Is it normal to bloat a few weeks prior to menstrual periods?
Q. Hi, Ladies....a quick question.. I notice when i get my period and the 1-2 weeks before it arrives my tummy and boobs swell-which i know is normal...however i have also noticed that my bum and legs seem a bit bigger and then after i get my p...
A. 21 February 2010: Sounds like you are retaining water. Talk with a doctor. ... (read in full...)
I need to decide where to complete my studies
Q. hey guys..random question. Since many of u guys are experienced with education please help me decide whether I should take a law degree in USA or UK. I really cant decide,so I just need ur perspectives cuz I have no family to talk about my future. I ...
A. 21 February 2010: If you are planning to study law, then I would imagine (since I don't really know) but my guess is the law is different in UK than US. So you should probably study where you plan to live and practice. That's really something you need to decide for ... (read in full...)
My husband is unhappy because people now know about our marriage
Q. I left the military to be with husband. We kept our relationship on a down low because he is an officer and I was enlisted. But, I got out so that I could be with him and marry him with no problems. I had envited three of my closes friends from ...
A. 21 February 2010: I think your husband had unreasonable expectations... Wives and weddings are BIG news... did he really think that he could keep it a secret? Did he really expect you to NEVER tell your friends that you umm got married? It's kind of hard on you ... (read in full...)
Our parents got married, now they say we have to split!
Q. I got enganged 1 year ago to "stepbrother" - well he wasnt till 2 mounth ago. both my parents and both his parents were devorsed, and my mam and his dad have been very good friends since we got together, and 2 months ago they went on a cruise and ...
A. 18 February 2010: Ahhh... I'm sorry? You're parents met thru you two as a couple, you got engaged a year ago (and they knew full well you were intending to marry) so they race you to the alter and say you have to break up? That's ridiculous!
Just tell your par... (read in full...)
I think he hates me, but please don't tell me to dump him!
Q. I honestly think my boyfriend either hates me, is embarrassed by me, or is disgusted by me. Here's our story (it's a little long, but I feel it's necessary to portray him appropriately): We met on an anime themed chat site kind of like Gaiaon...
A. 18 February 2010: Let me see if I've got this straight.. your entire relationship with this guy has been online or one the phone? then he asks you to be his GF over New Years... having never met you... then you go out there and finally meet him, and stay in his house ... (read in full...)
He seems perfect .... but is he?
Q. I'm dating a 60 year old man who's never been married, never engaged, never lived with anyone, longest relationhsip was 4 years. He's got a lot going for him; very attractive, fit, well educated, great job/security, good sense or humor, articulate. ...
A. 18 February 2010: Sounds like he's got commitment issues to me, and his asking for 50/50 is just a way to keep you at a distance. His way of saying, look honey, I'm not going to take care of you here, so don't get too attached. You pay your way I'll pay mine. Red ... (read in full...)
Should I stop loving her because she might be a slut?
Q. I was in a relationship for four years we have been broken up for ten months and i still dearly love her but we were talking and we came across the subject of sex and she told me that she have had sex with two guys and i really love her but idk if i ...
A. 18 February 2010: Hold on... you slept with 5 girls in 10 months, she slept with 2 men... but she's a slut??? How do you figure that? Sounds like sour grapes to me. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has caught me flirting online, and now he hasn't spoke to me for over a month!
Q. question to the guys. my boyfriend of four years has caught me flirting online. its not the first time and we always broke up because of it. i never cheated i did it for a laugh when he was at work,i did text them but never met any. i denied it and ...
A. 17 February 2010: HE is being stubborn? You did it once, he broke up with you. Then you went back and did it again? Good lord woman why one earth would you do that? I would walk away from you too if I was him. You say you didn't cheat, but clearly complusively ... (read in full...)
I hate my surname! Is there any solution to this?
Q. I know this problem is lighthearted compared to some of the other stuff people are going through, but it's been bugging me for a long time. I can accpet an honest answer but please don't judge me as shallow. I love my family, but I absolutely hat...
A. 17 February 2010: So change your name. When my stepfather died, my mother changed her surname (legally) to her favorite place. It was pretty easy. My brother decided when he was about 8 that he didn't like his first name, so he's gone by his middle name since then. ... (read in full...)
Where does the loyalty lie?
Q. my friend was not loyal to me i cheated on my girlfriend and he chose to be with her by confessing to her....who is right here..........
A. 16 February 2010: So basically you are just going to keep posting and posting your question in different ways until you get the answer you want? You don't want genuine advice, you just want people to agree with you.
You're not listening. Good luck. Aunts & Uncles... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because some other guy claimed he'd had sex with me! I don't know what to do, I'm still in love with him....
Q. hi, am 18. i dated a guy for like 3 months we loved each other, and things were going fine till an unknown guy showed up and started claiming to have had sex with me on all occasions.that he should stay clear off me.initially i told him was a virgin ...
A. 16 February 2010: yes that's pretty weird your BF would believe some random dude over you... (read in full...)
Help! How can I tell him I want to stop having sex?
Q. How can I tell my friend I want to stop sleeping with him without him reacting badly? We have a FWB relationship I guess but we are unbelievably close. I'm worried if I say I want the sex to stop then the hugging, kissing, spending time together etc ...
A. 14 February 2010: Ugh. FWB. Why do any of you ladies even start up with this FWB business. It always ends the same. You like the guy you want him to be your BF.
Just be honest. Men respect honest women. Just tell him the truth about what you want. Be calm, co... (read in full...)
Terrified to meet up with him in case he doesn't like me...
Q. I've been talking to a guy online for a while. i really like him and he really likes me. i like everything about him, his personality and his looks but he lives in a different country so i cant just go on a date with him! hopefully in a...
A. 14 February 2010: Oh ladies ladies ladies! Why do you all do this to yourselves? You meet these guys online and invest all this emotional energy into them before you've even met them in person... they live a zillion miles away... so even if you do have great ... (read in full...)
Great date, great sex... and now no call from him!!!
Q. I met this guy two weeks ago and he was very interested right away. We kissed right away as we were out dancing and drinking, and I tend to move fast with guys. He got my number and called me the same night when I got home! We talked, but I was more ...
A. 14 February 2010: Well honey, to be honest you are always running a big risk when you sleep with men too soon (i.e. first or second date). They don't really take you seriously. Men like to be the pursuers and feel like they've "won" a woman over. So if you jumped ... (read in full...)
Am I REALLY that repulsive???
Q. I have been dating a great guy for abt 2 months. Things have gotten more intense the past couple of weeks (lots of kissing). Last night, I really wanted the sex to happen ( and it seemed like he did too). Then when I was mostly undressed ...
A. 14 February 2010: Hmmmm. Weird. Well, first of all a guy disappearing after the sex doesn't mean you were repulsive. A lot of guys do that to a lot of very sexy women. That speaks more to a fear of emotional intimacy.
This guy said sex after dating for 2 months i... (read in full...)
How does one stop being so full on in the early days of a relationship?
Q. Bit of an obvious question but wanted some opinions. How does one stop being so full on in the early days of a relationship? ...
A. 14 February 2010: what does "full on" mean? and why do you want to stop being it?... (read in full...)
Is he being honest or is the relationship going to end?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for 5 months and everything has been great until now. He's asked if he can have some space as he's got some problems he needs to resolve - basically he's he is beginning the proceeds of a divorce from his ex wife. He's also ...
A. 14 February 2010: Your BF is separated and just now getting divorced? That's a tough situation for him emotionally. His relationship with his wife may be over, but now he has to deal with the fallout from that. The legal stuff brings all the emotional stuff to the ... (read in full...)
I thought he really liked me but it seems not to be the case. What do you think?
Q. Hey. Right so Friday night, I went to a party and I ended up spending pretty much the whole night with the guy I like. We don’t tend to speak much in person but a lot on Facebook. We were both pissed and he came to sit by me for most of the time...
A. 14 February 2010: Sounds like he was just drunk. When I get drunk I get very flirty. If he talks to you a lot on facebook he may like you... but then again he may talk to a lot of girls on facebook. Too hard to tell based on just this information.... (read in full...)
Why does he want to keep me a secret? Is he just using me???
Q. Well im seeing this boy, and he asked out another girl (my best friend). So i immediatly dumped him, my friend didn't know we where going out (well seeing each other) at the time, so I didn't say anything. Luckily she said no. Then about a week ...
A. 14 February 2010: Anyone who truly loves someone wants the world to know... they don't keep it a secret. Sounds like he's only interested in the sex stuff. I think your first instinct was best, dump him. ... (read in full...)
How do men handle breakups, I know they work differently than girls...
Q. I'm just wondering how guys handle breakups? does it even bother them? do they cry? is he still thinking about me because it hasnt been long since we split? And how is he gona react to me telling him i hate him because he hasnt spoken to me since...
A. 14 February 2010: Well... we need more information. Did he break up with you or you with him? How long had you been together? Were you in love or just casually dating?
Any human being who feels love for another and then loses that person, male or female, will fee... (read in full...)
Will sleeping with him make things better between us?
Q. I started talking to my sister's boyfriend's best mate which ive only just started talking to, and he said he liked me and i liked him. i went over his place and and we hung out for about 4 or 5 days and then he was saying he was bored. and i was ...
A. 14 February 2010: Sex to repair a distant relationship is SO not the answer! You hung out with this guy for 5 days and he called you boring? You had a play fight and it was awkward and then you kissed and he's been distant? He has a problem with you being a virgin? ... (read in full...)
Should I give him a shot?
Q. I dont know if i should give this guy a chance or not.. i was out with my friends for a night out and ended up getting quite drunk. I met this guy and we hit it off and made out for hours. But now I'm just not feeling 'it'. He has been calling me ...
A. 13 February 2010: Well if you were drunk and now you aren't sure you are feeling it - are you basing that on what you remember, or talking to him sober, or what? Are you just feeling embarrassed because you made out with a guy when you were drunk? I don't see the ... (read in full...)
He used me as a substitute girl! How do I teach him a lesson?
Q. we've been relationship for 6months.before relationship he told me he has a gf 3yrs ago,she cheated him and went to overseas with her new bf. i comforted him and later we're in love. then later i found out that he still keep in touch with his e...
A. 13 February 2010: I don't know that you can teach him a lesson. People learn what they want to learn. I think that you have a right to your feelings, and if you feel you need to confront him and tell him that he hurt you and you feel lied to and used, then you should ... (read in full...)
We have been together for 9 years but he is taking another woman out for Valentines Day!
Q. Hi AUnts and Uncles. I'm really distraught because my boyfriend told me a few days ago, after an argument, that he is going out with another woman (from work) tomorrow for Valentine Night and that he is going to 'stay over' at her place. We ...
A. 13 February 2010: OMG sweetheart! That's horrible! He sounds absolutely awful! they are both totally cruel why on earth would you even want a horrible man like that anywhere near you?
Honey you have to realize that you don't deserve to be treated like that EVE... (read in full...)
My boyfriend lied to me about looking at porn, I feel like he has cheated on me!
Q. Okay, so I've been with my boyfriend for more than 2.5 years and everything has been going great. So, the last night I was on his computer and I saw that he had been looking at porn. When I asked him about it he said it wasn't his, and he didn't ...
A. 12 February 2010: Okay honey I'm sorry you feel hurt, but I'm just going to weigh in here with my opinion. I don't think porn is cheating. Men are very visual sexually and I think of porn as just a natural part of masturbation. Everybody does it. Honestly, there is ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my boyfriend what happened in bed with his best friend?
Q. What should I do ? , my b/f was out of town at a business function and we had a party down here , It was all good fun , with drink , music and Dance . When I was getting ready for bed I put on my favorite skimpy nighty and jumped in bed , ...
A. 12 February 2010: Hmmm this is a tough one. I'm a bit confused as to why you said it was okay for your man's BF to get into bed with you. Did he just want a place to sleep? He got in bed with you and put his arm around you. That's not innocent.
But if nothing ... (read in full...)
She has denied me sex until I pay for it!
Q. Have been in a relationship for four years now with a lady i do love soo much and ready to marry, she is 32 am 27, But she is so controlling, she doe's not like to be forced on doing things she has become miss independent, i lost my job recently and ...
A. 12 February 2010: Okay I hate to say it, but as a woman, if I was with a man I loved who had taken care of me and was paying my bills... and he lost his job? I would be supportive of him through a difficult time and reassure him that we would get through it together. ... (read in full...)
She has reassured me time and time again that she is not cheating, but I still cant help think she is!
Q. I think my girlfriend might be cheating on me. I can't get it out of my head, and I feel completely paranoid about it and am afraid I'm behaving like one of those obsessed boyfriends. I don't think my suspicions are completely unfounded though...
A. 12 February 2010: soon103 whatever are you on about? your reply is a bit extreme and you are jumping to an awful lot of conclusions that I don't see any foundation for based on what the poster has said.
Poster, clearly something has changed or shifted in your rel... (read in full...)
Why is he not physically intimate with me?
Q. I am in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years. We still did not have sex yet. But we have fooled around a lot.. My problem is that we are doing well in our relationship. But.... when we met on Sunday we made out a lot and were physically ...
A. 12 February 2010: Just relax. He may have something on his mind or something he is feeling self-conscious about. A few days over course of 2 years is nothing to worry about. Back off and let him work through it and come to you when he's ready. ... (read in full...)
Would it be so bad to get a tattoo reminding me of him, even though this weekend will be the first time we have met up?
Q. I have recently met a younger man (3 years) on a dating website. We have texted and talked on the phone. We are supposed to meet this weekend. To add insult to injury his father passed away this last Monday. I feel a VERY strong connectio...
A. 12 February 2010: Well I think it's GREAT that you have found someone you share a great connection with, that's terrific. But getting a tattoo for a guy you are just meeting is pretty intense. That puts an awful lot of pressure on the situation... even if you don't ... (read in full...)
I want these feelings for my teacher to go away! Please help me!
Q. i'am in love with my teacher, he is 26 and i'm 14 i know this is wrong, and i dont want to feel this way. but when i see him my heart beats really fast and my face gets really hot, and i feel conscious! i have tried to tell myself that i just admire ...
A. 12 February 2010: Honey we've ALL had crushes on a cute teacher at some point growing up, it's just sort of rite of passage I guess. The feelings for your teacher will go away in time. Just assure yourself it's normal and try to enjoy it :-) The great thing you learn ... (read in full...)
To call or not to call?
Q. Hi all, I have a friend who is in some financial difficulty. she called me telling me that she has finally gotten a job but needs some money to buy the uniform or she could lose the job. She told me how much it would cost. I transferred the ...
A. 12 February 2010: Yes I kind of agree with Tisha1... how long have you known this "friend"? How did you meet her? What seems kind of a red flag is 1) you "transferred" the money... you didn't give it to her in person. So that sounds like she doesn't live near you. 2) ... (read in full...)
My best friend is getting married to my ex-girlfriend! How do I get over this?
Q. My best friend and girlfriend left me? I cheated on her several times. And thought she would never find out but after a while my bf and her started talking and they got very close he realized what a asshole I have been to her he fell in love wit...
A. 12 February 2010: Darlin I know it hurts. It's easy to want to lash out and blame others for one's pain, and it's really hard to accept that you yourself are responsible for your own fate. You ask for more answers but you have a ton... you don't' want to accept them. ... (read in full...)
Waiting to be struck by Cupid for Valentines Day!
Q. How long after you date a guy for him to know that he is ready to be in a committed relationship or dating u exclusively? What does it mean if he say, "You may not know it. But, you may already like me. We seem to click and should be in a ...
A. 11 February 2010: Honey, it's pretty straightforward. This man has clearly said he's not interested in commitment. If you are, then you should tell him you are, and let him know thank you but it doesn't seem like we want the same things. Then move on. in fact that's ... (read in full...)
How can I get my best friend to believe me? She is dating my ex and he is only going to end up hurting her!
Q. Me and my ex boyfriend have been broken up for about three months now. He broke up with me so I still have feelings for him. My best friend likes him and they went out before we were friends. He broke my heart and hers many,many times and I don't ...
A. 11 February 2010: Woah. Drama city. So let me see if I've got this straight. She dated him first, then you dated him... knowing that she had. Now he's back with her. You claim to be best friends, but clearly you don't know the best friends rule. The rule goes -- if ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have friendly phone sex with a classmate when I have a boyfriend?
Q. well...im in a committed relationship...its been 7.5months..me and my bf really love each other..i want to ask that is it ok to have friendly phone sex with my classmate?(we actually don't mean it,its just 4 fun)i mean is it ok or whether i will be ...
A. 11 February 2010: Ummm I don't get it? If you have a great BF who loves you and you love him... why on earth do you even WANT to be having phone sex with some other dude? Don't say anything to your BF. Just stop. Find something else to talk about.... (read in full...)
My friends and I created a fake Myspace and now I have fallen in love with the guy we were pranking!
Q. I feel sorry because one day my friends and I was playing truth or dare. So, I picked Dare they dared me to make a fake myspace and to post a fake pic. Three days later a lot of people was adding this fake myspace. But there was this one guy that ...
A. 11 February 2010: Wow poor guy. You lied to him and led him on pretending to be someone else, he forgave you... he asked to meet you, you rejected him... then you lied to him again... no wonder he isn't talking to you!
Sorry honey but I think you need to just try... (read in full...)
Tough Decision! My boyfriend or my new love???
Q. Hi, I have a big dilemma which is ruining my life right now.. I have been in a relationship for four years with my boyfriend that I really love. However we got in a big fight and I moved out. It's been two months since I have been living on my own. ...
A. 11 February 2010: Well be realistic first of all. It sounds like you never even met the guy in florida, so your "new love" really just sounds like a fantasy. you can't really know someone who lives 1,000 miles away after only 2 months. On the other hand you and your ... (read in full...)
I cant cope with my husband's penchant for porn!
Q. I need some advice! My marriage is, for the most part, amazing! I am crazy in love with my husband, and he feels the same way for me. There is one thing I cannot seem to get over. He has a penchant for porn. When I don't think about him lookin...
A. 11 February 2010: Hi honey. Well I can understand you feeling insecure but I think you need to try to let go of that and broaden your view. First of all, your husband does not prefer those women to you. If he did, he would have married one of THEM. But he didn't - he ... (read in full...)
My best friend is getting married to my ex-girlfriend! How do I get over this?
Q. My best friend and girlfriend left me? I cheated on her several times. And thought she would never find out but after a while my bf and her started talking and they got very close he realized what a asshole I have been to her he fell in love wit...
A. 11 February 2010: Wow. Yeah I'd say that's karma. I'm not sure how you get over it, I guess maybe just try to learn the lesson that if you love something and it's special and valuable to you then you need to take care of it, treat it well, be true to it and not take ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend becoming agressive?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and we both go to the same school, he's 20 and I'm 19. So the other day we were kissing on the bed, just messing around. When all of a sudden he pins me to the bed, I tought okay.. but idk.. he did it like really h...
A. 11 February 2010: That's understandable. Talk to your boyfriend. If he's got that much passion for you that's great, talk through it so you can find a safe fun way to channel all that wonderful passion in a way you can both enjoy. Good luck darling and if you feel ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend becoming agressive?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and we both go to the same school, he's 20 and I'm 19. So the other day we were kissing on the bed, just messing around. When all of a sudden he pins me to the bed, I tought okay.. but idk.. he did it like really h...
A. 11 February 2010: That's understandable. Talk to your boyfriend. If he's got that much passion for you that's great, talk through it so you can find a safe fun way to channel all that wonderful passion in a way you can both enjoy. Good luck darling and if you feel ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend becoming agressive?
Q. My boyfriend and I live together and we both go to the same school, he's 20 and I'm 19. So the other day we were kissing on the bed, just messing around. When all of a sudden he pins me to the bed, I tought okay.. but idk.. he did it like really h...
A. 10 February 2010: Sounds hot! lol No seriously, I think maybe your guy was just really really horny and unfortunately you weren't. He had all that passion and hormones coursing through him. You live together so I assume you are sexual? Has it been a while since you ... (read in full...)
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