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writes:alright this girl friended me on facebook and I was suspicious to begin with because she is the typical facebook bot. really pretty girl and has under 100 friends. well here is what made me change my mind. My number is on my facebook and she started to text me. well alright it could still be a bot then she wanted me to call her she has a nice voice and is girly and all which is a turn on for me haha but then I couldn't figure it out. Is she a bot? we have yet to hang out and she gives pretty good excuses but says she goes to a local highschool and was there last year but didn't know my friend who was in the same grade. I know its a person behind the calls but Im not sure what the deal is or even if its a kid my age. I don't want to get all these charges or put into a scam or something from calling her or texting her and I don't think I will unless it really is a bot. what do you guys think, we have talked dirty a little bit just like her asking me if Im a virgin and then she said I can change that for you ect. which I liked the sounds of as long as its actually the girl in the pic. she is 16 and I am gonna be 18 soon. I don't want to be put on a predator list for sexual talk over messages once I turn 18 idk if that is even possible. what should I do here? I am really confused.message me for more info I will respond to everything
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2011): Stay away from her. She is not a bot, but probably someone pretending to be someone else. A lot of older men like to trick young men and pretend to be girls (voice change software) and get off on talking dirty to them. Also, a lot of young girls do it for attention. I knew a girl who did it while too young to do so. She would pretend to be 19-25 and would actually get into intimate online/long distance relationships with men in that age range or older who thought she was much older. They thought she was someone else entirely. She would talk dirty over the phone and send texts and etc etc and even pretend to be multiple older girls at one time and get each of these personas with different men.. sometimes she would be playing 5-6 guys at a time. She would make face profiles using pics of other people she thought were pretty. Imagine if you find out that its really a legally underage girl that you`ve been dirty talking to?I say stay the hell away from all that. It reeks of something fishy.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (9 September 2011):
 If you spoke to someone they can't be 'a bot'. They can be not who they claim to be.There's a few things you can do. You know her full name right: you would be able to check with her school to see if she exists.There's also another thing you can do: talk via webcam.
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reader, justfriends +, writes (9 September 2011):
justfriends is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks everyone. that helped a lot. I will message her later on today and ask to meet up soon. if she keeps backing out of it I will tell her my suspicion and end it there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2011): I would steer well clear of any meetings with this person and don't give out any personal information, such as your address. At least until you know a lot more about 'her' and you can confirm she is being honest. Because i don't think she is. Sometimes men with issues like to get online, pretend to be girls and talk 'dirty' to other guys. And older women also seek out young guys to chat to. And don't think they are all sexy, Mrs Robinson types! Many are very disturbed people and would make you run for the hills if you knew the real person behind the pictures. And youngsters under the age of 16 get online, pretending to be much older. I know that for a fact because my 13 year old niece has just been caught doing it with a made up profile on Facebook!There are a few things wrong with this person. For a start, most good looking girls online have a hard time swatting away guys who are pestering THEM! I would hazard a guess that not many 'good looking' girls would need to seek out guys to talk to, let alone offer to have sex with them. She obviously doesn't have a webcam, which is weird in this day and age. Doesn't know someone she ought to know in her year at the other school and she always comes up with excuses not to meet you in person. That is very suspicious, considering 'she' made contact with you. So take what is said to you with a pinch of salt. Keep yourself safe. Don't try and meet, send pictures or talk dirty. In fact, refuse to talk to her anymore unless she installs a webcam. She might give you some poor excuses for not having a webcam but they are only a few dollars, so don't be fobbed off with excuses and lies. If it is someone messing about with you, you probably won't hear from them again.
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reader, lakers_lover09 +, writes (9 September 2011):
Tell her to meet u in person cause u think she may be scamming u. If she doesnt comply then somethin is,up. Sounds like someone picked u out specifically too. Not a bot. Bots dnt put in tht much effort to actually call u! Also them sayin they go to a school near u means its someome u kno I think
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (9 September 2011):
 I agree that you need to cut the contant, you are stepping in dangerous waters.
She might SAY she is 16, but in reality should could be younger.
I would look her phonenumber up in reverse phonebook and see what it says (if anything).
But most of all I would cut the contact. It just seems iffy that she would contact you out of the blue. I don't think she is a bot, but something smells fishy.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (9 September 2011):
 I would say the best option is to just stop replying to her messages. It is throwing up red flags that she just randomly added you although I have heard of people meeting that way. If you do decide to meet this girl then just make sure that it is in a public open place. I think you are old enough to make this decsion and protect yourself so it is your choice.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (9 September 2011):
There's telephone software easily available to make a male voice sound female. If she won't chat via webcam (first option) go for broke and ask for a meeting within two weekends in a PUBLIC place like a Starbucks or something for mutual safety. Explain that you want to make sure she knows who you say you are, and that she owes you the same courtesy in return. Don't let her string you along, and be brave and decisive enough to call the whole thing off and block her if she won't meet you or doesn't show up.
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reader, dannielab  +, writes (9 September 2011):
 You should tell her you want to meet up with her for coffee, make it clear to her that the meet-up is just for talking and getting to know each other, nothing sexual or anything.
If she cancels on you or comes up with an excuse not to see you tell her about your concerns. Be honest with her and if she still doesn't want to meet up move on.
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reader, cmarieky +, writes (9 September 2011):
I would leave her along bc by law u can be charge with statuary rape in many states. Even if its legal its best to leave others along once u turn 18 and they are younger. There are other girls out there. Better safe than sorry. You don't want spend time getting to know her n fall for her n someone tells police ur intimate with a minor. So don't began this one, its too close of a call. Good luck
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