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writes:ok i know why this guy cheats well i think i do. his dad used to abuse him as a child and and his father cheated on his mom A LOT. now that doesnt mean i agree with his behavior. (cheated twice). but ive also seen how much pain he went through after each break up now at times i hope i can change him because we have liked each other for a long time. then at times i feel like i will be another victim. but when im attempting to get over him. my insides hurt and i cry i figure i can do better but i figure it would be easy dating him well convenient meaning we know every thing about each other but his past bugs me tremendously! what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tine  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 well you cannot change what is in the past, so im afraid your just gonna either have to get over it or just forget about it. If he has a history of cheating then chances are that he will do it again. You can't change a person fully you can only make them see your way of thinking. Do you think that if yu started dating him all your attention would be on the fact that you are trying to make him not cheat rather than focusing on having an actual relationship with him?? Because honey it is not worth your time..
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Try not to let his past bugs you talk over the issue. Let him know is not time to play games around.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 You either have to accept him, warts and all or you set him free.
None is perfect and don't judge him or set too high a barrier for him.
He is from that kind of background and if you cannot agree with it,you should walk away and save yourself lots of heartaches later on.
Which is more painful, to stay or to leave ?
Don't make the common mistake that you can change or reform a man .You can only whitewash him but his insides is still the same.If he is a dog , he will always be a dog.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 You cant change him, only he can change his behaviour, so if you do decide to date him you need to go in with eyes wide open to the fact he has a history of cheating.
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