Is my boyfriend becoming agressive?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and we both go to the same school, he's 20 and I'm 19. So the other day we were kissing on the bed, just messing around. When all of a sudden he pins me to the bed, I tought okay.. but idk.. he did it like really h...
A. 11 February 2010: That's understandable. Talk to your boyfriend. If he's got that much passion for you that's great, talk through it so you can find a safe fun way to channel all that wonderful passion in a way you can both enjoy. Good luck darling and if you feel ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend becoming agressive?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and we both go to the same school, he's 20 and I'm 19. So the other day we were kissing on the bed, just messing around. When all of a sudden he pins me to the bed, I tought okay.. but idk.. he did it like really h...
A. 11 February 2010: That's understandable. Talk to your boyfriend. If he's got that much passion for you that's great, talk through it so you can find a safe fun way to channel all that wonderful passion in a way you can both enjoy. Good luck darling and if you feel ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of my wife being lazy and doing nothing! I deserve better, don't I?
Q. Right, I'll try to keep this short and to the point. I have been married for 10 years (together with my wife for 13 years), all in all we've had a pretty good marriage so far and I was pretty content. Until our new neighbours moved in. Now...
A. 11 February 2010: That sounds like a great plan. What's even more heartwarming is after all the really heartbreaking hopeless situations headed for disaster you read about on here... this was one where people really were able to help you see some light, find some ... (read in full...)
I'm sick of my wife being lazy and doing nothing! I deserve better, don't I?
Q. Right, I'll try to keep this short and to the point. I have been married for 10 years (together with my wife for 13 years), all in all we've had a pretty good marriage so far and I was pretty content. Until our new neighbours moved in. Now...
A. 10 February 2010: Hmmm. I hate to say it but most women who have ambitions and aspirations in life don't let children slow them down. Sounds like your wife is maybe a bit bored or depressed. They say you can't change other people. But maybe you at least owe your wife ... (read in full...)
Is he keeping these past 'sex texts' as a trophy or something to get off with?
Q. About 6 months ago I found very explicit sex texts on my husband's phone. The texts were between him and his (female) boss. I filed for divorce (because of this and his controlling/bullying behavior)but put the proceedings on hold because I was ...
A. 10 February 2010: Clearly something inappropriate was going on with his boss. You would think that if he bothered to get a new phone he'd get rid of the old one. Keeping it indicates some sort of sentiment for those messages. I mean the tough part is it's not like he ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend becoming agressive?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and we both go to the same school, he's 20 and I'm 19. So the other day we were kissing on the bed, just messing around. When all of a sudden he pins me to the bed, I tought okay.. but idk.. he did it like really h...
A. 10 February 2010: Sounds hot! lol No seriously, I think maybe your guy was just really really horny and unfortunately you weren't. He had all that passion and hormones coursing through him. You live together so I assume you are sexual? Has it been a while since you ... (read in full...)
I treated her bad and cheated on her, ... now I am losing her. How can I win her back?
Q. i am a male 32 yrs old and in a realationship for 6 years with a beutiful woman and i have 5 kids , 2 that are with her and i have treated her bad most of the time and i cheated on her last year and was so quick to have given up on us and now she ...
A. 10 February 2010: Angzw... wow. I know you are just trying to help but is laying out a master plan for manipulation of a good woman really the right approach? Doesn't sound very healthy (or nice) to me.
32 yo male poster -- seriously. You treated this woman ba... (read in full...)
I am not sexually compatible with my husband. How can I get him to stop being such a prude?
Q. (Mod Note - OP's own title) I can't say how glad I am to have found this site. I am a 28yo mother of three boys. I have always been very sexual. I can remember masturbating as early as 5 or 6. My first sexual incounter was with the little girl...
A. 10 February 2010: Okay... so hold on... you say you have ALWAYS been a very sexual person, and you chose this man for a husband and had 3 children with him? So has this always been a problem between the two of you or has something changed?
It could be that as ... (read in full...)
He treats me like crap, lies, and breaks up with me all the time, ... but he is a good guy at heart.
Q. It's kind of a long story but I guess you should know everything before you can really advise me. I started dating my boyfriend in June of 2008. Now it is February 2010. In that time he has broken up with me twice and we have taken a break tw...
A. 10 February 2010: Caringguy is totally right. He said everything I was going to say. He lies, he (possibly) cheats, you know he talks to other girls, he won't commit, he won't deal with/avoids a discussion after a fight, he doesn't like your friends, your friends ... (read in full...)
Two guys that are the "love of my life": Where can I start?
Q. (Mod Note - OP's own title) I studied abroad almost four years ago and met the man of my dreams. I had been in a bad relationship in the States and knew as soon as I met him that THAT'S what a "real" relationship was supposed to be like--he...
A. 10 February 2010: You need to make a decision, as you aren't being fair to make both men wait. The best way I've found to make a tough decision is to take the time to explore the options. Spend an entire day imagining what life would be like if you said good bye to ... (read in full...)
My dog eats my undies!
Q. I know that when you're first going through puberty that you discharge frequently; but I'm 18 and still do. I know this sounds gross and believe me...ticks me off, my dog will chew through the crotches of ALL my underwear. 1. is it normal to con...
A. 10 February 2010: Buy a laundry hamper and put your dirty undies in there then your dog can't get to them! ... (read in full...)
I am so paranoid about having my period that I don't want to leave the house, cant concentrate at school, ...I even dream about it!
Q. Well my issue is that I feel like I'm the only girl in the world who is extremely paranoid of her period. It's always on my mind, because i'm always thinking about "well, what if i get it this day when i have to do this" and I also worry about it so ...
A. 10 February 2010: One of the best ways to deal with anxiety is to try and face your fear head on. Imagine what is the very worst thing that could possibly happen? Then ask yourself if that is really so bad, or if that is very likely that it really ever would happen? ... (read in full...)
I find myself pushing him away
Q. I met my boyfriend through a friend a year ago and he at the time lived interstate. We emailed each other everyday and found we had similar dreams in life. We travelled back and forth about 6 times for weekends and had a lot of relaxed fun and ...
A. 10 February 2010: Hmmm. I think sometimes when people do everything for us, it's a bit of a turnoff. We lose respect for this person, because we don't really feel that we have earned all this attn and also we wonder if they maybe don't value themselves that much ... (read in full...)
We do everything couples do but he says he wont be my boyfriend
Q. i've been seeing a guy for 8 months now. he was the one doing the chasing all along. we talk everyday, see eachother weekdays and weekends, basically act like boyfriend and girlfriend.hes met my family and i've met his family and friends and we know ...
A. 10 February 2010: Honey, he told you at some point he never wanted to have a GF again. Why didn't you listen to that? Your guy has commitment issues and he was honest about that.
I think if you want a BF then you have to stick to your guns and be honest about th... (read in full...)
I can't say those three little words "I love you"
Q. hii i have a problem i am in love with my boyfreind but my probleme i can't say it to hem , so when he tell me that he love me i only say me too , and even when i try to say an other thing i don't find any word, so pliize help me...
A. 10 February 2010: Hmmm. Well honey only you can find the answer to what is blocking you inside yourself. Can you try taking baby steps towards it? What if you write it on a note or in a card? Then you could give it to him. You could start trying to say it one piece ... (read in full...)
My wife has more time in bed for her toys than she does for me
Q. I'm totally confused over whats going on - I normally sleep really well. I recently couldnt sleep and heard my wife orgasm harvesting (masterbating) - she had several orgasms it seemed at different times of the night. she would have an orgasm(s) ...
A. 10 February 2010: Wow. You have some serious issues here. I'd try to talk to her about it again. Sounds like you two might need couples therapy. ... (read in full...)
My dream guy gets angry when other men call me.
Q. I just met this guy barely a month,he's my dream man. The only problem he has is that he gets angry wheneva a guy calls me,i dnt know what or how to pls...
A. 10 February 2010: I think you might need to give us a bit more information... you met him a month ago... are you just dating, or have you spent every moment together for the past month and are in a committed relationship? Who are these "men" that are calling you? Are ... (read in full...)
His ex is ruining our relationship...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half. Prior to our relationship he was in a very intense relationship with a girl named Erin*, their relationship ended, six months later we got together however she will not leave him ...
A. 10 February 2010: Aw sweetie. I'm really sorry. Big hug to you. I know it's really hard but you deserve someone who loves you and wants to be with just you. What he was doing to you was just wrong, and it would damage your self esteem over the long run if you kept ... (read in full...)
I'm married, will be a father in a month, but can't control my feelings for the receptionist at the gym.
Q. Hi Everyone, I am a new member on this site. I am married now for 8 months almost and we will have a baby soon. We dated for only around 1.5 years before we decided to get married. I go to this gym everyday and have started liking a girl at th...
A. 10 February 2010: Possessiveness from a woman is just her way of asking for attention. She's 8 months pregnant.. try to cut her some slack. She's got hormones going crazy and she's about to have a baby... she just needs to feel secure. Women are very in tune withe ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid I may have texted too much and scared him away!
Q. Met a man online. Thought he was great got on really well. Has a very stressful job. Used to text him and he wouldn't answer me so I would text him again he would answer with something like, yes still alive, just stressed and thatv would be it. So ...
A. 7 February 2010: Oh honey. You asked him if he wanted to be left alone and he said yes? That's really not good. Turn the tables here, what would a guy have to do to get you to say that?
I'd pretty much just make peace with the fact that you scared this one away... (read in full...)
My guy lasts FOREVER and can't even orgasm when he masturbates...help!
Q. On Jan 19th I lost my virginity to my bf (who was also a virgin)...and he lasted at least an hour, possibly upwards into two. I only know that before we started it was 2:30 am and shortly after he finally came it was 4:30. I was in pain, obviously, ...
A. 7 February 2010: Maybe there is some sort of psychological block? They say sex really takes place in the mind. Does he feel like he should last a long time to be a man? (most guys pride themselves on staying power) so could be so concerned about his masculinity that ... (read in full...)
She tells me she loves me but her actions don't back this up. Help!
Q. I met a girl online october last year she was in my country at the time, now she is back in her home country but soon to return to mine to study and also be with me.. it has progressed to full on love from not knowing each other at all a few months ...
A. 7 February 2010: You are her online friend. That's very limited. She can be whoever she wants to be online. She can pick and choose what she tells you about what's going on with her. You say you feel shy and lack self confidence, so that may be part of the appeal ... (read in full...)
Casts and foreplay???
Q. Hi I'm going on vacation with my girl next weekend. we're gonna have sex, and have had it before... ok here's the problem..... Last time we went, she had sprained her ankle a few days before, and she had to wear a walking cast.... we took off ...
A. 7 February 2010: Sounds like you have a foot fetish :-) However, if your girl is uncomfortable then you have to respect that. No means no. That goes both ways, if she wanted to do something you didn't want to do, she would have to take no as an answer.
Why n... (read in full...)
She tells me she loves me but her actions don't back this up. Help!
Q. I met a girl online october last year she was in my country at the time, now she is back in her home country but soon to return to mine to study and also be with me.. it has progressed to full on love from not knowing each other at all a few months ...
A. 7 February 2010: Hi honey,
Honestly we live in challenging times. I know your feelings are real... but real relationships don't happen in cyberspace. They happen face to face. Have you two ever even met? If not, then I think you have fallen in love with the "ide... (read in full...)
Why does he constantly pick fights with me? Will he ever change?
Q. It seems like my bf is constantly picking fights. when we first started dating it was that he had problems with my sexual history (which isnt bad), then it was that he didnt like me talking to any guys even friends, having a facebook account, ...
A. 7 February 2010: Sweetheart, from what you've said it sounds like your man is VERY controlling. You need to watch out for that. If his "picking fights" gets you to change your behavior then thats a successful tactic and there is no reason for him to change his ways. ... (read in full...)
Should I organize my birthday plans around his access visit with his daughter?
Q. Its my birthday today, i had planned a bbq at my house, when it started to rain i told my bf i was going to change to dinner with friends at a restaurant, he said no i cant come (because he has to drop his daughter off to her mums house at 8pm) just ...
A. 7 February 2010: Happy Birthday! I'm sorry it rained and I'm sorry your BF is being confusing. I don't really get why he wasn't talking to you all day. That's weird. Was he mad because you changed the plans? Well... I guess the way I see it is if you invite people ... (read in full...)
Is there a way to be married before God by man of the cloth and take vows but not file the paperwork and she still change her last name?
Q. I've been married and divorced. I want to eventually marry my new girlfriend, but we have a difference in marriage processes. She wants to be married the "right" way which is being registered with the state. However, I do not believe in the ...
A. 7 February 2010: I don't really understand what you mean when you say "you don't believe in govt rights to be involved in marriage". What does that mean and why you be against it? I don't get it. What is the downside of having the govt recognize your marriage?
... (read in full...)
His ex is ruining our relationship...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half. Prior to our relationship he was in a very intense relationship with a girl named Erin*, their relationship ended, six months later we got together however she will not leave him ...
A. 7 February 2010: The only thing that has any chance to get through to him is for him to realize if he doesn't let her go he will lose you. I'm very sorry. That's really hard. ... (read in full...)
His ex is ruining our relationship...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year and a half. Prior to our relationship he was in a very intense relationship with a girl named Erin*, their relationship ended, six months later we got together however she will not leave him ...
A. 7 February 2010: You are not being irrational. This behavior is completely unacceptable. Unfortunately it sounds like he has never really ended his relationship with her, and he clearly still has feelings for her. And you aren't going to beat him into submission by ... (read in full...)
I'm married, will be a father in a month, but can't control my feelings for the receptionist at the gym.
Q. Hi Everyone, I am a new member on this site. I am married now for 8 months almost and we will have a baby soon. We dated for only around 1.5 years before we decided to get married. I go to this gym everyday and have started liking a girl at th...
A. 7 February 2010: Well everyone has beat you up pretty soundly here... but that's because we are trying to get your attention about something important. I think we all know the spell you are under can be very powerful. But we don't want you to wake up from that spell ... (read in full...)
I'm married, will be a father in a month, but can't control my feelings for the receptionist at the gym.
Q. Hi Everyone, I am a new member on this site. I am married now for 8 months almost and we will have a baby soon. We dated for only around 1.5 years before we decided to get married. I go to this gym everyday and have started liking a girl at th...
A. 6 February 2010: Scenario #4. You change gyms. You pine away for a month, then your wife has your baby and you fall in love FOR REAL. You get way too busy with your newborn to think about gym girl and you forget all about her. 6 months down the road your wife's ... (read in full...)
I'm married, will be a father in a month, but can't control my feelings for the receptionist at the gym.
Q. Hi Everyone, I am a new member on this site. I am married now for 8 months almost and we will have a baby soon. We dated for only around 1.5 years before we decided to get married. I go to this gym everyday and have started liking a girl at th...
A. 6 February 2010: No honey, it's not complicated. It's quite simple. It's a recipe for disaster.
Scenario #1. You keep going to the gym and falling for the girl. Eventually she finds out you are married, thinks you are disgusting, hates you and tells you to go to... (read in full...)
Can anything else go wrong?
Q. Anyone ever had 2 weeks of your life where everything is going wrong and you cant see any light at the end of the tunnel??? I failed my driving test-again! I didnt get a promotion at work-despite the fact i work twice as hard and the girl that got...
A. 6 February 2010: We all go through these phases sometimes. A few years ago, I had to move out of my house, my friend died, AND my mom was in the hospital all in the dead of winter right after XMas in the space of 2 weeks! It was crazy. I felt like I was under ... (read in full...)
6 years later she realised she hadn't forgiven me and left
Q. About 6 years ago on a lad's holiday I cheated on my girlfriend with a prostitute. (we had been going out for 4mths) It's the worst thing I've ever done and I instantly regretted it. I came home and confessed to her and thankfully she forgave me and ...
A. 6 February 2010: Hmmmm. Really? She got past it and you were happy together for 6 years and then suddenly she "realizes" she hasn't forgiven you? Sounds like a BS excuse to me. If your GF was wanting out, you gave her a great opportunity to walk away no questions ... (read in full...)
I have a FWB relationship with my best friend, but I want more
Q. I'm in a FWB relationship. Now let me be honest, it isn't a casual acquaintance, he's my very best friend and we hang out almost daily, call to say goodnight, share a bed etc even when we are not having sex. Recently I've been thinking that un...
A. 6 February 2010: I know the whole FWB thing is all the rage these days, but I've never liked it. It's a cop out, and of course it's damaging your self esteem. You are being intimate physically and emotionally with a person who isn't making any commitment to you. You ... (read in full...)
Do "mansluts" ever change or will he always be like that
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles Ok so, last night i was at a party, i had my eye on a guy on the guestlist. I went too the party and actually met him he seemed nice and after a few drinks we pulled. He is however what one may class as a "manslut" but i ...
A. 6 February 2010: What does "after a few drinks we pulled" mean? LOL
I agree with the aunts & uncles, men change when men want to change. The irony is the biggest mansluts usually end up being the most devoted BF's once they finally do settle down. You aren't g... (read in full...)
He dumped me for another girl so why does he keep texting me?
Q. My ex broke up with me for another girl, but keeps texting me asking how I am and how school is and I don't reply coz I don't think it's fair. Anyway, yesterday he text me while I was in college saying 'Hey. did you send me an e-mail? x' and I...
A. 6 February 2010: He's clearly trying to get your attention. It could be what starfairy says about the ego boost. Or maybe he is trying to figure out if you hate him and make nice. Guys are weird in this way they really have a morbid fear of being "the bad guy"... if ... (read in full...)
He's letting our relationship slide because he has to have at least 6 hours of gaming a day
Q. My boyfriend and i have been together for over 2 years. he has recently got back into n online game, world of warcraft. he plays non stop all day - i mean wake up at 8am to play and play till 12am, if i am at his house he will play from around...
A. 6 February 2010: It sounds like he's been sucked into an addiction. WOW is his crack. When you say he "recently got back into it"... how long has this been going on? A week or two? a month? Is it possible this could just be a passing phase and his addiction to it ... (read in full...)
We've been friends for 5 years, he's everything I would want in a guy, but will it work?
Q. I have been friends with a guy for about 5 years, we don't see each other all the time, probably once or twice a month, but he's almost always the one I call when I get in trouble or need someone to talk to etc. It's quite clear he would like mo...
A. 6 February 2010: Hmmm. Well this is a tough one. I have been in your shoes. I got really sick of dating and started to look at one of my best guy friends in a more appreciative way. We tried dating, but it never really got off the ground. The "wow huge spark" was ... (read in full...)
The last thing I want is babies but that's all he wants!
Q. Hi, Im 27 and been with my boyfriend for 5 years now. About 2 years ago the topic of children has come up and i am 110% sure i never want to have them-i dont like children and i made it very clear to him. He however wants children and being the on...
A. 6 February 2010: No sweetheart I don't think you are selfish at all. Just the opposite. You know your BF wants children and you can't give that to him so you are willing to let him go and find someone that will give that to him. I know a man who wanted children very ... (read in full...)
He says he stayed with ex for his son. I don't understand why.
Q. Hi I need to know wether I am being a idiot or if its normal to feel how I do. My boyfriend has a son from a previous relationship and this situation is hard but we have a agreement regarding the visits. But my boyfriend has told me about the rel...
A. 6 February 2010: Good for you, that's a really good plan I'm quite proud of you dear! An abortion can be really hard on a woman emotionally. I definitely think it's good for you to get some counseling around that. ... (read in full...)
He says he stayed with ex for his son. I don't understand why.
Q. Hi I need to know wether I am being a idiot or if its normal to feel how I do. My boyfriend has a son from a previous relationship and this situation is hard but we have a agreement regarding the visits. But my boyfriend has told me about the rel...
A. 29 January 2010: Look at this from another way. Logic tells you that if he was engaged to her, he must have had feelings for her. So if he says he didn't either he's lying - which makes you distrust him, or if he's telling the truth, that's scary because maybe if he ... (read in full...)
He says he stayed with ex for his son. I don't understand why.
Q. Hi I need to know wether I am being a idiot or if its normal to feel how I do. My boyfriend has a son from a previous relationship and this situation is hard but we have a agreement regarding the visits. But my boyfriend has told me about the rel...
A. 23 January 2010: Hmmm. Well to give him the benefit of the doubt, it might be somewhere in the middle. Guys tend to live in the moment. So at the time he was with her he could have felt much more, but after they broke up this is now how he looks back on it and feels ... (read in full...)
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