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I want to see a virginal vagina!

Q.   Of all the porn that is there on the net, and in hard copy, i have seldom come across a photograph of a real virgin girl with her hymen intact. I am a male and from a conservative society, and am going to marry soon. The marriage is an arranged ...

A.   13 March 2010: You won't be able to tell by looking. AND inspecting your bride on your wedding night like she's some sort of farm animal you bought and paid for doesn't exactly bode well for trust and romance. Virgins don't always have in-tact hymens..... (read in full...)

Is he is a potential abuser who would be like this with anyone?

Q.   Hi, I met this guy via the local community (he is a community beat policeman) when I was having some problems and he asked me out for a drink so I went. He seems quite nice in some ways if a little 'weak'. However apparently he has quite a temper ...

A.   13 March 2010: It sounds like he has serious issues. I agree with everyone on the other post. ... (read in full...)

I bit him a little too hard and now he's really angry with me and I don't know how to sort this?

Q.   I've done something silly. Last night, I was absolutely hammered, and was spending the night with my boyfriend, and we were having sex and I bit him a bit too hard, all in the heat of the moment, and I honestly misjudged it... so he roughly pushed ...

A.   13 March 2010: Just give him a few days to cool off. He will realize you were drunk, and come back when he calms down and gets lonely. ... (read in full...)

He said I have the voice of a whore!!!

Q.   Well my problem is that I work in a field where mostly men work, which would be programming. I'm a pretty girl I think and Im usually told that, but recently I dont like myself in the mirror, I am well rounded, I like going out, shopping, make-up,I ...

A.   13 March 2010: Men are stupid. The voice of a whore? what on earth does that mean? Unless you are talking about sex, what exactly does a "whore" sound like? That's just plain dumb. They say stupid things like that probably because they think you are very pretty ... (read in full...)

Is there any way to get back to my usual size besides incessantly working out?

Q.   hi, well I'll be 16 in a couple weeks, and have pretty much the typical high school life. im a cheerleader, have an amazing boyfriend, get good grades, lots of friends. i should be so happy. everything is going great for me. i have one major problem ...

A.   13 March 2010: Hi honey, Well if you are 15 now about to turn 16, I have to say your body is still growing. it might continue to change over the next few years as you mature. If you are fit and active and 115 lbs freaks you out I would say your anxiety is more ... (read in full...)

Will the distance be too much?

Q.   I'm 30 year old man she's 19 year old woman. I have 2 kids (girls) 8 and 6 years old. We started to be serious right away 3 months ago. She's going to university in 6 months. Now she lives only 1 1/2 hours away but then she will be 6 hours away! She ...

A.   13 March 2010: Oh honey. Hmmmm. Well you never know I guess. Maybe it can work. But I have to say, she's 19. You were 19 once too. If she's away at college making a bunch of friends her own age with lots of guys around who are her own age? It may be tough to keep ... (read in full...)

How can I explain to my husband that he will hurt his relationship with his daughter if he doesn't just let this go?

Q.   My husband and I have a 16 yr old daughter. She is a huge daddy's girl and he loves it. Yesterday he came home from work early and "accidently" seen her and her bf having sex. Of course being a father he was very upset and angry. I tried to calm him ...

A.   13 March 2010: Your husband just found out his sweet innocent baby girl... his little "daddy's girl" isn't a baby anymore. She's a woman and she's having sex. It's just a tremendous shock to him. You have seen it coming, you've had time to adjust... but you didn't ... (read in full...)

My crush on my teacher who doesn't see my good qualities, is keeping me from dating guys that do...how do I get over this crush?

Q.   I have had a crush on my teacher for a year or so, and every day I look for an excuse to stay in his classroom. It's odd because some days we seem to have interesting discussions, and other days we just do our own work. From time to time I see him ...

A.   12 March 2010: It's not that your teacher doesn't see your good qualities.I'm sure he does. Be honey, he can't do anything about it. He CAN'T. 1. he's your teacher. dating students is not allowed. 2. He's a grown man, you are a girl. He sees you as a father sees a ... (read in full...)

Is a good girl fiction or reality?

Q.   It all started back in high school. My girlfriend left me for a rich man. I was very upset. Next my girlfriend left me when I went to the cadet corps. She just did not want to even try to wait for me. I understand it, wait for two years is not ...

A.   12 March 2010: I totally understand your sadness and frustration. It's hard when you just want to find a good relationship and it keeps slipping away. I think you need to make better, wiser choices about the women you date. Take a good look before you give your ... (read in full...)

Do we have a future or am I just a girlfriend to him?

Q.   I am 34yo, I have been divorced for almost 2 years. I have been dating this man for almost 4 months. He too has been divorced for almost 2 years. We get along great, he spends every spare second with me. I recently lost my job and he is completely ...

A.   5 March 2010: Okay well I think you need to stop worrying so much about "losing him" because nothing drives a man away faster than that. You need to grow a spine and be clear with him about what YOU want. If you want marriage to be on the table in the future then ... (read in full...)

Would you consider a joke about pregnancy to be a deal-breaker?

Q.   Would you consider a joke about pregnancy to be a deal-breaker? my Gf and my friend both decided it would be a good idea to play a prank on me, which i found really hurtful and distasteful. i was out last night and on the way home she was text...

A.   5 March 2010: I'm all for having some fun, but her pranks are not funny -- they are hurtful, stressful and in very bad taste. Tell her to knock if off. The thing that concerns me more is her over-dramatic reaction. You ended up talking her out of not being good ... (read in full...)

Why do I only like older women?

Q.   Basically,what the title says. I'm 21,and seem to only be interested in older women.I don't know why this is. I have found younger girls attractive,but they just don't "do it for me" like older women do.I dont know how to explain it. I have no id...

A.   5 March 2010: Older women have a lot of things that younger women don't. Confidence. Wisdom. An ease and comfort with themselves. They don't freak out over every little thing. They don't bring the drama unless the situation really warrant it. They are into their ... (read in full...)

We are FWB but the more time I give him the more he wants

Q.   A very close male friend of mine and I were FWB for about a year and a half. In the past month, we've suddenly gone from keeping it strictly physical to him asking me to spend whole days with him, me spending several hours with him at a time for 2-3 ...

A.   4 March 2010: I don't understand your question/issue? perhaps you were upset when you wrote this but I literally don't understand what you are asking us for advice about?... (read in full...)

Just found out my boyfriend is leading a double life!

Q.   This year I discovered that my boyfriend has been living a double life - a secret life - with another girl in a long distance relationship. Could be more than one girl, but ONE I know about anyway. He's a compulsive time keeper and was so good ...

A.   26 February 2010: Oh honey. That’s just gut wrenching. You must feel horribly betrayed and like you don’t know who or what to trust. I’m so sorry. I am sending you a big warm hug. Not all humans are like that. The MOST important thing to remember is that it was n... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a seperate mobile phone just for his ex!

Q.   Hi, I posted on here before and got some really helpful answers. I've been on a few dates with a guy who has been in touch with his ex since they split up last March. He says they had an argument a couple of weeks ago and haven't spoken since but ...

A.   26 February 2010: He still burns a candle for his ex; who if they are still talking and fighting etc. a year after they broke up, I'd question how much of an "ex" she really is. You said you've only had a few dates and yet you know this whole history? He's checking ... (read in full...)

Should I interfere in my daughter's relationship after the way he behaved or should I leave it alone?

Q.   Hi, I need some advice re my daughter. She is 21 and a student doing well at college. Unfortunately she got involved with a guy who although he seems quite sweet etc etc, is not working and not at college but after some pressure from her, is now ...

A.   26 February 2010: It's completely natural that you would be furious about the bad and neglectful treatment your daughter received. It's the "mother tiger" in you, don't hurt my babies! Clearly this boy has not grown up yet and didn't have his act together. Clearly he ... (read in full...)

I can't work out my boyfriend's brother

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for almost five years now, and i moved in with his parents and his brother 1 year ago.I think that his brother likes me but i hope I'm just being paranoid. Every time he gets drunk he finds a way to come talk to me and ...

A.   26 February 2010: Sounds like your BF's brother definitely has a crush on you. Have some pity, you live with him, he can't escape you. Maybe you could try just talking to him (when he's sober). Just tell him you don't think the things he says to you when he's been ... (read in full...)

Sould I stop talking to this married man for good?

Q.   Hey, I need your help. Please don't be so mean against me when you read my story, because we all make bad choices and I never planned on being with a married man nor do,I want to break up anyone's marriage. So, here's the story. Some years bac...

A.   25 February 2010: Oh my goodness! He started up with you based on a lie... and 7 years later he's still stringing you on with excuses? Does his wife know they are getting divorced I wonder? Honey, I think you should change your phone number so he can't contact you ... (read in full...)

I feel so insecure about my body and my boyfriend makes it worse.

Q.   I have amjor insecurity and jealousy issues concerning my body and my boyfriend. I know for instance he likes big breasts, I have small, and feel lacking. He's tired f discussing my insecurities all the time and told me to stop or he'll break up ...

A.   24 February 2010: I love your new thinking! What a wonderful idea, to take up photography to look at our world with new eyes. That's marvelous. There is SO much beauty in the world, and in ourselves, if we would just take the time to look and really see it. Your post ... (read in full...)

My brother will hook me up with the friend I like

Q.   I like one of my brother's closest friends. According to my brother, this guy would be over the moon if he knew I was interested in him. He's offered to make it happen if I let him say something to his friend. So my question is, should I let him? ...

A.   23 February 2010: Why not take a chance? Your brother is always going to be your brother. If it doesn't work out the friend lives in another city so it's not like your brother will be caught feeling uncomfortable very often. ... (read in full...)

I told her how I felt about her and things have become weird between us, will things ever improve?

Q.   I recently told feelings to my friend who is engaged (She lead me on, she is a very good friend of mine, and I have always been there for her when she needed me), after telling feelings to her she said that she does not want to talk to me, then ...

A.   23 February 2010: Oh honey. She is engaged to another man and you told her you have romantic feelings for her? That puts her in a really awkward position. She has a man, but now she feels like she is hurting you or that you want more from her than she can give. She ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's stressful situation is making me stressed too, I don't know what to do anymore....

Q.   Here is my story, my bf went to his country outside the Us for his granddad like 2 weeks.The reason why he went there with his family because of his granddad. He is so sick and about to die.. In His country he try to call me everyday for the 1st ...

A.   23 February 2010: It sounds like your BF is grieving and deeply depressed, so he doesn't want anyone to see him this way. He does need you. You need to call him and tell him you are worried about him and you need to see him just to make sure he is okay. That you ... (read in full...)

Is his flakey behaviour normal?

Q.   Known this guy for 4mo.we've hung out a handful of times - he msgs all the time to see what I'm doing/how I'm doing.the thing is he's incredibly flakey.he's invited me to see him at work 2x and canceled both times..because he claims he couldn't get ...

A.   23 February 2010: Yeah well some people are just flakes. I don't think it's normal behavior, but it's just how some people are. I'd be careful how deeply you let yourself get with this guy because his behavior is very clearly telling you he can't be counted on. If he ... (read in full...)

Whenever he has a relapse it really weighs on my mind, how can I cope with these feelings?

Q.   I have a friend who I am very close to. He is a drug addict, but often times stops using 'for good', with the help of rehab or 12 step programs, only to relapse eventually. Each time this happens, my heart sinks and I do not like the way he acts ...

A.   23 February 2010: Your friend is fighting a really tough demon, and that's what it is honey, a battle. And battles have casualties - the addict's friends and family members who get caught in the crossfire. You have to surrender to the idea that there is only so much ... (read in full...)

He said he could feel the same way about me, but now he is with my new best friend!

Q.   Hello, I'm Jodie and I'm fifteen. I moved schools at the start of January and I've started to chalk into my friendship groups. But there is a boy there that I would say I am now very fond of, and maybe even love if I thought about it enough. I to...

A.   23 February 2010: Ouch! That hurts. Well clearly at his age he just doesn't know how to handle things. I'm sure he didn't intent to hurt you, but it wasn't nice of him to lead you on like that. However I think the best thing to do, even though it's hard, is to tr... (read in full...)

When ever there is a private moment my stepdaughter flaunts herself

Q.   I am a man in his early 50's,,very fit and keep in good shape.I am also married with 2 teenage daughters,and another step daughter from my wife's previous marriage.We all had a lovely pleasant family unity until my step daughter started maturing and ...

A.   23 February 2010: "The flaunting varies from being inadvertant to brazen to the point of walking from the bathroom to her bedroom in the nude.Normally she would have a towel wrapped round herself. On one occasion she walked into my study and asked to borrow ... (read in full...)

I feel so insecure about my body and my boyfriend makes it worse.

Q.   I have amjor insecurity and jealousy issues concerning my body and my boyfriend. I know for instance he likes big breasts, I have small, and feel lacking. He's tired f discussing my insecurities all the time and told me to stop or he'll break up ...

A.   23 February 2010: Oh honey. Trust me we DO understand where you are coming from and it's NOT that you are wrong and she is right, or that you are helplessly flawed, etc. You are coming to us with anxiety and a problem with how you feel about yourself, and how your BF ... (read in full...)

Although we are FWB he brings out the needy clingy in me!

Q.   i started the whole f.w.b. with a guy i had a crush on. at first we went on quite a few dates before we had sex, but soon after it was obvious he wasn't looking for a relationship. in fact as far as i know he's never been the relationship type with ...

A.   23 February 2010: Oh honey, I'm sorry. I know it hurts and it is hard when you have someone on your brain to get them off. I'm glad though that you found where your boundaries are and know now not to do this again. The reason FWB and guys like this are so dangerous ... (read in full...)

On facebook I messaged a guy, but he never responded

Q.   I message this guy on Feb 11 from facebook right, and he haven't response to it.I message him because we would just both stare at each other without smiling or even speaking, and I thought maybe if i message him it would break the ice. He even ...

A.   23 February 2010: Also honey I don't know what you wrote, but if you've never spoken to this guy you don't know what his situation is; he may be married or have a girlfriend. ... (read in full...)

On facebook I messaged a guy, but he never responded

Q.   I message this guy on Feb 11 from facebook right, and he haven't response to it.I message him because we would just both stare at each other without smiling or even speaking, and I thought maybe if i message him it would break the ice. He even ...

A.   23 February 2010: He may not realize who you are or be thrown that you hunted him down on Facebook without ever saying hello to him. First the staring without smiling, then you searched him out on facebook... I might be a bit spooked! Just try smiling! :-)... (read in full...)

I feel so insecure about my body and my boyfriend makes it worse.

Q.   I have amjor insecurity and jealousy issues concerning my body and my boyfriend. I know for instance he likes big breasts, I have small, and feel lacking. He's tired f discussing my insecurities all the time and told me to stop or he'll break up ...

A.   21 February 2010: Honey, your guy is tired of discussing your insecurities all the time because discussing them isn't making you feel any better, so he's just frustrated. Clearly, he chose you for a girlfriend so he doesn't seem to agree with you about your body. ... (read in full...)

I wish we could reverse roles so she would know what it feels like to be cheated on

Q.   How do I React? My girlfriend came out to me that she’s been speaking to another guy for the last two months. She’s met up with him couple of times too. She told me that the reason she never picked up when I called her was because she was o...

A.   21 February 2010: "It’s not the first time that she’s promised to not lie and hurt me again". So that was ALSO a lie. Please make sure it's the last time though. Everything feels wrong because it IS wrong. you cannot relax and be in a happy relationship with someone ... (read in full...)

Do I choose the boyfriend who loves me, or the guy I really like?

Q.   ok here it goes...my name is eliza and me and my boyfriend have been toghether for a month he is a good guy but he is reallly immature and really obsessive and grabs my ass and my boobs like every 5 mins. He loves me but sometimes i dont know if i ...

A.   21 February 2010: Honey. You and your BF have been together for a month? Nobody really loves anybody after a month. Nobody has a stable future with anybody after a month. Also a month into a romantic relationship, most people are still on their very best behavior. ... (read in full...)

On facebook I messaged a guy, but he never responded

Q.   I message this guy on Feb 11 from facebook right, and he haven't response to it.I message him because we would just both stare at each other without smiling or even speaking, and I thought maybe if i message him it would break the ice. He even ...

A.   21 February 2010: I'm confused... you work together but you don't talk... you just stare at each other? Is he a "friend" of yours on facebook or did you just send him a note? Perhaps he didn't respond because he doesn't know who you are? If you want to break the ice ... (read in full...)

He wants a naked picture, I am so nervous I feel I am going to puke!

Q.   Okay, So this guy i have known for a couple of years, me and him have started talking... just today. and he said i had a nice body and wants a pic of me naked. i told him he probably wouldnt get it but he says that it would make him happy. should i...

A.   21 February 2010: Honey I don't know who this "older" guy is, but good relationships with good men don't ever make us feel uncomfortable to the point where we want to puke. What he is asking for is WAY out of line. That sick feeling you have is your inner knowing's ... (read in full...)

Although we are FWB he brings out the needy clingy in me!

Q.   i started the whole f.w.b. with a guy i had a crush on. at first we went on quite a few dates before we had sex, but soon after it was obvious he wasn't looking for a relationship. in fact as far as i know he's never been the relationship type with ...

A.   21 February 2010: Using sex to try to get love rarely works. Which is why FWB usually ends badly. If you are dating a man you care for and it is obvious he isn't interested in a relationship then you need to protect yourself and move on to a man who is interest... (read in full...)

When ever there is a private moment my stepdaughter flaunts herself

Q.   I am a man in his early 50's,,very fit and keep in good shape.I am also married with 2 teenage daughters,and another step daughter from my wife's previous marriage.We all had a lovely pleasant family unity until my step daughter started maturing and ...

A.   21 February 2010: She's a 16 year old girl who is just beginning to mature and learning that she is attractive. We live in a culture that is all about youth and sex so she is taking her cues from that. If you have 2 teenage daughters with your wife then you have been ... (read in full...)

How can I break this cycle of pain?

Q.   Its been a couple of weeks. I was feeling good, and had managed to avoid her for pretty much the entire time. Today I saw her. A couple of weeks ago she cheated on me, and we broke up. I still care about her a lot, but I would never go back to...

A.   21 February 2010: Oh honey I'm so sorry. Betrayal by a significant other is so hard and painful. However, you need to be careful not to let your imagination run away with you. when you say "what hurts the most, that she doesn't even care"... you don't know that. ... (read in full...)

What are the legalities of a 26 yo impregnating a 16yo in the States?

Q.   can a 26 year old man go to jail for getting a 16 year old girl pregnant even if they have her parents permission?...

A.   21 February 2010: The age of consent differs between states, but generally it's around 16. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend seems fixated on a mate of mine

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have been together for just over a month. But was was friends for a few months previously. The question is, as soon as i mention a certain good mate she talks about him. And it seems she talks to him on facebook alot aswell. As ...

A.   21 February 2010: My perspective... Two questions -- did she meet him thru you? Does she have a lot of other guy friends? You two have only been together for a month. As a single woman she may be used to chatting up all sorts of men as friends. She may simply n... (read in full...)

Is it normal to bloat a few weeks prior to menstrual periods?

Q.   Hi, Ladies....a quick question.. I notice when i get my period and the 1-2 weeks before it arrives my tummy and boobs swell-which i know is normal...however i have also noticed that my bum and legs seem a bit bigger and then after i get my p...

A.   21 February 2010: Sounds like you are retaining water. Talk with a doctor. ... (read in full...)

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