She had a one night stand and I'm struggling to accept that. Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Hello, I am flattened by emotions right now and need a little advice. Today I learned that my girlfriend of 6 1/2 years had a one-night stand about 3 months ago. She tells she was wasted and doesn't even remember how it happened. I am very confus...
A. 9 October 2007: Wow. That's so brutal. I'm so sorry. You must feel like someone kicked you in the stomach with steel boots. I think the first thing you need to do is take some time to just let yourself process this and let your emotions settle. After that, I ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a 16 year old girl.
Q. hey. This may seem odd to a lot of people out there, but I think I'm in love with a 16 year-old girl. I'm friends with her mother who delivers baked goods to my shop. Sometimes "Diana", the mother, will send "Jocelyn", her daughter, to my shop to ...
A. 8 October 2007: This is one of those times you really need to dig deep, be a man and take one for the team. You need to stay away from this young girl. Aside from the obvious legal problems, what kind of relationship do you seriously think you could share with a 16 ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is signing up for online dating services.
Q. What does it mean when your partner signs up to an online dating serice and is looking for females around our age in the state we live in? We live together and he otherwise is very loving and caring towards me. Known him for 7 years and togeth...
A. 8 October 2007: Unfortunately it sounds like he's looking for someone new and figures he might as well stay with you until he finds someone else. The chances that he is doing this "for a friend" are ridiculously slim.
I would talk to him and lay it out on the l... (read in full...)
How to make her understand?
Q. My girlfriend has a very high sex drive, and wants sex every day. Sometimes I am too tired or not in the mood and she takes that to mean that I am not attracted to her , that I don't think she is sexy, or that I am mad at her. If I try to leave he...
A. 8 October 2007: It sounds like somewhere along the line she learned to equate love with sex. If you don't give her sex, you don't "love" her. I think you need to work on breaking that association in her mind. You need to make her feel loved without sex. I recommend ... (read in full...)
Should I call him, or leave him forever?
Q. Could you give me an advice? The man i used to date this year he always hasn't enough time to see me. He usually apologised that he was so much occupied with his work which is true in some point. However, the last time i saw him this weekend he said ...
A. 8 October 2007: The fact that you are disapointed and hoping to change his mind clearly indicates that you are looking for something more. But look at your history with this guy... he's always too busy to spend time with you... regardless of his excuses a guy who ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants a threesome. I want to do this for him, but how do you organize something like this?
Q. Hi My bf and I have been together 18months and are happy he is older then me (he is 31 and im 24) and for this reason and others he seems to be the more outspoken one and I am the one who is lead I kinda prefere to just blend in whereas he likes...
A. 8 October 2007: Most guys always want a threesome. Are you sure you want this? Really? The way you talk it sounds like you just want to make him happy -- "I really want to make this happen FOR HIM". Sounds like pandora's box to me. I wouldn't do it. I know that's ... (read in full...)
My Online interest told me he loved me after 3 weeks. He already talk of marriage. I really want to meet him, but I live in Wales and he lives in the US...
Q. hi im part of a teen support online forum. i love it and have great friends on there. i got talking to a guy from texas and we really clicked. after about 3 weeks talking he said he loved me. after a while i said it back as i really liked him. tro...
A. 8 October 2007: In my experience, a connection you make over chat or email or even the phone can be very different than how things are face to face. I've done online dating and exchanged fantastic emails back and forth, only to meet the guy in person and find the ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant while having sex in a pool, shower or bath?
Q. Hi there I want to know if it is possible to get pregnant while having sex in the pool, shower, or bath? As I have heard that this is not possible because sperm dies when it gets in water or in air. Is this true or is this a myth? Please he...
A. 8 October 2007: I've never heard that one before, but I certainly wouldn't take any chances on a rumor like that being true. If you are ovulating and the sperm is inside you I think you can get pregant, pool or no. Sounds like a myth made up by guys who don't want ... (read in full...)
After our breakup he wants to meet.
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been on a break for about 10 days. We talked once online, he IM me first and it was short. I told him about my weekend and how much fun it was. I had lunch with his mom cause she was concerned about what was going on and we ...
A. 8 October 2007: It sounds like he misses you a lot and wants to get back together. I say go talk to him... even if you don't get back together, break ups are still really hard and it's good to talk about things, resolve old issues and get closure. Either way you ... (read in full...)
Is there a future for us? - we have fallen in love
Q. recently been involved in an affair with someone from the past,both of us have fallen in love .He does not love his wife and has told her he wants to leave many times even before i even come back into his life but always ends up staying for the 3 ...
A. 8 October 2007: I feel for you, you are in a big mess. You need to find a good counselor and get some help. You can't listen to your heart in this - two families with children are on the line. You need to listen to your head.
I know you are hoping to find som... (read in full...)
I've lost him - what can I do?
Q. Ive lost him! last night i met a really gr8 guy and we hit it of pretty much straight away in the club we wer in. things like that just dont normally happen to me i was totally flattered as in my oppinion he was drop ded gorgeous! Al...
A. 8 October 2007: Give yourself some time, you just met him last night! Go back to the club next weekend and see if he shows up too. If not, oh well it wasn't meant to be. I know you are all high and excited, but honestly you just talked to this guy in a loud club ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering from chronic bouts of depression and I hate his past!
Q. I am suffering from chronic bouts of depression and dont know how to get out of them. I'v been with my partner, now my husband for 2.5 years. He is great. But his ex is a lot younger than me and i am so jealous. Jealous of all they did together. ...
A. 8 October 2007: I think you should talk to your husband. Does he realize he mentions her as much as he does and that it really effects you in this negative way? If she ran off on him after 12 years of marriage, he was probably deeply hurt. I know from my own past ... (read in full...)
Is sex REALLY like this?
Q. Hi, I am a 14 year old girl and have just began high school a few months ago. I have viewed porn a few times and now that I have seen people engage in sex, I wonder... is this what sex is really like? Because I think it seems way too extreme for ...
A. 8 October 2007: No, sex is not like porn at all. Some porn is so crazy it scares me too! What you have to understand is that the purpose of porn is not to film people having normal sex, it's designed to turn people on and people have all different kinds of ... (read in full...)
My wife chats to other men in internet chatrooms. Am I right to be annoyed and upset?
Q. My wife has recently started using internet chat sites, mainly a flirting one. She can sit for hours chatting to other men most of which is of a personal and sexual nature, she has also given out her mobile number to some of these men so that they ...
A. 8 October 2007: You need to sit down and have a serious talk about this. Ask your wife why she needs to do this, what she enjoys about it, and why or how can she get what she needs from you? Of course you can tell her it hurts and bothers you, but you might also ... (read in full...)
Married for 3 years, and we just have no connection anymore. What is my future?
Q. I have been married for 3 years. My wife and I have no connection. We dont sleep together. We havent had sex in 2 years. I dont think she is cheating but she defenetly leans on her friends for emotional support. I love her and she says she loves me. ...
A. 8 October 2007: I kind of feel like I wish I had more information - you say you've been married 3 years, haven't had sex in 2... but you have kids? Plural? Did you have 2 little babies in 3 years? That could be very exhausting and distracting, especially if you ... (read in full...)
Shall I ask her out but risk our friendship? What would you do?
Q. i need help deciding. Would you recommend me to ask out a friend i like but risk our relationship or live with it and go crazy everytime she talks to me and makes my day amazin whenever with me. So shall i tell her my feelings or not? Thanks...
A. 8 October 2007: I think there are things you could do to test the waters. You might try giving her a small gift and see how she reacts. Give her chocolate or flowers or something silly that has to do with a private joke between the two of you... and see how she ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend cheating?
Q. I have written a few times recently. I had found out my boyfriend was talking to his ex about 5 times a month for 3 months and he had lied about it.. Now his ex is pretty much crazy, she had hacked into his email before and tried sending me messages...
A. 8 October 2007: It doesn't sound like there is anything going on with this girl and your boyfriend. One thing I've learned about men is they can be really big sissies when it comes to women. They are totally terrified of being "the bad guy". So even if he is ... (read in full...)
She says our relationship has to be secret. Is she just using me?
Q. Hi To make a long story short. I met a girl at an organization we both belong to. After a while we started dating, after another while we went into a relationship. Sort of. Everything is there. We kiss, we hug, we spend lots of time together. T...
A. 8 October 2007: If she ended her engagement a year ago, i can't imagine that anyone would give her a hard time for dating again. What criticism could she possibly be scared of? Her excuse makes no sense. Ask her to tell you what's really going on here.
You d... (read in full...)
The condom in his wallet changes. Is he cheating?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months now, and it's been a very intense time - we've lived together, been on holiday, done a lot of things in a short time. In fact I had to move out because it was a little too much, although we're still ...
A. 8 October 2007: Changing condoms in his wallet? Hmmm. I can't imagine a single reason for that except the obvious one. I don't buy his excuses either. I mean maybe if it was the same one and obviously had been in there for years. But different ones? Girl, I'm so ... (read in full...)
What do you think about body hair?
Q. I have a rather odd question. Do women generally find body hair unattractive? If so, where? I have wondered this for a long time, but I am too embarrassed to ask my friends or my family, lol. I mostly just want to know what women think about hair...
A. 8 October 2007: I'm with hlskitten, I like men to be men! I LOVE chest hair on a man. I expect him to have hair on his arm pits, his legs, and definately down below... I actually get creeped out if a guy shaves it off down there. I want to feel like I'm with a man, ... (read in full...)
I am still not really over my ex. It was the best sex ever!
Q. i was in a relationship for a little over a year and we split up. i moved about four hours away but we still talk. she is seeing other people but she says she still is in love with me and it is hard to be with somone when you love somone else. i kno ...
A. 8 October 2007: I think what people are saying about time is true, it will heal you just hang in here. Also the fact that you recently moved and have few friends makes you feel even lonelier. It's a vicious cycle, you feel lonely so you get depressed, then because ... (read in full...)
Is he fibbing, am I a turn-off, or does he just have a low sex drive lately? How do I fix this?
Q. My boyfriend and I as of late have been very sexually unactive. Due to his job and both of us having immense studies, protective parents (on my account), etc, we haven't had any sexual relation together for a couple of months (even making out or ...
A. 7 October 2007: It sounds like you two have been together for a while. I think it's natural for the sex in a long term relationship to ebb and flow. Definately don't pressure him though, that won't help at all. Pressure is a turn off. Be sweet and understanding, ... (read in full...)
My wife climaxes fast and I'd like your advise on how to extend it.
Q. hi, i am 35 years old healthy male. Married for 9 years. Me and my wife have sex for 5-6 days in a week. My wife climaxes almost every time and she throughly enjoys the occasion. My concern is she climaxes fast and i want your advise on how to ...
A. 7 October 2007: Nice problem to have, you go stud! :-) Not sure why this is a problem, women can have multiple orgasms, so I'd say let her, then entertain yourself while she recovers, then go again... I bet she doesn't so fast the 2nd time around. In any case it ... (read in full...)
I want sex but I'm scared. Please help!
Q. I need help big time. I'm 12 yrs old and my bf is 13. We both want the same thing - sex. But i'm to scared. I feel ready but dont no if i should. He is so understanding n never rushes me he says if i dont want to than he'll wait. We've bee...
A. 7 October 2007: Sweetheart, you KNOW you aren't ready or you wouldn't be asking the question. I understand you are curious and the tv and magazines make such a big deal about sex... but you should wait. You are too young. The thing about sex is that is is very ... (read in full...)
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