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writes:I am a woman 62 years old;I've had 4 children;for 3 years I have no interest in sex and the little that we do it it hurts real bad;it's as if there's no room inside for him and it hurts lots after too. Things are not too good with us but it's not because of this.I just wonder if it's natural to feel that way, and if he should not want sex anymore too.What could happen if I refused him does it gives him the right to go somewhere else.I love him since I'm fifteen and him 17 and sex has always been very good, but now I feel it's over with. Could you give me some counsel pleaseby the way he is 64,so I feel he shouldn't be interested much at that age. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (19 April 2011):
Hi there. What you are referring to is vaginal dryness and some loss of elasticity.
This usually happens after menopause.
What you can do, is to see your family doctor and have yourself medically checked out to see there are no other problems down there.
What could definitely help you is some oestrogen cream which is inserted vaginally - every night for 1 week to start with, then after that, only once a week. It can even be used twice a week if necessary - say every 3 - 4 days.
It is usually applied just before going to bed, so that it can absorb completely, into the vaginal tissues overnight.
It does help tremendously and stops the uncomfortable dryness you speak of.
Don't hesitate any longer. Go and see your doctor as soon as you possibly can, then you will have no further problems of this sort ever again.
When you say you are having some problems in your relationship, it is most likely a direct result of your sex life and you not enjoying it very much - because of the pain and discomfort. It will put stress on the relationship if there is a problem with sex.
Many men enjoy sex well into their old age, even up to their 80's! It's not unusual at all. Of course, it might be somewhat modified, but nevertheless enjoyable just the same.
So with that in mind, you'd better see about getting yourself some of that oestrogen cream very soon. It's on prescription, it's not very expensive and it's very well worth it. I use it and have been for about 2 years, and it makes the world of difference in lovemaking, I promise you.
I absolutely recommend it to any woman in menopause. I would never be without it. I'm 57 years old, nearly 58.
Don't hesitate any longer. You won't regret it.
Take care and best wishes.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (19 April 2011):
The fact that he's still interested at 64 proves he still loves you and finds you attractive. But post-menopausal women often have problems with thinning and loss of muscle tone in the vaginal walls, which causes pain during sex, which causes expectation of pain, which causes you to shut down sexually. A doctor can prescribe a hormone cream which you can apply to teh 'problem area', You or your husband should also order a lubricating agent- 'Eros' is particularly good, and is available very anonymously on the net via Amazon.com. A very little goes a long way, and is much better than KY jelly or suchlike. Don't worry, the people who pack and send it are in a central warehouse and don't know, care or think about where it's going- it's just another thing to ship out during the working day, and it arrives in a very anonymous brown amazon box- exactly the same packaging they use for the books or kitchen appliances they also send out.
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