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... Send *oftlyCaress a private message | | | *oftlyCaress's profile:I am a 53 yr old woman who has 3 grown daughters and 7 grand kids . I work full time and very distant from my family seems like no matter what i try i cant please any of my girls which are all grown . I try to not let this bother me and not sure if it is just me or letting anyone get close to me or vise versa but I can tell you I feel alone I like going camping and kayaking and there are times I wish i had someone who enjoyed the same things I do but no luck . I am Married but it has fallen apart because we are so very different filing for a divorce asap . I have lost both my parents and on 1/1/2019 a still born grand daughter not sure how to deal with that or anything else right now I guess Im just grasping at straws I feel as though the past 2 yrs my whole world has been a nightmare and keep wanting to wake up. I know I am not the most beautiful or perfect person but at this time I am so very very lost mentally and emotionally .. Just grasping for my happiness back again ! I WANT TO LIVE LAUGH And LOVE AGAIN !!! |
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In love with a man who is already married
Q. Dear friend i need some good advise from you all... I had make up my mind to leave a married man that i fall in love with.. Let me tell you this story. I met someone a year and a half and we get alone so well... After half year dating ,he conf...
A. 22 December 2008: Trust me you need to let him go if he hasnt left her by now he wont I went through this with a man did me the same way and made promises and never kept them. In the end I moved on and he lost her ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend loves me not interest in sex
Q. hi my girlfriend loves me but has no interest in sex what can i do to solve it...
A. 22 December 2008: You can Be patient some girls wish not to be sexual till they know its sure thing and some choose not to have sex until they are married And some just choose not to do it at all that is something that will work itself out but if you ... (read in full...)
Ladies: How would you feel if the guy you picked up had only one testicle?
Q. I only have one testicle. I have had girlfriends in the past; but I was wondering how a girl would react if it were a more casual. If you don't already have an emotional attachment to him, how would you react if you found out a guy that you pick...
A. 22 December 2008: Balls is just the things hanging there i could give a poop less about them as long as your stuff works good I think your safe... (read in full...)
I wantto have sex with my cousin
Q. I am a 17yr old girl.My problem is that i love my cousin very much he is 26 yrs old.I want to make love with him.He is so handsome. He also knows my feelings for him. When ever i get a chance i watch him taking a bath.I really want him. My religon ...
A. 22 December 2008: Eeeeek i dont think this is good in any religion... Family is family and dont think you should be sexual you any family member that is blood .Ever see those movies Wrong Turn ?? LOL No really not a safe thing to do could affect your off ... (read in full...)
Stop fiance from masturbating!
Q. How can i get my fiance to stop masturbating because it affects our sex life. Either he can't finish which makes me feel horrible or he has no desire because he has already satisfied himself. We have talked about it and I don't get mad or angry ...
A. 22 December 2008: It does Become a problem when it interfers with your sex life.I would tell him to save it for after yall had your fun and then if he couldnt would tell him he needs to seek help .you should come first and then his self play should ... (read in full...)
Is she just trying to keep me around?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for almost two years. She is 24 yo and I am 45 yo. She is Ukranian and I American. We started as friends and became lovers. We did everything together. She wanted to get married. I treated her to the best ...
A. 20 December 2008: Maybe what she is wanting is a sugar daddy instead of a husband or boyfriend ?? At any rate I wouldnt go over the edge indulging her with alot of fancy stuff could be she is just using you and that isnt a good thing ......... (read in full...)
Do men like getting texts from women and can she text too much?
Q. One for the guys:- Do men like being texted by women? If so - what sort of messages do you want to hear and can a woman text too much?...
A. 20 December 2008: Well i think they do like it but it can get bothersome so I would probably keep it to a a low level.. Same with women they dont mind getting the text but i can tell you this there is a limit and then i would probably blow my stack...... (read in full...)
Should I forgive him for cheating and neglecting me?
Q. should i forgive my boyfriend of one year that cheated on me and neglected me when i was pregnant?? ...
A. 20 December 2008: People will make mistakes but did he learn from it ? If you think he did and you love him then you should forgive him it will take time to learn to trust him again but make it clear screw me once shame on you screw me twice shame on me ... (read in full...)
I've had enough!!!!
Q. My hubby keeps all the money because he works overtime, I can't get any help family credit yet I don't get any money off him as he is in debt. I work yet I'm always skint, I want to go out and meet people, it's a joint morgage. I've had enough!...
A. 20 December 2008: Does your hubby not understand that when you are married it shouldnt be yours and mine is then becomes ours? And what is yours should be his and what is his should be yours?And as far as going out and meeting someone you should do it as a ... (read in full...)
Should I try living with him and see what happens?
Q. 13 years between two of us. I'm older. we have a boy. we don't live in the same country. we dated for a year and then I got back to my place. baby wasn't planned but now we are happy to have him. since then, we've been together couple times. ...
A. 19 December 2008: Give it a try and see how it works out and if not hen part your ways except for the baby of coarse .. You will never know until you try .. It is better to try and know then to never try and always wonder how it would have been...I understand ... (read in full...)
Woman's muscle control?
Q. I was told some girls are good in control her vagina muscle and can make her man ejaculate sooner that usual in intercourse. Is it true that girl can control the muscle inside? is it true can make her man cum quicker that usual?...
A. 19 December 2008: Well I will Answer that for you YUP A woman can control her vagina muscle if she wishes to as far as making it squeeze the mans penis .. Now as far as making him cum sooner well it might intensify the orgasm but i think ya might be on ... (read in full...)
Why won't he just file for divorce?
Q. My husband became controlling and got angry over a body piercing. He repeatedly asked me to leave the house, so I did. Long story short, he didn't call me for 2 weeks, and took half the money out of our shared account, so I got my own place. I ...
A. 19 December 2008: Wow sounds like he is just trying to mentally torment you .I would do what I had to do so I could go on with my life it seems to me he has no thoughts about filing so if it does mean you have to do a day off with your job and travel I would ... (read in full...)
Some questions to single mothers...
Q. Single mothers please help. I am a single mother with children in elementary school. I have been rather close with this new guy. He is very caring, nice, etc. I think I love him and he does me. We have done some kissing and making out. We are to the ...
A. 19 December 2008: Well Im single for the first time in 25 yrs and I have this man Im seeing and yeah I think it is ok to have a sex life just not bring in different men every night you dont want to set a bad example But being a single woman and having a sex ... (read in full...)
Am I just going through a natural period of confusion?
Q. After a short and mostly rocky marriage, my husband and I seperated about three months ago. About two weeks after I left, he began pleading with me to reconcile, saying he has been going to counseling and made a huge mistake in asking me to leave. ...
A. 19 December 2008: Stay Strong to many times women give into their head and not their heart its not good .It hurts bad to loose someone but sometimes you find out that its for the best and until he stop sending you letters and asking you to come home your going ... (read in full...)
I haven't been introduced because I'm black!
Q. I guess I am just needing objective opinions on this matter. I have been dating a guy for about 15 months. We have been living together for the last 5 months. I have 2 children and he is very involved in their life. We are our own family. We do ev...
A. 19 December 2008: Girl if that man loves you it shouldnt matter what color your skin is and i would let him know if he is ashamed of me then please let me go .... If his family cant except it then that is on them but your never going to know if he doesnt ... (read in full...)
Looks and boyfriend advice needed.
Q. Is there something wrong being deperate for a boyfriend after never having any at all? I don't know even know what it feels like and I really badly want to know, but no guy would own up to liking me because I look like ugly betty, glasses and ...
A. 19 December 2008: You Have first got to work on your self esteem as long as it is low you will never find anyone .. Stop looking at yourself and saying im ugly you have go to look at yourself and say I am someone and I am Beautiful until you start doing that and ... (read in full...)
Guys, what body...?
Q. What body type do guys prefer? Short? Tall? Long torso? Long legs? Thighs? Chest? What's your ideal type? Just curous. ;0...
A. 19 December 2008: not a guy but i think body types went out a long time ago different men have different taste trust me .... ... (read in full...)
I am married... not dead!!!
Q. I have been very good friends with a guy for about 8 years. There wasn't anything we didn't do together.. till I got married. Now he won't call me or have anything to do with me at all. I am married, not dead. I still need him like I need all ...
A. 19 December 2008: Sometimes we think we can be FWB and everything be ok when the other meets someone and falls in love but it doesnt work that way.. There is always an attachment if we want it or not and in the end someone isnt able to except the others ... (read in full...)
I LOVE my wife but I'm not IN LOVE with here any more.
Q. Dear All, I have been with my wife for close to 18 years now. A lot has transpired during out relationship. We have had the good and the bad as most do. However I have had the brunt of most of the bad. During our time together she has had numerous...
A. 18 December 2008: I say Its time to let her know you cant take anymore she seems to have very big issues and it seems to be getting worse and worse and I am feeling your pain If only My soon to be ex was so loving and caring as you say you are maybe things would ... (read in full...)
I LOVE my wife but I'm not IN LOVE with here any more.
Q. Dear All, I have been with my wife for close to 18 years now. A lot has transpired during out relationship. We have had the good and the bad as most do. However I have had the brunt of most of the bad. During our time together she has had numerous...
A. 18 December 2008: I say Its time to let her know you cant take anymore she seems to have very big issues and it seems to be getting worse and worse and I am feeling your pain If only My soon to be ex was so loving and caring as you say you are maybe things would ... (read in full...)
Am I right to feel angry and frustrated???
Q. My husband is healthy and does not have any reason for his lost sex drive. It makes me very frustrated, as if I would know he is sick, I would help him and understand him. I would never let him down... This way, I don't know what to think and makes ...
A. 18 December 2008: Maybe he should seek drs help might be something like depression or just a little mid life crisis it happens just be patient dont ask just . Just do little things that you think might turn him on ad some spice to the relationship do something ... (read in full...)
She is treating their dog like their kid, calling him about meeting for visitation etc saying he doesn't spend enough time with it. ITS A DOG!!!
Q. My BF's divorce will be final in a month - no kids. His is complaining that his ex is not accepting their divorce. She asked about Xmas eve and xmas being with him and his family and she got upset when he said he made other plans. She said it was ...
A. 18 December 2008: You are not being unreasonable at all ..Wow Im going through divorce after 25 well almost 26 yrs and Im so glad me and my ex and his g/f get along great we all do dinner together and spend time with the jkids as a family still but in your case no ... (read in full...)
Is it over because I screwed up?
Q. I have been involved in a long distance relationship for a little over a year. Everything has been fine until recently. She was studying for finals and informed me not to try to reach her until it was over, due to her busy schedule. She would ...
A. 18 December 2008: You can always send her some flowers and ask her to forgive you and then ask her to just let you know when her exams are over .. Sometimes when someone does something us gals dont like we say things that we dont mean and later we regret but ... (read in full...)
What can I do to get his guard down?
Q. Okay, here's the deal. I'm basically with this boy.. but were not exactly official! he claims he wants to take this slow.. which is completely understandable being that we both just got out of something hurtful and we've been at it for 2 months now. ...
A. 18 December 2008: If you both just got out of a relationship do yourself a favor take it REAL SLOW !!! Dont give up and dont get mad at each other cause you feel more or think you feel more then the other dose I am coming out of a 25 yr marriage and you better ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to work out if I should be worried or if my insecurities are shining through.
Q. I'm trying to work out if I should be worried or if my insecurities are shining through. My new girl that I have known for 5 months and been going out with for 6 weeks met my friends today and we all had a nice time. Problem is, she spent the wh...
A. 18 December 2008: Just give her the benefit of the doubt dont be so quick as to think she might step out on you .Us girls can sometimes lol at silly crap jokes just to be friendly not to flirt or anything .So just relax and give the girl a chance ..... (read in full...)
I know he's stalking my internet profile...
Q. I'm a bit confused... Llong story short... we were friends for a long time... had a fight didn't talk for 5 months... then he said he missed me a lot and wanted to go out with me... I agreed... 2 months went by I said something he didn't like ...
A. 18 December 2008: Maybe you should be up front and say hey you want to be friends fine we can be friends but this silly shit you are doing needs to stop that sounds kinda creepy almost like a stalker movie mystery just tell him you dont want to be a actress in ... (read in full...)
I want to be his friend but at the same time I want to be so much more.
Q. This is so frustrating I was madly in love with a guy who we will call Nick. Well Nick and I hated each other when we first met we couldn't stand the sight of each other. A year later me and him became the best of friends closer than I could ha...
A. 18 December 2008: Do yourself a favor just stay friends it seems he isnt wanting anything more then that and if you try to push it , it might ruin your friendship even .I know its hard but you can love him as friends and remember tit for tat will only make you ... (read in full...)
Should I offer to split the bill and pay half the room cost?
Q. There isn't a right or wrong answer to this - I am simply looking for people's opinions on what they would do in this situation. My friend decided to go to Venice at the last minute and invited me to go also. I declined because I doubted I could ...
A. 18 December 2008: Think it would be cool to offer to pay half and then if she declines then you havent lost nothing and have gained respect .............. (read in full...)
Will he forget me?
Q. Will he forget me? I am involved with a man who lives in another city who has his own life but we ring and meet up from time to time! - The problem is although I am madly in love with him, think of him ALL of the time and keep photos of him n...
A. 17 December 2008: I would be careful with my heart and my body .. You live in different city and do you know what he does or who he sees when you 2 arent together? Ask him whats going on and how he feels about you and chances are he will tell you but im almost ... (read in full...)
He comes bringing up his ex!
Q. Even though my boyfriend says he loves me and lives with me I still find myself wondering why he keeps comparing me to his ex. He says things like "she was fat, i'm happy you're not" "oh its so nice you don't watch so much t.v, she always did", ...
A. 17 December 2008: Well kinda hard to understand men sometimes .. But it would piss me off by being compared to someones ex good or bad that would get old so maybe you should just tell him what it makes you feel like and ask him if he could not do it or why he ... (read in full...)
He cuddles me but won't have sex with me. What do I do?
Q. Looks like I have to admit defeat. My husband doesn't even want to try and have sex. I tried to suggest it last night. I said "Hun don't you miss me? Don't you want me to PLEASE you?" He knew what I meant by that. And he snapped at me saying "Can't ...
A. 17 December 2008: Maybe maybe he is having a hard time getting up and dont know how to tell you as it can be rough for a man to talk about.. Maybe you can kinda ask in a gentle way whats going on with him could be a hard time at work or worry about ... (read in full...)
I'm just confused now and have some mixed messages that I guess I need to sort out.
Q. Hi, Looking for some help on this. Hopefully someone can give me some ideas or help. Around 14 years ago I was dating a guy on and off. We met shortly after I had come out of a long term relationship. I liked him but my mind was still very m...
A. 17 December 2008: Just Stay focused you will find the right guy or he will find you dont move to fast and keep your chin up .. Chances are the guy you rebounded with wasnt the right guy but dont let that get you down life is to short enjoy it ..... (read in full...)
Lost in relationship confusion and broke, too
Q. Dear Cupid, I am going through a difficult time with my boyfriend of 13 years. Essentially, he bullies me about money. He took me off of the joint account we had 4 years ago and it has been nothing but trouble since. We have bills together...
A. 17 December 2008: I would Let him know how i REALLY feel about this and Ask him what he feels and why he is going through all this change ask him some questions you feel you need to ask and kind of feel your way about . Sometimes just by watching someone as you ... (read in full...)
I never feel like I'm someone special to her.
Q. I need help, I am in a LD relationship and have been engaged for a little less than a year. Before we made it official I would text and email her every day and even phoned her occasionally but she rarely did the same. It never bothered me at the ...
A. 17 December 2008: I would take a step back and look at the relationship sounds to me like she isnt really in it with her whole heart and if not your going to just get burned .. It takes 2 people not one to make a relationship happen. LOL.. Sorry not lol ... (read in full...)
I go soft during sex...
Q. Hi Just a quick question, I have been having problems keeping hard during sex, it's been on and off for the past year. I have taken viagra and I get a good normal hard but it still goes soft durning sex and takes ages to cum. I have a new ...
A. 17 December 2008: I think you should try something else and also try not to make it such a chore try to just let it happen lot of foreplay and maybe try some different techniques maybe a romantic dinner and a bath with candles for both of you and ... (read in full...)
How can we make anal less painful?
Q. my husband and I tried anal for the first time about a month ago. He says he has always liked it.. it was my first time and I really didn't. I was told it is very dangerous, and is a no no. I have seen it done in movies and jesus, those people ...
A. 15 December 2008: Well this is kinda hard to answer but there some stuff you get at the adult toy store called anal eez and it does help with the pain but I think the most important thing is to relax and tell your man to take it slow ..Makes it more enjoyable ... (read in full...)
Isn't what he's done to me cheating?
Q. I'm writing because my head is so confused I don't know what is right or wrong any more. I've been with a guy now for 4 years living together and he's been fathering my 2 children, don't get me wrong he's a nice guy, good father to them but I've ...
A. 15 December 2008: He will eventually cheat it happens .. Starts off as a just a little harmless flirting so they think then it will go much further.. I would be very careful how far i fell for him and put my gaurds up and keep them that way I mean he ... (read in full...)
Confusing FWB relationship with my boss
Q. Hey frnds Please help me out! I have been in FWB relationship for 2 years with my married boss. He is very handsome, sexy and intelligent.WE are engaged in oral sex only. I love him very much, but he clearly says that he don't want emotional bond. ...
A. 14 December 2008: you are setting yourself up for a heart break while your feelings are continuing to grow he is still telling you he wont have a emotional bond I think i would step back and let someone else play his sex toy... (read in full...)
My husband never gives me time or love and never pays me any compliments!!
Q. I am 28years old my husband is 31 and I love him alot.but since when I have joined him in Dubai he has become very mean.He doesnt kiss me touch me and even doesnt like to do sex with me.whenever I beg him than only he does but with full ...
A. 14 December 2008: I was away from my husband for awhile also and went through the same things but I found that while I wasnt with him he was with someone else we are now after 26 yrs going through a divorce.. It might not be the same with yours as sometimes ... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting, is it abnormal?
Q. I have been with my partner for 6 years and have a child together. Recentlty after sex he shocked me by wiping his penis with a tissue then taking a remaining pea sized amount of sperm off his penis and putting it in his mouth. I find this weird ...
A. 14 December 2008: Well It would probably make me feel weird to see him doing that or even think he may have some wild fantasy and I dont think it includes a woman I would definitely step back and take a second look at who he really is .... (read in full...)
Husband's deployed now I'm addicted to porno!
Q. I am not sure how to say this or ask .. Ever since my husband deployed I have been pretty much addicted to porno.what does this mean?...
A. 14 December 2008: I agree better the porn then another man Im sure your husband would be much happier knowing it was porn pleasing you and not some other man putting his hands on you....... (read in full...)
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