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*am04313
writes:There is this girl i like.We were good friends and the friendship turned into love and we were really good together...there were fights but we managed...there were times when we went on a break and didn't speak to each other for a month or so but she came back.....The same thing is happening now...but i am worried this time because we had a fight which was really bad...exchanged all the gifts and she asked me not to contact again...She says she is stifled with me trying to be what i want her to be....but i never expected her to change in any ways...dunno what went wrong....i miss her a lot....i tried contacting her once she was pretty rude.....i just can not handle it....its almost been a month now should i mail her or something???
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reader, mr uk  +, writes (28 February 2010):
 Hi Sam - forget to say.
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Good luck!
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reader, mr uk +, writes (25 February 2010):
Hi Sam - been there! It looks like you're doing a fair amount of chasing at the moment. The best bit of advise I ever recieved was to stop! If you haven't had any contact with her for a few weeks try this 4 step process:1. send this text message to her "meet you outside the bar in the carpark at 8pm, x"2. When she calls don't answer, then turn phone off - keep off all night3. when she call again (the next day) she'll want to know if you're seeing someone - You must say "I not prepared to talk about it"4. Then wait and see what she saysIf there is any attraction left she WILL chase you. Good luck :-)
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reader, JoeM  +, writes (25 February 2010):
when you have a lot of break-ups and make-ups like that in a relationship, it is a sign that something is fundementally not working in your relationship. Something is not right.You need to have a long hard think about whether you are really any good for each other. A rollercoaster relationship like that is very stressful emotionally and not good for you. Some people love the breaking and making up again as its a rollercoaster ride... but it never works out in the end.You would probably be best just not contacting her for a few weeks, try to decide whether she is the type of person you can have a normal, steady, healthy relationship. If you know in your heart it will always be a rocky ride... you would be doing yourself a favour by letting this one go.
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reader, Tine +, writes (25 February 2010):
 yes i would mail her and ask her how she's feeling. Maybe at this point after breaking up so many times that maybe she has had enough, or maybe she just needs a bit more space. If she does not want to speak to you when you do decided to contact her then give her the space she wants, there will come a time when she will want to contact you and want to speak to you again.
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