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... Send *ine a private message | | | *ine's profile:hiya all! well my name is Tine and im from Belfast, in Northern Ireland... the place isnt exactly the best place in the world, with all the trouble but its where i call home. I'm 23 and unfortunately i don't know it all, however i've had enough experiences to make me the person i am today. I've had my heart broken on several occasions, and i'm sure i've broke hearts myself - no1 is perfect!
The one thing that makes me happy is seeing others around me happy too and i feel that my work is never done unless i know absolutely everyone around me is feeling 100%.. what kind of person would you be to let all those around you fall down?? At the minute i am working full time but also at college studying to be a Social worker, not just for kids though, for the elderly also, i have a lot of time for them.
I absolutely love giving people advice on anything really and i do admitt that i don't know everything, nobody does but as the days go by i learn more and more and as i learn i pass that knowledge on to others and it gives me a buzz to know that i have made someones life better, even if its just by the slightest bit!! Also one quality that i have that my friends love is that im honest and straight talking, if you ask me a question the only way i know how to answer it is honestly. And i find that i am the one my friends and family come to first for advice. so hopefully that should help you lot out there!! |
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Was he ticked off with me or embarrased because I said not to sex ??
Q. Alright guys I have a question. I had a date over the weekend out of town. (He lives like 3 hours away.) Anyway, I stayed there because I didn't want to drive home at 3 in the morning. Long story short, he was supposed to be on duty early the next ...
A. 18 September 2006: it sounds as though maybe he was a little pissed off at being rejected however he shouldnt have got on the way that he did. He could have at least said goodbye. Why dont you contact him and ask him why he hasnt been in touch?? if he really is acting ... (read in full...)
Im paranoid about his "female" friends and its ruining our relationship, please help!
Q. Hi everyone! My bf and I have been together for a yr now but I still feel really paranoid about a few girls he talks to. It all started one night when a girl he'd told me about was texting him on a night out. I wasn't there that night but apparently ...
A. 18 September 2006: if you have not already done so i think that you should sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel on this subject. He was not helping matters when he said that he was cooking instead of telling this girl that he was with you.
But then aga... (read in full...)
How can we keep our relationship strong and steady and stop the silly rows ?
Q. Hi people, just a quick question, how can I keep my relationship strong and steady? My partner and I have been through a lot recently. We've got through it now but argue every 5-10 days. We dont ever get nasty or violent but i get mad then stroppy ...
A. 18 September 2006: well how about trying to avoid arguments by just not talking about the things that you disagree on...
can u elaborate a bit what are these arguments all over?? Is there certain topics that you can't stand it when he talks about them?? or is he do... (read in full...)
I centre my life around my relationship, but would like to get other things back!!
Q. I have a fantastic relationship with my bf and we love eachother very much. However, the things that used to be important to me (nothing to do with relationships) no longer are. I used to be very ambitious and had very definite plans on what i ...
A. 17 September 2006: anything you want to do, do it. If he isnt discouraging you then he'll encourage you to do other thigns and it is necessary in a relationship to have those other things to do otherwise it will just get dull and boring. I know how you feel, being ina ... (read in full...)
I dont love my husband, but have a lover, he wants me to move near him, but wont leave his wife!!
Q. Im married with 3 children but im not very happy as i dont love my husband anymore.I have a lover who i have been with for a number of years,the thing is he has a partner who is 25 years older then him but its not a sexual relationship just ...
A. 17 September 2006: honestly i think you are better off finishing off this relationship too. He says that he is in love with you however he needs to prove this by making a commitment and leaving his partner. If it is just a "friendship" as he says then leavin gher ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend told me it was him or the smoking, Im finding it hard what can I do ?
Q. my boyfriend told me to pick him or smoking i picked him but finiding it hard what can i do....
A. 17 September 2006: smoking is very hard to give up and obviously if your boyfriend isnt a smoker he wont realise actualy how hard it is to give up. So make your choice. If its to stop smoking then really do try however whilst trying make him notice just actually how ... (read in full...)
What are these red lines around my thighs and bum???
Q. Hi I have noticed i have little red lines around my thighs and on my bum. I told my mum and i said they look like stretch marks or scars. She laughed and said they couldnt be as i've always been very skinny. She mentioned it may just be some kin...
A. 15 September 2006: these marks could infact be strecth marks. Stretch marks don't just appear on a person who is a little overweight, they form when someone has lost weight or gained weight. Go and see your doctor and get them to check them out and they'll be able to ... (read in full...)
She says I don't tell her how I feel enough...
Q. The person im going out with lets call them S yes im bi we r both girls. Well me and S have been going out for about 2 weeks i got very negative as things are complicated with family and friends and so on. We almost broke up but decided to carry on ...
A. 15 September 2006: You have to sit her down and explain to your your situation.. If things have got complicated with family and friends then all you have to do is explain to her that your having a hard time at the minute and that you dont mean to take it out on her ... (read in full...)
Should I get over him or see it things will work out???
Q. So in the begining of our relationship he cheated but i didnt find this out until he moved 6 months into our relationship and he hasnt cheated since then. He moved back for me and eventually had to move away again for money issues.weve now been ...
A. 13 September 2006: what does he mean by "when you both do what you have to do"??? what is this that you both have to do?
you both have been breaking up and getting back together so many times, i feel that you both are very confused about what you want. If you brea... (read in full...)
How can I prove to her that I wont leave her, shes so jealous and insecure!!
Q. I have been engaged for a few months now and my fiancee's jealousy is becoming worse. I have never given her any reason to be suspicious of me, although I do speak to female friends on MSN. She knew my password and would sometimes go on my account ...
A. 12 September 2006: i think she is just thinking back to the tim eshe cheated on you and her guilt is taking over and all she is thinking about is you trying to get her back.
There is really not much else you can do to reassure her that you wont cheat besides ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want a girlfriend but we still have sex...
Q. ryt well i was seeing this lad for about 2 months and we were really really getin on with each but all of a sudden he sent me a txt saying he dosnet want a girlfreind and he still wants 2 be friends. but i see him out all the time and i have 2 t...
A. 11 September 2006: it sounds as though you really like him and to be honest hun i think he is using you for sex. If he has made it clear to you that he doesnt want a girlfriend then he is only looking for sex. You are becoming emotionally attached to him and the more ... (read in full...)
Do I care too much about what he thinks???
Q. Like a lot of guys, my boyfriend is one of the manly man. He doesn't like me wearing a lot of make-up. His reason is because he likes me being natural, and also he doesn't want me to get make-up all over him. He's very aganist skin product, even sun ...
A. 11 September 2006: it does sound as though you do worry about what he is thinking.. why not ask his opinion on what you are wearing so that you get the exact answer your looking for without beating around the bush. But something is telling me that you are holding back ... (read in full...)
Im only 15 but want to find the right guy soon! But no guys at my school are suitable!!
Q. hi im 15 and i have never had a boyfriend cos im just waiting for the right person... but there is no-one at school that i like, they just aren't for me! i really want to find "the one" soon :( but they just dont seem to be in my school! i'm leavi...
A. 10 September 2006: you are only 15, i say just sit back and enjoy your life. You are young and you have plenty of years ahead of you to be worrying about starting a relationship with someone. IF there are no suitable boys at your school then why not go further afield ... (read in full...)
My best friend has started being friends with another girl that doesnt like me!!
Q. My best friend has traded me in for a girl who she used to hate and always say she wanted to hurt. well now my bestfriend doesnt call me anymore or ask me to hang out should i just ingore her cuz it seems like thats what she did to me. it seems like ...
A. 10 September 2006: i say you should put a tiny bit of effort in and call her or send her a email or something and await for her reply. If she doesnt reply or call you back then i say just ignore her then. At least you can say that you have put the effort in. Your ... (read in full...)
Is there somebody for everybody? I'm 36 and never had anyone to call my partner. What's wrong?
Q. Is there somebody for everybody? Or is this just a fairy tale? What's wrong with me? I've kissed my share of frogs but no one turned into a prince. They all remained amphibians, happily jumping around in the mad. All my friends are married with...
A. 8 September 2006: i believe that there is someone out there for everyone, but its wether you put yourself out there to be found is the problem. don't be giving up and whenever you do go out on dates and that be yourself and the great person within you will shine ... (read in full...)
I read her diary, and now all the stuff about her sex life bothers me!
Q. Hey I've been seeing this girl now for about 5 months and have recently moved in with her (quick i kno but if we didnt we would have to break up). I recently read her diary and found somethings that greatly disturbed me and one thing in perticular ...
A. 8 September 2006: first of all you asked for this, you have completely invaded her privacy and truth is, if you ever done that on me it would end the realtionship, so i say dont tel her what you know. A girls diary is like her best friend, its someone who she can ... (read in full...)
Is the age gap to much???
Q. well, recently i made a post about a guy i liked who i met at college. i am seventeen but on my post before this i said i didnt know how old the guy was, well i just found out and he is 26, i am gutted.he has asked me out tomorrow for drink. i...
A. 8 September 2006: it isn't that much of a big deal its only a few years however does this guy know what age you are? Just watch incase your looks are deceiving you, because if you come to terms with the age gap (however small it is) he may think you are actually ... (read in full...)
We spent the weekend like a couple, but he said after it was over "we should do it again sometime". Does he like me or not?
Q. So this last weekend I was at my cousin's wedding and this guy and I hit it off all weekend and we spent the whole weekend together and we were acting like a couple, I have known this guy for 8-9 years and me and him always had an off and on seeing ...
A. 8 September 2006: i truthfully don thtink that he wants a relationship, maybe just a fling every now and again. But is this what you really want?? If you like him i say leave it a while before you call him, then maybe arrange to get together again. Go on a few dates ... (read in full...)
Ive fallen for a close friend, she just wants to be friends, but I really love her!
Q. I've fallen in love with a close friend. She's a genius, she's funny, she's kind, she speaks 5 fluent languages and she's the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. A few months ago, just before I found out she was with another guy, I tried to tell ...
A. 5 September 2006: if you honestly like this girl so much then i say give it another go. If she knocks you back this time then i suggest you take a step back. By pestering her all the time will not only make her mad at you but in time she will grow to hate you and ... (read in full...)
Im being forced to choose.................. My girl or the bike!! Help I love both!
Q. My girlfriend says that i love my bike more than her, trouble is, i think shes right!? We've been together about 2 years now, we were fine to begin with, but when i got my new bike (HARLEY-DAVIDSON DYNA GLIDE FXDCI) last year i feel that i want...
A. 5 September 2006: im not being cheeky but does your girlfriend actually hear herself when she says this to you?? She is jealous of a bike, an object - not a real person! Truthfully in order to make this relationship work you'll obviously have to spend more time with ... (read in full...)
Ive been told that Im too well endowed, I fear that I wont have a long term relationship because of it!!
Q. i have just come out of a short term realtionship, and although this may not seem like a big problem to some guys it truely is to me.. every girl i have ever been out with has said that i am too well endowed. i know this is true because i have seen ...
A. 5 September 2006: don't worry about it there will be someone out there who will love what you have. You just need to take things slow and having such low self esteem will not only hinder your chances of finding someone else but it will keep you locked up wishing you ... (read in full...)
Should I finally tell my BF im on the pill ? Will it offend him I didnt tell him before ?
Q. I've been on birth control pills for a year now. My boyfriend does not know about this. Being a responsible adult, we use condoms everytime we have sex. The only thing is my boyfriend doesn't know I also use the pills to be extra protected. I know a ...
A. 5 September 2006: i dont think your boyfriend will be offended that you havent told him by now, infact being honest if he was really worryed about it he wouldve asked you are you on it, by now. It isnt really a big deal, taking the pill it just shows that your ... (read in full...)
15 and never been kissed
Q. i am 15 and never had a girlfreind i've never even kissed a girl and there is a girl i like but im to scared to tell her cos im not sure what to do...
A. 5 September 2006: dont worry about it, being 15 and have never had a kiss is perfectly normal. However stop worrying about which way to kiss, it just comes naturally all you need to do is relax! Everyone kisses differently and you'll learn this with time. ... (read in full...)
He didn't commit to me and now he is getting married
Q. My Ex Boyfriend has just told me he's getting married, we've been split up since Christmas, so why do i feel this crap about it? I sobbed my eyes out in front of him absolutely gutted, were still good friends but this was a guy who didn't want ...
A. 5 September 2006: I'm sure you were gutted, anyone would be. Only he knows the answer to your question and truth i doubt that you'll wanna hear his answer, it would hurt you even more. If you're still good friends then thats great however getting so close to his new ... (read in full...)
She told me she's having a secret phone and internet relationship
Q. My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 1/2 years. We share a cell phone bill and while looking for a number I had dialed on a previous statement, I found that she was making lots of calls to a long distance number. I sat on this info for six ...
A. 5 September 2006: i think you are being a tad too soft with this issue. Alot of trust have been nroken here and i think she owes u an explaination. Is this still carrying on? You need to have a good long chat with her and find out exactly where he priorities lie? ... (read in full...)
I am so desperate for him to make love to me
Q. my boyfriend is not very well endowed but i enjoy sex with him. the problem is he doesnt want to do it very often, i dont know if this is the reason or if its me, i am over weight but he tells me he loves me and my body doesnt put him off, i have ...
A. 5 September 2006: both of you need to sit down and have a long chat. Seems as though he is really self concious about himself and its really up to you to reassure him that there isnt a problem. Tell him how much you enjoy sex with him and how much you love him, maybe ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time on him?
Q. internet thing. last month i met a guy on the net,got along very well, he gave me his mobile number, so we could text. I didn't at first but then i did, we sent texts even got steamy and sexual, and he'd send me a text during the day, but if i wa...
A. 5 September 2006: i say that you should just move on and stop texting him for a while, and wait until he texts you. Working long hours and training all the time may really take it out of him and maybe hes too exhausted whenever he gets home. So let him do the running... (read in full...)
I fancy this girl - shes already got a boyfriend!
Q. im sigle and i fancey this girl but she goes out with some 1 shell i tell her who i fell or keep it to my self untill shes sigle ...
A. 4 September 2006: truthfully i say your better off keeping it to yourself for the mean time because if she has got a boyfriend already and your telling her that you like her, her boyfriend may get a bit jealous and start a row with you.. Leave it for another wee ... (read in full...)
We live together and barely see each other! (And the sex is practically nonexistant.)
Q. Am I expecting too much? I'm 23, my girlfriend is 22. We are currently living together and all talks of marriage and kids are in the works, however no time in the NEAR future. SO needless to say things are fairly seriously. For the pa...
A. 3 September 2006: well i think time is very important within a relationship and it does sound as though you both dont get enough time together. However if she is working all the hours god sends her why do you both result in an arguement and fight within the precious ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but my dad doesn't, what do I do?
Q. ME and MY boyfriend are having enormous amounts of trouble i love him but i cant take the fact that my dad doesnt My dad is more important to me what do i do?X...
A. 3 September 2006: of course your dad would be more improtant to you than any boy however think of it like this, what dad do you know that actually liked their daugthers boyfriends?? Not very many, its just a dad thing, being over protective incase his daugther gets ... (read in full...)
I'm having a great time with a girl who is 19 years younger
Q. I am 43. I have met a woman that is 24 and we never have a dull moment together. We are becoming closer by the second. It's kind of scary because of the age difference for the both of us, but we just have the greatest time together. It's like ...
A. 3 September 2006: i dont see there being a problem with a 19 yr gap between the both of you, you are both adults. If you are well and truly happy in carrying on with the relationship then i suggest you stop worrying about the age gap because obviously your girlfriend ... (read in full...)
Since getting back with my man, my friend is off with me! I dont want to lose either of them!!
Q. i was with a man and we split up after me bieing mardy and over dramatic but he also played his part and realised what he had done and he said he was sorry.we are now back togeather.however my bestfriend doesnt like him and ever since we got back ...
A. 3 September 2006: you need to talk to her and ask her what is up. where you heart broken when you and your boyfriend fell out the last time? Maybe she just doesnt want you to get hurt again, and is just looking out for you. Or this there a chance that she would be ... (read in full...)
She asked how I felt about her now that she broke off her other relationship. I told her but what do I do next?
Q. I've fallen in love with one of my girl-friends but she's just broken up with someone and still kind of likes him, she broke up with him but asked me how I felt about her, I've told her but I don't know what to do next...can anyone help me?...
A. 2 September 2006: well if youve told her already how you feel about her then the ball is really in her court to make the move on you. If however you are sick and tired on waiting on her theni sugest that you ask her firstly how she feels about you and then depending ... (read in full...)
My cousins torment me...What should I do???
Q. ive always been close to my two male cousins but ever since i can remember, theyve always abused me. it wasnt as bad when we were little but since we've got older its got worse and im scared of what theyll do next. the weird thing is theyre not ...
A. 1 September 2006: forget tearing your family apart and think of yourself for once. This is tearing you apart and being abused is no way to go on with life. You need to put a stop to this torment now and stand up to him, if he hurts you again tell someone like your ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend had a baby with another now she doesn't want to see me?
Q. My girlfriend has just had a little girl to her best friend who she says she can't stand, I love her to death and i don't want to loose her but she doesn't want me near her just now. I keep thinking that she will leave me for the babies daddy what ...
A. 1 September 2006: maybe she is just feeling guilty and by taking time away from you it will help her to get rid of her guilt. But make sure you let her know how much you want her and dont want to lose her incase she feels that you hate her for having someone elses ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant by giving a blow job???
Q. Is it possible to get pregnant by giving a guy a blow job?...
A. 1 September 2006: no you cant... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend and texts me for quickies...
Q. This guy is confusing me. He has a girlfriend but he is texin me tellin me he misses. The thing is we hav history he used to call me everyday, nothing happened we didnt even go out,he tells me that hes with this new girl and its the type he wants to ...
A. 1 September 2006: this guy is a player and good personality or not i suggest you stay well clear of him. If he has a girlfriend and he is texting you asking you would you ever meet up with him, this should give you signs telling you exactly what hes like. I feel ... (read in full...)
How do I break-up with my boyfriend and should I try the new guy???
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for just over a year now. When we first started going out, there was a bit of chemistry but now there is none. I don't think he feels the same - I think he still loves me and I feel guilty because I tell him I love him ...
A. 1 September 2006: you should give him the respect he deserves and do it face to face. there really is no point staying in a dead end relationship and i suggest you break up with him sooner rather than later. Just tell him that you dont htink that the relationship is ... (read in full...)
Its been 9 months, im finding it hard to move forward from my ex...
Q. I was with my ex for 9 years,he left me 9 months ago,with no explanation,changed his mobile number,so i couldnt contact him. i have been waiting for things to start getting better,but its just not happening,every day,i miss him more and more,a f...
A. 1 September 2006: im sort of in the same boat as you, i split from my boyfriend of 4 years 8 months ago and im having a hard time coming to terms with i am alone too. But ive found that being around friends and family really helps take me mind of thinking about him ... (read in full...)
Are my girlfriends on to something or just talking?
Q. Will this Long Distance relationship work? I have been dating my boyfriend who lives 2 hrs drive away for a year now. We talk on the phone every night and spend every weekends together. We are getting along really well, and already are thin...
A. 1 September 2006: truthfully i dont think that you friends are right. Long distance relationships do work sometimes but it is up to both of the people involved to put the time and effort in to make it work. Your boyfriend is right in trying to find out what career ... (read in full...)
17 years together and I feel lonely and like he wants something else...
Q. I have been with my partner for nearly 17 years. He has allways been flirty, but in the last few years he has been going down to our local and talks to the bar staff. If I asked to go with him I am usually sat there on a bar stool watching him. ...
A. 1 September 2006: i think you should stay, 17 years is an awful long time and it does only sound as though your partner is only trying to go out and do different things. You should trust him and go along with his decisions to get out of the house and do differnt ... (read in full...)
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