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... Send *ine a private message | | | *ine's profile:hiya all! well my name is Tine and im from Belfast, in Northern Ireland... the place isnt exactly the best place in the world, with all the trouble but its where i call home. I'm 23 and unfortunately i don't know it all, however i've had enough experiences to make me the person i am today. I've had my heart broken on several occasions, and i'm sure i've broke hearts myself - no1 is perfect!
The one thing that makes me happy is seeing others around me happy too and i feel that my work is never done unless i know absolutely everyone around me is feeling 100%.. what kind of person would you be to let all those around you fall down?? At the minute i am working full time but also at college studying to be a Social worker, not just for kids though, for the elderly also, i have a lot of time for them.
I absolutely love giving people advice on anything really and i do admitt that i don't know everything, nobody does but as the days go by i learn more and more and as i learn i pass that knowledge on to others and it gives me a buzz to know that i have made someones life better, even if its just by the slightest bit!! Also one quality that i have that my friends love is that im honest and straight talking, if you ask me a question the only way i know how to answer it is honestly. And i find that i am the one my friends and family come to first for advice. so hopefully that should help you lot out there!! |
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Best g/f and I don't have anything to talk about!
Q. Basically me and my best female friend used to be able to talk about anything and things used to come naturally so we have fun but about a month ago we admitted we liked each other, we haven actually gone out as a couple but we used to as friends ...
A. 21 October 2009: maybe you both just need to sit down together and work out whether or not this was such a good idea you both told each other you liked one another. Maybe she is thinking that you are too shy to talk about it just like you feel the same about her. ... (read in full...)
Ex is being mean to our friends and now to me too!
Q. Hey everyone. I really appreciate any thooughts or opinions anyone can give me on this problem. My boyfriend broke up with me during the summer and I found it really really hard. A lot of the time it looked like we were going to get back together ...
A. 21 October 2009: I think this guy broke up with you and just expected everyone else to take his side. The fact that he is being so mean and rude to his friends should open your eyes to the fact that this guy is no good. The time when you split up from your partner ... (read in full...)
Thinking about changing myself so I can get him back
Q. ok, last time i asked this i dont think i got enough answers, i need to hear everyones opinion, cuz im really stuck and madley stupidly in loveee me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years. and during a break in these 2 years i had sex ...
A. 18 May 2009: if you love him so much then i would try again at this relationship however if he tells you are too controlling you obviously dont think your doing it so you need to ask him for examples of how you act so controlling so you can work at it. if you ... (read in full...)
He has two children, am I being selfish and can this relationship ever work?
Q. Ok im 22 nearly 23, and just started dating a new guy who's 29, 30 next year....we got on so great then we had a heart to heart and i found out he has two kids from his last relationship aged 6 and 10.....im confused now! How could this ever wor...
A. 18 May 2009: well the question is really do you like kids?? you can defintely make this relationship work if you are willing to.
If he's a great dad and provides for his children then really i dont see any problem. This shows he stands up to responsi... (read in full...)
Pregnant again but the relationship is very rocky at the moment
Q. im a 33 year old woman. 18 months ago i got into a relationship with a 20 year old guy and he moved in with me i know he`s alot younger and i wont lie, it has been hard(even thou i look alot younger than i am) about 9 months ago i found out that...
A. 7 May 2009: i think that you should think of whats right for you for a change, you seem to be the one making all the effort in this relationship. You are older, yes, and alot more mature than him, to think that he has just made yet another baby with you then ... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my friend who is straight, what would you do?
Q. i think im attracted to my good freind who is 100% straight. I value her as a friend way too much to ever act on my feelings or tell her and I know it will never happen, I dont really want it to happen as it will totally ruin our frienship and ...
A. 4 May 2009: a close friend of mine went through the exact same problem a while back and to be truthful sweetie, she actually acted on her instincts and made a move. Worst thing she ever done to be honest! The girl got really offended, and hasn't spoken to her ... (read in full...)
My bf left me, and I have 6 kids! What should I do?
Q. i woke up this morning and my boyfriend has left me.we had a big argument last night and i said things i didnt mean. He wanted to sort things out and said he didnt mean the things he said but i just went to bed. I've just got up and hes gone. He's ...
A. 4 May 2009: i think you should just call him and tell him to come home. You obviously love him very much and have not said things you didnt mean, only he was the one to say sorry. once he's home you both need to talk it through and compromise. If you're saying ... (read in full...)
We don't make love any more...
Q. I need some advice here. My girlfriend and I don't have sex any more. Well, maybe once a month or so. I've been with her for over a year and a half now. For the first 10 months or so, we had sex frequently, and both put a lot of effort in to ple...
A. 4 May 2009: no i dont think it is too much to ask, even though you have been going out for a year and a half by now she should be able to open up to you freely and discuss personal matters such as this with you. maybe there is an under lying problem. maybe s... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to stop taking the pill so we can try to get pregnant. Should I?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and things are going good. He told me yesterday that he wants me to stop taking the pill and he wants to start trying. Im not really sure im ready. I love him i really do but im not ready im not sure i ev...
A. 22 April 2008: to begin with love im so sorry to hear about your loss but miscarriages happen for all different reasons, you need to understand that it may have happened anyway no matter wat you done..
second of all i think that if you have to ask the question... (read in full...)
I am scared that he is going to be grossed out by seeing me in swimsuit!
Q. Okay, you all may think I am silly.....but, this is seriously causing me major distress. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. We have been sexually active. However, I haven't walked around naked a lot. I have bad cellulite and saddle bags ...
A. 22 April 2008: honey i think that you are being way over paanoid here.. the guy has actually seen you naked a few times, since your sexually active, and i think that if he's been back a second time then he must be fine with the way your body looks..
if you are ... (read in full...)
Do my symptoms mean I'm pregnant?
Q. Okay so i think im pregnant, i had sex with my bf about a month and a half ago and the past month i have been getting morning sickness four days a week roughly, and i missed my period twice does this mean im pregnant?? please help me i dont want t...
A. 21 March 2008: well hunny the only way that you are actuallyonna find out for definite if you are pregnant is to have a test, you can do it confidentally at the doctors, or just get a home testing kit and do it on your own...
either way you'll need to find out... (read in full...)
Relationship Advice Sought.
Q. My partner and I have been together for twenty years. We have a good relationship and he is a wonderful man and treats me well. We take good care of one another and together we share all the relationship duties : mortgage, bills, groceries, ...
A. 17 March 2008: well first thing is first, i know it may be hard for you to do but you have to tell you wife. You shouldrespecy her enough for that. i mean you have been having an affair with someone else i think you should have the decency to let her know.
secon... (read in full...)
Pads vs. tampons
Q. Okay well im just curiouse. I just started using tampons, and I actualy like this better than pads. There much easier to deal with, and the pads bunch up and I get uncomfterable. I asked some of my friends and they said none of them liked tampons, ...
A. 13 March 2008: no sweetie you are not weird at all!! everyone has different opions about different things and thats what makes each of us unique! personally i like tampons better than pads, pads are just so uncomfortable. but different people may say differen... (read in full...)
I feel relief... not tears!
Q. Hi I have finished with my partner, he was a lazy, critical, unemployed pig whilst I worked, did the housework, childcare everything basically! I havent cried yet tho could it be cos Ive cried buckets in the past? I feel relief if anything! ...
A. 24 January 2007: i applaud you.. honestly he sounds like a complete ass.. no offesnse lyk but dont be thinking that you should feela tiny bit of regret for ending it with this man, men nowaday in the world annoy the hell outta me. they think that they can sit all ... (read in full...)
What can I do about my depression?
Q. I feel tired and like sad all over I haver even the feeling of this sadness in my bones I don not know how to cheer up any tips to get ok?...
A. 29 November 2006: depression is hard to try and get over on your own, personally i beat depression in the past by spending alot of time with my family and friends. Give yourself a mini make-over, treat yourself to a few new outfits and hit the town for a great night ... (read in full...)
He visited me after I exposed everything about him to his new gf - they're still together! I'm so upset.
Q. well here i am back again to let you know what happend after i expsoed my husband to his new girlfriend .he was here with me yesterday talking to me about his new house and telling me he was moveing into it maybe today and telling what she was ...
A. 29 November 2006: hunny of course you want him back, he is in fact your husband, so obviously you loved him enough to have his ids and to marry him however the love he has for you is no comparison to what you have for him. He is just being a selfish prick, if he ... (read in full...)
His ex says she pregnant w/ his baby, but he says that's impossible! What do I do?
Q. My boyfriend said he received a text message from his ex-girlfriend saying that she is pregnant and its his child. We have been together for 2 years now. He has cheated on me in the past with her but her swears that the last time he was with her ...
A. 29 November 2006: hunny let me ask you this, what kind of guy are you with?? If he has lied to you before in the past then obviously you are not going to believe him. How is he trying to convince you that she is telling lies?? If he has done this a few times before ... (read in full...)
Will being all dressed up for the prom...catch the eye of a guy I really like?
Q. hi question 1: im 16 and got my yr 11 school prom in a few months time. the thing is everyone is going to obviously get all nicely dressed up in dresses and make up and stuff but im not like that. i dont wear dress/skirts and make up. i do my hair ...
A. 22 November 2006: hunny a guy always loves a girl who makes an effort to look her best. so i think that if you are going to looked all glammed up at this prom you bound to catch the eye of a number of guys.
but my suggestions for the night would be not to let ever... (read in full...)
I allowed him to finger me but I don't want to take this further, yet. Is it too late to tell him?
Q. im 19 and a virgin, i let my boyfriend finger me (i was a little surprised at myself) but im not sure if im ready to go "further" is it to late to tell him????? and what will he think of me? help!...
A. 22 November 2006: wel hunny if your not sure then you should let him know that you are not happy yet to go any further and if he is a decent bloke then he should understand. Your virginity is something worth holding onto (no matter what anyone says) so keep the hold ... (read in full...)
My past bugs my bf and he doesn't even know any details! What should I do?
Q. maybe this is a common question but i need help guys,i have a wonderful relationship wth my bf,he keeps bringin up my past not always but at times and it irritates both of us,he gets completely pissed off when he even thinks abt it, i told him that ...
A. 21 November 2006: well you can't do anymore from what it sounds like! The past is the past and theres no way that you can change that, so he's just gonna have to come to terms with the fact that it is called the past for a reason. He shouldnt concentrate on the ... (read in full...)
My bf and I have a baby but we fight and I'm not happy...do I leave and move in with my ex? What should I do?
Q. I have a baby with my current boyfriend and have been together for 4 years... If feels likes we are going in a circle ( we are happy, then we fight, then we dont talk etc.) I am not happy, it feels too little too late... but there is an ex that ...
A. 21 November 2006: take a second to think this through hun before making any mad decisions. just because things are going bad in your current relationship, it doesnt mean that they will stay bad forever. You need to work at relationships otherwise you'll end up opting ... (read in full...)
I'm having trouble making real friendships - Any suggestions?
Q. I am really embarrassed about this but I feel that I don't have any friends. I am 25 with a young child and attend university, so I am in contact with people there, but they are either 18 year olds or very mature, and it is hard to find things to ...
A. 15 November 2006: hunny it doesnt really matter how old these people are, the fact that you are attending university with them is showing me that you at least one thing in common with them. So use this as a building block to forming a friendship with them, fair ... (read in full...)
I don't know what to do with my life, or what I want!
Q. I don't know what I want for myself in life. I don't know how to make myself happy. Please someone help me as I don't want to end up in 20 years time, married with kids and still unhappy, because it's not fair on them....
A. 15 November 2006: hun wat age are you?? You need to have a good think about this, there are bound to be some things that make you happy!! Even if its just small things. Personally for me, being with my friends and family make me the happiest person alive. Maybe you ... (read in full...)
I feel like his babysitter how do we overcome this!
Q. im confused about my feelings when my fiance of 5 years goes drinking without me. im always invited to go and sometimes i choose to stay at home or do something else. im some what okay with him going. i have no reasons to distrust him. but i get ...
A. 8 November 2006: if you know that this will not be the last then i suggest you speak up now and put your foot down before it gets any worse. You shouldnt be left at home babysitting worrying whether or not he will come home, i know you say you trust him but it ... (read in full...)
Arrrggghhh I can't get over my ex!!
Q. I'm in love with my ex, but he's a different person now we're apart, so i'm pretty much in love with someone who doesn't exist. I can't seem to get over him, even though I know there's nothing I can do....
A. 8 November 2006: hunny, you need to sit down and think about this! This guy is your ex, what were the conditions that you both broke up?? you feel that he is a different person to what he was whenever he went out with you so i dare say that you are a different ... (read in full...)
Me and my bf hardly get to see each other due to working. What should I do?
Q. I just recently started my new job and its been hard on my boyfriend and I. We don't get to see too much of one another during the week but he promised we would spend the weekends together. And now hes too busy and has other plans. We have been ...
A. 5 November 2006: i agree with Becky if you havent already done so try talkin gto him and tell him how you feel. You are married and all you are doing is working hard to try and make your lives better off financially however if you both are off work at the weekends i ... (read in full...)
Can I ever win her back?
Q. Help. I'm 35 and I'm so confused. I felt i was being neglected by my g/f whom at times didn't seem interested in me. I felt emotionally disatisfied and told her. Our love life was also non existent. She went away, evaluated our relationship and we ...
A. 31 October 2006: i think that you do miss her although i think its her company that you miss. If she left you feel disatisfyed etc. then why would you want to get back with her? if you do then you will go right back to the way you were feeling before, and it will ... (read in full...)
Why am I still thinking of him and getting upset, after he beat me and trashed my flat!?
Q. i had been with my boyfriend for 5 years and he beat me up recently - he cracked 3 ribs and i had to have stitches above my eye. he also trashed my flat. i got out and have moved into new flat, new number and havent seen him since. why am i still ...
A. 5 October 2006: 5 years is too long of a time just to throw away after a few weeks. So it may take a long time to get over so all you have to do is be patient. You must obviously know that this guy aint good for you, after all you did the good thing and left him. ... (read in full...)
I knew I would only ever be sex to him, but I have feelings for him, though not in love and want to be his girlfriend!!
Q. I am an 18 year old A level student and I have become involved with a 29 year old man. I have been seeing this guy for a while now and we are "bed buddies." Over time I have become attached to him and want us to be more than that. It would make me ...
A. 5 October 2006: yeah your just right, you can't help the feelings you have for him so i say before he goes i think you should request to meet with him and just let him know before he goes. I wouldnt even let him speak until you have said everything you have to say, ... (read in full...)
Am I ugly?
Q. No boys want to snog me because someone asked them and they said no, and then said ewwww. They will snog my best mate but not me. :( Am I ugly?...
A. 4 October 2006: no you are not ugly, just because one person has knocked you back dont let this stop you. What you need to realise is that nobody at all on tis earth is ugly, everyone is unique and everyone looks different. Also that everyone has different tastes ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my bf his interests bore me?
Q. Hi, I'm in love with my bf and we have been together for two months. The problem is that he always seem interested in political issues, world crisis, climate change. These are stuff that i find quite boring. Once he get's a go at these topics he ...
A. 4 October 2006: just simply say to him " you know im really not that interested in politics can we not talk about something else?" ... (read in full...)
Isn't it a man's duty to most of the work in bed? He want's me to be adventurous but what's the point?
Q. my partner wants me to be more adventurous in the bedroom, i think its a mans duty to do most of the work as it seems to be only about them, he sometimes try's to involve me more but he prefers to try to please me after he has come,by then i just ...
A. 4 October 2006: the point is that when you have sex with someone you try to get the most pleasure out of it as possible! Think yourself lucky to have such a guy as this, most men would rather just roll over and fall asleep once they have came! Its great that your ... (read in full...)
Scared to let him know how I feel for fear of getting hurt, but I want him to know! What can I do ?
Q. Me and my best friend met a group of lads about 2 months ago. within a week we all felt like we'd known eachother for years. I started seeing one of the lads and im so comfortable round him i feel like i could tell him any thing and he would never ...
A. 1 October 2006: well i say tell him anyway, if you feel comfortable around him and have strong feelings for him then you'll never be able to know if you can take it that step further and find out how he really feels about you, if you don't speak up and let him ... (read in full...)
I don't think I am in love with my fiance anymore. I feel like I am staying with him for the sake of our daughter. What should I do? Any advice welcome.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 7 years and we got engaged a year ago. He has a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship who does not see her mother and who I consider to be my child. We have had our ups and downs, but for the most part ...
A. 25 September 2006: well if you feel like this then i suggest you talk to him and let him know how you feel. Really it does sound as if you've fallen out of love with him and honestly its not something that you can help, if it happens it happens and theres no going ... (read in full...)
My bf has just lost interest in sex since I moved in with him. What can I do?
Q. After moving in with my bf he hasn't been very interested in sex - which wasn't the case beforehand. I posted a question here previously about this and got some good advice. Since then I have realised that my bf doesn't seem to value sex as a g...
A. 25 September 2006: well you need to sit him down and tell him exactly how you feel, leaving no stone unturned etc. etc.
If you are feeling neglected he has to know about it and never mind his excuses, if this has been going on for as long as you have made out then... (read in full...)
How can I respond to a letter from a girl? I don't want to bore her.
Q. A girl has wrote a letter for me. It was really long and enjoyed reading it... the thing is i have to write back now and i have never writen a letter before - and i don't want to write anything that she will find boring! i like this girl and i think ...
A. 25 September 2006: i think that you should definately write back to her and dont worry about boring her too much! Basically its impossible to bore someone in a letter unless you ramble on and on. Make a start by answering all of the questions shes asked you followed ... (read in full...)
My bf is upset that I need some time to concentrate on my studies. What can i say to him?
Q. Hey guys.. well, im dating this guy called pete..and i spoke to him recently about how i cant concentrate on my studies because im spending too much time with him. Petes already left college but im in 6th form/college and im doing my A levels thi...
A. 25 September 2006: you do need to have a good talk with him otherwise this relationship just wont work. if he was naturally clever and got good grades in his exams how about asking him for his help? He should understand that getting good grades in your exams is ... (read in full...)
I am a girl who prefers to hang with guys, why can't girls understand that?
Q. I am someone who likes to hang around with guys, and I hate it when certain girls and women try to talk and hang out with me. (In fact, there are very few that I like, or can tolerate, because I know too many who are mean to me for no good reason, ...
A. 22 September 2006: being honest i have the same problem as you, id much rather hang out wif fellas than girls, girls just dont appeal to me at all friendship wise. Other girls tend to hate me because i can get on better with guys than they can, so they appear to be ... (read in full...)
8 yr relationship, a kid, and now he is drinking doing drugs and not coming home
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for around 8 years and have a 6 year old daughter together, and we live together. The problem is, that this man often goes off on drinking binges and ends up sleeping at other people's houses. He smokes cannabis ...
A. 20 September 2006: if you love him there is nothing you can do about it but think of it like this, do you wanna go on like this for the rest of your life?? With him going out all weekend and not coming home just shows how much respect he has for you.
How would he l... (read in full...)
Is it normal not to say I love you to someone you lose your virginity to ?
Q. Well my mate lost her virginity before me, but she wasnt in a long relationship like me and my bf. She used to always make me feel stupid, and give me the impression that i would lose my bf if i didnt have sex with him. She lost her virginity to ...
A. 20 September 2006: yes it is totally normal.
Maybe your boyfriend hasn't told you that he loves you yet because he doesnt feel as if he does YET. that doesnt mean that he doesnt care for you and like you loads, its just love is a real big thing and maybe he aint ... (read in full...)
Was he ticked off with me or embarrased because I said not to sex ??
Q. Alright guys I have a question. I had a date over the weekend out of town. (He lives like 3 hours away.) Anyway, I stayed there because I didn't want to drive home at 3 in the morning. Long story short, he was supposed to be on duty early the next ...
A. 18 September 2006: it sounds as though maybe he was a little pissed off at being rejected however he shouldnt have got on the way that he did. He could have at least said goodbye. Why dont you contact him and ask him why he hasnt been in touch?? if he really is acting ... (read in full...)
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