What's up with the whole situation? I need some advice...quick!!!
Q. I have worked closely with a guy at work for about 2 years and have been attracted to him for about 1 and a 1/2 years. he is very flirtatious on the telepone, eluding to having a relationship, however, on several occasions, when i have asked him to ...
A. 20 November 2008: I totally feel you sister. It really does feel like they are from another planet sometimes. ... (read in full...)
We seemed to have a really strong connection, but have I scared her off?
Q. hi, i've been chatting to this woman online for about a month, and we hit it off immediately. we exchanged photos and then she asked me out for a drink. however, she is quite busy so we haven't yet set a date yet although we were planning to meet up ...
A. 20 November 2008: No big mystery. She means precisely what she says. Dating is a tough game. You head out into the world and meet a lot of people trying to make a connection. This woman was fortunate enough to make two connections. If she was just making friends ... (read in full...)
What's up with the whole situation? I need some advice...quick!!!
Q. I have worked closely with a guy at work for about 2 years and have been attracted to him for about 1 and a 1/2 years. he is very flirtatious on the telepone, eluding to having a relationship, however, on several occasions, when i have asked him to ...
A. 16 November 2008: My dear you are thinking on a very logical plane. Women's emotions, minds and lives are all very interconnected. It's not always that way for men. You are thinking that if he doesn't want me for his own all the way then why would he care if I'm ... (read in full...)
AG and SM are always sarcastic towards me and AG because I'm going out with OB. What should I do about them?
Q. Hey, My supposed Best Friend, AG, has started being really mean to me. She is absolutely livid at me, for going out with her ex, OB, even though they split up over two years ago, their relationship lasted all of three days and she is constant...
A. 15 November 2008: In my experience, friends might tease each other from time to time, but genuine friends are kind and caring to one another. It doesn't sound to me like they are kind to you, but neither does it sound to me like you are especially kind to them. ... (read in full...)
We seemed to have a really strong connection, but have I scared her off?
Q. hi, i've been chatting to this woman online for about a month, and we hit it off immediately. we exchanged photos and then she asked me out for a drink. however, she is quite busy so we haven't yet set a date yet although we were planning to meet up ...
A. 15 November 2008: Okay first of all, just be yourself. Don't second guess what is going on in someone else's head. I am a woman and I don't see anything wrong with either your honesty about how you are feeling about your exchanges or your apologizing for possibly ... (read in full...)
What's up with the whole situation? I need some advice...quick!!!
Q. I have worked closely with a guy at work for about 2 years and have been attracted to him for about 1 and a 1/2 years. he is very flirtatious on the telepone, eluding to having a relationship, however, on several occasions, when i have asked him to ...
A. 15 November 2008: This same thing happened to me a while back... I had a co-worker who flirted with me, actually asked me out for coffee dinner drinks etc but would never set a time or make a real move. I backed off. Sure enough, that year at the Christmas party I ... (read in full...)
She let some information slip regarding her ex. Should I call off the engagement?
Q. Dear aunt's and uncle's, I am currently engaged to a wonderful woman and I love her very much, the problem being that she cannot let go of her ex. I happened across a note she left out, early in our relationship. It made me question a few thin...
A. 21 April 2008: Wow, I'm so so sorry. That's so difficult and painful. It seems you are caught between a rock and a hard place. I have thought about what to advise you for a few minutes now... and the thing that keeps coming to mind is the old adage - if you love ... (read in full...)
We were supposed to have a family together but all that changed. His ex is pregnant with his child!
Q. hello im in a bad situation atm .. my boyfrend who i love so much n who loves me back just as much we have said to each other we are going to have children together buy a house and get married because although we r yung we r just so abnormally into ...
A. 21 April 2008: Okay first of all take a big, long deep breath and then exhale slowly. I know very freaked out about this. These are really mature advanced issues and you are only 17. It's a lot to handle. But from where I sit this is not as bad as it seems.
... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but people say he's a hamster, so is he worth it?
Q. heyahh i love my boy friend so much but i get picked on and bullyed so bad that i have started self harming is it worth going out with my boyfriend? we went to the library today and 4 girls frm skwl came in and started having a go sayin i...
A. 20 April 2008: Wow. People can be so cruel. But I think the thing to remember is anyone who needs to get their power from bullying and picking on others is someone who is not feeling very good about themselves. They go on the attack so they can vent their own ... (read in full...)
Why are guys so obsessed with breasts?
Q. Why are guys so obsessed with breasts? It's unfair! I see so much naked boobs online, and the obsession with whose cleavage is hotter, this and that, and I feel inadequate! In a normal day I feel that my breasts look pretty, but then all this ...
A. 20 April 2008: You have to accept the male obsession with breasts. It's been that way since the beginning of time. What you need to do is stop comparing yourself to fake airbrushed plastic you see online and letting that make you feel inferior.
I TOTALLY ... (read in full...)
I didn't pass the audition but my best friend still has a chance which makes me jealous! Should I tell her?
Q. Righty more problems for little old me =[ My best friend and i auditioned for the part of Maria in our school production of West Side Story, and i just got kicked out of the runnings for the part, and she is still in... I feel really quite jelous...
A. 20 April 2008: Well if you can't have it, wouldn't you rather your friend have it? I think you need to try and let go of your jealously and take pleasure that she's doing well. There's enough sadness and disapointment in life. Try to make it a habit to take joy ... (read in full...)
My friend was raped yesterday and I need some advice.
Q. My friend is 16 and she got raped yesterday. we were at a party with friends only and she drank quite a lot, and fell asleep. I then left the party because I had other responsiblity, and so I left her with my other friends, who i trusted. Today ...
A. 20 April 2008: Everyone is giving good advice but the statement that concerns me the most is your friend wants to stay friends with her rapists? Boys who force themselves on a girl who is drunk or has passed out are not friends. If they did this to their "friend" ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and filled with hate and regret because of my immaturity. How can I sort this all out?
Q. Hey again, I'm 15, and I am immature for my age. I hate myself for it. It fills me to the brim with regret and hate. It is making me a loner, I can't help it. I try to act my age but it seems impossible. Is there anything I can do to 'sort' this?...
A. 20 April 2008: 15 is a confusing time and being a teenager in general is a time when you are developing, learning, growing and finding out who you are. I think you need to be more patient you are going to change a lot over the next few years. You don't need to be ... (read in full...)
How do I come out to my mother without it being awkward?
Q. I recently came out to a female friend and she told me I should just be open about it and not be scared of what people think of me because of that. She suggested that the only people I should care about if I told them would be my family. Now part ...
A. 20 April 2008: Wow that's a really big challenge. It's very scary. I think you need to give up hope that it won't be awkward. It will be. And it will be scary too. But as far as mothers go, I'm sure she will love you no matter what. If you really want to do this, ... (read in full...)
I'm not shallow but she wants to wait to have sex....that could be years!
Q. I'm in a bit of a pickle right now and I could use some advice. Me and my girlfriend have been going out for about six months now. And we started talking about how we feel about sex. She told me she wants to wait until marriage and I'm fine with ...
A. 20 April 2008: I disagree with Kay - I don't think you are shallow. It's natural for you at your age to be thinking of sex. I'm very proud that at 18-21 you are still a virgin... what with all the posts on here about 12 year olds wanting to have sex. I think after ... (read in full...)
This boy stares at me like a puppy dog and turns red when I look at him! What do you think?
Q. hi im 14. im in highschool i like this guy ,, he told asked me online if i like him .. and i told him do u like me? and he said no answer me first .. then i was like why? should i tell u knowin that you dont like me .. and he said how would y...
A. 20 April 2008: Yes he likes you. He likes you a lot. You probably intimidate him and his brain freezes up when you are around. That's why he avoids you because he's uncomfortable, he loses control of his mind. Be sweet to him. ... (read in full...)
Should I tell girls that I'm a virgin if I want to hook up?
Q. I have some parties coming up. If I happen to 'hook up' with a girl who isn't a virgin, should I tell her the truth, that I'm a virgin? I'm afraid of her reaction....
A. 20 April 2008: Darlin' you are only 15 and this is how you want to lose your virginity? Hooking up with some random girl at a party? Of course you are afraid of her reaction, you don't even know the girl.
I wish you would reconsider. Get a girlfriend who care... (read in full...)
We only dry hump so his penis has never even been near my vagina. Could I be pregnant?
Q. Now, I SWEAR to you, I’ve never had a penis in my vagina. My boyfriend and I have done just about everything else though. We commonly dry-hump in nothing but our underwear… and I give him hand jobs, but he’s never cum anywhere near my vagina. ...
A. 20 April 2008: Not eating or extreme physical work can stop your mentrual cycle... I used to live with dancers who wouldn't get periods for months at a time. If you are a virgin I don't think you are pregnant. You can always buy an over the counter test to be ... (read in full...)
What does your girl do that just drives you wild? How can I make him crave me as much as I long for him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year now, and as to be expected the original chemistry is dying out. There has been a lot of strain on our relationship but we still keep on holding on. I love him alot but feel that my reactions to ...
A. 23 February 2008: You are NEVER going to bring back the spark by being needy or pestering him for praise and reassurance, so knock that off right now. Let go of your neediness. Be yourself. Be the girl he fell in love with - the one who made him laugh, or challenged ... (read in full...)
How many more nights am I going to have to go home alone?
Q. How many more nights am I going to have to go home alone? I've been out tonight and have had a very fun evening. But every time I go out and have fun, I always end up alone in the end. Tonight I ran into a girl who used to fancy me. We even kiss...
A. 23 February 2008: Okay well when you say something like "I enjoyed tonight, but knowing that Sex wasn't part of it sort of spoiled it" that does come across the wrong way. If you are looking to have a girlfriend, someone in your life, it's a bit hard to give any ... (read in full...)
She's out of my league... is she?
Q. ok I know this girl at work, she's amazing, we share the same sense of humour. She's smart and we have a lot in common but I need to know if she likes me, we do all the flirty stuff etc but I don't know if she's just being friendly? Anyway she's ...
A. 23 February 2008: Girls love confidence. Be confident man! :-) If she's flirting with you there's a good chance. But who knows with 18 year old girls. We can't tell you if she likes you or not - only she can do that. So ask her! This is a cute one I got once upon ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by telling him she isn't into him?
Q. Hey, I need some opinions on my situation. There's this girl I know who has been getting textx from a boy all the time, and you can tell he likes her. Problem is though, she hates him. He annoys her and she complains about him all the time. For ...
A. 23 February 2008: Give it some space because if you try right away he might think you just told him that to make him forget about her. ... (read in full...)
Do any of you guys have any tricks that all males do to let girls know they're interested?
Q. This is a question for all the guys. I like a guy right now but it's really hard to tell what's going on in his mind. Sometimes, I catch him looking at me, sometimes he just never looks at me when he has the oppurtunity to, from a close distance. I ...
A. 23 February 2008: I know this is for the guys I'm not supposed to be here. But as a girl... are you giving him any clear signals that you like him? Maybe try just giving him a big smile every time you see him. Maybe he's across the room wondering the same thing about ... (read in full...)
How do I politely deny their invitation to go on a date?
Q. I regularly work in the evenings at my parent's family business. Of course, I get customers who are in their 20's, 30's, all ages. I'm 18, and some of the men have giving me their numbers,or myspace..or shown some sign of interest, such a...
A. 23 February 2008: I don't think you should message them on text or myspace at all. If they give you their number or myspace page, don't contact them. You think you are just being nice, but they think you are giving them the green light to pursue you. If they a... (read in full...)
How many more nights am I going to have to go home alone?
Q. How many more nights am I going to have to go home alone? I've been out tonight and have had a very fun evening. But every time I go out and have fun, I always end up alone in the end. Tonight I ran into a girl who used to fancy me. We even kiss...
A. 23 February 2008: Maybe you should try dating a girl properly instead of just randomly trying to hook up in a bar or at a party night after night. Ask a nice girl out. Take her to dinner. Bring her flowers. Don't try to sleep with her for a few weeks. There are lots ... (read in full...)
I had a one night stand a week before I got married and the guilt is tearing me apart...
Q. I am recently married but before I got married just a week before.... I am very upset to say that I had a one night stand... I was extremely drunk and do not even remember kissing this guy yet deep down inside knew that I was with this guy... there ...
A. 23 February 2008: You were drunk and this other man meant nothing to you. You love your husband. Don't hurt him. Men take infidelity very very badly. Even if he doesn't leave it will always haunt him. Save your confessions for priests and therapists. In fact, it ... (read in full...)
Curious Physician
Q. Ok I'm 28 years old with two children. I have been married for 5 years. Me and my husband started to have marital problems during my last pregnancy. I started to tell my physician things in my marriage. He started off by asking me personal ...
A. 23 February 2008: Sounds like your doctor has a little thing for you. He may be a doctor but he's still a man. They can't help where their eyes go sometimes. As long as he's not crossing the line, I say smile and take it as a compliment... then back off the personal ... (read in full...)
Has my husband slept with this internet friend? Just how close are they?
Q. Hi, A few days ago I found out on my husband's e-mail that he is having an internet female friend. Going thru the mail he has talked to her about our 2 year old son, described himself and has asked her out for lunch. She sends him her personal...
A. 23 February 2008: The fact that he is keeping the two of you secret from each other does not bode well for his intentions, nor does the fact that he got angry and defensive when you questioned him. Obviously she fills some need for him that you don't, but it's ... (read in full...)
Does age really matter?
Q. I am 16 and for the last few months have been spending a lot of time with a neighbour and family friend. He's an amazing mentor and we read philosophy and poetry together. I've never been as close to anyone and he's my best friend. I know he feels ...
A. 23 February 2008: Darlin you are 16... and you say he's a lot older, but you don't say how much. Honestly it sounds like you are teenager and he's an adult. The hard cold truth is age does matter. Age differences matter less when maturity levels even out. If there is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's friends and family are beginning to dislike me...
Q. my boyfriend’s family and friends don’t want him to be with me anymore because i don’t have a job and i’m not in college, they don’t understand that i have a hard time going out and doing stuff on my own and it’s hard just getting out of bed ...
A. 23 February 2008: I think you have a bigger problem than his family not liking you. You have a hard time getting out of bed everyday? Are you depressed? I think that is a valid cause for concern on the part of your BF's family and it should be a valid cause for ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out! help me
Q. I need help really badly, as I feel emotional right now, but theres a girl I've known, she joined my uni last year before summer, and she sat across the classroom from me, and we looked at each other a lot, first week I did ignore it, but the next ...
A. 23 February 2008: Wait for a good moment between you two, muster your courage and confidently tell her she rocks your world and ask her out. The worst that can happen is she says no. You feel rejected. That might hurt for a bit, but you get over it and move on w... (read in full...)
How to get the passion back in my exes eye?
Q. From a womans point of view: how do I get my ex to fancy me again? We split up 6 months ago (my decision - I felt I couldn't give her what she wanted and rather than stringing her along I respected her and broke it off) but she stayed living with me ...
A. 23 February 2008: If you are talking and seeing each other a couple of times a week I'd say the connection between you two is still pretty strong. Are you sure this is not just a case of jealousy and wanting what you can't have? I think you need to be really sure. ... (read in full...)
Should I go out with all 4 of them?
Q. Hey guy. I'm stuck in a small dillma. I have a 4 different guys that like me at ONCE!! Thier all my friends and eachothers friends. We ALWAYS hang out in a big group and they all prtect me anything. Well, like I said they all like me. The promle ...
A. 29 November 2007: No you can't date all 4 of them if they are all friends with each other. That will just create a lot of resentment that will tear the group apart, and it sounds like the group is a great thing. It's very flattering that they all want to date you, ... (read in full...)
Was I treated unreasonably?
Q. One night my fiance asked if I wanted to go with him to a bar that him and his friends were going to that night. It was a family night so some of his friends were his friend's younger sisters that he is better friends with and they are like 13 and ...
A. 29 November 2007: Whoa... first of all, how are 13 year old girls hanging out at bars??? He is better friends with his boys little sisters? Sorry, but you are totally right, that's weird. If I was you I would want to understand what these relationships are about for ... (read in full...)
How do I keep this relationship alive?
Q. Any suggestions on keeping an 8-month relationship from becoming "boringly comfortable"? * cliff notes version: **been together 8 months, known eachother for 16mo. ** Age gap relationship, I'm older ** everything is still good (no fig...
A. 29 November 2007: You have only been together 8 months and are already worrying about it being "boringly comfortable"? Hmmm. In my experience, and there is science to back this up too, generally the first 6-8 months of a relationship is that "honeymoon" phase where ... (read in full...)
Was she a real friend?
Q. there is this chick that i use to be friends with, we are not friends now as she lies to make her self look good, and she use to make me feel like 2 cm tall, as she would tell every one my sercrets, and she was a slut!! to say the least we are not ...
A. 29 November 2007: It sounds like you are very hurt by this girl. You trusted her and she betrayed you. Someone who abuses your trust, belittles you and does not treat your confidences with respect... is not your friend.
It's very hard though, because the thing is... (read in full...)
How do I hide my 'Camel Toe'?
Q. i recently noticed that my vagina is fat i can't wear shirts up to my waist cause it looks to big is there anything you can suggest please...
A. 29 November 2007: It sounds like your pants are too tight and don't fit right. If you are talking about jeans, maybe go to a high end retailer where they will take the time to really help you find a pair that will fit you right without being too tight or looking too ... (read in full...)
I really love her, but is her emotional blackmail a good reason to stay with her?
Q. Hi. I’m having a real crisis of the heart here. Let me explain. I’m not really sure if I’m happy in my current relationship and I think we need a break. My g/f and I have been together for a year now and we moved in together approximately tw...
A. 29 November 2007: It sounds to me like the both of you are dealing with a lot of fears. Your fears of commitment based on your parents bad marriage. Her fears of abandonment, based on not sure what -- but usually people who use drugs and are promiscuous are hurting ... (read in full...)
Can I believe my horoscope?
Q. Are Star Signs always true? I'm a Pisces, and he's a Virgo. Our Star Signs are incompatible, yet we're crazy for each other. I love everything about him, because he's so different from me. I've found that I've got bored with the people...
A. 9 October 2007: Okay first of all, your sun sign (Pisces) is only one part of your whole astrological chart. Every planet has a sign it was in when you were born. Sun is for personality, moon for emotions, rising sign for how people see you, venus for love and ... (read in full...)
How do you tell if you're in love?
Q. Short and to the point...how can you tell if you are in love?...
A. 9 October 2007: If you really have to ask the question... then you are probably not in love. Here's the thing. Love lives in the heart, not the head. To quote singer Don Henley, "what the head makes cloudy, the heart makes very clear". Love is not a question, it's ... (read in full...)
He's verbally abusive but I love him
Q. Dear Cupid, You really got it wrong this time. I just broke up with my boyfriend of one year and am going through some hard times. I really love him, but after struggling for this whole time we were together I finally see the part of him I could n...
A. 9 October 2007: Oh honey. I'm so sorry. But that's the rub isn't it? We love who we love. And sometimes we love people who are no good for us, or who are wrong for us. If we love ourselves, we let them go, we grieve and we move on. You just need time right now. ... (read in full...)
Why are women so horrible to me?
Q. I'm not sure if I like women anymore. I'm always nice to them and ask their advice, but all they do is be horrible to me and treat me like I'm something they had thrown out. I don't know why though. It's not just the women I date it's people who I ...
A. 9 October 2007: While I don't know your whole story so it could be any number of factors, from what you write, it sounds like perhaps you are coming across like the Omega dog... the lowest ranking member of the pack. By always being nice (even if they aren't) you ... (read in full...)
How could he love me and move on so fast, when I'm still trying to pick up the pieces??
Q. I am a 21 yr old college student attending same school as my ex BF We dated for 3 years but I broke things off this summer because I was not happy with the lack of effort he put into our relationship. He was very upset; even wrote a long letter to ...
A. 9 October 2007: I'm so sorry. And I'm also sorry, but the fact is that a lot of guys are screwed up when it comes to emotional things. As women, we know to deal with our emotions, to grieve the loss of a relationship before we move on. We don't think it's fair to ... (read in full...)
She had a one night stand and I'm struggling to accept that. Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Hello, I am flattened by emotions right now and need a little advice. Today I learned that my girlfriend of 6 1/2 years had a one-night stand about 3 months ago. She tells she was wasted and doesn't even remember how it happened. I am very confus...
A. 9 October 2007: Wow. That's so brutal. I'm so sorry. You must feel like someone kicked you in the stomach with steel boots. I think the first thing you need to do is take some time to just let yourself process this and let your emotions settle. After that, I ... (read in full...)
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