. 8 January 2009: You should terminate the sex contact with her and the contact all together!. I believe if you continue having an affair with her you could get into trouble. NEVER EVER let her tie you up during intercoarse aspecially if you can't trust her 100%. ... (read in full...)
I get laughed at in work cause of my age gap with my partner!
Q. I am dating a man in scotland who is 19 years older than me, he knows I love him, but people at work take the mick out of me cause I'm 24 and he is 42, what should I do? ...
A. 8 January 2009: If they are taking the mick out of you at work because of an age gap between your boyfriend and you that would constitute mobbing and is totally unprofessional!. You should tell them that you do not want to discuss your private life with them and ... (read in full...)
I'm lying to her to save her feelings...
Q. Me and my boyfriend went to my friend's house for a drink with her and her boyfriend. We all got drunk and my boyfriend went and got in a bed upstairs and went to sleep, and my friend also went to sleep, I was left up with her boyfriend who I had ...
A. 8 January 2009: You should speak to your friend in private, without anybody knowing that you are going to have a chat together.
You should then explain the full story of what is going on and what you heard from other people. I believe if you would not tell your... (read in full...)
Going to Ireland--can anyone give me advice?
Q. can some one tell something about ireland becasue i hope to go there for short hoilday...
A. 7 January 2009: I would advise you to go to the west coast of Ireland(Galway for example),the west coast of ireland has some beautiful scenary. I would not advise you to go to Dublin because its one of most dirtiest cities in Europe and its not interesting, plus ... (read in full...)
I'm dying to travel to France but can't afford it!
Q. Hello everyone, happy new year!... My question is totally random but I need help. I went to france a when I was like 10 and I really fell in love with it. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while and him along with my brother and his girl...
A. 7 January 2009: I think you forgot to mention which currentcy Euros of dollars?. Then it all depends on what you want to do and were in France you want to go. If you can answer's these quistions I could be of more help. Take care!... (read in full...)
He says hes not ready to date me
Q. The first day I walked into my math class this year(freshman year high school) this boy came up to me and start talking to me. Not in a flirting way just in a friend way. A few days later in the library my friend tried to make us go out but I said I ...
A. 7 January 2009: I can't give you a reason why he is not ready because I would only be speculating, I guess you need to wait until he is ready. My only guess to you is that he is still quite young and is still a bit shy, since I presume its his first date. Good ... (read in full...)
Why is it such a crime for a woman to be insecure?
Q. Why is it so wrong to be a bit insecure? It seems like it's a crime if a female is insecure. "Dump her, she's too insecure". Usually that's what people advise when someone feels insecure. Yesterday I was watching TV with my boyfriend an...
A. 7 January 2009: There is nothing wrong with being insecure with yourself now and then its actually normal. You should not feel insecure if your boy friend looks at these comercials because its natural, don't let that lower your self esteem.
After all that's why ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel bad for telling them off when they deserved it?
Q. I have had someone in my life who has made me feel awful about myself, pointless and very lonely. At every opportunity i have offered my friendship they have ignored me or made short excuses in order not to see me or speak to me. We have been out of ...
A. 6 January 2009: I think you might be a very nice person and the fact that you have been hurt, makes you feel bad to hurt others because you have been hurt and don't want others to get hurt, you just wanted your message to get across. However you should not feel bad ... (read in full...)
I have frenulum problems, please help!
Q. Okay so I'm a virgin and my penis has a frenulum, which is a thin skin under the penis head, and it doesn't allow the foreskin (I am uncircumcised) to retract. When I am not erect I can pull my foreskin back a lot, but when I am erect I can't pull ...
A. 6 January 2009: I totally agree with Tasteofindia!!. I suggest that you listen to her advise!!. Its only for your own good!. Take care!... (read in full...)
How do you tell another guy you like him?
Q. How do you actually tell a guy that you like him without actually telling him straight up.. by the way I'm a guy....
A. 6 January 2009: First before you could end up hurt, I would try and find out if he likes you in the same way. You should hang out with him and get to know him better. You can see if he likes you by the way he talks and acts around you. If you feel that he is giving ... (read in full...)
Hormonal? Yes or no?
Q. I have just recently made a doctor's apointment regarding depression. Nearly every day I feel like crap. There are some influences like friends, school and stuff but my life is rubbish, it gets me really down and I feel like I have nothing to live ...
A. 6 January 2009: It could be a phase, many teenagers can have such a phase however it should not last for weeks or months. Try and find a new activity of some sort. Its good that you are going to see a doctor for this he can give you some good advise. However beware ... (read in full...)
Advice from experienced taller, big foot skiiers wanted please!
Q. My husband and I are going skiing for the first time. We have a package that includes rental hire which includes boots. My husband is 6ft 7 and wears size 14 UK shoes. I am very concerned that we may get there and there could be a chance they are ...
A. 6 January 2009: You should make sure in advance that the shop were you are going to hire your ski's have the size and ask them to look in their stock and put them aside for your husband. Size 14(UK) is size 50 in europe its a really big shoe size. If they do have ... (read in full...)
I have frenulum problems, please help!
Q. Okay so I'm a virgin and my penis has a frenulum, which is a thin skin under the penis head, and it doesn't allow the foreskin (I am uncircumcised) to retract. When I am not erect I can pull my foreskin back a lot, but when I am erect I can't pull ...
A. 6 January 2009: Well you could say to your parents its a personal problem which you are embarresed to talk about with them. I think its important that you go and see a doctor. Aspecially if you would have discomfort when masterbating that would definitly not be ... (read in full...)
I tried to walk away but he gets so upset and it just kills me, please help!
Q. Dear cupid, I really need your help. I'm 18 and in college. I'm an attractive girl and party a lot. I live in the moment and keep my grades up and everything else is just about being happy and having fun to me. I don't like relationships but I am in ...
A. 6 January 2009: I think you should have a serious chat with him and tell him how you feel. You should give him a chance in my opinion to make it up to you. Tell him what you did not like etc...set your conditions with him if you want to get back into a ... (read in full...)
Virgin Girl that is waiting until marriage...
Q. When I was starting to get to know a boy and the guy getting to know me But, later confused that I was a virgin and his response was that he liked me so much to have sex that he couldn't stop for me that he said that I had to lose my virginity... ...
A. 6 January 2009: You can't generelize that all men don't want to persue a relationship if a girl desires to be a virgin until
they get married. If he really loves you then he should wait. However its only natural that he would want to have sex before he gets marr... (read in full...)
I'm gay and want to tell one of my best friends but just don't know how to tell her. Please help!!!!
Q. Ok I'm just gonna say it all at I de so bare with me. I 15 and I'm an the closet gay. I have a really really good friend who live across the road from me. We hang out all the time and go to the service station for slurpees all the time together. I ...
A. 6 January 2009: I think you should ask her what she thinks about homosexualty first. Then you might feel much more comfortable in telling her that you are gay( if she is open minded). If your parents are open minded you should not hesitate in telling them. Good ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to finger me?
Q. How do I get my boyfriend to finger me? I have tried to bring his hand down there to touch me, but he just stops. What should I do or say to get him to finger me?...
A. 5 January 2009: I think you should say it to him when you are close together. If you feel he is resisting then you should just tell him what you like; that he should not feel shy. If he still does not want, ask him genlty why he resists. Take care!... (read in full...)
I have frenulum problems, please help!
Q. Okay so I'm a virgin and my penis has a frenulum, which is a thin skin under the penis head, and it doesn't allow the foreskin (I am uncircumcised) to retract. When I am not erect I can pull my foreskin back a lot, but when I am erect I can't pull ...
A. 5 January 2009: I think you should go and see a doctor and ask him about it. You should not feel embarresed about it because Doctors deal with these kind of issues on a daily basis. Good Luck!
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My husband is hitting on men! Is he gay??
Q. I'm 26, my husband's 28. We've been married for 6 months, and are well-liked locally. We like socializing, and do it fairly frequently. However, there's one problem which is affecting our marriage badly. He's flirting. Not with other women t...
A. 10 December 2008: Sorry that my advice might sound a bit harsh. I don't believe that your husband is heterosexual. Many people fear from labeling themselves as gay or bisexual aspecially men. Many of them still get married with a women althuogh they are not ... (read in full...)
What should I do if I feel my life is worth nothing?
Q. I feel i dont want or have anything in life no more and i just want out. Sorry this may be long. Well at 6 years i was druged and raped nothing was done about it at 8 years my mum threatened to beat me if i mentioned her cheating on my dad and on ...
A. 9 December 2008: Hi dear, You need to have some counselling because you have been through a lot in your childhood. Being strong is asking for help when you need it. Most people in their life at one point need counselling. Life has ups and down's. If you have com... (read in full...)
I'm married to a swinging liar!
Q. Last year i found out that my partner of 6 years had been cheating on me with swingers all through our relationship, he started meeting these people a few months after we got together. When I found out he denied it, he even swore on his young sons ...
A. 9 December 2008: I understand how you are feelings. His actions are unethcical and wrong since you are married with him. You gave him alleardy a chance and he seems to be messing up his chance. It is up to you if you want to give him one more chance however in my ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend acts snobbishly since she got the leading role in the school play!
Q. My girlfriend (of a year) got in the school play and got the lead. Don't get wrong me I'm really happy for her and she did work really hard for it. But she's acting like a total snob (thats just a nice way to put it) ever since she got the part. ...
A. 9 December 2008: You should go and talk to her about the way you feel and tell her that you are happy for her but she should not act snobby because its not seen as a positive strike in a persons character. You should also say to her that you are not her slave just ... (read in full...)
Is this just an excuse in case he backs out of the divorce before it's final?
Q. My BF of a few months thinks I'm being jealous and moody. His divorce will be final in 2 months, no kids. I get upset because I bring him everywhere with me, invite him everywhere and introduce him and he never does. He thinks its too soon and is ...
A. 5 December 2008: It seems a complicated issue but from my experience its never good when a partner starts comparing with their ex.
You should quistion him more and try and convince him that its natural that you are acting the way are. Take care!... (read in full...)
How do I tell my Dad I'm scared that the guy who takes care of Grandpa wants to attack me?
Q. There's a guy who takes care of my grandpa, and one day when we were visiting my grandpa I was alone in the room with my grandpa and the guy and when I got up to leave the dude was like NO DON'T GO NOW!! in a very very creepy whiny voice. I got ...
A. 5 December 2008: It looks like from your post that you are really terrified from this guy. In that case you must tell your dad exactly why you are scared and tell him that you don't want to be left alone with that guy that scares you. I do not know for a fact if ... (read in full...)
Is my masturbation an addiction or a phase I'm going through?
Q. What`s up guys. I`ve got a question that im really concerned about. Here it goes: myself im 18years old and ive never had sex with a girl and don`t have a girlfriend. So to satisfy my sex appetite, i am used to masturbating a lot. Sometimes i can ...
A. 5 December 2008: It is not a phase!. Masterbating is normal and most healthy people would do it once a day. If you have sex with a partner it is important to masterbate in order to control your orgasim longer so you don't come too quick. Masterbating regulary can ... (read in full...)
Is he just letting me down gently?
Q. I recently text a guy I am mad about to basically tell him how I feel. We have shared a lot of kisses in the past and he has always acted into me. I sent him a message asking if he wanted to come to my house and watch a dvd and stay over as I really...
A. 5 December 2008: Its subjective. In my opinion he is being genuine that means that he could want a relationship with you but not know since he is just out of a relationship that is understandable. Take care! ... (read in full...)
I felt my uncle was getting too "cosy" with me... now they want me over for Xmas but don't know if I should!
Q. I was visiting my aunt and uncle for thanksgiving. My uncle was very happy to see me. When I was coming out of the room, he came in and wanted to ask me something. So after we talked, he wanted a hug, so I gave him one. Then he pulled my face ...
A. 4 December 2008: I personely don't think you should avoid your uncle because he is a relative. You should discuss this matter with him and tell him clearly that he should STOP!! and that he should not do this agian. Then tell him nicely that you are not attracted to ... (read in full...)
Is it worth ringing him??
Q. Is it worth ringing him? Any advice would be appreciated! - I'm in love with a guy who definitely is in control of our relationship! - He only rings when he can or it's convenient for him, he only sees me when he is available to do so and he onl...
A. 4 December 2008: I think it is worth a bit of chasing certaily if you like him. He maybe is waiting for your call to see if you are interested in him. I don't see the harm in calling him unless you think that you could get disapointed with his responce. Good luck!... (read in full...)
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