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... Send *ine a private message | | | *ine's profile:hiya all! well my name is Tine and im from Belfast, in Northern Ireland... the place isnt exactly the best place in the world, with all the trouble but its where i call home. I'm 23 and unfortunately i don't know it all, however i've had enough experiences to make me the person i am today. I've had my heart broken on several occasions, and i'm sure i've broke hearts myself - no1 is perfect!
The one thing that makes me happy is seeing others around me happy too and i feel that my work is never done unless i know absolutely everyone around me is feeling 100%.. what kind of person would you be to let all those around you fall down?? At the minute i am working full time but also at college studying to be a Social worker, not just for kids though, for the elderly also, i have a lot of time for them.
I absolutely love giving people advice on anything really and i do admitt that i don't know everything, nobody does but as the days go by i learn more and more and as i learn i pass that knowledge on to others and it gives me a buzz to know that i have made someones life better, even if its just by the slightest bit!! Also one quality that i have that my friends love is that im honest and straight talking, if you ask me a question the only way i know how to answer it is honestly. And i find that i am the one my friends and family come to first for advice. so hopefully that should help you lot out there!! |
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I think she is cheating while I am at work
Q. Hi , I have been engaged to my girlfriend for 8 months and am getting married next year. I work in a job which means 3 nights a week i have to work overnight and my fiancee still lives with our parents although we are moving into our first house ...
A. 4 March 2010: well youneed to confront her and tell her about reading her phone. She may accuse you of envading her privacy but to be honest you needed to and it sounds as though your suspicions were right. You are about to marry this woman and she may be ... (read in full...)
We are FWB but the more time I give him the more he wants
Q. A very close male friend of mine and I were FWB for about a year and a half. In the past month, we've suddenly gone from keeping it strictly physical to him asking me to spend whole days with him, me spending several hours with him at a time for 2-3 ...
A. 4 March 2010: well what is it that you are asking him?? how about trying to word it differently and asking him again?? It sounds as though you don't quite want much more than FWB and to be honest it sounds as though he is.
You both need to work out what you... (read in full...)
He doesn't always respond to my texts. Should I keep trying?
Q. OK everyone I was kinda seeing this guy in october last year, but ended in novemebr I really liked him and have told him this Anyway my point is every now and then i txt him 2 see if hes ok sometims i get a reply sometimes i dont And s...
A. 2 March 2010: I think maybe you should cool off with the texts for a while just to see if he has the deceny to text you first, and i mean a normal text like asking you how you are not one saying who is this?? because honey that is kind of lame..
You don't ne... (read in full...)
I really want to know if we have a future!
Q. Having sex with my sex buddy for a year. both have us have recently come out of long term relationships. I am not ready to have a full on new relationship. But would like to know if we do have a future. He dosent give much away and says he likes me ...
A. 2 March 2010: Then chances are honey if he does not even want to go for a meal with you, as friends, then i think the only future you have with him is a future where you have meaningless sex.
If you are thinking of ending it then ask him first, do you ever see... (read in full...)
Should I keep the baby?
Q. im 27 and have two boys from two previous relationships and my boy of more than a year is 28 and has a two kids as well with his ex whom he was with for 5 years. we have been living together for a year now and it was great at first but little by ...
A. 2 March 2010: awk well done im glad to hear it i hope you and your family all the best! ... (read in full...)
I'm confused with this sex buddy situation and don't want him to use me
Q. Alright well I was talking with the this for like 2 weeks... we talked about sex stuff prior and we finally hung out and ended up having sex. Big mistake on my part cause after that the guy started just talking about sex nonstop with me. i told him ...
A. 1 March 2010: It sounds as though this guy is as confused as you are. Do you have any feelings towards him?? IF you do then i suggest you ask him exactly what he wants from you, does he want to just have you for sex or does it mean much more to him than that? ... (read in full...)
What should I do? My boyfriend might be getting a job with the girl he slept with while we were on a break, and they are texting every day!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months we have finished twice for stupid reasons in between this and while we finished he slept with some. We have been back on for 4 months now and it's going brilliantly, but I found texts from the girl he slept ...
A. 1 March 2010: does he know that you do know that he is texting someone else?? If he doesn't then i suggest you let him know. And see his reaction, don't say you know the content of the texting (even when you do) and just ask him to be truthful with you. If he ... (read in full...)
Should I keep the baby?
Q. im 27 and have two boys from two previous relationships and my boy of more than a year is 28 and has a two kids as well with his ex whom he was with for 5 years. we have been living together for a year now and it was great at first but little by ...
A. 1 March 2010: im feel sorry for you that you have to go through all of this pretty much on your own, however think of it this way. You have already raised 2 children from your previous relationship, so what makes you think you cannot do this with anohter child. ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to ask her out since I have never asked out a girl before!
Q. Okay so I started talking to this cute girl about a week or two ago. She goes to my school and all but I've been starting to like her more and more lately. I don't know how to ask her out since I have never asked out a girl before. She is 14 almost ...
A. 1 March 2010: well it sounds as though your doing a good job already by being her friend. To have a girl open up to you as much as you say she does is a really big step so well done.
If you really want to ask her out then waste no time and i say do it as soon ... (read in full...)
I love him but his past bugs me! What should I do?
Q. ok i know why this guy cheats well i think i do. his dad used to abuse him as a child and and his father cheated on his mom A LOT. now that doesnt mean i agree with his behavior. (cheated twice). but ive also seen how much pain he went through after ...
A. 1 March 2010: well you cannot change what is in the past, so im afraid your just gonna either have to get over it or just forget about it. If he has a history of cheating then chances are that he will do it again. You can't change a person fully you can only make ... (read in full...)
I love him and I don't want to lose him, but I feel helpless while he is in a different city with feelings for another girl
Q. Thanks for all of your valuable advices, I really appreciate them all. The good news is that he became close to me( for a short period) but the bad one is that, he has told me that a girl(whom he met at a social networking site and lives in his...
A. 1 March 2010: you need to contact him againand tell him that you want to talk to him properly and for him to repsect you enough to listen to what you have to say. Also ask about this girl that he is in contact with however don't come across as being jealous or ... (read in full...)
How do I prove to my boyfriend that he can trust me again?
Q. Three months after me and my boyfriend meet, he came across my old my space moods, he started asking questions about some of them. I didn't know what to do other then lie. Since I lied to him about the my space thing, I had to lie about a lot of ...
A. 1 March 2010: personally i'm a firm believer that what happens in the past should stay in the past. You have done enough proving already by telling him the truth about your my space and he should respect you enough for being honest with him. By reveling your past ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is putting off getting married, should I stay or should I go?
Q. my boyfriend of five years has been talking to me about getting married as soon as i get a divorce which i have been been married for 4 years to the same man that i was married to when i met my boyfriend. Now im finally getting a divorce in a couple ...
A. 1 March 2010: have u sat down with your boyfriend and told him exactly how you feel. Maybe there are some underlying issues with him that is causing him to not want to get married for a few years. Maybe he wants to save until then, or maybe he is scared that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend knows I get violent when I drink, is he being inconsiderate by planning a birthday party?
Q. Hello, I am currently dating someone who can drink socially,without getting crazy. However, I can't. He knows this, and discourages me from drinking because it always ends up with me saying hurtful things to him, and sometimes even violence. ...
A. 25 February 2010: No i don't think that he is being inconsiderate at all, everyone is entitled to a birthday party on their birthday. Honey if you can't handle drinking then that should be enough for you to stop drinking. If you really care about this guy then yo... (read in full...)
My ex is dating somebody else, should I fight for him?
Q. I liked a guy for 2 years and we dated for 6 months. I just recently found out that a montha and a half before we broke up he was talking to the girl he is dating now. I still love him and I don't know what to do. Do I fight for him?...
A. 25 February 2010: if at this stage, after you've broken up, he has moved on then chances are honey that he is not the guy for you. He is not worth your love, move on!... (read in full...)
Everything I have done has been for him, now I find he is having an affair
Q. I found out very recently that my husband was having an affair for the last 6 months. I am not sure if I can forgive him or ever trust him again. It's not like it was a one time thing. He wasn't even the one to tell me, I had to find out when I ...
A. 25 February 2010: for a start no this man does not respect you, as the wife and the mother of his children you deserve the right for an apology however after you finding out has he once offered a sorry to you?? No he has got up and run like the coward he is. Do n... (read in full...)
Is that weird that I want to try anal sex?
Q. okay, this one is a bit different, I want a woman's opinion. As I said before, I'm 17 years old and a virgin and I don't plan on having sex untill I'm married. But I've always wanted to try anal with who my future wife will be, but I don't want to ...
A. 25 February 2010: No it is not weird at all, in fact it is what most men fantasise about. If your future wife is up for it why not give it a go, although always remember to use lube so that you don't hurt her and a condom ... (read in full...)
I am jealous of his female friends and I hate his porn watching!
Q. I have been with a guy for about 9 months, and though he he treats me well and makes me feel special, I found out while being with him iam extremely insecure and jealous. Him also being in a pretty well known band makes it worse for me, even though ...
A. 25 February 2010: i would believe what he says and try to take it on board while your thinking about this. It is quite natural to be jealous of your boyfriends female friends but what you have to think to yourself is that if he wanted to be with any of these other ... (read in full...)
I don't know what went wrong in our relationship! What should I do?
Q. There is this girl i like.We were good friends and the friendship turned into love and we were really good together...there were fights but we managed...there were times when we went on a break and didn't speak to each other for a month or so but ...
A. 25 February 2010: yes i would mail her and ask her how she's feeling. Maybe at this point after breaking up so many times that maybe she has had enough, or maybe she just needs a bit more space. If she does not want to speak to you when you do decided to contact her ... (read in full...)
Can you get anything longer lasting for your nails other than nail varnish?
Q. I have long natural nails, the length of your typical false nail. I more often than not wear a 'french manicure' style varnish with the white tips.. My problem is that the nail varnish doesn't last long and often chips or flakes off, so i'm ...
A. 25 February 2010: yes, they can give you a gel coating which is a coating of acrylic gel placed over your nail which you can gel in a variety of colours, its just like having you nails painted then this gel is placed on top of your own nail which usually lasts about ... (read in full...)
I just want to change his feelings towards me and make him stop cheating
Q. the guy i have been messing with for 7 months has finally asked me out.but i really think he has another girl on the side.but i really want him to love me and be faithful.i dont know how to make him feel that way.i want to make him jealous without ...
A. 17 February 2010: You will never change a man honey unless he wants to change himself and it sounds as though here this man does not want to change.
But ask yourself this, what is it about him that makes him so great?? His ability to keep things from you or the s... (read in full...)
Drop everything and go for love, or work out what is already there...
Q. hello everyone, im kinda stuck in a situation that almost everyone one here can relate to on either side. Ive been together with my wife for 6 years now and have been married for a little over a year now. We have gone though tough times and I have d...
A. 17 February 2010: are you sure that what you have with this woman is actually love, or maybe it is lust because they are 2 completely different things. Maybe you like the idea of something new after all these years, however when it comes down to it if this ... (read in full...)
This is the last thing I want...but I feel jealous of his 3 year old daughter!
Q. I NEED HELP!!!! Seriously!! ok, im 21, and my bf is 23 Ok im gonna try n not make this too long.. But My situaton, me and my fiance are getting married next year, and we currently just got house together and its me, him and his 3 year old daughter...
A. 17 February 2010: its totally understandable but what you need to realise is that this we child is only 3years old, it sounds as though her mum has deserted her to be quite honest and the only parent she has in her life at the minute is her daddy. So she is going to ... (read in full...)
How do I handle this situation? We are getting closer but she has a boyfriend!
Q. ok well I work with this girl and shes my age. she has had a boyfriend since highschool. we got to know each other and became real good friends. thru a year I've gone thru relationship after relationship and she has known bout each one. she asks me ...
A. 3 December 2009: maybe she does genuinely like you however she is stil with her boyfriend so chances are she's doing this with no intentions of taking this further. Maybe her current boyfriend isn't giving her the attention that she needs, and you are therefore that ... (read in full...)
Blood drops in my urine, what could this be?
Q. hi this morning i had blood drops in my urine after 3 to 4 drops the urine went clear this happened the whole day i went 8 to 10 time to urine each and every time what could be the reason.please help i am afraid.i havent masturbated for ...
A. 3 December 2009: you might have a kidney or urine infection, its nothing to worry about, see the doctor and they can give you something to help it... (read in full...)
How should I act around her when we hang out? I want her to want me back.
Q. My girlfriend broke up with me about a month ago, but we still talked a lot and hung out and she still tells me she loves me. We broke up because we were fighting a lot (which was usually because of me being a ass) but since we have broke up I have ...
A. 18 November 2009: well first things first stop doing this "stuff" and really start acting like friends. You want her to fall back in love with the person that you were the first time you met. And if you keep doing this stuff then thats going to confuse things. When ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of living like this, I just don't know what to do anymore
Q. I've been in a long term relationship for 5 and a half years and I think it's over. We're more friends than a proper couple. We don't do anything together, we don't go anywhere, he doesn't speak to me when we get home from work - he's too busy on ...
A. 18 November 2009: well its time to stand up to him and say 'your debts are your problem'. If you can't stand being in this relationship any longer then i suggest you tellhim to move out. It sounds as though he is just livigin with you to sponge off you, and to be ... (read in full...)
Is it a good idea to quit my job and let him support me?
Q. my boyfriend and i been dating for 3 years. we been through so many break-ups. he is a very jealous person. he can be controlling also. he is a great person when he wants to be. there's one problem though. i met him at my place of employment. im a ...
A. 18 November 2009: i totally agree with you, theres no way that you should give up your job to let him support you. You earn your own money and therefore you are independant by giving up your job you are basically telling him that you allow him to control your life. ... (read in full...)
I am a mess because my girlfriends bad dreams!
Q. hey my girlfriend was sexually abused and has nightmares about her uncle. she cuts herself sometimes and she tells me about the dreams and i cant handle it so i cut myself. i have gotten her help and i went to the police and im not asking about...
A. 16 November 2009: you both need to go back to your Psychologist and psychiatrist because obviously your counselling has not helped you a great deal. This is a terrible thing that has happened and my heart goes out to your girlfriend and i completely understand your ... (read in full...)
Should be stay together or break up?
Q. I don't know how to break up with my boyfriend. I don't want to be with him anymore because he doesn't respect me and we have a terrible relationship. Whenever I'm about to say something to him something always happens to make me not say anything...
A. 15 November 2009: then he obviously knows whats about to come. If you are unhappy in this relationship honey then there really is no point in being in it. Its nice that you are repecting his feelings however by doing this you are hurting yourself, and its not worth ... (read in full...)
No strings attached??
Q. How does a guy feel when a girl tells them that she wants no commitment no strings attached, nothing just someone she can have fun with?...
A. 15 November 2009: i think it really depends on the guy and what sort of feelings he has for you. People have the opinion that guys all look for no strings fun but in my experience there are some guys out there looking for a loving relationship. If this guy that you ... (read in full...)
Is douching unsafe?
Q. What happens after sex, I mean should you wash or is going to the toilet ok. I am never to sure when people say you should douche after sex, I have heard that douching to much can cause UTIs....
A. 15 November 2009: try using one of them feminine washs after sex or they do like an initmate wipe type of thing to clean yourself up with. They are P.H balanced and are quite sensitive to your skin. Personally i like to wash after sex however everyones opinions may ... (read in full...)
He didn't call after we had sex on the 3rd date...should I just forget about him ?
Q. I met this guy through a friend. We went out three times, on the third date we went out dancing and had sex. The following day he didn't call. I asked him if I had done something wrong? he said that it wasn't me, that it was him and that he ...
A. 12 November 2009: more time for what i may ask? honey i think you should just get on with your life and forget about that loser. Maybe he was just after sex i dont know but now that he has got it he comes up with that lame excuse. You are worth more than that, just ... (read in full...)
Is there too much going against us?
Q. I am 25 dating a 36 year old woman. The attraction is always there, but I am slowly getting past all the other factors. She had a kid, the age difference of course, and the social stigma of "cradle robbing". Do you think it’s ok? Do you think it can ...
A. 10 November 2009: personally i think that you are listening too much to what other people are saying about your relationship. To be fair there are 2 people in your relationship, both you and your partner. Even if there is a big age difference, as long as you are both ... (read in full...)
Why do I find it hard to make conversation?
Q. hi, in the past i have had boyfriends, but nothing has ever come of them. i have also met two people who i met online, we got on great chatting, and when we decided to meet up it just was a disaster, mainly me, i found that in person i couldnt talk ...
A. 4 November 2009: maybe because you are not actually face to face with this person. However i think that meeting people first on the internet is such a good idea because you get to fin out what there into before actually meeting them so you more or less have a base ... (read in full...)
In a relationship where he's never said I love you
Q. My bf and I have been in a relationship since June this year, and he has never said "I love you". He says he loves being with me and can't imagine his life without me. He says he thinks I'm perfect like an angel. When songs come on that t...
A. 4 November 2009: But do you really want to base your relationship with him on how his relationship wen with his ex girlfriend? at the end of the day he split up with her and now has you, something obviously wasn't right in that relationship, therefore it didnt work ... (read in full...)
What does a belly-button piercing symbolize? Advice from those under 20.
Q. I’m looking for input from the under-20 crowd here about just how piercings are perceived. My 14 year-old daughter is anxious to get one. The first negotiations were for her nose, but lately it’s been for her navel. I’m old and stodgy, and have...
A. 3 November 2009: Im 22 so a little over the age requirement however i have 7 piercings altogether. My first was my nose then my navel and then my upper lip. At the time i got my navel done it was just a fashion craze of girls in my school, there was nothing behind ... (read in full...)
Romantic gift ideas?
Q. Hi All My partner is a little down lately, and id really like to surprise her with something to cheer her up.. something romantic. The problem is, money is VERY tight right now, and ive done most of the things i can think of (massages, flow...
A. 3 November 2009: one of the best nights that ive spent with a partner would be just snuggling up in bed for the whole night with candles and a nice dvd. It doesnt cost the earth and its a romantic gesture, or why not have a candle-lit dinner. Your partner will ... (read in full...)
In a relationship where he's never said I love you
Q. My bf and I have been in a relationship since June this year, and he has never said "I love you". He says he loves being with me and can't imagine his life without me. He says he thinks I'm perfect like an angel. When songs come on that t...
A. 3 November 2009: well myabe he doesnt have very very strong feelings about you however is unsure if it is love or not? Or maybe he just wants to wait until the right time to tell you. You have both only been seeing each other for a few months and maybe he thinks its ... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my gf to make this better?
Q. Hey, me and my gf have been going out for a week, i like her so much...we always ask each other about past relationships...sunday i heard her past relationship lasted so long because they had sex, then i asked her about it and it put her is a really ...
A. 3 November 2009: just say to her to forget about what you said and that you didnt mean it. Maybe she wasn't ready at the time with her last bf and doesnt want to rush into it all again. talking about past relationships is never good, your better on just focusing on ... (read in full...)
Best g/f and I don't have anything to talk about!
Q. Basically me and my best female friend used to be able to talk about anything and things used to come naturally so we have fun but about a month ago we admitted we liked each other, we haven actually gone out as a couple but we used to as friends ...
A. 21 October 2009: maybe you both just need to sit down together and work out whether or not this was such a good idea you both told each other you liked one another. Maybe she is thinking that you are too shy to talk about it just like you feel the same about her. ... (read in full...)
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