He left me because he wasn't able to commit just yet, should I stay in touch till he's ready?
Q. hey, I really need some help. I am a 15 year old gay boy and my boyfriend of two years left me a couple of weeks ago. Me and my boyfriend where incredibly close. We liked the same things, we hAd the same sense of humor and we where totaly on love, ...
A. 15 October 2008: Hi dear, I understand what your going through, really!.
I know a friend that went through a very similer experience of breaking up with his boyfriend and he got very very very depressed. He had many thoughts of suicide and then went also to see a sh... (read in full...)
My family has always picked on me and I have had enough. What can I do?
Q. I am 41 years old, and i have been picked on by my mother and one of my sisters. it is like if they think they are more supirior. they will pick on every little thing possible, from the way i talk to my dog, to the way i walk , to the way i raise my ...
A. 15 October 2008: Hi dear, in my opinion there could be many reason's that they are constantly critisizing you. They could be jellous of you. Did you ever think why they could be jellous??. There could be infinite amount of reasons. If you believe that your mother ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm suffocating. I don't know what I can do.
Q. I'm sorry if this is long or boring but I am really in need of some guidance. I live in Canada and have been dating my boyfriend Matt for two years. He lives in Ireland and for these two years, we've maintained the long distance relationship. ...
A. 14 October 2008: Hi dear, I understand how you are feeling. The fact that you are ready to make such a huge sacrifice, a) get married at such a young age and b) wanting to leave your country and family behind. That tells me that you must love him very very much!. ... (read in full...)
I'm trying hard to get over my ex but he keeps reeling me back in.
Q. hey! I am in need of some good advice about a relationship with my ex boyfriend! We broke up about two months ago as I cheated on him. However we agreed to stay friends. He still talks to me a lot and always flirts with me calls me "hunni" and ...
A. 14 October 2008: Hi dear, In my opinion there is a good chance that he wants you back again the fact that he sais to you that ''you look stunning''. He also siad he loves you and that he regrets breaking up with you. If he then takes a distance for a week it is ... (read in full...)
What can we do about my brother?
Q. This is a bit of an awkward one, its more for advice im seeking rather than me asking a specific question. The general background is that, our father died when we were young and my oldest brother always used it as an excuse to get him self out of ...
A. 13 October 2008: Hellow, I am pritty sure that your brother has unfortunitly a personality disorder. There are several different types of personality disorders. He could have a borderline personality disorder or a narsistic personality disorder, I am not sure. In my ... (read in full...)
I am not emotionally attached to him but it bothers me that even though I am attractive, well mannered and professional he doesn’t care about me.
Q. I met a guy in a club and he asked for my number which I gave it to him, that night he mentioned about his job and where he lived and then I said good bye to him. Seven weeks went by and then one night I received a text message from him I replied ...
A. 13 October 2008: Hi dear, It looks like that guy is not interested in you even though you are well mannered, attractive, professional,etc... I believe he is not interested in having a relationship. He is just interested in having intercourse. You must respect that ... (read in full...)
Personality change!
Q. So I have been together with my boyfriend for 2 months today. And at the beginning of our relationship he was all sweet and always wanted to be with me and made time for me if he could. He always made me so happy when I was in a bad mood. He would ...
A. 13 October 2008: Hi dear, you should insist that he tells you what is going on because for your well being its not good if he constantly gives you a negative attitude, it is also a lack of respect that he has for you if he does not tell you what's wrong. If he is in ... (read in full...)
When I go to church my new hubby watches porn. Makes me feel unworthy and small and picture him doing it.
Q. I don't know what to do. My relatively new husband is surfing porn. It makes me feel unworthy and small, unattractive and all the rest. He tries to tell me that he isn't fantasizing about other women but I feel it is the first step he is takin...
A. 13 October 2008: Hi dear, I understand how you are feeling. It is very normal for married men to look at porn it is their to stimulate them sexually so they can masterbate better. It does not mean he is cheating on you or that he is being unfaithful. I guess you ... (read in full...)
My friend was assaulted by women on a hen night and doesn't want to press charges, what do you think?
Q. I was dining out in a sushi bar with my Japanese friend over the weekend and he got physically assaulted by a group of around 15 women on a hen night. I urged him to press charges, but he said that would make things worse. What do you think, s...
A. 13 October 2008: YES he should press charges!!!. He proberly does not want to press charges because he is maybe embarresed and humiliated for what happened to him but that's not a reason not to press charges these women need to be brought to justice they should not ... (read in full...)
All my new husband wants to do is save save save!!!
Q. Hi all, I'm having serious concerns... I recently got married to my 2 year boyfriend .. and we love each other a lot but my main concern is MONEY! ... He is a pilot and pretty well loaded... I just found out he has a bunch of money saved up in the ...
A. 13 October 2008: Hi dear, I am not arabic but however I do have many arabic friends and I am informed about the culture. Even though its usually more of a man's duty in the house hold to keep track of the money and budget, he still needs to consider that you have ... (read in full...)
How can I get my strict Greek parents to accept my boyfriend.
Q. Hey everyone. please help me with this problem i have. i am an 18 year old girl who comes from a very strict Greek background. i recently met an amazing guy, but he is not Greek, so my parents do not accept him. i see him every weekend - but behi...
A. 13 October 2008: Hi dear, You are an adult at 18. Your parents can't force you to have A greek boy friend. I think you will find it easer once you have your full independance. They must accept your choice and if they don't it will be thier loss. If you are living ... (read in full...)
My parents are interfering with my life too much and I can't take it any more...
Q. I know this is long but please bear with me cuz I really need help. I am beginning to hate my parents because they never listen to me and because they treat me like some kind of kid and my two other brothers are given everything they want in a s...
A. 12 October 2008: Hellow, I think you should talk to a counsellor because your parents seem hard to reason with. You can also try and talk to relatives that are close to your parents so they can have a word with them. You are a teenager and you need your privacy. ... (read in full...)
He made me sleep with him and now I'm pregnant! Help!
Q. Hi, not really sure how to say this, I am 15 and slept with a guy a while a go, I didn't want to because I knew a)he was sleeping around, and b)he had just broken up with his girlfriend. He made me in the end saying he was going to tell everyone ...
A. 12 October 2008: Hi dear, you need to take action NOW!. He blackmailed you for having sex. That is a very serious offence. Go to the police and tell your parents right away. If possible go to the police with your parents or an adult that you know well.... (read in full...)
Just being "his friend" is killing me as I realise I like him MORE than just a friend.
Q. I've known my friend since the 7th grade,but we didn't really start talking and hanging out a lot until this year(8th).We have every class together except for one. We walk to and from all our classes together everyday.We hang out during lunch and ...
A. 12 October 2008: Hi dear, it looks like that you are very much in love with that boy. You should also put your arm around him or have some kind of physical contact and see his reaction on his face. (but only when you feel the time is right!!). He is also very young ... (read in full...)
My room mate has Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Q. My room mate has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Everyday I have to deal with his inflated ego. I have to deal with peoples complaints about him daily. We've already argued twice. This is added stress affecting my schoolwork. How can I deal ...
A. 11 October 2008: A person who is diagnosed as having a Narcissistic personality disorder is a type that is very difficult to reason with. In my opinion you should find another room mate or move out. Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I help my daughter without interfering?
Q. My daughter has been going out with the same guy for over 5 years. They have spent nearly every night together at college and have always been best friend. They have been under a lot of stress lately and last weekend they got into a fight and he ...
A. 11 October 2008: I am affraid that you need to interfere to a certain degree for your doughters well being. I think you should interfere by telling her the risk's that she could have if she continued on having a relationship with this guy however it is not easy for ... (read in full...)
My classmate pressurises me for sex and I'm starting to feel scared to say no!
Q. Theres this boy in my class and he says i have to have sex withhim, but i dont feel ready. Its horrible though because he says stuff that makes me feel uncomfortable and he's started putting his hands down my shirt and once down my skirt i told him ...
A. 11 October 2008: I absolutely agree with Fade 878. You should take action immediately tell your parents, police and teachers this is not something you should accept. He is putting your well being at risk. IN NO circumstances let him bully you into having sex with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend shows my nude pictures to his friends, isn't this wrong?
Q. My boy friend used to be addicted to porn but now he doesnt havethe internet and is forever taking pictures of my bits. I wouldnt be to bothered but he shows his friends at i'm still young and i feel very uncomfortable but he says if i love him then ...
A. 11 October 2008: This is definintely very wrong!. Your boy friend should respect your privacy. If he is saying to you, If you love me then you should let me show your pictures, that's called emotional blackmail. Its unethical you should ask for these pictures back ... (read in full...)
Is it illegal to have these pictures?
Q. Hi, I'm 14 and have had a serious girlfriend for 2 years who i really love. during the summer she went to europe and we never saw eachother so every once in a while she would send me nude pictures of her. i am not asking this question because of ...
A. 11 October 2008: keep these pictures for yourself and don't tell anybody.
Then you won't risk anything!... (read in full...)
16 and want a baby with my 27 year old boyfriend!
Q. hi im sarah im 16 and in a relationship with an older guy. he is 27 and i do love him very much. the only problem is we have been talking about having a baby bt he has 1 with his ex. i reali want a baby but will he love is 1st more than mine? i am ...
A. 11 October 2008: I absolutly agree with Fade 878.... (read in full...)
I am gay and have fallen in love with a gtraight guy in school, I am afraid to tell him, as we are friends, and that may change if I tell him, how do I approach him?
Q. Hey everyone i'm gay and i'm too afraid to ell a guy that i'm in love with him. i'm scared because i dont want to humiliate he and i but i cant stand seeing him everyday at school and after school and even before school, because theres this hole ...
A. 11 October 2008: Hi dear!, I can really understand your situation its tough. You must be a very brave young boy to accept at your age allready that you are gay. I give you my very best advice, show him that you really like him as a friend only!. Try to be his good ... (read in full...)
Shall I go back to my ex-girlfriend and move on or stay with him - the person I love?
Q. Well how shall I ask my question, that’s a big question already but yups why not start by introducing u to my story. I always have been known for being so down to earth and outgoing, well that’s what friends and ex- partners say about my persona...
A. 30 September 2008: I think you should get to know the person who you truly love a bit better before you come to a decsion. It also depends if he wants to be with you and also if he has feelings for you. Don't let anybody put you down if you love him. I guess ... (read in full...)
My turkish man wants to be with me! Should I marry him or not?
Q. I went on holiday last year to turkey for 8 weeks. While i was there i met a wonderful man. We became really good friends and soon found myself falling for him big time. He told me he felt the same and we soon became an item. We stayed in contact ...
A. 11 September 2008: This is hard for me to judge but remember that there
is a cultural difference and it could become more
pronouced once you get married with him. Even
if you are sure he is genuine remember that love
can make you blind. I think you should get t... (read in full...)
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