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writes:ok i haven't had a girlfriend before or had sex and i just keep masterbating. the other day i masterbated twice before 7am which is just crazy. what should I do to stop masterbating.i want to stop because i don't feel good after i have finished i just want to stop.How do i stop masterbating?thank you everyone Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 Uncle Dave is right though, it is normal and healthy. Don't feel ashamed, but I do hope you feel in control of yourself.
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reader, ToHereKnowsWhen  +, writes (18 April 2011):
 So you haven't had a girlfriend or sex before... no problem. If you really want to stop masterbating then perhaps you should try to distract yourself by changing your focus, like reading, exercise, etc...
Instead, why not change you mind about how you feel after you have masterbated? Reassure yourself that masterbating is not evil. You are not harming yourself or anyone else. You're young, why not just enjoy it?
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reader, wiseoldman +, writes (18 April 2011):
I will set a very controversial task for you. It is, however, possible. Hear me out, and remember that if your body deserately needs to 'release' itself, this will happen involuntarily during a wet dream as your sleep, so it's not as if you are going to blow up- don't worry about your bits exploding. First, get yourself into the mindset that you are ONLY going to orgasm with the help of a girl, of proper age and of reasonable appearance so you never prey on the illegal or the vulnerable. This will be extremely difficult, but I know it can be done through personal experience. You will then have to study womankind very carefully- leaf through the sort of books and magazines they like, listen to girl talk, and above all, do not be judgemental. The fact that you might find female behaviour (thought and deed) odd (and any man does) will not change it or make it go away- for a man to criticise the way women are is stupid and pointless, like a sailor annoyed at the sea because it has waves. Google a website called 'Double Your Dating- it has lots of excellent and free tips. Study that, then meet as many girls as you can- talk to a lot of them, and learn to be interesting- a girl would rather talk to a guy who makes her laugh than watch him be a sports god. Learn to take it from there. And be a Gentleman if you get rejected- because a lot of the time you will be rejectedLearn to function solo, don't go hunting with other guys or you will talk one another out of making the first approach, then tell one another you couldn't have done it anyway after she's gone. Masturbation (for men, at any rate- women can find 'any' guy to sleep with once, if not 'the' guy forever so are never desperate in the same sense) is neither harmful nor sinful, but it is an admission of failure. Channel your sexual energy into learning how to approach, and succeed (fairly)with women, and the byproduct will be the ability to find girls for the rest of your life- but I hope you find THE one sooner rather than later- and you won't if the only thing you ever learn to seduce is your hand.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (18 April 2011):
You just do. It gets easy if you abstain the first couple of times. Do something else if you feel the urge, maybe some pushups, or go for a run, or go socialize with your parents or a friend.
Remember, you control your behavior, if you don't, then you need to seek professional help.
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (18 April 2011):
 At your age, you would be VERY odd if you didn't masturbate.
What am I talking about - at ANY age!
Just stop feeling guilty. Guilt about masturbation belongs to the dark ages.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2011): This may sound a little silly but find a hobby, something that will take your mind of masterbating. Whenever you feel the urge to masterbate just sit down and start doing your hobby, whatever it may be, as long as you enjoy it then it will take your mind off masterbating. Eventually you will get out of the habit and you'll eventually stop all together.
Hope this helped.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (18 April 2011):
 what do you mean you don't feel good afterwards?
physically or emotionally.
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reader, Welsh Uncle Dave +, writes (18 April 2011):
Why would you want to stop doing something that is totally natural and form of sexual release?
There is absolutely nothing wrong with masturbating, whatever time of the day. You masturbate for a reason - because you are horny.
Keep doing it.
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