How should I present his V-day package to him?
Q. Hiya all, I've just bought my boyfriend some fluffy handcuffs for valentine's day and was wondering how to give them to him? I've also got him a photo frame - a more romantic gift Lol! Do you reckon I should give him the present and then just sh...
A. 7 February 2009: Wrap up the key to the handcuffs in a lovely box. Give that to him at dinner with the romantic picture frame. When he asks what's this for? you can smile and say "oh you'll see" or "the key to my heart darling of course" or something witty like ... (read in full...)
Took break now g/f is depressed!
Q. Hey, I need some help. My girl friend and I got in a fight last weekend and I told her I needed some space at the end of the fight to think things over. She got really depressed and now she doesn't feel close to me and resents me for not checking on ...
A. 7 February 2009: Hey there. This is one of those man/woman things that is so hard to navigate. I can understand you needing your space after a fight, that's what men do. They need time alone to sort it out. But taking this time cuts straight into a woman's biggest ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to sleep with another man's wife?
Q. Is it o.k to sleep with another mans wife. I have a married wowan friend at work who has expressed a wish to sleep with me, she has given me details of her marriage woe's etc. I admit she is very attractive. My ex wife cheated on me with my best ...
A. 7 February 2009: You already know it's not okay, or you wouldn't have asked the question. Resist temptation. Just because you have been betrayed in a horrible way by the two people you trusted the most, don't take part in a betrayal. That seems to be at the core of ... (read in full...)
Do you think he respects me? Should I send the topless photo?
Q. My boyfriend said that if i dont send him a braless picture from ma neck to waist he wont go on o2 unlimited on his mobile so he can text me as many times as he wants. I said no and he said so everything you said you will do with me i.e. pleasure n ...
A. 27 December 2008: That's very manipulative. Saying you must do this to get him to do that. If he is trying to pressure you into doing something you don't feel comfortable with then it's HIM who doesn't love YOU... not the other way around. People that really love ... (read in full...)
How to kill the love
Q. "Press the button!" I hear you all shout. Press the button and She'll disappear? Oh, if only it were that easy. I want to finish with my mistress. Okay, I'm not gonna murder Her. I'm only trying to murder the 'love' that I thought I had for Her. How ...
A. 27 December 2008: My foolish friend... when it comes to love, we cannot murder it, anymore than we can give birth to it. The love we feel in our hearts is something that lives beyond our mortal control. Love comes when it comes and goes when it goes. The best we can ... (read in full...)
Do you think she's really already moved on??
Q. My gf broke up with me a month ago saying she doesn't love me anymore and she wants to concentrate on her career. I was devastated. I cudnt sleep or eat for days I begged her to come back to me but she said no she doesn't feel the same. She said we ...
A. 27 December 2008: Because darlin' everybody that breaks up says that (unless there was something bad done to someone). There are a number of reasons people say "we can still be friends".
When one person feels like a relationship is not working for them or not what... (read in full...)
Its limp!
Q. Hello again I have a question is it normal that when you are with a guy that if you keep having sex for awhile and he doesn't cum that his penis will go down? Does that mean he does not want you or attracted anymore. Or does that mean he could be...
A. 27 December 2008: It's not you. If he's drinking a lot he will definitely have trouble keeping it up. He could be tired or stressed. Also when you say keep having sex for a while do you mean in a relationship over months or do you mean like doing it 3 times in a row ... (read in full...)
Dream about sex..does it mean I'm subconsciously wanting to cheat
Q. I'm 16. I've with someone, I've been with her for about 6 weeks. Not long but still, we're pretty close :). Last night I had a long dream and it was like one big fantasy. It certainly wasn't a wet dream but.. I did start having sex with this girl ...
A. 27 December 2008: No I don't think it means you want to cheat on your girlfriend. I think it means you are lucky and had a great sexy dream - so enjoy!
We all have sex dreams from time to time. It's just part of life. ... (read in full...)
I just found out that her husband left her, and I like her. How do I go on from here?
Q. i met a woman at a dance class who became my regular dance partner. it was obvious from the start that there was a very powerful chemistry between us,but she was married and apart from a bit of flirting and a few long hugs,nothing went on between ...
A. 27 December 2008: no offense pvtguy but I don't think you read his message closely. Her husband LEFT her. If her husband doesn't respect their relationship, then I certainly don't think we don't need to worry about respecting him.
Poster, I think you should b... (read in full...)
In love with my former teacher...
Q. A few years ago I fell in love with my science teacher. He is about thirteen years older than me and I'm so lost without him. I was only fourteen but then when I left for high school I grew depressed. I remember crying because I thought I'd never ...
A. 27 December 2008: Oh darlin, I can relate. I think most of us, men and women alike, had a huge crush on a teacher or older adult at some point in our teenage years. But sweetie -- a 16 year old girl coming on to a 30 year old man is just NOT appropriate.
And h... (read in full...)
It seems to me that women don't really like men that much and they could be better off by themselves.
Q. Hi, I'd say I'm fairly young at my age, and I've had very little contact with the opposite sex as I'm quite shy. My question has more to do with curiosity and confusion. It seems to me that women don't seem to like men all that as much, and that t...
A. 27 December 2008: For Danielpew... you need to listen to Salt-n-Pepa's "Shoop"... oh yes, we WILL sing about your "assets"... ... (read in full...)
It seems to me that women don't really like men that much and they could be better off by themselves.
Q. Hi, I'd say I'm fairly young at my age, and I've had very little contact with the opposite sex as I'm quite shy. My question has more to do with curiosity and confusion. It seems to me that women don't seem to like men all that as much, and that t...
A. 27 December 2008: Hi again... I had another thought. You said you are quite shy. Shy men can be tough. How is a woman to tell the difference between a man who is shy and a man is disinterested or ignoring her? Women are no more mind readers than men, though lots of ... (read in full...)
Do you think she's really already moved on??
Q. My gf broke up with me a month ago saying she doesn't love me anymore and she wants to concentrate on her career. I was devastated. I cudnt sleep or eat for days I begged her to come back to me but she said no she doesn't feel the same. She said we ...
A. 27 December 2008: Darlin' I am so sorry. It sounds like you are heartbroken and in a lot of pain. Sadly, I think your girlfriend means what she says. She is not initiating or returning your calls because she is trying to move on from your relationship. It wouldn't ... (read in full...)
Is it true that women prefer men who shave?
Q. is it true women like guys who shave better than guys who gotta bush????...
A. 27 December 2008: Personally I like men to shave... their faces. Chests, and lower? No. leave that there. I mean, keep it neat and trimmed... but if I'm going to get intimate with a man, I want to feel like I'm with a MAN... not a 12 year old boy. That kinda freaks ... (read in full...)
It seems to me that women don't really like men that much and they could be better off by themselves.
Q. Hi, I'd say I'm fairly young at my age, and I've had very little contact with the opposite sex as I'm quite shy. My question has more to do with curiosity and confusion. It seems to me that women don't seem to like men all that as much, and that t...
A. 27 December 2008: You don't think women write love songs for men? Listen to Alicia Keyes sing Butterflyz... Billie Holiday When a Woman loves a Man... Dusty Springfield's Son of a Preacher Man... Macy Gray I Try... Mary J. Blige Be Without You... Sade Cherish the ... (read in full...)
What does it mean when a lady plays with her ear lobe?
Q. What does it mean when a lady plays with her earlobe when talking/flirting with a man?...
A. 28 November 2008: Any kind of playing with or touching of one's own body parts, hair, ear lobes, neck, etc. pretty much It think it means she's flirting. Either that or her ear lobe was itchy. ... (read in full...)
He wants friends with benefits but not a relationship - should I go for it?
Q. so about four months ago i met the absolutely perfect guy. perfect! and two weeks later he dumps me for some other chick that ended up being such an absolute female dog. anyways i flipped out on him and threw a fit cause before we even started ...
A. 28 November 2008: ps. It might be fun for a while, but eventually it will just feel empty... because it won't be what you really want and you won't be being true to yourself accepting it. ... (read in full...)
He wants friends with benefits but not a relationship - should I go for it?
Q. so about four months ago i met the absolutely perfect guy. perfect! and two weeks later he dumps me for some other chick that ended up being such an absolute female dog. anyways i flipped out on him and threw a fit cause before we even started ...
A. 28 November 2008: It's doubtful this guy will ever take you seriously as a girlfriend. You slept with him too soon and he doesn't respect you. You have feelings for him and as you said... you will get hurt. Sounds like you have to choose between letting go of your ... (read in full...)
Will a smaller penis change the way sex feels?
Q. While I was with my ex we had sex quite a bit, but that relationship ended pretty badly. Now I'm with another guy and we've gotten pretty close to having sex a few times. I've done other stuff with him and found that his dick is noticeably smaller ...
A. 28 November 2008: Honey, it's not the size of the boat, it's the motion of the ocean. There is just SO SO SO much more to sex than what size the guy's package is. There is also the issue of this guy may not be fully "front and center" just fooling around if you know ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't want a fling, but doesn't want anything serious - what DOES he want?
Q. Can anyone enlighten me to what a guy means when he says he doesn't like flings but he doesn't want anything serious. He doesn't want anything serious because he's going traveling and claims it might stop him. But then he keeps saying how he wants ...
A. 28 November 2008: 90% of the guys on the planet will start off saying they don't want anything serious. They have fears of commitment. It's totally natural. If you just relax and give him a chance to get to know you and like you, he may change his mind. My old ... (read in full...)
Was he looking at her?
Q. this is going to sound really crazy but its really getting me down! ive been with my bf for 6 months and never had any probs with him. the other day we were outside our flats when a boy and girl walked past. he was fiddling for his keys and i saw ...
A. 28 November 2008: Okay... say for devil's advocate sake he was looking at this girl. What is it about that that is getting you so down? What do you imagine? That one glance at another female and he is madly in love with her and has totally forgotten about you? And ... (read in full...)
Why do girls act this way????
Q. okej hello all, I came just to ask about some activity that girls do and I want to understand why and what is it for. Well when you ignore a girl she will smile and look too much and sometimes come after you but when you give her just little a ...
A. 28 November 2008: I think it's a good sign. She would NOT be looking, or smiling, if she didn't like you a little. The ignoring you part when you pay attention is her trying to hide her interest. She is waiting for you to make the move. I assume based on your age ... (read in full...)
Will a woman go after the "working" man who's best for her - even if he's off-limits?
Q. Good evening! I've a silly question really. I'd like to know from the lovely ladies out there who frequent this web-site whether you can genuinely be selective about who you decide to date in a working environment. In other words, if a guy was 'off ...
A. 28 November 2008: You are posting anonymously... and yet you still dance around your question. I'm confused. I can't figure out if you are considering having an affair or cheating on your GF and wondering if this woman will "go for you" or if you are worried about ... (read in full...)
I want something more meaningful... any advice?
Q. Hi everyone. There's a guy at my uni who I really fancy and we've been getting closer lately. We sit together in classes, chat on msn nearly every evening and we're going to go on a date next week to get some coffee. My question is how do I play ...
A. 28 November 2008: It seems to me you've got the basics down and are doing everything right so far. Just be yourself, go slow, lean back and maybe let him pursue you a bit. Guys always like that.
I know you really like him, but just keep a little perspect... (read in full...)
How to heal a father/daughter relationship after his affair?
Q. My husband had a affair a year ago and it has been a long year.My 13 year old daughter is having a hard time, she started pulling her hair out we put her in counselling . This has helped a bit but every time she pulls her hair her dad gets on her ...
A. 28 November 2008: I think you've gotten a lot of really great insight here. One thought I would add is that Dad might be having a hard time seeing her act out and knowing he is responsible. He feels guilty so that is where his impatience may be coming from. He just ... (read in full...)
He is so good-looking it makes me feel like a troll. Can he possibly like me back?
Q. There's this guy I like who's a friend of a friend, but he's too attractive. We get on really well and make each other laugh, but he is really really good-looking and although a fair few guys tell me I'm attractive, this guy is SO attractive that ...
A. 28 November 2008: Well, I am quite certain this guy isn't walking around going "hey look at me I'm just SO beautiful, bow and worship me for the great GREEK GOD I am..." Even though you might think so.
You have a crush honey. We ALL feel this way about our crus... (read in full...)
Is it okay to feel contempt for the man that is dating my ex?
Q. Is it okay that I feel great contempt for the man that is now dating my ex-girlfriend? They had been together before she met me, but had separated because he had 'a lot of baggage' (her words). We started dating and then he comes crawling back 'a ...
A. 28 November 2008: Darlin' first of all I am very sorry for all your pain. We've all been there and it hurts like hell. Second, I think your feelings of contempt, anger and jealousy are all totally normal. And even though this guy claims to be a "changed man" if he is ... (read in full...)
Help! What on earth should I do?
Q. I have been calling on a 49 year old man for a few months most weekends. To start with he adamantly pushed me away. He has never had a relationship before. He has a dependant sister a few years older than himself. Both parents dead. He has slowly ...
A. 28 November 2008: Honey, he is 49 years old and he has NEVER had a relationship. He has told you he can't give you what you want, and it's too much for him. You don't seem to be listening. Forget about the sister, she's just an excuse - a brick in the wall so to ... (read in full...)
Help...hot tempered girlfriend!
Q. My girlfriend is kinda hot tempered...she blews off for unwanted things..even if its her fault?? there is one time where she lied to me and blew off at me as though it was my mistake..but we did talk it over..my question is why.?? How can you blew ...
A. 28 November 2008: I guess I have a question... which is does she do this to everyone? or just to you? It's very dangerous and co-dependent to excuse it as just "hot-tempered" -- it gives her permission to keep it up. And the more you put up with it, the less respect ... (read in full...)
Broke up with my otherwise perfect girlfriend over physical attraction, feeling shallow
Q. I ended a relationship with a women after two years. She abused me verbally, and in the end I found out she had a second boyfriend almost the entire length of our relationship. I would have broken up with her sooner, because she was quite shallow ...
A. 20 November 2008: Physical attraction is a huge part of romantic relationships. I don't think that you are shallow for ending things because you didn't feel that. If you had felt it once but then it faded, then I'd say it might be possible to get it back. But you ... (read in full...)
What's up with the whole situation? I need some advice...quick!!!
Q. I have worked closely with a guy at work for about 2 years and have been attracted to him for about 1 and a 1/2 years. he is very flirtatious on the telepone, eluding to having a relationship, however, on several occasions, when i have asked him to ...
A. 20 November 2008: I totally feel you sister. It really does feel like they are from another planet sometimes. ... (read in full...)
We seemed to have a really strong connection, but have I scared her off?
Q. hi, i've been chatting to this woman online for about a month, and we hit it off immediately. we exchanged photos and then she asked me out for a drink. however, she is quite busy so we haven't yet set a date yet although we were planning to meet up ...
A. 20 November 2008: No big mystery. She means precisely what she says. Dating is a tough game. You head out into the world and meet a lot of people trying to make a connection. This woman was fortunate enough to make two connections. If she was just making friends ... (read in full...)
What's up with the whole situation? I need some advice...quick!!!
Q. I have worked closely with a guy at work for about 2 years and have been attracted to him for about 1 and a 1/2 years. he is very flirtatious on the telepone, eluding to having a relationship, however, on several occasions, when i have asked him to ...
A. 16 November 2008: My dear you are thinking on a very logical plane. Women's emotions, minds and lives are all very interconnected. It's not always that way for men. You are thinking that if he doesn't want me for his own all the way then why would he care if I'm ... (read in full...)
We've been texting each other and he seemed keen, then suddenly lost interest, what could it be?
Q. it's this guy that i'm into.we have been talking for a while.we are considering starting a relationship i think.he seemed like he was so into me just like maybe a week ago.but then my phone had gotten turned off i hadn't talked to him in five days.i ...
A. 15 November 2008: This sounds like one for the guys to answer.
My guy friend J says he loves texting because it is "yet another wonderful barrier to intimacy!" he was kinda joking, but it's also kind of true. I am starting to hate text. I have guys who try to c... (read in full...)
He's hurt me more than anyone so why cant I just hate him??
Q. I hope someone can help me as Im driving myself insane. Basically, 5 years ago I met Jay. I went out with him for 6 months, started to really like him but he didnt feel the same and he left me for someone else. I never got over him really even tho ...
A. 15 November 2008: It's not love. it's obsession. Think about what you really want from love, from a man. Is the way this guy treats you that? If not then you need to realize that you deserve better and let him go.
I have a trick I use when I can't get a guy out ... (read in full...)
He's a liar and cheater and I want to warn his pregnant girlfriend.
Q. I was with this guy for 8 months and have still been seeing him on and off from when we split up 5 months ago until recently when I decided I definitely wanted nothing more to do with him because he constantly lied and cheated on me. I've just...
A. 15 November 2008: Okay so because this guy has hurt you, you think the thing to do is the hurt another woman, and bring all kinds of drama into her life when she has her hands full right now carrying a baby? I'm sorry that this guy lied to you and cheated on you. Be ... (read in full...)
I lent him money and haven't seen him since, do you think he'll get back in touch?
Q. Myself and this guy (who was currently out of work but temporarily living with his girlfriend) got on well but I was so in love with him and afraid of losing touch with him that I offered him money to help him out financially!! Well, needless...
A. 15 November 2008: You are in love with an unemployed guy who lives with his girlfriend. Okay right there that is a recipe for heartbreak. To get closer to him you lent him money. You are trying to buy his affection and gratitude. Would that work on you? Could a guy ... (read in full...)
My husband is so busy with his job that he doesn't have time for me anymore. Please help!
Q. Hello everybody, My problem today is that my husband is very busy with his job since 3 weeks and he comes back home very tired and doesn't talk to me like before. He just eats his dinner, has a look at the TV for one hour and then goes to sleep. So...
A. 15 November 2008: Your husband has been busy with his job for 3 weeks and comes home exhausted? Well honey that's just life sometimes. Have you ever gone through a period of your life where there was just so much going on you came home completely wiped out? Be ... (read in full...)
Why won't my girlfriend spend time with me?
Q. my gf won't spend time with me, were schoolmates and its just in school that we are together mainly lunch time but its only for a short time and we can't be sweet to each other cause she doesn't want it and its not allowed, we've been together for 3 ...
A. 15 November 2008: This girl doesn't sound like much of a girlfriend. When you say you have been "together" for 3 months, but she won't spend time with you or be sweet to you at school sounds like she is not even willing to acknowledge that you are her boyfriend? It ... (read in full...)
Everytime I feel like I'm over him he does something to make me like him again! Why does he act this way?
Q. One of my friends, who is also my ex confuses me so much. For months (since about June last year) we flirted continuously except there was a catch. He started to like one of my other friends too and 2 of my other friends liked him. I know th...
A. 15 November 2008: Wow. This guy sounds like a real jerk. I know there is a psychology of wanting what we can't have... and sometimes we want so much to win the love of the unavailable guy. But all this guy seems to do it hurt you. And he seems to get off on the fact ... (read in full...)
AG and SM are always sarcastic towards me and AG because I'm going out with OB. What should I do about them?
Q. Hey, My supposed Best Friend, AG, has started being really mean to me. She is absolutely livid at me, for going out with her ex, OB, even though they split up over two years ago, their relationship lasted all of three days and she is constant...
A. 15 November 2008: In my experience, friends might tease each other from time to time, but genuine friends are kind and caring to one another. It doesn't sound to me like they are kind to you, but neither does it sound to me like you are especially kind to them. ... (read in full...)
We seemed to have a really strong connection, but have I scared her off?
Q. hi, i've been chatting to this woman online for about a month, and we hit it off immediately. we exchanged photos and then she asked me out for a drink. however, she is quite busy so we haven't yet set a date yet although we were planning to meet up ...
A. 15 November 2008: Okay first of all, just be yourself. Don't second guess what is going on in someone else's head. I am a woman and I don't see anything wrong with either your honesty about how you are feeling about your exchanges or your apologizing for possibly ... (read in full...)
What's up with the whole situation? I need some advice...quick!!!
Q. I have worked closely with a guy at work for about 2 years and have been attracted to him for about 1 and a 1/2 years. he is very flirtatious on the telepone, eluding to having a relationship, however, on several occasions, when i have asked him to ...
A. 15 November 2008: This same thing happened to me a while back... I had a co-worker who flirted with me, actually asked me out for coffee dinner drinks etc but would never set a time or make a real move. I backed off. Sure enough, that year at the Christmas party I ... (read in full...)
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